Defeating weight loss surgery

[mni6762]

my wife had weight loss surery 5 years ago and is wanting to gain some of her weight back but is unsuccessfull so far. I thought somebody here might know a good way to accomplish that without having the surgery reversed.

[TheSadeianLinguist]

Que?

Why does she wish to regain?

[mni6762]

Que?

Why does she wish to regain?
Someone talked her into (this was before i came along) and she's allways regretted it, now she's a semi skinny chick that's all boob, so she wants to kinda even things oout if you know what i mean.

[SamanthaNY]

Is there a reason you thought we might have such information?

I'm a little wary about helping someone mess with their surgery, especially when you refer to it as 'defeating'. Her reasoning does have merit, though - Isn't this something she should discuss with her doctor?

[AnnMarie]

I understand what you're saying about her desire to even out, but I have to echo the concern of advising you ways to circumvent a surgical procedure. There are many things that people may typically do to gain weight (amount/types of food) that could be very, very harmful to her.

This is something she should only undertake with medical advise.

[ZainTheInsane]

Ask her doctor and go from there...asking people on this board is great, but likely it would be best to handle something like this in a healthy fashion.

[fatlane]

If you have access to a filet knife and a lot of ice cubes for anesthesia, I got an e-z procedure you could try, but if anything goes wrong, this post never happened.

[Sandie_Zitkus]

Get a blender and a funnel.................Nuf said. :rolleyes:


You didn't hear it from me.:blink:

[Miss Vickie]

It's a bad idea to circumvent a surgery, because then she'll have the health problems from the surgery as well as being big. Bad juju if you ask me.

So someone talked her into the surgery? Hmmm. So I hope someone's not talking her into gaining weight?

[crazygrad]

This just has bad idea written all over it.

If she's uncomfortable at her current weight, she should see her doctor and speak to the nutritionist on staff, and even the counselor to discuss why she's unhappy with her weight loss.

If its all about appearance and not looking balanced, new clothes with different cuts and styles may help. Carefully selecting foundation garments might help too. She might find weight lifting helpful too. It won't get rid of excess skin but adding shape and contour to the muscle can help the skin look less saggy. Last resort- reconstructive surgery to remove excess skin. Like I said- last resort, but everyone deserves to feel comfortable in their skin.

Its definitely worthwhile for her to try to speak with her surgeon's counselor. If she convinced to get the surgery, like Vickie, I wonder if the decision to gain is truly her own.

[HereticFA]

As most others here have indicated, this is A Seriously Bad Idea.

If your wife has no health or digestive issues from her WLS, she (and you) should embrace her good luck and accept her weight.

Assuming she is having body image issues, she should seek counseling. Body image issues among WLS post-ops is pretty common. There's usually a difference between the body they expected and what they wind up with.

If you are the reason for her wanting to regain a little, I implore you to accept her situation. The overall health of WLS post-ops who "eat through" their surgery goes downhill over time. (And any form of a "takedown" is riskier than the initial WLS.) It's just not worth the risk.

[mossystate]

I think the OP sounds as flippant as many do when discussing wanting wls.We see so many commercials that make it seem like it is some walk in the park....insert slot A into B...add water...presto...

"someone talked her into it...before *I* came along"

sounds like she needs to get you and everyone else out of her head

[mni6762]

I think the OP sounds as flippant as many do when discussing wanting wls.We see so many commercials that make it seem like it is some walk in the park....insert slot A into B...add water...presto...

"someone talked her into it...before *I* came along"

sounds like she needs to get you and everyone else out of her head

Thanks so much for your rude and childish response, when I was seeking out legitimate information/opinions from others.

[mossystate]

And saying your wife is a semi skinny chick with all boob..ok...that was better.

YOu know what I am saying, that it sounds like she has had way too many people tell her how she should 'be acceptable'..attractive..etc.. that is my concern.Perhaps you would get more weight gaining advice on the Weight Board?

[tinkerbell]

and also, even if she does gain weight, it doesn't mean she will gain it where she wants to, and be able to 'even herself out'.

[LoveBHMS]

I think most of us feel that surgery related questions should be answered by surgeons, not civilians that don't know your wife. Presumeabley she had this surgery in consultation with her doctor and I don't think any of us want to get in the middle of a doctor/patient relationship.

Secondly, i also think that, especially among the women, a post that sounds like "hey, I need help changing my wife's body" is not going to be well received. It's not like "how can I help my wife with her self esteem"....you're talking about "my wife had major surgery and I'd like to know how to reverse its effects."

[mossystate]

and also, even if she does gain weight, it doesn't mean she will gain it where she wants to, and be able to 'even herself out'.

Ummmm..yeah..

If I decided to gain weight, it would all go to my belly.Beans and rice won't make this ass bigger.

[Miss Vickie]

Secondly, i also think that, especially among the women, a post that sounds like "hey, I need help changing my wife's body" is not going to be well received. It's not like "how can I help my wife with her self esteem"....you're talking about "my wife had major surgery and I'd like to know how to reverse its effects."

Ya got that right. Just as I wouldn't expect a post that read, "How can I change my husband's body" would be very well accepted from the men here. But how often do we see those posts, as opposed to posts from guys who want their women fatter (or differently fatter)? I think it's far too often.

And yes, the latest research seems to indicate that fat deposition is genetic and you can do all the crunches in the world and you won't get a flatter stomach, nor will all the milkshakes in the world necessarily make for a larger ass, if that's not where the body wants to put it on.

Believe me, I was very sad at the loss of my ass. If there had been a way to lose the weight from my tummy first, I'd have gone there. But alas, there isn't, and eventually my belly followed suit, but to a lesser extent.

[GenericGeek]

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Believe me, I was very sad at the loss of my ass
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(Sniff!) A moment of silence, please... I'm verklempt! ;)

But it sounds like your ass made the Supreme Sacrifice, so that the rest of you could be happy and healthy. A fine and noble ass indeed! :D

[GenericGeek]

my wife had weight loss surery 5 years ago and is wanting to gain some of her weight back but is unsuccessfull so far. I thought somebody here might know a good way to accomplish that without having the surgery reversed.

You definitely want to consult your physician; there are far too many other factors to be considered. What procedure was performed? Was her weight loss too rapid? Does she feel unhealthy at her current weight, or is this more of a body image issue? What is her current BMI and nutritional status?

My wife is about to go for LAP Band surgery, which is relatively reversible and noninvasive compared to, say, Roux-en-Y. Most of the stuff we have been reading is along the lines of "how NOT to sabotage your WLS." ("Don't constantly sip a lot of high-calorie milkshakes", for example) I imagine that simply inverting that advice would cause at least SOME weight gain, no matter what procedure was performed.

But, still -- I'd want to explore this issue with a physician, and possibly a psychotherapist, just to make sure there isn't something else going on beneath the surface.

[Miss Vickie]

(Sniff!) A moment of silence, please... I'm verklempt! ;)

But it sounds like your ass made the Supreme Sacrifice, so that the rest of you could be happy and healthy. A fine and noble ass indeed! :D

LOL! Yeah well, you've SEEN my ass, so I suppose you're in more of a position to judge. And since I'm finally losing more weight from my tummy I look less out of proportion. But it was weird how the weight immediately came off from my butt and thighs.


My wife is about to go for LAP Band surgery, which is relatively reversible and noninvasive compared to, say, Roux-en-Y. Most of the stuff we have been reading is along the lines of "how NOT to sabotage your WLS." ("Don't constantly sip a lot of high-calorie milkshakes", for example) I imagine that simply inverting that advice would cause at least SOME weight gain, no matter what procedure was performed.

Please wish the lady wife best of luck from me, okay? And I'm around if she needs anything. And I could tell him ways of helping her regain some weight but I don't feel it's ethically right for me to do that, particularly since we don't know, as you say, the reasons behind her desiring a weight gain. Ultimately some people will regain some weight. It just depends on so many factors, you know?

Again, wish C the best for me. I'm thinking of her and hoping this really improves her quality of life. She deserves to have a wonderful, active life and I know she wants that.