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SarahNYTJ9
02-27-2007, 12:08 PM
Found this on another message board where I post I wish the people there could have a better understanding of the issues surrounding the causes of obesity. In many cases it is not simple "parental neglect," especially if the child has been overweight since he was an infant.



Obese Child: UK May Weigh Custudy (http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/02/27/obese.child.ap/)

LONDON, England (AP) -- British authorities may take an 8-year-old boy weighing 99 kilograms (218 pounds) into protective custody unless his mother improves his diet, officials said Monday.

Social service officials will meet with family members Tuesday to discuss the health of Connor McCreaddie, who weighs more than three times the average for his age.

"The worst case would be Connor getting taken into care. He is well cared for," the boy's mother, Nicola McKeown, told ITV television.

A spokeswoman for health officials in Wallsend, North Tyneside, 300 miles north of London, said the hearing was part of a process that could eventually lead to Connor being taken into protective care. She declined to comment further.

The health agencies organizing the meeting said they "have been working with the family over a prolonged period of time and will continue to do so."

Officials would not say whether Connor suffered from a medical condition that led to his obesity, citing privacy issues.

An unidentified health official was quoted as telling The Sunday Times that taking custody of Connor would be a last resort, but said the family had repeatedly failed to attend appointments with nurses, nutritionists and social workers.

"Child abuse is not just about hitting your children or sexually abusing them, it is also about neglect," the official was quoted as saying.

Dr. Colin Waine, the director of the National Obesity Forum in Nottingham, England, called Connor's lifestyle "extremely dangerous," adding he is at risk of developing diabetes in his early teens, and cardiovascular and nervous system problems in his 20s.

"He's really at risk of dying by the time he's 30," Waine said.

Dr. Michael Markiewicz, a pediatrician, agreed.

"I'm not saying they can't care for him, but what they are doing is through the way they are treating him and feeding him, they are slowly killing him," he said.

Connor's case attracted national attention after his mother allowed an ITV News crew to film his day-to-day life over the course of a month.

When the boy was 2 1/2 years old, he was too heavy for his mother to pick up and at 5, he weighed more than 126 pounds, said The Journal, a northern regional newspaper. Now Connor, who is tall for his age at 5 feet tall, wears adult clothes and size eight shoes, the newspaper said.

Connor's mother said he steals and hides food, frustrating her efforts to help him. He eats double or triple what a normal seven-year-old would have, she said.

"If I didn't give him enough at teatime then he would just go on at us all night for snacks and stuff," she told ITV.

Connor, who lives with his mother and sister, has difficulty dressing and washing himself, misses school regularly because of poor health, and is targeted by bullies.

"People pick on us because of my weight. They call us fat. It makes us feel sick of the nutters always shouting at us," Connor told ITV.

Edited to add an update

LONDON, England (Reuters) -- British social workers have decided to allow an eight-year-old boy who weighs almost 200 pounds (91 kilograms) to remain at home with his mother, who has refused to stop feeding him junk food.
Connor McCreaddie's mother says her 14-stone (196-pound) son will not eat healthy food like fruits and vegetables and had rejected a suggestion that she put a lock on the fridge.

Social workers had considered taking the boy into care. His plight has prompted intense media interest in a country increasingly concerned about rising child obesity levels.

But after a meeting with Connor and his mother Nicola McKeown, 35, the local council in North Tyneside in northeastern England said he would remain at home.

"We have had a useful discussion today during which all agencies and the family confirmed that the priority in this matter is the eight-year-old boy," the council said in a statement Tuesday.

"The Local Safeguarding Children Board was able to confirm that its hope and ambition is to enable this child to remain with his family."

The council said it had made a formal agreement with the family "to safeguard and promote the child's welfare". It gave no further details.

Single mother McKeown, 35, who suffers from depression, had dismissed allegations she had been neglecting her son, who is four times the healthy weight of same-age children and was even heavier before Christmas.

Connor, from Wallsend, Newcastle, has lost one-and-a-half stone since the start of the year after his mother sought advice from health workers and a dietician.

With studies showing Britain has the worst rate of obesity among children in Europe, the country's media regulator plans to ban television advertising for junk food aimed at school-age children from next year.

Ruby Ripples
02-27-2007, 12:12 PM
I think there was a tv programme about this little boy on TV last night, but I didn't watch it... I get frustrated at the words the narraters use, ignorant and tactless. I heard on the radio news at teatime today that it has been decided that the little boy will be allowed to stay with his mother.

SarahNYTJ9
02-27-2007, 12:18 PM
Just added the update, glad to hear he gets to stay with his mother. I think in a situation like that, taking him away from his mom, and putting him in a weight loss program is going to be traumatic, and lead to weight gain.

Rosie
02-27-2007, 03:33 PM
I saw this on the news and they gave a list of what this kid eats in a day - way too much and of the wrong kinds of foods. For supper, for example, they said he will heat fast food and 4 bags of chips! He will eat a whole pizza at lunch! The mother is not innocent in this case, IMO. If she complies with the conditions they put on her, she will keep custody. The choice is hers.

Ned Sonntag
02-27-2007, 03:54 PM
I'd grant that mom a Trust to open a foster-home to raise an army of Fat Kids!:eat2:

XGuy
02-27-2007, 03:57 PM
I saw this on the news and they gave a list of what this kid eats in a day - way too much and of the wrong kinds of foods. For supper, for example, they said he will heat fast food and 4 bags of chips! He will eat a whole pizza at lunch! The mother is not innocent in this case, IMO. If she complies with the conditions they put on her, she will keep custody. The choice is hers.

Rosie is right. I think this case originally should have been open and shut, while the mother may not have been negligent and abusive- she was flat out wrong. I understand partially what sparked the switch (letting the child remain) is the fact he has begun to lose weight- so now clearly something has changed.

However, originally she refused to stop feeding her son junk food, even saying if she didn't feed him he would whine. Oh my god, god forbid your child whine and you put up with it. The mother was missing appointments and basically just refusing to cooperate.

Brenda
02-27-2007, 04:20 PM
She does not seem to have his best interest in mind, instead what is easiest for her. It simply is not healthy for child to consume that amount and type of food on a regular basis.

I hope she is able to make her son more of a priority.

Brenda

Zoom
02-27-2007, 05:27 PM
Regardless of whether the boy is unhealthy, and the priority the mother is putting on health, there is a more important issue here.

Family is more important than government.

The UK has not demonstrated any inclination in respecting the family, the societal importance of which has diminished over the past fifty years or more and desperately needs a revival.

Once the relevance of the family is dead, individualism will be the main target next.

XGuy
02-27-2007, 05:36 PM
Regardless of whether the boy is unhealthy, and the priority the mother is putting on health, there is a more important issue here.

Family is more important than government.

The UK has not demonstrated any inclination in respecting the family, the societal importance of which has diminished over the past fifty years or more and desperately needs a revival.

Once the relevance of the family is dead, individualism will be the main target next.

That's a fight I'd love to pick up!

Augustcandy
02-27-2007, 06:38 PM
That is pretty scary. Its not weight that bothers me but nutrition. That child is in serious trouble if he isan't getting the food thats going to enable him to live in our germ crazy enviorment. I think it is the people the goverments job to step in with things like this are going on. Who else is going to look out for our children?

youareneverready
02-28-2007, 05:26 AM
Whether or not the child is representative of a growing problem in our society, it outrages me that the media has created this hype over him. He's a human being, and although they're refusing to state whether or not he has a condition such as Prader-Willi Syndrome that is contributing to his obesity due to "privacy issues", in my opinion "privacy issues" should have kept him out of the media in the first place. Even if the mother complies to the set terms and he loses weight, there's no doubt in their mind that this unnecessary hype will be pretty damaging to him in some way or another.

moonvine
02-28-2007, 05:49 AM
However, originally she refused to stop feeding her son junk food, even saying if she didn't feed him he would whine. Oh my god, god forbid your child whine and you put up with it. The mother was missing appointments and basically just refusing to cooperate.


But if she was feeding her child a ton of junk food and the child was thin, I'm willing to bet that would be ok.

Wagimawr
02-28-2007, 09:06 AM
But if she was feeding her child a ton of junk food and the child was thin, I'm willing to bet that would be ok.
Probably so, but it'd also be invisible, compared to the actual situation.

XGuy
02-28-2007, 12:51 PM
Whether or not the child is representative of a growing problem in our society, it outrages me that the media has created this hype over him. He's a human being, and although they're refusing to state whether or not he has a condition such as Prader-Willi Syndrome that is contributing to his obesity due to "privacy issues", in my opinion "privacy issues" should have kept him out of the media in the first place. Even if the mother complies to the set terms and he loses weight, there's no doubt in their mind that this unnecessary hype will be pretty damaging to him in some way or another.

I agree, but I put the fault on the mother who brought it to the media. She could have not posed for photo ops- that was her perogitive.

But if she was feeding her child a ton of junk food and the child was thin, I'm willing to bet that would be ok.

Like Wagimawr said that would be invisible so it wouldn't be detected. There is also the possibility he exercises a lot, I had a friend that ate two pieces of pizza, two donuts, and two sodas everyday for lunch and he was in amazing shape because he played so many sports (and ate better breakfasts and dinners). Or maybe he just would have had an amazing metabolism- in either case eating that much junkfood- while unhealthy- does not put him at the same risk as it does in this real life situation.

I'm willing to admit because of my situation I probably (if I ever do get into shape) just won't be able to eat as much of anything, especially fatty foods than most the people around me because I appear to be more suceptiable to their harm.

Brenda
02-28-2007, 04:51 PM
I am not so concerned by his weight than that he has trouble dressing himself and is often ill enough that he stays home from school. I am betting that his frequent absenses from school is what triggered action being taken.

Jack Skellington
02-28-2007, 08:12 PM
I'd grant that mom a Trust to open a foster-home to raise an army of Fat Kids!:eat2:

Hopefully you are joking.

olly5764
03-02-2007, 10:59 AM
A few points to remember her,
1/ We (including me) are biased, being made up of a fat positive group of people,

2/ We are making informed choices of our own, we know and understand the dangers of being over weight and eating the wrong foods,

3/ Most importantly, parers put spin on their stories to make them as 'shocking' as they can.

I am very pro-fat, and would love to have a girl friend who weighs a quater ton or more, but when it comes to our children, we should tread carefully.

Rosie
03-03-2007, 07:15 AM
But if she was feeding her child a ton of junk food and the child was thin, I'm willing to bet that would be ok.

Not necessarily. I babysit for a couple that were adopting two children who were Crown Wards. The couple split up and at first the man was going to proceed with the adoption, but Children's Aid determined he is not suitable as a primary caregiver, primarily because of two things - he was not feeding them properly (he was feeding them Kraft Dinner and McDonald's pretty well every day) and he wasn't giving the younger one his Ritalin. Both boys are "normal" weight. (The woman, who had been doing most of the parenting for 4 years, is now foster mother and will be adopting them).