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xdeementedxdeemonx
05-12-2007, 09:38 PM
OK, this is embarrassing...."well, to me"
anyways, i'm a bbw, i'm 5'1 (barely), and i am too shy to be on top when it comes to making love.
my b/f is 5'10 and is about 50lbs lighter than me, and im embarrassed coz im afraid i might squish him...lol.
plus when i do attempt to get on top of him (which always fails coz i'm too shy) i am so short my legs can barely touch the bed, floor, etc.
any suggestions?
please oh please help me get over this...
bbws, UNITE, lol.
-Dee

QtPatooti
05-12-2007, 09:43 PM
I am glad you brought this up. It is something that has been on my mind too. I will be eager to hear responses :)

Alicia Rose
05-12-2007, 09:48 PM
I weigh about 200, and my ex (sigh... :() weighed about 360 at her highest point, and she was often on top of me. I did not die, though sometimes she would lie on me (like, not touching anything but me) and I could not breathe... but I enjoyed that too :p

=Divals

LillyBBBW
05-12-2007, 09:54 PM
It's the kind of anxiety you can only get over slowly. No matter what anybody tells you, even if you see it on TV, you won't be able to shake the feeling that you're going to kill someone or at the very least maim them and leave them crippled for life without slowly exposing yourself to the reality that you wont. I would say gradually adjust to the idea by doing some small things like sitting on your sweetie's lap for a five minute stretch or cuddling on the couch. It takes a while to acclimate youself to the atmosphere that you will not crush your partner to death. When you're ready to try being on top you will know. Just take it easy and go slowly. You'll come around. Have fun!

saturdayasusual
05-12-2007, 09:56 PM
You won't squish him. I'm nearly twice my boyfriends weight and we've been fine. Don't worry about that. You might try pillows under your knees to help you touch the bed or floor better, though.

tinkerbell
05-12-2007, 10:11 PM
It took me a while too, to be comfortable on top. I was afraid I'd hurt him, or that he wouldn't enjoy me being on top. I think it just took a few times of me doing it, and him expressing to me that he likes it, for me to get over my anxiety of being on top. And I've been anywhere from the same weight, up to 70 lbs heavier than him.

And I think the pillows are a good idea to help you reach the bed/floor.

Jon Blaze
05-12-2007, 10:21 PM
I hate to jump in, but that is like one of my fantasies. Seriously... :wubu:
Fat Girls on top= Win :D
You never thought you'd hear that from a virgin did you? :p

Chimpi
05-12-2007, 10:36 PM
I can only offer my own personal opinion and experience.
I enjoy when Erin is on top, to a point, and the fact that she is much heavier than I am has no critical physical effects on me. I enjoy the sight of her on top, I enjoy the feeling of having her weight on top of me, I enjoy seeing her larger body parts resting gently on top of mine, and especially certain body parts (my favorite of all - the belly) that certainly flow a little distance outwards on my own torso. It's quite the spectacular sight and feeling. She does not suffocate me, she does not hurt me, and especially in the time of sexual intercoarse, I have enough steam built up inside my body that the adrenaline kicks in and often quite comfortable.

I might imagine that if your boyfriend enjoys the fact that you are a large woman, he certainly might like you being on top, might like the feeling of your weight on him, and all the other benefits of having a lovely large lady to slop body parts together with.

:bow:

Ample Pie
05-12-2007, 10:50 PM
Lilly's right--the only way to be okay with doing it is to do it. You'll see that it's 1) actually pretty fun sometimes, 2) probably something your guy is into--at least to some degree.

I'm 415, my ex is something near 145 (I think) and he's still alive and kicking and I actually did attempt to squish him something like (*counts on her fingers*) 5 days ago. :)

Talk to your fellow, find out what you both feel comfortable with and work up to it. It's like anything else, communication and practice go a long way toward making it fun and comfortable.

olivefun
05-13-2007, 04:20 AM
Being on top is my absolutely fave position!

Put a pillow on either side of his body for your knees. That can help.

My hands on his wrists, allows a great deal of control for me.
I love being on top. It is very empowering. Teasing him with my breasts, dragging my huge belly on his chest is more fun than it sounds in print. Teasing other parts of him too, when he thrusts forward and gets into my belly rather than another warm spot, is a delight. My jiggling flesh is a turn on for both of us.
Play with this and the more comfortable you feel will make it more exciting for the 2 of you.

Ruby Ripples
05-13-2007, 05:48 AM
This is a subject that I've chatted about in the chatroom with other bbws. I've been over double the weight of the people Ive been on top of. So you honestly have NO worries there!

As for the mechanics, I am 5' 3" and have short very fat thighs. That is the problem for me. Like you my knees barely reach the bed or whatever and if they do, Im so stuck there its virtually impossible to move. The only thing that Ive found that works is to put a really thick pillow either side of his hips to raise myself up a bit. If you can have him lie on the edges of the pillows it will help stop them sliding away. It's still not ideal really, but it should make the position "do-able"! I think that better than that though is if you have a long ottoman or low bench for him to lie on, and you can stand with your legs either side of him, feet on the floor. Then you can basically sit down like that and its much easier to maneouvre as you have your feet on the floor.

About the shyness, he obviously loves your body so just remember that and do what you feel comfortable with. Voice your concerns to him re: the mechanics of it and he can help it happen with you. Good luck!!

TallFatSue
05-13-2007, 05:55 AM
I'm almost triple my husband's weight (me 450lb, he 165lb) and it doesn't hurt Art at all for me to be on top. I'm 6ft tall, so my hands and knees reach the bed just fine, even with all my fat "in the way" so to speak. The problem is that my arms and legs get tired after a while, so it's just more comfortable for me to be flat on my back.

Besides, foreplay is a major part of the experience, and after Art gives me one of his ecstatic full-body massages, I'm so blissfully relaxed that I'll just stay flat on my back, thank you very much, and let him have his way with me. :smitten:

BeautifulPoeticDisaster
05-13-2007, 07:19 AM
It's all about communication and intention.

My baby loves me on top. I'm a decent sized girl over 500 lbs and 5'10". It takes him being able to say what he wants, and me being able to say what I am comfortable with. If he says he wants it and can handle it I say...ohhhhkayyyy and watch his face so that I can get off of him when I am no longer comfortable. (ie watching his face go bright red)

Guys like...most guys....and guys who like bbws like a woman on top of them sometimes.

If you have the chance, just start by kissing him and straddling him..and then maybe you can take it one step at a time.

Good luck and have fun. Sex shouldn't be stressful...it should be a time of giggles and orgasms!!! :D

BeautifulPoeticDisaster
05-13-2007, 07:22 AM
This is a subject that I've chatted about in the chatroom with other bbws. I've been over double the weight of the people Ive been on top of. So you honestly have NO worries there!

As for the mechanics, I am 5' 3" and have short very fat thighs. That is the problem for me. Like you my knees barely reach the bed or whatever and if they do, Im so stuck there its virtually impossible to move. The only thing that Ive found that works is to put a really thick pillow either side of his hips to raise myself up a bit. If you can have him lie on the edges of the pillows it will help stop them sliding away. It's still not ideal really, but it should make the position "do-able"! I think that better than that though is if you have a long ottoman or low bench for him to lie on, and you can stand with your legs either side of him, feet on the floor. Then you can basically sit down like that and its much easier to maneouvre as you have your feet on the floor.

About the shyness, he obviously loves your body so just remember that and do what you feel comfortable with. Voice your concerns to him re: the mechanics of it and he can help it happen with you. Good luck!!


We recently discovered the corner of the bed. Our bed is lowish to the ground (Ikea) and well he he lays on the corner with his feet flat on the floor, I have a seat to sit on and I can reach the floor just fine. With my belly there is no way he could lie on a bed with me on top during sex. I can get on top, theres like a whole foot of air he would have to get through, lol. I have chubby thighs too but my belly is my issue. Like they say though, where there is a will, there is a way.

Tooz
05-13-2007, 08:07 AM
OK, this is embarrassing...."well, to me"
anyways, i'm a bbw, i'm 5'1 (barely), and i am too shy to be on top when it comes to making love.
my b/f is 5'10 and is about 50lbs lighter than me, and im embarrassed coz im afraid i might squish him...lol.
plus when i do attempt to get on top of him (which always fails coz i'm too shy) i am so short my legs can barely touch the bed, floor, etc.
any suggestions?
please oh please help me get over this...

Aww, honey. Don't be embarrassed! Have you talked to your boyfriend about how you feel? Maybe his opinions on the matter would help you to feel more confident.

exile in thighville
05-13-2007, 08:15 AM
gf's fairly bigger, with impossible thighs, and i remain uncrushed when she's on top so have at it. but be sure to make sure he's comfortable too if you get on top...like bbssbbw said, watch his face. also, not gonna lie: immediately after sex, she gains about 400 lbs.

Seth Warren
05-13-2007, 09:06 AM
The first time my girlfriend and I ever got together I told her to get on top. She hesitated and said, "but-" which I interrupted with a more firm, "get on top!" She did, and even though she weighs twice as much as I do, I'm still alive and walking around with a dirty smile on my face.

FatAndProud
05-13-2007, 09:37 AM
y'all knew this thread would attract me.

nickyuk
05-13-2007, 09:47 AM
My hubby loves it when i'm on top, and so do i. ;)

it took some doing, i weigh about 300lbs, he himself is about half size of me, he lets me know if he gets uncomfortable, but it feels great. :)

MissToodles
05-13-2007, 09:56 AM
May sound silly but can you find a comfortable couch or even a weight lifting bench? I'm over 400 lbs, on the tall side with mega thighs. I wouldn't place too much weight on the chest, so he can breathe but everyone varies in weight bearing capacity. I haven't killed anyone yet and I've outweighed many by at least 180 lbs or so! Talk first, and as Lilly mentioned do other things, take baby steps. A mattress (okay I assume a bed) is a soft surface and allows for the one underneath you to breathe easily.

activistfatgirl
05-13-2007, 10:01 AM
Totally do-able.

Oh god, it makes me so sad that there's people out there not doing this out of fear. PLEASE GO DO IT NOW!!! :D

Waxwing
05-13-2007, 10:15 AM
By virtue of physics alone this has to be fine to do. It's not as though you'll be concentrating all of your weight in a small area (i guess i should stop standing on people's throats)-- you'll be evenly distributed as it were.

DO IT! Report back.

BeaBea
05-13-2007, 10:28 AM
I've been on top at 550lbs and not killed anyone. Dont do it until you are ready, and comfortable - but dont wait a second longer than that.... :)

Tracey xx

PS

The first time my girlfriend and I ever got together I told her to get on top. She hesitated and said, "but-" which I interrupted with a more firm, "get on top!" She did, and even though she weighs twice as much as I do, I'm still alive and walking around with a dirty smile on my face.

Seth, I think I love you :wubu:

fatgirlflyin
05-13-2007, 10:34 AM
I'm almost always on top, I enjoy being in control that way and I haven't ever had anyone complain. Wait til you get up the nerve to be on top during oral sex, nothing like it I tell ya!

superodalisque
05-13-2007, 10:36 AM
i love being on top. i weigh 430 and its usually not too much of an issue. i do have very fat thighs, with a lot of fat behind my knees. i use special engineering tools--two pillows under my lover to raise him up. that saves the knee joints from spreading too much because of my weight and fat. if your knees don't reach the bed just bounce!!! i bet you are as cute as a button:) i don't think you could really hurt anyone you are still rather light and really soft i'm sure!

Waxwing
05-13-2007, 10:50 AM
I'm almost always on top, I enjoy being in control that way and I haven't ever had anyone complain. Wait til you get up the nerve to be on top during oral sex, nothing like it I tell ya!

Well excuse me while I go towel off. :wubu:

Dr. Feelgood
05-13-2007, 10:55 AM
Having the woman on top once in a while probably won't be disastrous, but doing it a lot may lead to problems for the man. A friend of mine suffered from a painful kind of erectile dysfunction: when he got an erection, the two sides of his penis enlarged at different rates, so that he felt as if he were being torn apart. Not nice. His urologist said the condition is not uncommon, and that one cause of it was having sex with the woman on top. I received this info second hand and cannot vouch for how accurate it is. Is there someone on the board with a medical background who can confirm or deny?

AnnMarie
05-13-2007, 11:07 AM
Wait til you get up the nerve to be on top during oral sex, nothing like it I tell ya!

Amen, sister!

:)

BigFriendlyDave
05-13-2007, 11:11 AM
Well, I'm a larger framed bloke - but I'd have no problems whichever way round it was. :wubu:

dX

superodalisque
05-13-2007, 11:13 AM
Having the woman on top once in a while probably won't be disastrous, but doing it a lot may lead to problems for the man. A friend of mine suffered from a painful kind of erectile dysfunction: when he got an erection, the two sides of his penis enlarged at different rates, so that he felt as if he were being torn apart. Not nice. His urologist said the condition is not uncommon, and that one cause of it was having sex with the woman on top. I received this info second hand and cannot vouch for how accurate it is. Is there someone on the board with a medical background who can confirm or deny?

this doesn't sound correct to me. i think you are definitely right to ask for someone with a medical background to substanciate. people come up with all kinds of strange reasons why they are basically none functioning and this kind of sounds like one to me.

BeaBea
05-13-2007, 11:17 AM
Having the woman on top once in a while probably won't be disastrous, but doing it a lot may lead to problems for the man.

Yup, he'll miss the big match, and he'll have a smile on his face which will make all the men he knows -really- jealous!

Sorry, but I've never heard of problems like that being caused by a woman on top. I've heard of acute problems like a fractured penis, but that can happen with any partner at any time and in any position. Also, its very VERY rare, so dont panic boys, ok!

Tracey xx

runningman
05-13-2007, 11:18 AM
talk to your guy but he will probably be dying for you to get on top. And the weight difference really shouldn't be an issue. ;)

Lorna
05-13-2007, 11:32 AM
Everything said so far is right, I love being on top too but def need the pillows below my knees, and as soon as the fun is over I get off as quickly as possible, when the adrenalin goes so does the weight bearing willie! :rolleyes:
Another thing I found helped a lot is to do it where you can hang onto something.. another piece of furniture, the headboard whatever, as long as you can brace yourself against it then you are in control!
We found this way out by accident ( dont ask) if your partner is on the bed but his head and shoulders are on a fairly high arm chair, so his head is lower than his chest then you can use the arms of the chair to hold onto.... ok too much information need to go for a cold shower!:p
When it feels right go for it!

QtPatooti
05-13-2007, 11:41 AM
[QUOTE=Lorna;437824]if your partner is on the bed but his head and shoulders are on a fairly high arm chair, so his head is lower than his chest[QUOTE]

(while chuckling) Hey thanks for the technical manual, because some of us need to be able to visualize it to be comfortable doing it :D (I'm serious!!!)

Alicia Rose
05-13-2007, 12:09 PM
One thing I forgot to note is be careful.. don't get so exuberant that you 'miss' or cause him to. That's happened to me a couple times, it goes something like 'thrust thrust thrust thud OWWWWWW!!!' That's how the whole 'fractured penis' thing happens. :p

=Divals

Ample Pie
05-13-2007, 12:14 PM
fractured penis: true, it happened to my friend shawn when his g/f was on top--she's waif thin, but she fell backward and you can imagine.

pillows: great great great tip!

BeautifulPoeticDisaster
05-13-2007, 01:34 PM
fractured penis: true, it happened to my friend shawn when his g/f was on top--she's waif thin, but she fell backward and you can imagine.

pillows: great great great tip!



OUCHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!:eek:

MisticalMisty
05-13-2007, 01:40 PM
I swear that if I don't find a man to ride stat..someone may take away my fat girl card..LOL


*sigh*

Arrhythmia
05-13-2007, 01:45 PM
I am closely watching this thread. PLEASE keep the suggestions and confidence boosters coming. :)

Green Eyed Fairy
05-13-2007, 01:56 PM
You know, being on top with my ex-husband was never an issue. He was thin yet tall so he seemed to always be okay with my weight on him- in all of it's ups and downs.
However, with the man I saw after him, he was a shorter/smaller guy and I was never comfortable on top with him- this really took a lot of the pleasure out of sex for me :(

Arrhythmia
05-13-2007, 02:02 PM
However, with the man I saw after him, he was a shorter/smaller guy and I was never comfortable on top with him- this really took a lot of the pleasure out of sex for me :(
GEF, was it because HE wasn't comfortable or was it because you believed that he wasn't?

Waxwing
05-13-2007, 02:04 PM
GEF, was it because HE wasn't comfortable or was it because you believed that he wasn't?

That's a good question.

Self-consciousness takes so much of the fun out of sex. You spend so much time worrying about what you look like/feel like, that you forget to just have fun. Not saying I'm above all that; I spend precious moments trying to pose like a porn star and not make silly faces. Lame.

Ample Pie
05-13-2007, 02:13 PM
That's a good question.

Self-consciousness takes so much of the fun out of sex. You spend so much time worrying about what you look like/feel like, that you forget to just have fun. Not saying I'm above all that; I spend precious moments trying to pose like a porn star and not make silly faces. Lame.

No pun intended but I think it can come and go. It often does for me. There are days when I'm sort of shy as can be sexually and there are days when--for instance during my friend's last visit--he can still be asleep and I'm quite literally going to jump in bed on top of him. ;)

Green Eyed Fairy
05-13-2007, 02:18 PM
GEF, was it because HE wasn't comfortable or was it because you believed that he wasn't?

Well, I believed he wasn't and did try to broach the subject with him- however, he didn't say anything to alleviate my doubts/concerns but then again, we were having sex at the time so maybe he was distracted :p

Arrhythmia
05-13-2007, 02:27 PM
Well, I believed he wasn't and did try to broach the subject with him- however, he didn't say anything to alleviate my doubts/concerns but then again, we were having sex at the time so maybe he was distracted :p

So, if that's the case, would all of you suggest that it's good to talk about it with your partner before you actually hit the sheets?

fatgirlflyin
05-13-2007, 02:36 PM
So, if that's the case, would all of you suggest that it's good to talk about it with your partner before you actually hit the sheets?

There should always be some degree of communication before having sex with someone the first time, and it should continue as your relationship (sexual or more) continues. I dont think there should be a play by play mapped out but some simple, I'm into this are you kinda questions are definitely ok.

LillyBBBW
05-13-2007, 02:38 PM
So, if that's the case, would all of you suggest that it's good to talk about it with your partner before you actually hit the sheets?

No way! You lunge for him with all your might, rape him dead and then come back here and post pix plz, tnkyu bye. :D

Arrhythmia
05-13-2007, 02:40 PM
No way! You lunge for him with all your might, rape him dead and then come back here and post pix plz, tnkyu bye. :D
ROTFLMAO!!! Oh, my god..I am crying! GIRL, I had a sip of liquid in my mouth and nearly chocked when I read your reply. LMAO!!!

Green Eyed Fairy
05-13-2007, 02:45 PM
So, if that's the case, would all of you suggest that it's good to talk about it with your partner before you actually hit the sheets?


Lol- in THEORY yes :p

Green Eyed Fairy
05-13-2007, 02:45 PM
No way! You lunge for him with all your might, rape him dead and then come back here and post pix plz, tnkyu bye. :D

That's what I love about Lilly- she truly understands me ;) :D

Chimpi
05-13-2007, 05:35 PM
also, not gonna lie: immediately after sex, she gains about 400 lbs.

I will vouch for this, as well. Many times, if not every time, when she is on top, and we've done the deed, the very second after it is over, you really start to feel the weight of the other person, because your body is so relaxed. Personally, I can usually stand a little while longer, but for my body's sake (not just because of the weight, but because my body temperature gets so high I want it to cool off fast), I ask her to get off of me and rest.

Self-consciousness takes so much of the fun out of sex. You spend so much time worrying about what you look like/feel like, that you forget to just have fun.

I've read quite a few posts where women have stated that they like to have the lights off, because they're so self-conscious about the way they look. It blows my mind, but I know that it comes from every day life, the media, friends/family, and many other sources. I understand, but I believe it should change, drastically.

olivefun
05-13-2007, 07:04 PM
Another thought:
The other great thing about being on top that hasn't really been touched upon much, is the element of control.
When I am on top, I can make sure that my lover's penis is hitting all my right spots. My movements can work with his better that way and the grinding motions can instigate more involved ones.
This is such terrific fun, to have one set of movements spark other ones.
The undulations carry us both away.

liz (di-va)
05-13-2007, 07:19 PM
xdee--

1) Re: leg length. Pillows, as folks were saying. The firm kind. It might be easier having them under him, or under your knees. Also ottomans and armchairs. Also: having something to hold onto.

2) As far as gettin up the feeling to feel good about it...I don't know ONE dude who likes--okay, well, women--but chubby, fat, supersize, way fat, jiggly, plus-size, full-figured whatever women who doesn't like having a fat girl on top. What is not to like? The view is the best. The only thing that might happen if you really "squished" him (not possible) is that he would die of happiness. Get him to talk to you about what he likes about it, how it turns him on to see you from there. Feed offa that. Maybe you can believe in his believing, if not yer own. Or start out with some stellar making-out in that position, just to get into it.

3) Lilly....bwah hah :).

xdeementedxdeemonx
05-13-2007, 07:38 PM
too bad we have a water bed, lolzzzzzz
make things IMPOSSIBLE!!!!
So, i guess the floor is quite better, lol
im probably gonna have to practise like hell since ive never really done it, just 3 times, and for 5 seconds, coz im so shy.

alienlanes
05-13-2007, 09:26 PM
I have nothing to add to this thread except "yes, please" :D.

ETA: Not true. I forgot about this:

I spend precious moments trying to pose like a porn star and not make silly faces.

But getting to make silly faces is part of the fun :p!

furious styles
05-13-2007, 09:53 PM
The only thing that might happen if you really "squished" him (not possible) is that he would die of happiness.

ahahahahaaa...oh liz u slay me

Paw Paw
05-13-2007, 09:54 PM
I can only offer my own personal opinion and experience.
I enjoy when Erin is on top, to a point, and the fact that she is much heavier than I am has no critical physical effects on me. I enjoy the sight of her on top, I enjoy the feeling of having her weight on top of me, I enjoy seeing her larger body parts resting gently on top of mine, and especially certain body parts (my favorite of all - the belly) that certainly flow a little distance outwards on my own torso. It's quite the spectacular sight and feeling. She does not suffocate me, she does not hurt me, and especially in the time of sexual intercoarse, I have enough steam built up inside my body that the adrenaline kicks in and often quite comfortable.

I might imagine that if your boyfriend enjoys the fact that you are a large woman, he certainly might like you being on top, might like the feeling of your weight on him, and all the other benefits of having a lovely large lady to slop body parts together with.

:bow:

I truly love to be on the bottom. I weigh 135# and my usual lover is 250#-300#. I aint been hurt! And I really, like to do my oral that way. Truly love the lady on top!

Peace,
2P.

Arrhythmia
05-13-2007, 09:56 PM
I truly love to be on the bottom. I weigh 135# and my usual lover is 250#-300#. I aint been hurt! And I really, like to do my oral that way. Truly love the lady on top!

Peace,
2P.
:smitten: :smitten: :smitten: and double :smitten: !!

wistful
05-13-2007, 09:56 PM
While I agree wholeheartedly with what everyone is saying,I can't help but wonder if the anxiety that the original poster has about being on top isn't just because she's concerned about hurting her boyfriend.In the past when I was having an off day with my body or sometimes when I was with someone new being on top would sometimes cause me to go a bit into panic mode.Even though it can very often be an "empowering" position it would sometimes make me feel vunerable on bad body days because I knew my partner was going to be able to *really* look at my body flaws and all.The self -conciousness I felt on these days often stopped me from feeling comfortable enough to get on top.Just putting this out there...

CurvaceousBBWLover
05-14-2007, 12:15 AM
Nothing is more wonderful than the feeling of a big woman when she's on top of me while we are making love.

boogiebomb
05-14-2007, 06:20 AM
Trust me baby, you wont hurt him or kill him. He can handle it. We men are alot stronger than you think. Truth be told, there isn't a man alive that doesn't love that position. Miss Ruby Ripples suggestion is a very good one. Try it. Have Fun!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Tad
05-14-2007, 07:45 AM
too bad we have a water bed, lolzzzzzz
make things IMPOSSIBLE!!!!
So, i guess the floor is quite better, lol
im probably gonna have to practise like hell since ive never really done it, just 3 times, and for 5 seconds, coz im so shy.

Is he ticklish? If so, sometime you could start up a tickle fight, and in the process get on top of him to pin him down. Because you'll both already be giggling and goofy it should help make the moment seem less formal and stressful. (and you never know what that could lead to....)

Just another note, a bunch of the responses have mentioned how BBW on top gives a sense of her being in control. One thing you have to decide is how much you want to be in control, versus how much you'd rather him to be in control. I think it is great for both partners to be in control some of the time, but you'll know best what works for you.

As for the mechanics, most of your weight will be on his hips, which can flex downwards--that is they bend teh right way for you to be on top. And they are a pretty solid piece of bone, which is incredibly strong stuff. Depending on how big you are, your belly may be laying on his, but the amount of weight in your belly is not all that large, and it is spread out very evenly. Depending on how tall he is compared to you, if you lie down fully on him you may restrict his breathing somewhat, but as others have said, while things are going on he'll manage--but afterwards having that weight on your upper abdomen and/or chest is suddenly a lot harder to deal with.

Best of luck--experimenting is fun! And if you try something and it does not quite work out, you can go back to one of your traditional positions, then try another variation next time.

-Ed

Zandoz
05-14-2007, 10:17 AM
OK...I'll probably be in the dog house for actually saying this, But my first time with my now wife was with her on top at well over 300lbs. All I can say is WOW!!!!!! Still our most popular modus operandi 10 years later, with her around 350. I'm still kick'n.

On the logistics side of it, because of my size (the incredible bulk at around 475), it can at times be difficult for her even at 5'7". At times when we want things a bit easier with her on top, her reversing so that she is facing away from me, with her knees straddling my legs instead of higher up and way wider, works well.

The best advice I can give is to talk about it first, during, and after, and don't be afraid to adjust till you find what works for you both...it's worth it.

biackrlng
05-15-2007, 03:14 AM
OK...I'll probably be in the dog house for actually saying this, But my first time with my now wife was with her on top at well over 300lbs. All I can say is WOW!!!!!! Still our most popular modus operandi 10 years later, with her around 350. I'm still kick'n.

On the logistics side of it, because of my size (the incredible bulk at around 475), it can at times be difficult for her even at 5'7". At times when we want things a bit easier with her on top, her reversing so that she is facing away from me, with her knees straddling my legs instead of higher up and way wider, works well.

The best advice I can give is to talk about it first, during, and after, and don't be afraid to adjust till you find what works for you both...it's worth it.

Can I send a small clip of my bbw ontop to show how much enjoyment we are having or is it against the rules??

:)

sobie18
05-15-2007, 05:42 AM
Yes, get on top....We are fine with you there.

Yee-haw! Ride 'em, cowgirl!!!!!

BigBlueChickee
05-15-2007, 11:12 AM
I can relate to this. I'm not as short as you (5'7) but I can't seem to find a comfortable way to be on top, especially being a bbw and usually being involved with bhm. Its hard to stay upright with our bellies in the way. lol. I have only tried to be on top a handful of times myself, since it never seems to work out, and I get embarrased that "I can't do it." I did once pull it off pretty successfully by being on top in a recliner (but the man I was with at the time wasn't a bhm, so I'm not sure if hte belly bumping would hinder it then?). I put my knees on the arms of the chair, and used the back for leverage. I was able to perform without feeling I was putting too much weight on the guy or anything like that. That sort of thing might be something you could try, provided, of course, its a nice sturdy recliner (meaning...one that doesn't recline easily, needs a lever to move, doesn't go back just by pushing it)

Ruffie
05-16-2007, 02:54 PM
Being on top is great and my husband is not that big of a man and handles it just fine. I do find that the knees get tired after a bit so I simply lean forward so that my hands are on either side of his head and my breasts are there for easy access woo hoo! I like it cause I am able to adjust to what feels best for me in the moment. I say try it and no worries he should love it and if he has any troubles with it he can let ya know. Good luck and enjoy!

Butterbelly
05-16-2007, 03:08 PM
I love being on top!

Since I'm so short, I'd recommend the pillows as well. My ex boyfriend built blocks of wood with thick padding and material over them for me to rest my knees on. This helped immensely, especially to raise my knees up a bit since I'm so short. Even though I laughed at the idea of me resting my knees on these odd looking things, it worked extremely well :bounce:

alienlanes
05-16-2007, 03:11 PM
My ex boyfriend built blocks of wood with thick padding and material over them for me to rest my knees on.

OK, that is officially sweetest thing ever :).

supersoup
05-16-2007, 03:12 PM
OK, that is officially sweetest thing ever :).

exactly what i was thinking, that's all kinds of awesome! if i could find a boy like that, i might actually date again!!

Butterbelly
05-16-2007, 03:13 PM
exactly what i was thinking, that's all kinds of awesome! if i could find a boy like that, i might actually date again!!

Thanks...I'm going to miss him since I'm moving away in two days.

supersoup
05-16-2007, 03:15 PM
Thanks...I'm going to miss him since I'm moving away in two days.

that's right, BUT you are embarking on quite the adventure if i remember correctly.

BeaBea
05-16-2007, 04:23 PM
if i could find a boy like that, i might actually date again!!

Date him? I'd marry him!!

Tracey xx

supersoup
05-16-2007, 04:25 PM
Date him? I'd marry him!!

Tracey xx

i'm allergic to marriage!! but yes, tis awesome.

Violet_Beauregard
05-16-2007, 04:41 PM
OK, I'm finally throwing my 2 cents in. In the past, I've tried it and didn't feel I was "doing it right".... it just didn't feel comfortable. I too, felt like I was going to crush the guy, so I was very hesitant.

Now that said....but I did this very deed last night with someone new... :blush: (met him a month or so ago :batting: )

JACKPOT.... worked like a charm! :happy: We adjusted here and there to find the comfortable spot for us. I'm not real tall... 5'3", but even my short legs worked out very well. They got a bit tired, but I did the same as Ruffie... leaned forward... ample boobage was at hand for his entertainment.... End result was wonderful! :wubu:

Don't give up.... talk, experiement.... don't worry.... it'll work out!!!

johnny sack
05-16-2007, 07:00 PM
Nothing is more wonderful than the feeling of a big woman when she's on top of me while we are making love.
amen brother!

elle camino
05-16-2007, 10:00 PM
yeah, all the times ive given this a shot have been less than great. actually ranging from crappy to outright disasterous. my most recent ex would fully tell me to go for it, and then like 15 seconds later he'd be all GETOFFGETOFFCAN'TBREATHE.
so.

yep.

Ample Pie
05-16-2007, 10:03 PM
yeah, all the times ive given this a shot have been less than great. actually ranging from crappy to outright disasterous. my most recent ex would fully tell me to go for it, and then like 15 seconds later he'd be all GETOFFGETOFFCAN'TBREATHE.
so.

yep.

I never ever feel sorry for people, because it's demeaning--well it seems it. But I kind of do feel sorry for you for this...may the future find heartier boys for you.

elle camino
05-16-2007, 10:09 PM
yeah the strange(?) thing is, i have a VERY specific type of guy that i date, and that type, in a nutshell: beefy. my friends call them 'bruisers'. so it's not like i'm nailing any 120-pounds-of-asthma type dudes. in fact the guy in question was probably the biggest guy i've ever been with. somewhere in the neighborhood of 6 feet, 220 lbs. so it's kinda weird how he was the biggest wimp about it.
ah well.
what are you gonna do.

Ample Pie
05-16-2007, 10:15 PM
yeah the strange(?) thing is, i have a VERY specific type of guy that i date, and that type, in a nutshell: beefy. my friends call them 'bruisers'. so it's not like i'm nailing any 120-pounds-of-asthma type dudes. in fact the guy in question was probably the biggest guy i've ever been with. somewhere in the neighborhood of 6 feet, 220 lbs. so it's kinda weird how he was the biggest wimp about it.
ah well.
what are you gonna do.

maybe switch to the asthma types of dudes? they're used to being breathless...

and don't you just need a guy who's completely breathless when you're around?

just sayin'

AnnMarie
05-16-2007, 10:22 PM
I haven't commented here yet, but I'm fully in favor. Everything people have said about pillows, benches, leaning forward to take pressure off your knees, etc... all true, all good points, all things you'll need to play around with to make things work right.

For me I've always had more luck with thin partners who are ... uhm, well... you know. For me, because of my shape (ass most specifically) once I'm "up" there, if there isn't some "room for error" when I move around - especially bend forward so I'm sort of on all fours, they'll slip out, and then I have to sort of readjust again so we can get situated and start over.

Because my thighs are large, I usually can't guide them in myself (hands are balancing me or something), so they just need to sneak their hand in to do it... but then you're all set.

I've mentioned to others I know who haven't done this that it's really not a graceful mount, you know? It's not like the porn movies with the skinny chick and she just settles down on him like an electric bronco... lol - it's more of a finesse move that you figure out over time, and it really does change with any different partner. The approach is the same, but the amount of adjustment or pillows or "stay straight, don't lean forward" stuff all changes a bit depending on who you are with.

However, I find that's the case with just about every position, other than missionary. I think they all work slightly different depending on the person, height, angle, size, build, etc.

Anyway.... girls who haven't tried or are trepidatious about it - climb on. I haven't killed one yet, and they really, really like it. :D

Arrhythmia
05-16-2007, 10:25 PM
There was a movie I watched years ago and I can't remember the name of it, but there were several women in their PJs sitting around chatting about sex. One lady said that she liked to be on top and move her hips around like she was making little "o's." She said those little o's brought her to orgasm. That's something I've never forgotten, but have never tried as I have not had the priviledge of being on top on very many occasions.

For one, I have no cartilidge on my knees, so bending them for any length of time can be painful. I guess I could pitch forward, but my boobs would probably give my partner blackeyes. I guess the real reason why I have not tried it more is because I've never been encouraged to and thus I'm rather embarassed to take the reins.

However, after reading all your responses, I am really looking forward to trying the position. It sounds like LOADS of fun. PLUS, I've finally got a guy who appreciates all my extra curves. :D

AnnMarie
05-16-2007, 10:26 PM
There was a movie I watched years ago and I can't remember the name of it, but there were several women in their PJs sitting around chatting about sex. One lady said that she liked to be on top and move her hips around like she was making little "o's." She said those little o's brought her to orgasm. That's something I've never forgotten, but have never tried as I have not had the priviledge of being on top on very many occasions.

For one, I have no cartilidge on my knees, so bending them for any length of time can be painful. I guess I could pitch forward, but my boobs would probably give my partner blackeyes. I guess the real reason why I have not tried it more is because I've never been encouraged to and thus I'm rather embarassed to take the reins.

However, after reading all your responses, I am really looking forward to trying the position. It sounds like LOADS of fun. PLUS, I've finally got a guy who appreciates all my extra curves. :D

Casual Sex?

I didn't even have to think about it.

Arrhythmia
05-16-2007, 10:28 PM
Casual Sex

I didn't even have to think about it.
Is THAT what that was?? LOL! Thanks!

Waxwing
05-16-2007, 10:30 PM
I've mentioned to others I know who haven't done this that it's really not a graceful mount, you know? It's not like the porn movies with the skinny chick and she just settles down on him like an electric bronco...

That's just editing. It looks stupid when we do it, too. ;)

Oh, and by "we" I meant skinny chicks, not porn stars. Though wouldn't THAT be an interesting thing to reveal.

AnnMarie
05-16-2007, 10:32 PM
That's just editing. It looks stupid when we do it, too. ;)

Oh, and by "we" I meant skinny chicks, not porn stars. Though wouldn't THAT be an interesting thing to reveal.

Ahhh, good to know we've been sold a bill of goods!!!!

Damn you, porn stars.

Arrhythmia
05-16-2007, 10:33 PM
Oh, and by "we" I meant skinny chicks, not porn stars. Though wouldn't THAT be an interesting thing to reveal.
Tryin' to tell us something Waxie, Honey Child? :D

Waxwing
05-16-2007, 10:38 PM
Tryin' to tell us something Waxie, Honey Child? :D

No, no. Nothing to see here. :batting:

Arrhythmia
05-16-2007, 10:49 PM
No, no. Nothing to see here. :batting:

ROTFLMAO!!! :D

tink977
05-17-2007, 05:54 AM
That's it! I am finding a man to straddle tonight...lol.

Paw Paw
05-17-2007, 08:18 AM
"However, after reading all your responses, I am really looking forward to trying the position. It sounds like LOADS of fun. PLUS, I've finally got a guy who appreciates all my extra curves. "

*Appreciating* hehehe

Peace,
2P.

Alan
05-17-2007, 09:43 AM
Dee, I understand your apprehension about hurting your lover, particularly when the woman is significantly larger than her man, as is the case with the beautiful BBW I am with now(even though I am 6'3" & 230lbs , but lean)...she had that same concern that you do now, But NOT anymore, she's always grinning ear-to-ear when she has me mounted. Now, as soon as she comes over, she playfully pushes me down on the sofa and straddles me...I think I have created an animal(but, I can live with it..LOL). My advice: Go for it, Dee, I'm sure he'll love it...I know I do!

Lorna
05-17-2007, 04:07 PM
maybe switch to the asthma types of dudes? they're used to being breathless...

and don't you just need a guy who's completely breathless when you're around?

just sayin'

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA I rest my case! :bow:

fa_foo
05-17-2007, 04:28 PM
In addition to pillows, I would go so far as to recommend the foam yoga blocks. Pillows, even firm ones, can squish down into the bed quite a bit, but if you were to get yourself a couple yoga blocks, they have a good "footprint" on the bed to not sink in so much, and you will stay right up there, and likely also have more control over how much weight you rest on your partner.

Then again, you need ~$20 for the equipment, and have to be a little more serious about your fun. But if props are good for yoga people to get into position, why wouldn't they be good for sex people to get into position. (That's not to say that people who do yoga and people who have sex are mutually exclusive in any way. ;))

Above all (no pun intended), enjoy!

foo

biackrlng
05-19-2007, 03:20 AM
I hope this pic is legal for DImensions If not I am sorry HEre is a visual of a BBW and FA having some fun :-) Notice how she holds on to the bed to make them both comfortable

FA to the Bone
05-19-2007, 06:41 AM
:kiss2: Dear LADIES

This is the moooooooost sexy thread I ever read here... mmmmmmmm...
All my Love!!!

Mechelle
05-19-2007, 09:29 PM
Ever heard of the Liberator? http://liberator.com/products_cube.php# They have several shapes, and lots of photos, this one of the cube I thought fit this post. We have little deeper pillow we got it from loverspackage.com
http://loverspackage.com/searchadv.aspx?IsSubmit=true&showpics=1&SearchDescriptions=1&ProductTypeID=0&SearchTerm=little+deeper

Love the little deeper, its great for getting you in a comfortable position the natural gravity just helps to hold you if you are a big girl, this is great for receiving oral sex... puts you up, holds you up so you can relax... it makes it easier for them to use their hands to because of the angle. I highly recomend trying some of these items out. The liberator was a bit pricey so we tried the little deeper first.. it is so good I think we will get a liberator next. :D

TCUBOB
05-20-2007, 12:59 PM
I'm going to sound weird, but I just like the thought of having the woman on top, regardless of size. That's me....but I'm more of an Indian than a chief anyway.....

AnnMarie
05-20-2007, 01:01 PM
I'm going to sound weird, but I just like the thought of having the woman on top, regardless of size. That's me....but I'm more of an Indian than a chief anyway.....

I don't think it's weird at all, I think lots of guys like it... seems to reason that if you like big girls, you'd like them on top as well. :)

TCUBOB
05-20-2007, 01:11 PM
<whew!>

Wait, I just took comfort in reassurance from someone who covered herself in ice cream toppings and posted the picture online....is there anything wrong with that?;)

Just kidding, AM. Thanks. I felt a little awkward in this thread.

I don't think it's weird at all, I think lots of guys like it... seems to reason that if you like big girls, you'd like them on top as well. :)

Sugar Magnolia
05-20-2007, 05:47 PM
I'm quite tall, so the knees not reaching the bed (or whatever) isn't a problem, but my arms and legs do get tired so I find "squatting" works best. Anyone esle try this? Highly recommended!!!

Don't be afraid... if you're comfortable enough to be with a guy, you should be able to try new positions with him.

daddyoh70
05-21-2007, 09:07 PM
I hate to jump in, but that is like one of my fantasies. Seriously... :wubu:
Fat Girls on top= Win :D

Wait till is happens Jon, it will totally be worth the wait..

Wait til you get up the nerve to be on top during oral , nothing like it I tell ya!

Nothing like being on the bottom either... :)

jimmi
05-21-2007, 10:19 PM
I'm quite tall, so the knees not reaching the bed (or whatever) isn't a problem, but my arms and legs do get tired so I find "squatting" works best. Anyone esle try this? Highly recommended!!!

Don't be afraid... if you're comfortable enough to be with a guy, you should be able to try new positions with him.

I have only being doing the on-top thing with my current guy and it's taken some getting used to. At first I was afraid of being too heavy and not looking graceful and the like, but after trying enough times, I'm confident that I won't break him and that he doesn't care if I fumble a little getting up there.
I have found that "squatting" is a fun way to mix things up on top, and it's great for giving the knees a rest! Also recommended is squatting facing away from him, that way you can stretch out your legs more without being afraid of kicking him in the face...unless that's your thing, then more power to you.

justonemoreguy
05-25-2007, 04:50 PM
Being on top is my absolutely fave position!

Put a pillow on either side of his body for your knees. That can help.

My hands on his wrists, allows a great deal of control for me.
I love being on top. It is very empowering. Teasing him with my breasts, dragging my huge belly on his chest is more fun than it sounds in print. Teasing other parts of him too, when he thrusts forward and gets into my belly rather than another warm spot, is a delight. My jiggling flesh is a turn on for both of us.
Play with this and the more comfortable you feel will make it more exciting for the 2 of you.
NOw this babe has the key... and sounds as much fun as all of you

olivefun
05-26-2007, 11:02 AM
NOw this babe has the key... and sounds as much fun as all of you


It is a lot of fun.
There is a kind of power turn on, knowing that I am in control and can offer him as much pleasure as we care for. Sensitivity to how the various parts of his body are reacting ....and his abillity to read my various shudders and sounds enhances the whole sex thing. Fun.

jason'sgottenfat
05-27-2007, 05:08 AM
I Have A Guy For You

!!!!!!!!!!!!
Xo
Jason

fatgirl33
05-27-2007, 06:53 PM
Finding new positions that work and feel nice is just one of the fun things about either or both partners growing in size. I've really enjoyed reading some of the suggestions in this thread!

:eat2:

Brenda

Koldun
05-28-2007, 01:20 AM
....honestly? Everything you just described is kind of turning me on. :D

I wouldn't mind a bbw on top....

TheNowhereMan
05-30-2007, 12:18 AM
from the guys perspective here i frankly enjoy a little squashing during sex. my gf isa good 100 pounds larger than me and i love her on top, it's amazing

Adrian
05-30-2007, 11:23 PM
Personally, I also prefer my wife on top! At one point she was twice my weight. When I feel she is 'protecting' me by not allowing her full weight to be upon me, I just embrace her very firmly. This adds force to gravity..... grin. If I didn't want a load on me, I would not use this position.
While this position might cause some BBWs or SSBBWs concern, they need not worry, men will not continue to do something that they don't like.
The bottom line is, there is absolutely no substitute for communication. It is as valuable in the bedroom as it is outside the bedroom. Plus use your imagination, nothing is out of bounds if you both enjoy it.

Adrian

Seth Warren
05-31-2007, 01:48 PM
For big women who get knee pain when on top (http://www.liberatorshapes.com/products_esse.php) - NOT SAFE FOR WORK! I recently discovered this site and it's plethora of "sexy furniture." Some of these pieces might solve some of the positioning problems, or barring any problems, just be good old dirty fun! ;)

Aurora
05-31-2007, 02:38 PM
I do enjoy being on top sometimes, although the first time doing it with my main squeeze I *did* break him (that fractured penis thing mentioned earlier in the thread). My body is structured so that it can be hard to get up in there, and there was a little slip and an "OW" and it kinda killed the fun. *laughs* Though it wasn't a major deal, he was just a little sore for a couple days and apparently it makes you stronger in the long run so I'm not too worried about it happening again. It can be pretty serious though so if it does happen it's a good idea to seek medical attention. Luckily he comes from a family of doctors and help was a phone call away. Bit embarrassing for me though! XD

Just thought I'd share. :) Yay fat sex!

ReallyNiceFellow
08-28-2007, 05:43 PM
No way! You lunge for him with all your might, rape him dead and then come back here and post pix plz, tnkyu bye. :D

Lilly, can I give you my phone number?

Midori
08-28-2007, 05:50 PM
The first time I was on top I was terrified ... all the insecurities were about to drown me but ... my boyfriend at the time was great ... and uber helpful! It was hands down the best orgasm of my life and it's become one of my favorite positions ... the ability to maniuplate to hit all the right spots is definitely there and as long as you are in the act ... I've never met anyone who was bothered by the weight. Now I don't collapse on top of him deadweight ... but during sex ... it's fantastic ... and I love how He can touch and hold me in different ways when I am on top and he isn't holding himself up!

♪midori

troubadours
08-28-2007, 05:56 PM
favorite. feels great, love being in control, love feeling my belly between us. its even better nowadays that my bf can barely reach around me anymore.. :blush:

Tooz
08-28-2007, 07:55 PM
For big women who get knee pain when on top (http://www.liberatorshapes.com/products_esse.php)

So, I kinda wanna buy that ...

Ivy
08-28-2007, 08:23 PM
For big women who get knee pain when on top (http://www.liberatorshapes.com/products_esse.php) - NOT SAFE FOR WORK! I recently discovered this site and it's plethora of "sexy furniture." Some of these pieces might solve some of the positioning problems, or barring any problems, just be good old dirty fun! ;)

i want one of these sooo bad.

ClashCityRocker
08-28-2007, 08:28 PM
i want one of these sooo bad.

that thing looks like endless fun...

if you get it and need help breaking it in...

joking, joking.

(right):p

Butterbelly
08-29-2007, 04:25 AM
For big women who get knee pain when on top (http://www.liberatorshapes.com/products_esse.php) - NOT SAFE FOR WORK! I recently discovered this site and it's plethora of "sexy furniture." Some of these pieces might solve some of the positioning problems, or barring any problems, just be good old dirty fun! ;)

Definitely worth it...as is the wedge or ramp.

vermillion
08-29-2007, 06:50 AM
Well I am 318 pounds...
The guy I am currently seeing is 185....(and not an FA...)
I am NOT SHY about being on top...
He loves it. He said no other big girl would ever get on top of him....
He says that he feels like I am riding him harder even when I am just doing it medium pace....and he loves it because I can hardly "contain" him. 4 or 5 minutes tops.

TMI????


I think guys in general (not just FA) like the feeling of the weight on top of them and their wieners.

babyjeep21
08-29-2007, 10:05 AM
My thoughts on this topic?

Guys like it. I like it.

JUST DO IT.

Russ2d
08-29-2007, 10:37 AM
I'll second Babyjeep on this... guys love a woman on top, having her softness all over you, enveloping and caressing you, squashing you, taking your breath away, yes yes

JUST DO IT!

Ample Pie
08-29-2007, 03:09 PM
I'm all for it.

Elfcat
08-29-2007, 03:22 PM
One of my personal jokes is that a man who is made almost entirely of bone is pretty crush-resistant. And actually, I found out recently that this is borne out. I watch the series "Human Weapon" on History Channel, an exploration of fighting arts around the world, and it has been mentioned a few times that pound for pound, bone is harder to break than concrete.

Now of course, laying 400 pounds down hard on the rib cage can still compress lungs, but the thing then is to keep your center of gravity more above the bottom's hip area, bearing on the broad and tough hip and leg bones. Also, of course, the more weight you can put on your own legs and arms, the less is the bottom's job to handle. Bouncing and keeping things moving also helps to keep circulation going. And of course there are things like wedge cushions and luvseats and other sex furniture which allows a partial-sitting stance that also brings one's weight down in a different angle that might allow for longer intervals.

mimosa
08-29-2007, 03:54 PM
I agree. If done right, everyone ends up feeling really good. ;)

:Well I am 318 pounds...
The guy I am currently seeing is 185....(and not an FA...)
I am NOT SHY about being on top...
He loves it. He said no other big girl would ever get on top of him....
He says that he feels like I am riding him harder even when I am just doing it medium pace....and he loves it because I can hardly "contain" him. 4 or 5 minutes tops.

TMI????


I think guys in general (not just FA) like the feeling of the weight on top of them and their wieners.

Green Eyed Fairy
08-29-2007, 03:56 PM
I'm still giggly over seeing Vermillion say wieners....

big_gurl_lvr
08-29-2007, 04:02 PM
Me being about 170-180 lbs never found problems with my bones turned upside down or stuff like this after being under bbw about twice my size ;) Only problem was that I wanted more ;)

Lucky Jackson
08-30-2007, 01:06 PM
my b/f is 5'10 and is about 50lbs lighter than me, and im embarrassed coz im afraid i might squish him...lol.


I'm guessing someone has already said this in this thread but....

oh lawd get on him girl, he'll love it, its what he dreams about, its what he thinks about.

I can't think of anything hotter than a bbw on top, for me its when I realised there was something good about life when I realised how hot it would be to have a BBW on top of me

newlylarge
09-01-2007, 04:11 AM
My experience is with the opposite case of the subject of this thread, but my resulting conclusion is the same. Ladies, your guy will probably love to have you "on top" and your size or weight is probably not an issue. As I indicated, my experience is somewhat the opposite of the subject of this thread in that my girlfriend was, and still is, rather "petite" and very lean while I have gained quite a bit of weight since we started dating. I also started out rather lean, but when she discovered her "FFA desires" after I had gained a bit of weight and she had asked if I would be willing to gain much more, the "mechanics" of our moments of intimacy changed a bit over time. For the first few months, my increased weight and girth made little difference, but after about a year or so, I had gained enough that we had to change our "usual routine."

We had always "taken turns" equally "on-top," but once I had reached a certain weight, she shyly informed me that I had been "squashing" her a bit lately. In addition to my actual weight-gain, it was probably of equal relevance that my belly had begun to protrude enough that, when I was "on top" and we were "face to face," my belly was resting fully on her and had become a bit too heavy for her to comfortably handle. So from that moment on, my girlfriend had full-time "on top" duty. :)

I have to admit that, at first, I had mixed feelings about her always being on-top. It was not that I did not enjoy it, I did, but rather that I felt a bit guilty. It was as if I was being lazy. It is probably obvious that the person who is "on-top" generally does most of the "work" (e.g. moving around). I am not saying that I laid their like a lump, but when I was "on the bottom" my movements were necessarily limited and I felt somewhat as if I was making her do "all the work" as she laid on top of me and was more "mobile." ;)

I felt a bit lazy as I would lay down on the bed and she would "climb up" on top, but when I mentioned this, she assured me that any additional "effort" on her part was preferable to being sometimes squashed a bit by me. It seemed that, try as I might, I could not avoid putting too much weight on her once I had reached a certain size. I was a bit embarrassed when she finally had to come-right-out and tell me that I had become "too fat to be on top." I note here that, while this may have been the case with me and my fairly slender and "petite" girlfriend, I doubt if it is an issue for BBWs being on top of their significant others. The reason that I mention this "opposite case" from the subject thread is to make the point that most guys would be thrilled to have their SOs on top, regardless of size or weight. I suppose that, because we are normally expected to be "on top," there is something "exciting" about being "on the bottom." :wubu:

Midori
09-01-2007, 06:00 PM
Of course ... there are other non-total weight bearing positions that would work as well for a BHM ... ~grins~ like standing with her kneeling on the bed, or any position where she is -taken- from behind and you are bearing a good deal of weight on your knees. Just mention this because it's a personal fav position and one that gives a great deal of pleasure for me!

Also with you kneeling and her on her back ... but not actually lying on top of her ... yet still able to look down at her ... really great position of your knees can handle it! Just make sure not to collapse on top of her after the -big- finish! ~winks~

♪midori

My experience is with the opposite case of the subject of this thread, but my resulting conclusion is the same. Ladies, your guy will probably love to have you "on top" and your size or weight is probably not an issue. As I indicated, my experience is somewhat the opposite of the subject of this thread in that my girlfriend was, and still is, rather "petite" and very lean while I have gained quite a bit of weight since we started dating. I also started out rather lean, but when she discovered her "FFA desires" after I had gained a bit of weight and she had asked if I would be willing to gain much more, the "mechanics" of our moments of intimacy changed a bit over time. For the first few months, my increased weight and girth made little difference, but after about a year or so, I had gained enough that we had to change our "usual routine."

We had always "taken turns" equally "on-top," but once I had reached a certain weight, she shyly informed me that I had been "squashing" her a bit lately. In addition to my actual weight-gain, it was probably of equal relevance that my belly had begun to protrude enough that, when I was "on top" and we were "face to face," my belly was resting fully on her and had become a bit too heavy for her to comfortably handle. So from that moment on, my girlfriend had full-time "on top" duty. :)

I have to admit that, at first, I had mixed feelings about her always being on-top. It was not that I did not enjoy it, I did, but rather that I felt a bit guilty. It was as if I was being lazy. It is probably obvious that the person who is "on-top" generally does most of the "work" (e.g. moving around). I am not saying that I laid their like a lump, but when I was "on the bottom" my movements were necessarily limited and I felt somewhat as if I was making her do "all the work" as she laid on top of me and was more "mobile." ;)

I felt a bit lazy as I would lay down on the bed and she would "climb up" on top, but when I mentioned this, she assured me that any additional "effort" on her part was preferable to being sometimes squashed a bit by me. It seemed that, try as I might, I could not avoid putting too much weight on her once I had reached a certain size. I was a bit embarrassed when she finally had to come-right-out and tell me that I had become "too fat to be on top." I note here that, while this may have been the case with me and my fairly slender and "petite" girlfriend, I doubt if it is an issue for BBWs being on top of their significant others. The reason that I mention this "opposite case" from the subject thread is to make the point that most guys would be thrilled to have their SOs on top, regardless of size or weight. I suppose that, because we are normally expected to be "on top," there is something "exciting" about being "on the bottom." :wubu:

ToniTails
09-02-2007, 01:10 AM
squatting and grabbing the bed rails works for me, lol.... don't worry he ain't fragile- he won't break

newlylarge
09-02-2007, 08:24 AM
Thanks for your suggestions, Midori. I will give them a try. I suppose the point is that it may be necessary to get "creative." ;)

Actually, when I said that we had reached a point where it became necessary for her to always be on top, what I really meant was in cases where we wanted to be, basically, face-to-face and able to kiss on or around one anothers faces. I have tried your second suggested position. And then, of course, we are also able to lay side by side. But when it comes to us being face-to-face with the top person prone on top of the other, my being in the top position no longer seems to be an option.

For a while, I was able to do so while supporting my own weight and not placing most of my weight on her, but as I became heavier, it was no longer possible to do so for very long. In contrast, my girlfriend is able to lay on top of me (face-to-face) with her full weight resting on me. She is so light that I barely feel her weight at all. :)

Finally, my girlfriend has commented that she likes laying on top of me like this now that I have become, in her words, "like a cushiony pillow" for her to lay upon. One nice benefit of this is also that, "afterward," and once we have become sufficiently exhausted, my girlfriend finds me to be such a comfortable "pillow" that she often falls asleep on top of me. :wubu:

johnny sack
09-02-2007, 02:07 PM
My thoughts on this topic?

Guys like it. I like it.

JUST DO IT.

HERE HERE :D :eat2: :smitten:

Mental17
09-02-2007, 03:00 PM
Although I've never had intercourse with a larger woman, or with any for that matter hah (damn virgins), I sure as hell wouldn't mind being on the bottom.

Mikaila
09-02-2007, 11:11 PM
I can understand your fears about it, as that is something I've worried about too. I've always been big and its something I like to do, but i'm always afraid to hurt the guy! hehe :batting:

BigCutieSasha
09-02-2007, 11:45 PM
I was seriously thinking about this tonight. Thinking to myself after watching a rather dramatic sex scene in a movie, I prefer to be on top. I do rather the man take charge in bed, but I do love being on top. It gives the guy a chance to enjoy the view and the feeling of my belly laying on him. Plus I always get mine when I'm on top. :D

mango
09-03-2007, 06:11 AM
I can understand your fears about it, as that is something I've worried about too. I've always been big and its something I like to do, but i'm always afraid to hurt the guy! hehe :batting:

Well...

Welcome to the boards Mikaila!

:D

KurvyKel
09-03-2007, 07:25 AM
When I was with my ex he use to prefer me on top. I was kinda scared as I thought I would really hurt him. He weighs about 120 pounds at the most and I was close to 350.

It actually worked out pretty well although I knew I had to get off when he said his face was getting numb. :D

Mikaila
09-03-2007, 04:27 PM
Thank you Mango :)

This is one of those topics that I always have been a bit insecure about (trust me I have many) but it really is nice to know that others worry about it too... its also nice to hear that the guys dont mind.

Takes a lot of the panic off the ladies!

Russ2d
09-03-2007, 10:44 PM
Thank you Mango

This is one of those topics that I always have been a bit insecure about (trust me I have many) but it really is nice to know that others worry about it too... its also nice to hear that the guys dont mind.

Takes a lot of the panic off the ladies!


Don't mind Mikaila? We're begging for it!

DirtyLittleDiva
09-04-2007, 04:14 PM
I've never really had a problem riding. I am about 325 and my boyfriend is 175. Most guys like the pressure of the bigger girl on top...so don't worry about it. As for the legs...there are so many different positions you can try being on top but it also depends on how strong your legs are. You can try squatting over him and bouncing...sort of like doing squats on top...it's work but it feels good. Or try putting one foot on the bed and your knee down on the other side...so you are sort of down on one knee over him and you can thrust that way. These take a little more energy than the regular girl on top but it is so worth it if your legs can handle it.

I also noticed people talking about the liberator site. We've got the ramp and the wedge ourselves. It is definitely an aid getting into ANY position. It positions the body just right and makes absolutely everything comfortable. We've done every postion imaginable and then some. For those that say getting into different positions are hard...well, sometimes but it's sure worth it once it's done and you're having fun. Having fun in the sack comes down to being completely comfortable with your partner and letting inhibitions go. The more relaxed you are with your partner, the better the sex will be...no matter what position.

rarwrang
09-04-2007, 11:12 PM
my gf used to be so uncomfortable with it now she cant get enough

:-(

Gspoon
09-05-2007, 01:17 AM
Oh, just cause women have stronger pelvis's means that men cant stand the weight of a girl who weighs more than them? For shame, Madam!

Actually, we can handle the weight, the only time I cant handle the weight... Well.. I can always handle the weight! :cool:

lovessbbw
09-07-2007, 01:11 PM
Having a bbw or ssbbw on top is absolutley the bomb! The feeling of her belly laying on top of me is the most erotic feeling to me. Allows me to worship her belly and boobs as they should be. ;)

lysh
09-07-2007, 04:31 PM
by the sounds of your weights - you will NOT squash, kill or hurt him - so ride him with pride baby! :D

(I can't help with part B of your question, sorry)

BigCutieSasha
09-07-2007, 04:39 PM
my gf used to be so uncomfortable with it now she cant get enough

:-(

I was the same way. ;)

Dravenhawk
09-10-2007, 06:09 AM
I had dated this Somoan girl who weighed 520 and we had sex using a weightlifters bench press. The sturdy build of a bench press makes it ideal for interesting combinations. She also sat on my lap and chest. For me it is the most erotic feeling to have a SSBBW perferably over 400lbs bear her entire weight upon me. My ex wife also sat on my lap and chest for up to 3 hours in a stretch and I am none the worse for wear.

Dravenhawke

goldendiamondeyes
09-10-2007, 01:57 PM
I am also approx 450, 5'11" huge belly girl and I have to work on getting over the fear that I will squish my husband....But I climb on board and I ride... But FEAR is still there, and shyness....but that is what I am working on.....

I have problems with cant sit for to long in that position (Kneeling)...and I cant get low enough....any tips????? HELP!




I'm almost triple my husband's weight (me 450lb, he 165lb) and it doesn't hurt Art at all for me to be on top. I'm 6ft tall, so my hands and knees reach the bed just fine, even with all my fat "in the way" so to speak. The problem is that my arms and legs get tired after a while, so it's just more comfortable for me to be flat on my back.

Besides, foreplay is a major part of the experience, and after Art gives me one of his ecstatic full-body massages, I'm so blissfully relaxed that I'll just stay flat on my back, thank you very much, and let him have his way with me. :smitten:

LillyBBBW
09-10-2007, 02:34 PM
I am also approx 450, 5'11" huge belly girl and I have to work on getting over the fear that I will squish my husband....But I climb on board and I ride... But FEAR is still there, and shyness....but that is what I am working on.....

I have problems with cant sit for to long in that position (Kneeling)...and I cant get low enough....any tips????? HELP!

Have your husband lie on some pillows. This will raise him up enough for you to get good contact which will relieve some of the pressure on your knees. Or you can swing your legs around so that you are sitting on his lap with your feet towards his head. It's not very easy to get into this position but it's very comfortable for you if you can manage and it is highly unlikely you will hurt him at all.

mango
09-10-2007, 06:43 PM
For the big girls (and guys) that are worried about sitting on or squashing their partner.. I am yet to hear any horror stories of squashing FA's until something broke. The ribcage can withstand quite a large amount of pressure especially when its spread out over a wide, soft, fat surface.

The hazards usually have more to do with breathing and squashing air out of the lungs than actually breaking anything.

If your partner's face goes from peuce to purple and then to blue... that's the signalling point when you may want to shift to allow some oxygen back in.. hehe

:D

foozball100
09-11-2007, 06:43 AM
Hello all. Linebacker sized guys (6'1" 240 lbs) such as myself have it made. I'm talking about guys without a large stomach. My ssbbw lover is 6' tall and about 380 lbs and we've never had any problems.

Many times she would just dive on top of me, to my sheer delight because she knows she can't hurt me. If you think about it, if a guy likes a larger sized woman, chances are he's gonna like her on top.
http://www.dimensionsmagazine.com/forums/images/smilies/wink.gif
;)
I love the feeling of her being on top and she does too. She loves the control, her belly is not an issue and she could do what she wants. She has free movement.

BBW on Top is the only way to go! http://www.dimensionsmagazine.com/forums/images/smilies/happy.gif
:happy:

foozball100
09-11-2007, 06:55 AM
I never ever feel sorry for people, because it's demeaning--well it seems it. But I kind of do feel sorry for you for this...may the future find heartier boys for you.

Yes, I think you need a heartier guy too. My ssbbw lover over 380 lbs. With her on top, I toss her around with no problems. Like I said in my earlier post, myself being 240 lbs helps a lot as well.

The Orange Mage
09-11-2007, 10:16 AM
For the big girls (and guys) that are worried about sitting on or squashing their partner.. I am yet to hear any horror stories of squashing FA's until something broke. The ribcage can withstand quite a large amount of pressure especially when its spread out over a wide, soft, fat surface.

The hazards usually have more to do with breathing and squashing air out of the lungs than actually breaking anything.

If your partner's face goes from peuce to purple and then to blue... that's the signalling point when you may want to shift to allow some oxygen back in.. hehe

:D

Exactly. It's simple physics.

I mean, SURE the woman on top might way 2-3x what the man does, but the fact that she has so much surface area for that weight to spread out means that the pressure wouldn't be that great at all.

Now if you were doing trampling or something, that's two (and sometimes one) foot at a time on another person, now THAT will be about twenty times worse. :eek:

So Dr. Science says: You can almost NEVER squish an FA too much. :D

marlowegarp
09-11-2007, 02:36 PM
I personally enjoy having the belly right there to hold onto.

Rrrg. Must...not...quote...Tenacious...D!

Russ2d
09-11-2007, 09:16 PM
Most FAs are virtually squish-proof, and if they're an FA like me NEED a good BBW squishing as much as air or food !!!

Adrian
09-11-2007, 11:09 PM
Amen Russ!! -Adrian

Alicia Rose
09-12-2007, 05:37 AM
I am not squish-proof. v.v

=Divals

Dravenhawk
09-12-2007, 08:05 PM
No way! You lunge for him with all your might, rape him dead and then come back here and post pix plz, tnkyu bye. :D

I want to meet a girl like you Lilly. This one quote made my heart skip a beat. If there is a ssbbw out there with this kind of attitude I DEFINATLY want to meet you.

I had no idea there were others out there who shared in this grand idea of big woman on top. Every girl I dated was highly reluctant to this idea and might have timidly tried it once at best. One girl I was dating for several months was so offended by the idea of being on top she broke up with me after I asked her to sit on my lap.

This thread is very encouraging. I posted a thread of my own on "bumping" that augments the ideas expressed here

Dravenhawk

taetaegrrl
09-13-2007, 12:22 PM
Yep! I'm around your size, and it's not a problem for me either! I do have *very* strong legs though. (If I ever did a threesome, I think I'd let one person sit on my shoulders while I squatted/bounced on the other guy. I could seriously do that, pretty easily.)

Not all, but most guys I've met are turned on by me having strong legs. I'd encourage any woman (heath problems aside) to do some "heavy lifting" in the area of legs. It really pays off in the bedroom and elsewhere. :) (And really, you're not going to get "huge, guy-like muscles". The women who look like that are all taking steroids and stuff to get THAT huge.)


I've never really had a problem riding. I am about 325 and my boyfriend is 175. Most guys like the pressure of the bigger girl on top...so don't worry about it. As for the legs...there are so many different positions you can try being on top but it also depends on how strong your legs are. You can try squatting over him and bouncing...sort of like doing squats on top...it's work but it feels good. Or try putting one foot on the bed and your knee down on the other side...so you are sort of down on one knee over him and you can thrust that way. These take a little more energy than the regular girl on top but it is so worth it if your legs can handle it.

Dravenhawk
09-13-2007, 08:27 PM
Most FAs are virtually squish-proof, and if they're an FA like me NEED a good BBW squishing as much as air or food !!!

Yup :eat2:

Aurora
09-15-2007, 10:09 PM
I was a bit embarrassed when she finally had to come-right-out and tell me that I had become "too fat to be on top."

That's interesting to me. I guess I'm of the mind that if I'm enjoying my partner gaining I'd love to have that extra weight on top of me. All part of the thrill! But everyone's different and you gotta find what works for you.

For me personally I love my man's big belly resting on mine while he's on top, and the same goes for him when we switch positions. :D

One trick you could try is stay on your knees and pull her legs either around your hips or resting against your shoulders. You're doing the work and the pressure is off of her. :)

Mr_M
09-23-2007, 09:19 AM
I've never really had a problem riding. I am about 325 and my boyfriend is 175. Most guys like the pressure of the bigger girl on top...so don't worry about it.

Nail on head. If a guy loves BBW, chances are he likes having her on top too. Personally, I love it.

TheNowhereMan
09-23-2007, 04:30 PM
i like it with my lovely lady on top. It's like squashing during sex!

prplecat
09-24-2007, 03:52 AM
Riding is MUCH more pleasant if you have strong legs and a strong pelvis. Get yourself a belly-dancing video, and practice. Pretty soon you'll be doing those figure-eights on top of your guy, and your legs and balance will be strong enough that you won't give it a second thought! ;)

biackrlng
09-24-2007, 05:43 AM
Women ontop is Definitely my favorite position too

Russ2d
09-25-2007, 09:26 AM
I want the full weight pressure and softness of a BBW on me, preferably a SSBBW. I don't want her to think she has to try some acrobatic (and assuredly uncomfortable) trick to spare me the pressure- no way... I want her to jump on, flop down and relax :D Squash me flat!

Nikster
09-26-2007, 09:41 AM
I am 410 lbs and was always worried about crushing him - so we set some guidelines / words to help. Plus I was worried about falling over too. It ended up with a lot of giggles and laughter......

fasteddie1
10-11-2007, 03:29 PM
BBW's come in many different shapes.

I was seeing this lady who was quite short, about 300-something pounds I guess. I loved doing girl-on-top 69 with her (it's long been one of my favorites) but when we had missionary position intercourse, I'd have to hold myself up at an angle to get completely inside her.

My current lady friend...sadly, she can't be on top, because I can't breathe.

Still a third woman I dated was shaped such that we did it with her on her tummy, and me coming in from behind her.

A lot of it, for the girl, is if her clit can rub against your pubic bone, or not. If she's built so that it can, she can get incredible pleasure from that position.

Green Eyed Fairy
10-11-2007, 05:47 PM
A lot of it, for the girl, is if her clit can rub against your pubic bone, or not. If she's built so that it can, she can get incredible pleasure from that position.


I think that is why I was able to achieve orgasm so often and easily with my ex husband. That and he was well endowed :p

biggirlcrazy
10-25-2007, 12:52 PM
Le'me tell something big girl on top= extacy!!! ;-)

redguard
10-25-2007, 06:45 PM
Really, I think most men who love big women love to have them on top. Even after seven years together, my wife still worries that she will squash me and gets timid sometimes. And I always explain (as best as I can in the heat of the moment) that no, it doesn't hurt, it's wonderful, I love being able to feel all of her hot body on me! So don't be squeamish .... go for it!

_msz.lyric
10-29-2007, 11:58 PM
I weigh about 200, and my ex (sigh... :() weighed about 360 at her highest point, and she was often on top of me. I did not die, though sometimes she would lie on me (like, not touching anything but me) and I could not breathe... but I enjoyed that too :p

=Divals

Aaah! That's why I'll never... NEVER be on top.

Tychondarova
10-30-2007, 12:33 AM
Big girls on top=amazing.

Seriously, I don't think there is a FA out there who doesn't like feeling a big, soft woman on top of him. And you really don't have to worry about crushing the guy, as long as you can hold yourself up. The only time I ever felt crushed by the woman on top, while she was holding herself up, was by a girl who was about 500lbs, so her case was VERY extreme, and even then it was not unbearable, just uncomfortable after awhile.

As for the person who originally posted this, you'll be fine darlin';)

-Ty

Tad
10-30-2007, 07:25 AM
Aaah! That's why I'll never... NEVER be on top.

Go read what Divals wrote again--the only time he had any trouble was when she was totally lying on him, full length, all her weight.

Now read the whole thread--time and time again, the same message: BBW on top is not a problem! If you are that nervous about it, afterwards don't totally lie down on him. But in woman on top you are not generally totally lying down, but more upright to some degree or other. So not all of your weight is on him, and what is is around the hips and thighs, which can support a lot without problems. The only issue arises with resting a lot weight on his chest for a long time.

So relax, and please take back that vow of never being on top--you and your partner/future partners would be really missing out!

Regards;

-Ed

Alicia Rose
10-30-2007, 08:30 AM
Go read what Divals wrote again--the only time he had any trouble was when she was totally lying on him, full length, all her weight.


And the part where I liked it. I would sometimes ask her to do that specifically because I liked the physical realization of how big she was...

=Divals

_msz.lyric
10-30-2007, 10:34 AM
Stuff like that would make me self-conscious. That's great if you're into it, but I don't think that position is for me. Maybe when I lose 50 pounds or something. Haha

LillyBBBW
10-30-2007, 11:14 AM
Stuff like that would make me self-conscious. That's great if you're into it, but I don't think that position is for me. Maybe when I lose 50 pounds or something. Haha

Hey _msz.lyric, welcome to the forum. :) What if your bf is 6'3" and weighs 235 pounds? Are you worried about him being on top of you? Not that side by side or up against the wall sex doesn't sound hot. :D

_msz.lyric
10-30-2007, 11:32 AM
Hey _msz.lyric, welcome to the forum. :) What if your bf is 6'3" and weighs 235 pounds? Are you worried about him being on top of you? Not that side by side or up against the wall sex doesn't sound hot. :D

Against the wall sex does sound hot to me. I've never had it, but if I can't be lifted, then that's not going to happen. LOL

But 6'3" and 235lbs? Sounds like my perfect man! Hahaha

But I still wouldn't be on top. And I wouldn't worry about him crushing me either. I would still weigh more than him.

Rhino1978
11-19-2007, 03:05 PM
I love women on top bu the problem is with me being the bigger guy im 6 feet four inches tall and 352lbs and my exis have either been slim or bbw's but all have been shorter than me by quite a bit so we used to lie on the floor and use the cushions from the sofa on either side of me just to lift my then girlfriends up a bit,if that makes sense lol

Foolish Fool
11-19-2007, 05:19 PM
anyways, i'm a bbw, i'm 5'1 (barely), and i am too shy to be on top when it comes to making love.
my b/f is 5'10 and is about 50lbs lighter than me, and im embarrassed coz im afraid i might squish him...lol.
if he's anything like me, he'll love it.

goldendiamondeyes
11-20-2007, 04:30 AM
I love women on top bu the problem is with me being the bigger guy im 6 feet four inches tall and 352lbs and my exis have either been slim or bbw's but all have been shorter than me by quite a bit so we used to lie on the floor and use the cushions from the sofa on either side of me just to lift my then girlfriends up a bit,if that makes sense lol



That makes perfect sense, And dang aint that FUN!!!!:p

~{@goldendiamondeyes@}~

LillyBBBW
11-20-2007, 05:01 AM
That makes perfect sense, And dang aint that FUN!!!!:p

~{@goldendiamondeyes@}~

I concur! words

BrunetteBeauty80
12-03-2007, 04:16 PM
I thought I could help all the shy girls out with this. I got weighed today at my doctors and I am 414. My boyfriend weighs about 135-140. I am 5'3" and he is 5'7". I am able to get on top of him with no problem. He doesn't mind and actually asks me to ride him. I was very shy when we first started having sex, because I just didn't know how he would be, but let me tell you, the minute your boyfriend starts loving on your body and saying how he loves ALL of it, you loose all your inhibitions!

Without getting too graphic, these are the positions we find work best. We use an ottoman and a chair. I am able to straddle him facing him while he lays out on the chair/ottoman. I also like when he sits and I sit on his lap and ride him backwards (back facing him). Then we also tried last night, while he was laying in bed, and I got on top with my butt facing him (my head toward his feet). He didn't have to work hard, and just enjoyed himself. He loved it. So did I. He loved the fact that he could see all the action and watch, play, and caress my ass. I loved it too :smitten:

Try it, you will be SO GLAD you did!!

Adrian
12-04-2007, 12:15 PM
Thank you kindly for posting 'BrunetteBeauty80'. I hope this goes a long ways to assure any BBW or SSBBW they will not hurt their partner/lover, by being on top.

Adrian

kinkythang
12-04-2007, 12:46 PM
OK, this is embarrassing...."well, to me"
anyways, i'm a bbw, i'm 5'1 (barely), and i am too shy to be on top when it comes to making love.
my b/f is 5'10 and is about 50lbs lighter than me, and im embarrassed coz im afraid i might squish him...lol.
plus when i do attempt to get on top of him (which always fails coz i'm too shy) i am so short my legs can barely touch the bed, floor, etc.
any suggestions?
please oh please help me get over this...
bbws, UNITE, lol.
-Dee

I feel you.I found A simple solution for for my Partner,who was facing similar dilemma until I came across one of these.http://www.bodybouncer.com/groovegallery.html
So now she can be on top and do all the driving.;)

LillyBBBW
12-05-2007, 04:28 AM
I feel you.I found A simple solution for for my Partner,who was facing similar dilemma until I came across one of these.http://www.bodybouncer.com/groovegallery.html
So now she can be on top and do all the driving.;)

Damn. It has a weight limit of 225 pounds. :(:(:(

liz (di-va)
12-06-2007, 12:16 PM
I feel you.I found A simple solution for for my Partner,who was facing similar dilemma until I came across one of these.http://www.bodybouncer.com/groovegallery.html
So now she can be on top and do all the driving.;)

Damn. It has a weight limit of 225 pounds. :(:(:(

I might be having a really slow day, but that thing seems like a miracle of design to me at the moment. Heh. Seriously! Simple, clever. Although too bad about the 225 lbs....oy. Give me a break.

LillyBBBW
12-06-2007, 05:20 PM
I might be having a really slow day, but that thing seems like a miracle of design to me at the moment. Heh. Seriously! Simple, clever. Although too bad about the 225 lbs....oy. Give me a break.

They say the thing is tested to up to 500 pounds, but the dimensions of it would not be user friendly to a person of size. I also suspect the bouncy mechanism would hang too low to get the intended actions to work. Bah! :mad: I do like it though. Genius.

Arrhythmia
12-07-2007, 05:15 PM
I feel you.I found A simple solution for for my Partner,who was facing similar dilemma until I came across one of these.http://www.bodybouncer.com/groovegallery.html
So now she can be on top and do all the driving.;)
I opened up the link while my son was sitting in the same room. Those little animations going up and down...well, let's just say I'm glad he was playing video games. He's sixteen and going to his first real dance with his so called girlfriend tonight. Wouldn't want to give him any early ideas, hmmm? :p

vcrgrrl
12-10-2007, 07:07 PM
This was a really great post. I never would have thought of the pillow thing under the knees. Thanks for sharing.

tink977
01-07-2008, 08:33 AM
Ok, so for the very first time....I was a BBW on top on Saturday night...lol. Anyway, I found it to be a bit awkward...it may have been my own personal insecurity issues...I'm not sure...maybe I was worried about crushing him, but I am 5'4 and weight about 270 and he is 6'5 and weighs about 340 (that poor bed). Anyway, I had a really hard time being able to reach my short legs around him. Eventually, he was really just kinda holding me up himself. Its amazing how strong a person can be during sex...lol. I really enjoyed being on top, any suggestions for making it better???

Shala
01-07-2008, 08:53 AM
I MUST DO THIS!!!

But I still fear crushing him...I cannot help it. As Tink977 above can attest....we are sisters and have had our fair share of wresting/goofing around. I've nearly suffocated her! How can I possibly make myself get on top of my guy. I am super freaked out that I will give him a heart attack!!

I am just too freakewd out to try it......

sweet&fat
01-07-2008, 08:55 AM
Ok, so for the very first time....I was a BBW on top on Saturday night...lol. Anyway, I found it to be a bit awkward...it may have been my own personal insecurity issues...I'm not sure...maybe I was worried about crushing him, but I am 5'4 and weight about 270 and he is 6'5 and weighs about 340 (that poor bed). Anyway, I had a really hard time being able to reach my short legs around him. Eventually, he was really just kinda holding me up himself. Its amazing how strong a person can be during sex...lol. I really enjoyed being on top, any suggestions for making it better???

There are some great suggestions at the beginning of the thread specifically for those of us who are, um, short of leg! :) I can't even express how happy I am to hear that this is a common problem... I thought it was just me!

mszwebs
01-07-2008, 09:32 AM
I MUST DO THIS!!!

But I still fear crushing him...I cannot help it. As Tink977 above can attest....we are sisters and have had our fair share of wresting/goofing around. I've nearly suffocated her! How can I possibly make myself get on top of my guy. I am super freaked out that I will give him a heart attack!!

I am just too freakewd out to try it......


Shala,

All of the guys that I have been with, (only 2 exceptions) have been thin to 'average' (whatever that is)...and most of those guys were...skinny. We're talking 5'8", 150. And like 6", 135 (soaking wet). I was, at 413 lbs, on top with both of those guys, and we are all still alive, well and living full lives...lol. They wanted me on top (w00t!), and I wanted to be there...lol.

Odds are, you're not going to be in the same position as you've been in to wrestle with your sister. You're not pinning him into submission (unless you dig that, and once you're more comfortable being on top...go for it!). With the help of pillows or whatever else you need,if anything, your legs should be carrying some of the weight.

Honestly, there isn't a lot that any of us can say to reassure you any more than hasn't already been said. You just have to jump on (heh) and do it.

It's a scary thing the first time you do it, because you're right. You're just not sure. But like anything else with sex...there is trial and error, and I think that you're going to find a way to make it work.

Good luck! :)

cutechubbybella24
01-07-2008, 09:42 AM
have you tried riding backwards? it is easier, but most of all, the guys love your ass right in front of them!!.. also if you ride him on the couch, thats also easier for the shortie legs like me!

hope any of this helps

Angel1965
01-07-2008, 06:34 PM
I have only being doing the on-top thing with my current guy and it's taken some getting used to. At first I was afraid of being too heavy and not looking graceful and the like, but after trying enough times, I'm confident that I won't break him and that he doesn't care if I fumble a little getting up there.
I have found that "squatting" is a fun way to mix things up on top, and it's great for giving the knees a rest! Also recommended is squatting facing away from him, that way you can stretch out your legs more without being afraid of kicking him in the face...unless that's your thing, then more power to you.
Oh, myyyyyyyyyyyyy...Facing away from his head is soooooo yummy! I love the squatting thing too. My guy LOVES my softness all over his body, and he is very average height/weight. No matter if it is facing him, or away, being on top is pleasurable for us both. *melt*

dan
01-07-2008, 07:34 PM
Big girl on top, I love to watch her beautiful body drape mine. What a TURN ON. Feels so warm soft & nice. Now Thats a Real Women...

ThikJerseyChik
01-07-2008, 07:48 PM
OMG I love this thread! I have 3 fond memories about being 'on top'.

I was once told "I haven't been smothered by someone like that in a VERY long time!"

If your legs are too short, or you feel like you cannot reach the bed/floor/chairs you can put a pillow or two on each side of his/her head...that will raise you up and make it more comfy ;)

If you are having trouble reaching while dual oral sex, put the larger partner on the bottom and have them sit on a rolled up comforter/blanket before lying on their backs, it will raise them up far enough for it to happen and happen GOOD.

Ok, now I need a shower!

TJC

Aireman
01-07-2008, 10:25 PM
Officially my FAVORITE thread!;)

JohnWylde
01-08-2008, 12:11 PM
But Shala - you are quite petite - I'm sure any guy would have no problem with you on top for hours mmmmmmmm

John W

I MUST DO THIS!!!

But I still fear crushing him...I cannot help it. As Tink977 above can attest....we are sisters and have had our fair share of wresting/goofing around. I've nearly suffocated her! How can I possibly make myself get on top of my guy. I am super freaked out that I will give him a heart attack!!

I am just too freakewd out to try it......

NoWayOut
01-09-2008, 09:45 PM
I think if a guy loves your body, he wouldn't mind. I'm an average sized guy, and should I end up with a big woman, I'll have no problem with her being on top if she wants.

ivnslady
01-10-2008, 04:04 PM
I finally got up the nerve to try this a couple of nights ago, and avoiding graphic details by the time I got up there I felt like I had just climbed Mt. Everest. I was very wore out; and hardly in the mood for fun by the time I got situated. My belly was in the way a lot and I could hardly lift myself up there (430lbs) Any advice on hauling a heavy load up there or am I just a wimp?

LillyBBBW
01-11-2008, 06:45 AM
I finally got up the nerve to try this a couple of nights ago, and avoiding graphic details by the time I got up there I felt like I had just climbed Mt. Everest. I was very wore out; and hardly in the mood for fun by the time I got situated. My belly was in the way a lot and I could hardly lift myself up there (430lbs) Any advice on hauling a heavy load up there or am I just a wimp?

Take your time. Once you get situated there's no rule that says you can't cuddle or make out for a few minutes first.

ivnslady
01-11-2008, 03:51 PM
:doh: You know you're right! After all, we're supposed to be making love; not running a race! LOL ;)

Jon Blaze
01-11-2008, 10:48 PM
Take your time. Once you get situated there's no rule that says you can't cuddle or make out for a few minutes first.

The force is strong with this one. :p ;)

Adrian
01-16-2008, 10:20 PM
SOMETHING MENTIONED BACK ON PAGE TWO POST #27
Having the woman on top once in a while probably won't be disastrous, but doing it a lot may lead to problems for the man. A friend of mine suffered from a painful kind of erectile dysfunction: when he got an erection, the two sides of his penis enlarged at different rates, so that he felt as if he were being torn apart.
The technical term for what your friend experienced is, "penile fracture". The incidence of it happening are extremely low. Most hospital emergency rooms get one or two patients per year with this problem.
I have never heard of a man who did not want to try the woman on top position again simply because of one incident like this. Men will endure a lot for sexual pleasure, as evidenced by the usage of medications like Papaverine or Muse. Stronger ED medications used when Viagra and its competitors don't or no longer work.

Adrian

CTAnonymousCT
01-24-2008, 06:38 AM
OK, this is embarrassing...."well, to me"
anyways, i'm a bbw, i'm 5'1 (barely), and i am too shy to be on top when it comes to making love.
my b/f is 5'10 and is about 50lbs lighter than me, and im embarrassed coz im afraid i might squish him...lol.
plus when i do attempt to get on top of him (which always fails coz i'm too shy) i am so short my legs can barely touch the bed, floor, etc.
any suggestions?
please oh please help me get over this...
bbws, UNITE, lol.
-Dee

My Honey has no such inhibitions, Our first time together she hopped right on top like she was a rodeo rider. I have to say I loved it, I had never been with a bbw who was so comfortable with this position, (As a matter of fact it was like pulling teeth to get my ex wife in that position.) She was SOOOO comfortable, I nick named her "Tex". When we talked about her being on top sometime later, She simply said, Why wouldnt I? It feels soooo good!

:bow::bow:

Ashley
01-26-2008, 06:24 PM
Wrong thread?

AnnMarie
01-26-2008, 06:51 PM
Wrong thread?

Moved it, all set.

Trinkan
07-10-2008, 03:14 PM
Its wonderful to feel my GF full weight on top of me and she is about 300pound and im about 320, the problem is that the furniture isnt constructed for our combined weight and jumping on them... Im lost count of how many tables and beds we broken and it can be painful sometimes then she lands on top of me...
But its definatly worth the risk ;)

That1BigGirl
07-10-2008, 11:48 PM
I'm pretty large (right at 300lbs and 5'8) but I manage top fine.... in fact I LOVE it.

I really can't add much to the conversation outside of it can be the BEST sex EVER!

I dated a guy once who was about 5'6 and lucky to be 100lbs soaking wet. I was sooooo scared I was going to hurt him, but he finally coaxed me to hop on top... and he came out breathing and smiling. I had some problems with one ex, who was a bit heavier than I... we just had to scoot around a bit to be able to "fit" right. After that it was a lot of fun... until his house mate started banging on the door for us to shut up. Which just led to fits of laughter from us.

You have to have confidence in yourself, take it slow and have fun! There is no reason for it to be a race as you said, and no rule that says you can't ask "does this hurt" or "do I need to move" or "lift your leg my thigh is getting in the way" ... if you have a good relationship then the communication should move to even the most intimate moments.

Anyway, I find the only 'down' side to being on top is that I tend to reach climax too quickly. If you can call it a downer.

stevenbbwlvr
07-12-2008, 09:45 AM
Girl on top is, geometry permitting, the best position for making the woman come during intercourse. The woman can rub her most sensitive areas on the man's pubic bone and attain really incredible heights of arousal.

But, it doesn't work with all women; sometimes they're built in such a way that it doesn't work out.

Then, I just lick them somemore.:D

Dragonsspite
07-14-2008, 08:27 PM
Im a bbw currently at 270, but last year was as 366. I have never let my weight at any size stop me from being on top! To top it off I have bad knees. but I have found If I put pillows under my knees on either side of my partner it helps alot. Or If I have one knee down and kind of squat with the other leg. And it doesnt have to feel like climbing a mountain. Try it in a chair or on the couch if the bed is to intimidating. That also works well for people who feel like they will fall.. gives them the back of the chair or couch to hold on to. Also that works great for the reverse cowgirl, cuz then you can just bounce.. especially if your using a rocking chair

disconnectedsmile
07-15-2008, 09:05 AM
Anyway, I find the only 'down' side to being on top is that I tend to reach climax too quickly. If you can call it a downer.
i see whut you did there.

furious styles
07-15-2008, 09:23 AM
seriously, there's not much better than being under a climaxing bbw during intercourse. that is an awesome feeling.

[tmi alert] i also particularly enjoy when she's like "oh fuuuuuhhhhck" and just kind of collapses on me directly after.

bigwillylandis
07-15-2008, 09:40 AM
i love when shes on top. i can play with her tummy.

Tooz
07-15-2008, 09:42 AM
I like the reaction from th' partner. Definitely part of the fun.

snuggletiger
07-15-2008, 09:49 AM
I like the warm snuggly feeling and the sight of the pleasure on the lady's face.

jewels_mystery
07-15-2008, 09:58 AM
Im a bbw currently at 270, but last year was as 366. I have never let my weight at any size stop me from being on top! To top it off I have bad knees. but I have found If I put pillows under my knees on either side of my partner it helps alot. Or If I have one knee down and kind of squat with the other leg. And it doesnt have to feel like climbing a mountain. Try it in a chair or on the couch if the bed is to intimidating. That also works well for people who feel like they will fall.. gives them the back of the chair or couch to hold on to. Also that works great for the reverse cowgirl, cuz then you can just bounce.. especially if your using a rocking chair

Thanks for the advice about the pillows. I have bad knees and was thinking I would have to give this up. :wubu:

dan
07-15-2008, 01:08 PM
i love when shes on top. i can play with her tummy.Not to mention their really BIG Fat Asses All around . It is so much FUN !!!!!

Dragonsspite
07-23-2008, 04:28 AM
Thanks for the advice about the pillows. I have bad knees and was thinking I would have to give this up. :wubu:

Did I hear that right?? Give up!.. NO NO NO, dont do that! If your like me, its the best way to get that screaming O.. lol Just keep those extra pillows handy. I have like 8 of them on my bed, I tell people its my nest when they see my room. Little do they know what they are for :D

jewels_mystery
07-23-2008, 12:10 PM
Did I hear that right?? Give up!.. NO NO NO, dont do that! If your like me, its the best way to get that screaming O.. lol Just keep those extra pillows handy. I have like 8 of them on my bed, I tell people its my nest when they see my room. Little do they know what they are for :D

:) You are so right about it being the best way for the "O". hmmm off to shop for more pillows. :blush:

Tad
07-23-2008, 12:27 PM
I'm all for woman on top (or to be specific, my wife on top!), but we've never used pillows.

I'm not quite clear what difference the pillows make? Is it just a matter of being able to straddle your gent comfortably (something which will depend on his hips and your thighs, and I suppose the type of mattress or other surface, so how much you sink into it versus him), or having a softer thing to kneel on, or is it something else?

Or to bring it more personal: positioning is not a problem for us (she has long legs :D ), but my wife has pretty beat up knees and after having her weight on them for a while they do tend to get sore. I don't see pillows making much difference there--her weight is on her knees no matter what, and we already have a soft foam mattress topper. But would there be some other benefit to pillows we could be missing?

AtlantisAK
07-23-2008, 12:41 PM
I havent read all the posts to this thread, but heres my take:

I used to be shy too about being on top and rarely ever did it. I am 5'8/5'9 and 275, he on the other hand is 6'4 and about 190. The first time I was on top and actually felt comfortable about it (and about not killing him, lol) was just after he irked me and i suddenly got it in my head that I'd just pin him and show him who was boss.

The outcome from that was hot as hell...Now he can't get me on the bottom without a fight!

Don't worry about squashing him, if it's too much for him, he'll probably say something. If you feel wary that he won't, then tell him beforehand that he -should- tell you if it's too much. After that, it's his fault if he gets squashed ;)

Dragonsspite
07-23-2008, 06:20 PM
I'm all for woman on top (or to be specific, my wife on top!), but we've never used pillows.

I'm not quite clear what difference the pillows make? Is it just a matter of being able to straddle your gent comfortably (something which will depend on his hips and your thighs, and I suppose the type of mattress or other surface, so how much you sink into it versus him), or having a softer thing to kneel on, or is it something else?

Or to bring it more personal: positioning is not a problem for us (she has long legs :D ), but my wife has pretty beat up knees and after having her weight on them for a while they do tend to get sore. I don't see pillows making much difference there--her weight is on her knees no matter what, and we already have a soft foam mattress topper. But would there be some other benefit to pillows we could be missing?

The pillows are for cushion on the knees and for positioning, I personally am short (5' 5") and very heavy in the thigh area, so pillows help me out alot when it comes to getting just that right position. I can see why you would think that the pillows wouldnt help but surprizingly they do, I use a couple on each knee and so it cushions quite a bit, also Ive had issues with soft mattresses where I sink in to far with out the pillows and then cant ride like i want to (it becomes a grind.. which is great too but I like a little variety).. so the pillows help with that as well.

Kareda
07-23-2008, 06:28 PM
IM 5'0 so I bury my legs under him or-- I sit back towards him and cross my legs under his. ( this is actually better, imo)

Alicia Rose
07-23-2008, 06:42 PM
*jealousy-inspiring things*

Bleaahhh. :p

edit: I think this is the most useless post I've ever made. But yay for cute big girls on top! XD

Elfcat
07-24-2008, 03:28 PM
I haven't gotten up the decision to invest in one of these, but I talk with the maker of it every so often.

http://www.luvseat.com/ (http://www.luvseat.com/)

This adjustable piece of furniture is billed as making all kinds of positions possible, and he makes mention in particular of fat people, people with pain or mobility issues, etc. Something to look at if you wish.

ecortez766
10-06-2008, 07:57 PM
Shala,

All of the guys that I have been with, (only 2 exceptions) have been thin to 'average' (whatever that is)...and most of those guys were...skinny. We're talking 5'8", 150. And like 6", 135 (soaking wet). I was, at 413 lbs, on top with both of those guys, and we are all still alive, well and living full lives...lol. They wanted me on top (w00t!), and I wanted to be there...lol.

Odds are, you're not going to be in the same position as you've been in to wrestle with your sister. You're not pinning him into submission (unless you dig that, and once you're more comfortable being on top...go for it!). With the help of pillows or whatever else you need,if anything, your legs should be carrying some of the weight.

Honestly, there isn't a lot that any of us can say to reassure you any more than hasn't already been said. You just have to jump on (heh) and do it.

It's a scary thing the first time you do it, because you're right. You're just not sure. But like anything else with sex...there is trial and error, and I think that you're going to find a way to make it work.

Good luck! :)

I just want to say that you do have a point there.:)

Shala
10-15-2008, 02:14 PM
OK I made my first attempt at this. Can we say awkward?:)

I am nearly 6 feet tall...he is 5'8. He has a smaller body frame than me but a big belly. I don't know. I just didn't work.

I am not giving up though cause half the fun is trying!

Maverick14120
10-16-2008, 12:42 AM
My ex and me had a hard time at first with this. Originally i wanted her to try this position and she had the same fears of hurting me that others have. Told her not to worry (prob too much info) that if she didn't hurt me when we 69 and she's on top this wouldn't hurt me either. At first her biggest problem was balance but after a few times that became a non issue.

shazz2602
10-16-2008, 02:59 AM
Myself being a ssbbw and weighing over 500lbs i know its scary and that you think your gonna squash him. Thankfully though i havent managed to kill any past partners yet!
I hate being ontop because he gets to see the bits of me i hate and also it kills my left knee and i just feel uncomfortable.
Being 6ft tall i find it easier to squat over him rarther than kneel as i then get to use my thighs rarther than my knees. Other than that i suggest doing it on a sofa with him sat up its fun plus he can help more and you also can grab the back of the sofa for stability, that or do it on a sofa with your back to him you get to put your feet on the floor but i guess if your short you could always use a couple of cussions on the floor and get him to sit on them?
But somtimes i think its that men like us women ontop so we get to do some hard work for a change (i know somtimes its to do with seeing alot of us) so i find doggy is good but he stays still and i move back and forth, he gets a rest and gets to look at me and explore with his hand while i do the work!
hope thats helped and makes sense lol

missy_blue_eyez
10-16-2008, 04:52 AM
My ex was about 150lb's, I am around 300lb's, so double his weight and he couldnt get enough of me on top! It makes me feel really sexy, so very enjoyable, but I agree, I have quite short legs too and it used to hurt my thighs but I just got on with it, heat of the moment etc...........

Ahhhhh sex! I do miss it! hehe

Blackjack
10-16-2008, 08:37 AM
I think that I said it before, but I'll say it again anyways:

BBWs on top is AWESOME.

B68
10-16-2008, 09:24 AM
Reading this thread is what hurts;) Not a bbw on top!

Seriously, men were designed and tested for these things before production started.

tink977
10-20-2008, 01:30 PM
I just started talking to someone new and we discussed the whole "woman on top" thing and him asking if I would "sit on his face" and I said that I would be uncomfortable with such a thing. After all, he's alot smaller than my ex who at 6'5 and 320 pounds was alot larger than me. This guy is only about 5'8 or 9 and 210 pounds. I'm 5'4 and weigh 280. But when I stated my case, he said "Hush! Your weight is hot. Skinny girls are no fun and I'm a big boy...I can handle it".

We'll see just how much he can handle soon enough!

Haunted
10-20-2008, 02:50 PM
I have to add, BBW on top is the single best position ever She out weighs me By about 160 lbs and i love feeling her weight ontop of me i also love the way she looks while i'm pinned under her :wubu: Our biggest problem has been maneuvering into position but i we recently perfected a new technique!!:smitten:

goodthings
10-20-2008, 03:29 PM
I have to add, BBW on top is the single best position ever She out weighs me By about 160 lbs and i love feeling her weight ontop of me i also love the way she looks while i'm pinned under her :wubu: Our biggest problem has been maneuvering into position but i we recently perfected a new technique!!:smitten:

would you mind sharing the technique?

Haunted
10-20-2008, 03:31 PM
would you mind sharing the technique?

I could tell you but then i'd have to kill you

Haunted
10-20-2008, 03:43 PM
would you mind sharing the technique?

ok ok We start sitting facing each other her legs on top of my thighs she'll lean back and lift her butt as i kinda scootch under, the end result should be her sitting squarely on your pelvis with her feet beside your head. You on your back, The insertion part can be a bit tricky you'll have to experiment with what works best for you, i usually try to have her raise up slightly and guide it in

this way she's not trying to balance over you while supporting all her weight and it keeps her off her knees and it's a hell of a thigh and back work out for the guy LOL

It's also amazing because she has ALL of Her Weight on you and if she has a Nice big tummy it feels great to have all of that warm soft BBW Belly resting on your Chest

and for the feeders it's very hot to let her indulge in desert in this position also

This really is by far My favorite position she loves telling the story about how i fell asleep with her sitting on me like this once It's just so comforting to be so close to here like this, I think she was more shocked that can relax enough with 360 Lbs squashing But Oh My How I love it

goodthings
10-20-2008, 07:09 PM
ok ok We start sitting facing each other her legs on top of my thighs she'll lean back and lift her butt as i kinda scootch under, the end result should be her sitting squarely on your pelvis with her feet beside your head. You on your back, The insertion part can be a bit tricky you'll have to experiment with what works best for you, i usually try to have her raise up slightly and guide it in

this way she's not trying to balance over you while supporting all her weight and it keeps her off her knees and it's a hell of a thigh and back work out for the guy LOL

It's also amazing because she has ALL of Her Weight on you and if she has a Nice big tummy it feels great to have all of that warm soft BBW Belly resting on your Chest

and for the feeders it's very hot to let her indulge in desert in this position also

This really is by far My favorite position she loves telling the story about how i fell asleep with her sitting on me like this once It's just so comforting to be so close to here like this, I think she was more shocked that can relax enough with 360 Lbs squashing But Oh My How I love it

thanks, hope i get an opportunity to try this one day:)

lovebbws13
10-21-2008, 01:31 PM
I love it when a woman is on top. I really enjoy the fact that I feel that bit of weight on top of me and the fact that at that point she's totally in control. Plus I'm a big fan of big ol' butts and big boobs.... so looking up and seeing the breasts and being able to reach back and grab the behind- THAT is heaven!

BigBeautifulRed
10-23-2008, 12:12 PM
top is just my spot, i like it he likes it.

fanofdimensions
10-23-2008, 03:29 PM
many women I've dated have been much heavier than me...in the 250-300+ range...and it is great! I especially like it if they have nice strong big legs and wrap them around me nice and tight...and it's even more fun when they laugh at my "attempts" to get away...but yeah it's wonderful..and I'm still alive and kicking to tell the tale...

stan_der_man
10-23-2008, 03:39 PM
It's all about positioning and if the heavier person's legs (or knees) can handle it. My wife could handle being on top for a while and now even though lighter than she was she's still a big girl, she sits on my lap when I give her back rubs. With some pillows it is reasonably comfortable for me (and I can reach her back much better that way...)

Shoggoth
10-23-2008, 11:13 PM
Okay, I registered on this site a while back, but my busy work schedule keeps me from posting. So, since Iíve found a little free time Iíll chime in hereÖ

Iíve been with the same woman for nine years, married for five of those. My wife is a thick, curvy woman and Iím, well, Iím a skinny geek. She is around fifty pounds heavier then I am and she loves being on top (it appeals to dominant aspects of her personality) and Iím still here, so I think the whole ďBut Iíll squish youÖĒ fear isnít really all that much to worry about really.

Hell, the only time I came close to becoming a sexual casualty was when my wife nearly smothered me with her boobs. 34FF can be dangerous if youíre not careful.:D

ecortez766
11-07-2008, 07:11 PM
Ok I had a great night last night. For the first time, the woman that I was with actually let go and used all of her weight on my chest as we were making love. She is about 255 lucious pounds. And feeling her body just basically grinding my chest was great.

DJ A-Dubs
11-09-2008, 04:30 PM
I was thinking about starting a post like this a few days ago. Seems like great minds think alike :)

I've never had the best luck with bbw/ssbbw lovers on top. My first real ssbbw lover was 375lbs and she was reluctant to scared to get on top. I really wanted her to do it because it would've increased the sensuality of the moment for me as many times as she weighed more than me. I wanted to feel her body engulf me and press me onto the bed. I admit I was smaller by about 50-60lbs, but I still was willing to have her on top of me. It never happened. It was strictly missionary, with the help of some pillows, for us.

I had another bbw lover a few years ago and she too didn't like it or didn't want to get on top. She gave a valiant effort one night, but she was losing her balance on many thrusts. She wasn't even 300lbs and was losing her balance? I couldn't believe my situation!

Ironically, the bbw under 250lbs were the most gung ho when it came to going on top. It still sorta disappoints me that I haven't had a great sexual experience with a ssbbw on top. Do I give on my fantasy/fetish/dream of having a lover with all that weight pressed on top my torso? Alas, what is this FA to do?

B68
11-10-2008, 04:50 AM
I was thinking about starting a post like this a few days ago. Seems like great minds think alike :)

I've never had the best luck with bbw/ssbbw lovers on top. My first real ssbbw lover was 375lbs and she was reluctant to scared to get on top. I really wanted her to do it because it would've increased the sensuality of the moment for me as many times as she weighed more than me. I wanted to feel her body engulf me and press me onto the bed. I admit I was smaller by about 50-60lbs, but I still was willing to have her on top of me. It never happened. It was strictly missionary, with the help of some pillows, for us.

I had another bbw lover a few years ago and she too didn't like it or didn't want to get on top. She gave a valiant effort one night, but she was losing her balance on many thrusts. She wasn't even 300lbs and was losing her balance? I couldn't believe my situation!

Ironically, the bbw under 250lbs were the most gung ho when it came to going on top. It still sorta disappoints me that I haven't had a great sexual experience with a ssbbw on top. Do I give on my fantasy/fetish/dream of having a lover with all that weight pressed on top my torso? Alas, what is this FA to do?

Well, sometimes i take the wheels of my car, jack it up, get under it, lower the car and aaaaaaa:)

BUT!! I've a small Suzuki... I wouldn't recommend doing this with a full grown Chevy...

BeaBea
11-10-2008, 07:12 AM
I had another bbw lover a few years ago and she too didn't like it or didn't want to get on top. She gave a valiant effort one night, but she was losing her balance on many thrusts. She wasn't even 300lbs and was losing her balance? I couldn't believe my situation!

Given that you already knew that she didn't like it and didn't want to do it I think she deserves HUGE credit for trying. I'd like to hope I would be brave enough to try something new for someone I cared about too - but I'm pretty certain that if my efforts were met with your response I wouldnt try twice!

Tracey