Foodee vs. Feedee Label (Food for thought)

[BBW_SEEKRNJ]

Ok, I have a bone to pick. Now, I see and admire the round figures of females just like any other FA does. Also, I enjoy good food as I'm sure the fuller/fullest of figures do. Now, the results of enjoying good food is more often than not weight gain. So, my question is this. Women, would it be possible to say that you can be a foodee and a feedee rather than just a foodee? Seems that if there are FA/FFA's out there who love the large look, I think they would be some to see it and enjoy growing it larger. So I make a plea to you all to take the taboo out of the word feedee. I'd like to see more than just me come out of the spectator box and into the arena and be active, but to do so I think we need to be more comfortable in calling ourselves feedees and feeders because deep down, I think if we could say that we enjoy not only watching the larger sizes, but watching/helping them get bigger, we'd be seeing a lot more action. Ok, if any have any response, feel free to give one. Only try not to be too harsh, I'd like to be considered a favorite among the females.

[AnnMarie]

I'm sure there are many feedees who are indeed foodees as well, it only stands to reason. But I think many foodees are not feedees at all. They do not eat with intention of gain, they are not in a relationship that involves feeding of any kind, etc. They love food. I'm not even sure I love food enough to be a foodee, and I know I'm not a feedee - so I'm certainly not pretending to use a kinder, gentler word in place of something else.

Foodess come in all shapes and sizes, and they enjoy many types of food, many of which may not even be those that cause much weight gain.

So I guess I feel that no, they're not to be lumped together, and furthermore... to me, this board has nothing to do with any taboo or stigma with the word feedee. This board was set up specifically for those who enjoy food, to share it and talk about it... as you can see from the many posts. It's mostly recommendations, favorites, recipes, restaurant reviews, etc.

I think you're looking for/seeing a hidden conflict where there is none.

[fatlane]

Maybe we should call them fooeedeeoos. That sounds so cool.

[Jane]

Make Chippy happy and call them Cheetoes.

[BBWDREAMLOVER]

I label myself a foodee only because I don't want to get a feeder's hope's up & tell him I'm a feedee and then in the future him/her be disappointed in anyway. I LOVE food, I LOVE to eat & I LOVE getting bigger but feeder's can be intense very intense & have fantasies I've yet to have or have done thing's I've yet to do so to me foodee is like a beginner label if you will.
Some of my favorite guy's are feeder's & I hear what they go thru & I just don't wanna mislead them because their NOT bad & deserve respect. I know this is getting off subject but I really think it's a type of prejudice the way people treat them. It's really so wrong & everyone act's like their like forcing people or it's just soooo taboo but it takes 2 to make a fetish like that work & both have to be willing so I wish people would get a damn clue & lay off feeder's. Some of the nicest men I've known online are feeder's, their not pushy or rude in anyway & they frequently ask about my health & if they feel like I'm not seeing my Dr. as I should they start riding my butt like my mom does. Anyway back to the subject...............I think many label themselves as a foodee because they may feel as I do ........telling a feeder your a feedee but in reality your a foodee is like telling a guy I'm tall blonde & 150 lbs and when we meet I'm really short brunette & huge lol.
I also think their are many who really are foodee's and will never nor want to be a feedee. It's just with the individual & the love, passion & fantasies that surround food for them.

Great post by the way :)

[LillyBBBW]

Define feedee? In my mind a foodee is someone who loves and relishes the enjoyment of good food. A feedee is someone who is a vessel for growth. Comparable to the difference between a someone who works out at a gym and someone who's a body builder. You can't call on gym rats everywhere to embrace their inner Mr. Universe. For most it's just not like that.

[SoVerySoft]

Define feedee? In my mind a foodee is someone who loves and relishes the enjoyment of good food. A feedee is someone who is a vessel for growth. Comparable to the difference between a someone who works out at a gym and someone who's a body builder. You can't call on gym rats everywhere to embrace their inner Mr. Universe. For most it's just not like that.

I love this. Lilly, you are a trip. And I totally agree.

A Foodee LOVES food. Thinks about food. Anticipates food. Savors food.

A Feedee wants to use it to get bigger - whether they love food, like food, or don't care about food.

I could go on and on about it, but it's really quite simple.

[Moyseku]

I consider myself as a Feeder, and i think that a foodee is happy with delicious food, not nessesary a lot of food and overeating, but a feedee needs more food and overeat because she wants to gain more weight, probably the foodee dont care about gain 20 lbs more, but the feedee want to gain that 20 lbs.


i admire foodees and feedees and bbw, i dont mind if a girl is a feedee or not, but i would love to know a true feedee here to talk, because we have similar interests.

[moonvine]

I'm in no way, shape or form a feedee. I do consider myself something of a foodie, though.

[Sweet Tooth]

Next this will turn into a conversation I had with a guy several months ago. He asked if I was a feedee. Nope. Asked if I was into gaining. Nope. Then I must be a foodee. Um, is that all that's left?

Sorry, but enjoying food doesn't mean wanting to gain. Being fat doesn't mean wanting to gain more. Heck, it doesn't even mean much of your life centers around food. It's just what it is.

I think I'm only a part-time foodee. I like baking and cooking, but I enjoy it more if it's part of a general hospitality thing rather than personal consumption. [And, no, I'm not a feeder. And I'm not into someone gaining.] Does that make me a "foo"?

[TONYS]

My quick reply is :
Sexually: a true feeder needs a feedee to be sexually satisfied, truly and completely satisfied. The feedee can be one in the head but the actuality of gaining makes it heaven for a couple who is that way. Dreamlover has it right. SHe would dissapoint a feeder only because she most likely wont get turned on by what the feeder will be telling her, or by the gaining. which is sexually stimulating. A foodee and a feeder can work together in the short term, but the "in the head" stuff wont work, and the feeder at some point will, most likely, be disappointed. A feedee wont want to diet, and would be very sad if they lost weight. It would be like a part of them would be lost.
A FEEDEE NEEDS TO GAIN (or talk about it), a foodee does not need to.
a feedee usually enjoys food, gains, and loves the way his/her body looks after the gain.

A foodee who is in a relationship with a feeder,and leads him on as far as gaining is concerned would be setting up the relationship for ultimate failure.
Sexual problems will ultimately arise and both will most likely end up disappointed. The foodee will not get validated, and the feeder will be frustrated. To most feedeer feedee couple, gaining is important, but not essential, but sexual thoughts and talk of it is. Like with any sexual preference, there are different degrees for satisfaction. Not all hetrolsexuals are into dom sub, bondage or things like that. Not all humans are hetrosexual, not all feeders-feedees are hetrosexual. Not all people are nice, not all feeders are nice, Point being like with all humanity, sexual preferences,
we are what we are. I have tried to change and cannot, we must reallt search who we are, and answer our dee[ questions, and search for one who is like us.

The above is my simplistic responce to a basic question

[LarryTheShiveringChipmunk]

I just need to eat and love it hehe so I'm a foodee. I did have a time of gaining tho..but that's levelled off it looks.

Now time for lunch and a good Sunday movie!

[Russ2d]

So a foodee is just someone who enjoys food? Seems pretty silly to me, don't we all enjoy food? This board is mislabeled and I don't buy that the word foodee is not some kind of PC response to the word feedee. A foodee board? This board should be called a FOOD board- as in for the love of food, not foodee.

As far as 'feeders' go, to me a feeder is a man who loves to feed his girlfriend or wife in order to maintain or increase her fatness which he so loves... what FA in the world doesn't have such thoughts? If she agrees or is willing to explore this on some level or the whole thing then great... what is the big deal? I mean FA means desiring a woman's fat right and fat is maintained or increased by food right?

What FA hasn't looked at a 'plump' girl and thought how great it would be to fatten her into a real BBW? What FA doesn't enjoy his girlfriend or wife maintaining or increasing her fat for him? I agree with Dream on this, so-called feeders have been saddled with such negativity that it borders on the bizarre.

By my definition I am a feeder but I don't consider myself different from other FAs (maybe a little more honest perhaps). Nor do I require a woman to explode for me to be happy. Like in all things, FAs are going to occupy a space on the spectrum somewhere from the 'mild' to the 'extreme'.

So the only real difference between a foodee and a feedee as far as I can see is a foodee feeds herself while a feedee has a mate who is involved.

[AnnMarie]

So a foodee is just someone who enjoys food? Seems pretty silly to me, don't we all enjoy food? This board is mislabeled and I don't buy that the word foodee is not some kind of PC response to the word feedee. A foodee board? This board should be called a FOOD board- as in for the love of food, not foodee.

As far as 'feeders' go, to me a feeder is a man who loves to feed his girlfriend or wife in order to maintain or increase her fatness which he so loves... what FA in the world doesn't have such thoughts? If she agrees or is willing to explore this on some level or the whole thing then great... what is the big deal? I mean FA means desiring a woman's fat right and fat is maintained or increased by food right?

What FA hasn't looked at a 'plump' girl and thought how great it would be to fatten her into a real BBW? What FA doesn't enjoy his girlfriend or wife maintaining or increasing her fat for him? I agree with Dream on this, so-called feeders have been saddled with such negativity that it borders on the bizarre.

By my definition I am a feeder but I don't consider myself different from other FAs (maybe a little more honest perhaps). Nor do I require a woman to explode for me to be happy. Like in all things, FAs are going to occupy a space on the spectrum somewhere from the 'mild' to the 'extreme'.

So the only real difference between a foodee and a feedee as far as I can see is a foodee feeds herself while a feedee has a mate who is involved.


I have to disagree with you, Russ-at least for me. I don't think that most people using the term foodee are using it to be PC or escape some "devilish" label. If I used the term, I would mean it just as it sounds... I dig food. I know people who don't dig food, so indeed there is a difference. I know people who only eat when they remember to, or to maintain breath.... that's not a love of food.

I love food. I plan my meals when I'm falling asleep or as soon as I'm waking up. I don't live to eat, and am fine when I'm not eating, but I like looking forward to good meals and fun treats.

I am NOT interested in gaining weight, either for my own pleasure or anyone else's. I'm at a weight that is manageable for me, and I have no interest in pushing my body and spirit any further. I'm at the end of clothing lines, out of much public seating and on the precipice of the rest of it, and on the verge of too fat to sightsee and shop and run errands with comfort. I will not cross that line with intention or by being passive about it.

I still love food. I just don't want to be saddled with a term that doesn't fit simply because someone assumes I've picked a more innocuous term to disguise my "true intentions".

Oh, and for the record, the name change was discussed forever, and I think it was just never changed for lack of passion in any direction. I agree that The Food Board would probably be a more appropriate label ... if for no other reason than to try to avoid further conversations like this.

[EvilPrincess]

beautifully said.

[AnnMarie]

LOL, thanks, you caught me while editing! ;)

[EvilPrincess]

;) edited... so not to confuse

[SoVerySoft]

Oh, and for the record, the name change was discussed forever, and I think it was just never changed for lack of passion in any direction.

Actually, after a poll and lots of dialogue the name Foodee was the choice of most folks, so it was decided it would remain. But we changed the tag line from "For those who REALLY like food and live for it" to something a little less obsessive sounding: "For those who really LOVE food".

Personally, I *do* live for it, but not everyone does :p

I did think we should possibly change the spelling to the more accepted spelling "Foodie" (to keep there from being confusion with Feedee), but we stayed with Foodee.

And in the simplest terms, Russ, Foodees love food, and get pleasure from eating it. Feedees use food to gain weight.

[AnnMarie]

Actually, after a poll and lots of dialogue the name Foodee was the choice of most folks, so it was decided it would remain. But we changed the tag line from "For those who REALLY like food and live for it" to something a little less obsessive sounding: "For those who really LOVE food".

Personally, I *do* live for it, but not everyone does :p

I did think we should possibly change the spelling to the more accepted spelling "Foodie" (to keep there from being confusion with Feedee), but we stayed with Foodee.

And in the simplest terms, Russ, Foodees love food, and get pleasure from eating it. Feedees use food to gain weight.


Sorry Randi, I just remembered the time it took when the poll/discussion was going on, I couldn't recall what the deciding factors had been... Thanks! :)

[PrettyFatGirl4U]

To me, a feedee is all about the gain and eating "foods" to facillitate that.....Things like drinking cream, weigh gain shakes, ect.

A "foodee" is someone who loves to eat and all the sensations (and passions) eating solicits....and a foodie may gain as well but the gain isn't the primary motivator.

I think feeders have a bad rap because of all the urban myths of force-feeding and woman being fed to immobility and left to fend for herself when her feeder moves on to greener (and thinner) pastures.

I agree with the suggestion that many FA's enjoy not only a woman of amplitude but one who enjoys eating and if not gaining, at least not dieting....a woman who enjoys eating and is comfortable in her own skin. And if that very same FA enjoys feeding that woman, if it's done lovingly, it's quite romantic and intimate.

Me, I'm just a Pretty Fat Girl who loves to eat :)

[zonker]

I think this term "foodee" or "foodie" actually exists outside the feeder/weight-gain/FA/FFA community. I believe a lot of people identify themselves as foodies who have no idea about something like Dimensions, and they would be appalled if someone tried to connect their love of food with feederism/FAism, etc. Nothing at all PC about this term in relation to "feedee".

[moonvine]

I think this term "foodee" or "foodie" actually exists outside the feeder/weight-gain/FA/FFA community. I believe a lot of people identify themselves as foodies who have no idea about something like Dimensions, and they would be appalled if someone tried to connect their love of food with feederism/FAism, etc. Nothing at all PC about this term in relation to "feedee".

Absolutely. My mother is a foodie - (that is the term outside of this board) and she weighs 98 pounds. Appalled isn't the word I would use..something worse than appalled..horrified?

[moonvine]

So a foodee is just someone who enjoys food? Seems pretty silly to me, don't we all enjoy food? This board is mislabeled and I don't buy that the word foodee is not some kind of PC response to the word feedee. A foodee board? This board should be called a FOOD board- as in for the love of food, not foodee.

Actually not everyone enjoys food. Some people really don't care about food at all.

Dictionary.com defines a foodie as A person who has an ardent or refined interest in food; a gourmet


So the only real difference between a foodee and a feedee as far as I can see is a foodee feeds herself while a feedee has a mate who is involved.


I'm honestly not sure what a foodee is. This board is the only place the term exists as far as I know. I don't feed myself though - I mean I feed myself, but I don't FEED myself. I have no desire to gain and hope to never gain.

[SoVerySoft]

I'm honestly not sure what a foodee is. This board is the only place the term exists as far as I know.

A foodee is a foodie. We just spell it wrong :D

[zonker]

Actually not everyone enjoys food. Some people really don't care about food at all.


I know. I feel sorry for them. Not enjoying one of life's greatest pleasures, well, they are to pitied. It's like not enjoying a beautiful sunset, or the smell of flowers, or the feel of cool mud between your toes on a hot summer day. To deprive themselves of the sensory enjoyment of food, well, I can only hope that someday they will be able to enjoy food. We come into this world enjoying food and wanting nourishment and wanting to be fed, but I think that oftentimes society makes food out to be some sort of "guilty pleasure". So a lot of people "turn off" their natural enjoyment of food. And that's sad. :confused:

By the way, moonvine, regarding feeding, the enjoyment of food can be a "sensory" experience; it does not need to be a "sensual" experience. Not enjoying food, I think, is the same as turning off part of your human nature.

[moonvine]

By the way, moonvine, regarding feeding, the enjoyment of food can be a "sensory" experience; it does not need to be a "sensual" experience. Not enjoying food, I think, is the same as turning off part of your human nature.

Probably. I think this is what many dieters do - and people who are not naturally thin who are desperately trying to remain thin. They fear getting fat more than they like food. Just a theory.

[TONYS]

Our bodies are the most amasing thing, we have the sensory which enables us to feel so many things, taste, touch, smell, sight, hear, and each one of those physical can help us to feel emotion whcih produce pain, happiness, erotic thoughts, sexual feelings, spiritual sensations, hearing produces responses etc..................

Food produces sensations, lack of food can bring spiritual enlightenment (fasting) certain diets bring in a different light, (vegan, raw foods etc) junk food makes you feel blah. A feedee eats to enjoy ususally but not completely, some when they eat, have the specific goal of gaining so subsequently may do gain shakes or other things that may not be the best tasting but are specifically for gaining. They also derive erotic pleasure from the gain, thoughts of it, being told about it, watching it, feeling the gain, and from their lover touching and caressing their added mass.

Read the dvdbabes blog (amy), char, Ian, real life people who have writtten about their gains from being around 200 up to 450 - 600 pounds. For them gaining has a lot of interesting twists.