What is making you SAD right now...

[Uriel]

I'm not sure if there is a Sad thread, but I just looked through 5 pages, with no result.

Me: I just saw (On the news) that they found that 8-year old girl Sandra Cantu, stuffed in a suitcase and thrown in a pond. I didn't know her, and Tracey (Her home) is just one of those places along the Highway here you stop for gas, and never consider those who live there. I've been hoping and praying (And I'm not Religious, but what the heck) that, for once, they would find the child, not dead, not raped...just once a kid just got lost, you know?

I'm sitting here, crying my eyes out for this beautiful little girl who will never have the chance to know the thrill of a first kiss, or the pride of her first paycheck, or graduating from College, or having a baby of her own.


http://abcnews.go.com/US/story?id=7275611&page=1



Fuck, as I am sitting here, with the Today Show on, that poor girl in New York who was raped a few years ago, where the conductor in a train, and the attendant saw, but didn't rush to her aid...just came on the show, telling
her story.


Anyways, yeah, I'm sad, it'll pass for me, and I can rest a little easier, knowing that when they find the sick fuck who snuffed out this child's just-lit flame of life, that this is California, and we have the Death Penalty for shit like this. Although, with what happens when a Prison Population finds out about child molesters/murderers...maybe he/she/they will just get Life, though I think it will be a short one.

Fuck, I'm crying again.

Rest In Peace Sandra

[mergirl]

gah.. thats just horrible and so sad. :(

[steely]

For the soldier who survived an ambush in Iraq,the only survivor.Two non-humans killed his dog.I can't call them people,young men.They had also been killing random dogs in the neighborhood"just for fun".

Now this soldier has lost his best friend and his service animal.

The heavens should weep for the loss of innocent life,human or animal.

[cinnamitch]

yep just makes you stop and think about all the whining going on about petty things in life, when this is a child who will not even get that chance to complain about petty things.

Sometimes no matter how much you don't want to admit it, the world can be a totally sucking place and there are just some really evil people who just make you rethink humanity, and i hate that.

[BigBawdyDame]

I'm sad and distrubed that I can't seem to get over a man I've been dating for only two months. We got along incredibly, physically and mentally. But we wanted different things emotionally. I ended it this past Wednesday, but I feel like I'm drowning. I know I'm mourning, but I absolutely hate feeling like this. I wish I could either not think about him or think of him and not feel soul wrenching pain. My friends have all told me they never liked him. Not helping! lol I feel alone and so very, very sad. It doesn't help that he's already back on the web site which we met through looking for my replacement. Do men really move on that quickly?

[mossystate]

Today is the anniversary of my Mom's death. Sad, mixed with remembering what I loved about her.

[Violet_Beauregard]

I'm sorry you're feeling sad... may your mother rest in peace. It's good to remember what you loved about her. Thank goodness for those great memories. :)

Today is the anniversary of my Mom's death. Sad, mixed with remembering what I loved about her.

[TraciJo67]

Today is the anniversary of my Mom's death. Sad, mixed with remembering what I loved about her.

Hugs to you ((((((( Mossy ))))))))

[Twilley]

Coming home to a cold and empty room...

[Uriel]

A couple of things, but I'm probably better off as things stand.

Oh, and at least they caught someone in that murder or little Sandra, although folks are stunned that it is a woman, and a Sunday School teacher... and not some pervo child predator. Strange fucking World we live in...

[Zoom]

Hello Zoom it appears that you have not posted on our forums in several weeks, why not take a few moments to ask a question, help provide a solution or just engage in a conversation with another member in any one of our forums?This is saddening. I don't have anything important to say here that hasn't already been said by someone else, and even the board auto-knows it.

Do you REALLY want to hear what actually makes me sad? I somehow doubt that.

[luscious_lulu]

He is running away from me again. He's to afraid to take the chance and is not even going to try.

Breaks my heart...:(

[runningman]

Being made redundant and worrying about money is making me sad.

It also makes me sad that I should get sad over such trivial things in relation to some of the other horrible things mentioned on this thread.

[JoyJoy]

One of our most prominent faculty members was taken off life support this afternoon and died shortly after. He had fallen and hit his head a little over a week ago and neglected to seek medical care right away, and had a bleed two days later, never to recover after surgery.

I've worked here for almost 4 years, and for the first 3 1/2 years, this man never gave me the time of day. He would stand in my office area, on the other side of a partition and make comments about how unattractive fat people were. At the Division holiday party this year, he struck up a conversation with me and we talked for a good 20 minutes. After that, he would make a point to inquire about me with other staff members, and would stop and say hello before morning rounds as he was getting his coffee and 2 or 3 gumdrops from the jar that one of my office mates would put out for him. His greeting was always "Good morning, Joy...are you making any money for us today?" and we'd joke for a minute or two before he went on his way. I felt a small triumph in the fact that this man, who was known for being gruff and a little surly, and who was obviously size-prejudiced, chose to respect me and seemingly overlook my size once he got to know me a bit. He will be missed.

[1300 Class]

Rapidly coming to the realisation that I'm a totally incompetant hopeless prat whose wasted four years of their life at uni and can't get a job.

[TraciJo67]

Joy, I remember you talking about him, and I remember thinking that my response to his size-prejudice would have been to come down on him, hard, when he made a remark. You dealt with it in your own way, with dignity, and probably made a lot of headway in actually changing his thinking process. I'm sorry for the loss that your department now faces.


One of our most prominent faculty members was taken off life support this afternoon and died shortly after. He had fallen and hit his head a little over a week ago and neglected to seek medical care right away, and had a bleed two days later, never to recover after surgery.

I've worked here for almost 4 years, and for the first 3 1/2 years, this man never gave me the time of day. He would stand in my office area, on the other side of a partition and make comments about how unattractive fat people were. At the Division holiday party this year, he struck up a conversation with me and we talked for a good 20 minutes. After that, he would make a point to inquire about me with other staff members, and would stop and say hello before morning rounds as he was getting his coffee and 2 or 3 gumdrops from the jar that one of my office mates would put out for him. His greeting was always "Good morning, Joy...are you making any money for us today?" and we'd joke for a minute or two before he went on his way. I felt a small triumph in the fact that this man, who was known for being gruff and a little surly, and who was obviously size-prejudiced, chose to respect me and seemingly overlook my size once he got to know me a bit. He will be missed.

[Wayne_Zitkus]

I haven't said anything about this yet here on Dims, but here goes.

Out of the blue, I was laid off last Tuesday. I'm 56 years old, and job hunting again. I had hoped to retire from that company in another decade or so....

[1300 Class]

Don't you get at least notice Wayne? Are entitlements/pensions and stuff secure? I mean thats fucken' rough.

[TraciJo67]

I haven't said anything about this yet here on Dims, but here goes.

Out of the blue, I was laid off last Tuesday. I'm 56 years old, and job hunting again. I had hoped to retire from that company in another decade or so....

I'm sorry to hear that, Wayne. I hope that you got a decent severance package, and that you find another job soon.

[HDANGEL15]

Rapidly coming to the realisation that I'm a totally incompetant hopeless prat whose wasted four years of their life at uni and can't get a job.

AL..if you were at uni for four years, I highly doubt that you are INCOMPETENT!! I have no idea what the job market is like in AU, but I waited over 8 months to settle for jobs paying less then 1/2 of what I was earlier...I am working 2 jobs paying an embarrassing hourly rate (for my years of experience) but I am very grateful to at last have not 1, but 2 jobs to get up in the morning for, and thirdly I house sit / dog walk also, which is MUCH more fun!!!

[SamanthaNY]

I haven't said anything about this yet here on Dims, but here goes.

Out of the blue, I was laid off last Tuesday. I'm 56 years old, and job hunting again. I had hoped to retire from that company in another decade or so....
I'm sorry to hear it, truly. It's scary for over-40s (is it more so for over-50s?) to job search in the current climate, but hopefully other employers in your field will recognize your experience and offer some good options.

[steely]

The people who own the property next to mine have sold it and they're cutting down the forest:(

[Wayne_Zitkus]

Don't you get at least notice Wayne? Are entitlements/pensions and stuff secure? I mean thats fucken' rough.
No notice at all. About an hour after I got into work, my manager called me into his office and gave me the bad news. They wouldn'e even let me take any of my personal items with me - instead, my mamager escorted me down to HR and our admin packed everything up in my office. Everyone who was laid off had to come back on Friday afternoon to pick up our stuff.

I got one week's pay for every year I had been with the company. That ammounts to two weeks' pay, which they will mail to me next week. No word yet on what's happening with my pension.

[furious styles]

http://dimensionsmagazine.com/forums/showthread.php?t=57076

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[1300 Class]

No notice at all. About an hour after I got into work, my manager called me into his office and gave me the bad news. They wouldn'e even let me take any of my personal items with me - instead, my mamager escorted me down to HR and our admin packed everything up in my office. Everyone who was laid off had to come back on Friday afternoon to pick up our stuff.

I got one week's pay for every year I had been with the company. That ammounts to two weeks' pay, which they will mail to me next week. No word yet on what's happening with my pension.
Theres not much justice left in the world.:(

[Santaclear]

I haven't said anything about this yet here on Dims, but here goes.

Out of the blue, I was laid off last Tuesday. I'm 56 years old, and job hunting again. I had hoped to retire from that company in another decade or so....

Damn. I'm sorry to hear that, Wayne.

[Surlysomething]

The movie Seven Pounds. :(





i've been pretty down for awhile and seeing this didn't help...but it affected me, just like it was meant to

[undrcovrbrothr]

Migraine headaches that debilitate people and make them hurt... I wish I could take all of that pain away...! :( :wubu:

[Your Plump Princess]

I'm Listening to this song I used to listen to for hours on repeat during my parents divorce in '02


And the fact that I wasted $140 on a peice of shit that's going to collect dust for the rest of my life. Minus ONE day... I feel like, 'epic fail'

[TraciJo67]

The movie Seven Pounds. :(





i've been pretty down for awhile and seeing this didn't help...but it affected me, just like it was meant to

It affected me, too. It was two hours of my life that I can't get back :(

[Surlysomething]

It affected me, too. It was two hours of my life that I can't get back :(


I have to admit, Will Smith broke my heart. His facial expression through most of the movie was so tortured. I'm not even his biggest fan but wow...

[TraciJo67]

I have to admit, Will Smith broke my heart. His facial expression through most of the movie was so tortured. I'm not even his biggest fan but wow...

Well, I'll give it that. He did a fine acting job, considering that the script was worse than something I'd likely see on a Lifetime Television Movie Marathon (enough holes in it to drive a Mack truck through, for starters). And I'd rather sit through said marathon than watch that tortured drama, or anything like it, ever again. I know ... different strokes, different folks 'n all. Will Smith *is* one of my favorite comedic actors. Problem is, I forgot the "comedic" part when I rented "Seven Pounds".

[mossystate]

And the fact that I wasted $140 on a peice of shit that's going to collect dust for the rest of my life. Minus ONE day... I feel like, 'epic fail'

Didn't you say that your parents bought you the dress? If they did, couldn't you try and be just a little grateful? I know this Prom thing has been a struggle for you, but, since you have decided to go ( no gun to your head ), why not find something positive about the experience. Breathe.

[TraciJo67]

Didn't you say that your parents bought you the dress? If they did, couldn't you try and be just a little grateful? I know this Prom thing has been a struggle for you, but, since you have decided to go ( no gun to your head ), why not find something positive about the experience. Breathe.

My prom dress was a thrift store special -- this creeping violet satin thing with puffy sleeves. Had obviously been a bridesmaid's special. Fortunately, I was too young & too thrilled that I had a date for the prom to be embarrassed by the monstrosity that I wore. Unfortunately, there are pictures, and I do occasionally stumble across them ... and cringe :eek: But then I see the sappy, goofy, star-struck smile on my face and I remember to ... breathe :D

PP, give it a chance. I think you'll enjoy yourself.

[HottiMegan]

A dear friend of mine lost her baby girl a week before she was due to be born and this friend just finished a family portrait painting with her with them and seeing it just makes me all sad for them. I just wish i could be nearby to give her a big hug.

[mossystate]

My prom dress was a thrift store special -- this creeping violet satin thing with puffy sleeves. Had obviously been a bridesmaid's special. Fortunately, I was too young & too thrilled that I had a date for the prom to be embarrassed by the monstrosity that I wore. Unfortunately, there are pictures, and I do occasionally stumble across them ... and cringe :eek: But then I see the sappy, goofy, star-struck smile on my face and I remember to ... breathe :D

Oh...sure...remind me that I NEVER WENT TO MY PROM!!!!!!!!!


:(:mad:

Well, I was asked by a few boys...but...still....I NEVER WENT TO MY PROM!!!!

You know I will need to see a picture of you in that dress. Pretty pleeeeeeease?!?

:happy::D

[TraciJo67]

Oh...sure...remind me that I NEVER WENT TO MY PROM!!!!!!!!!


:(:mad:

Well, I was asked by a few boys...but...still....I NEVER WENT TO MY PROM!!!!

You know I will need to see a picture of you in that dress. Pretty pleeeeeeease?!?

:happy::D

You couldn't pay me enough to post those pics, Mossy The Thing.

80's style hideous satin bridesmaid dress - yepper.
80's bubble-wrap permed hairdo -- check.
80's thick spatula coating of makeup, including bright blue eyeshadow and vivid kohl-black eyeliner -- double check
80's style tan tuxedo with black converse tennis shoes worn by my Huckleberry Finn of a date -- triple check

Hmm. On second thought, it is pretty freakin' hilarious. I'll start a new "Post Pics" thread and title it "Prom Disasters". Hopefully, those who are old enough to know what jellybean jackets and parachute pants are ... will contribute :D

Oh, and to stay on topic: The return of parachute pants makes me very, very sad.

[Surlysomething]

Well, I'll give it that. He did a fine acting job, considering that the script was worse than something I'd likely see on a Lifetime Television Movie Marathon (enough holes in it to drive a Mack truck through, for starters). And I'd rather sit through said marathon than watch that tortured drama, or anything like it, ever again. I know ... different strokes, different folks 'n all. Will Smith *is* one of my favorite comedic actors. Problem is, I forgot the "comedic" part when I rented "Seven Pounds".

The movie wasn't good at all, I agree. But his performance was great.

At least I didn't totally waste my money.

[missy_blue_eyez]

My boyfriend being in Cancun right now, Ive seen him once in the space of 2 months and now he's over there for a friends wedding and when he comes back he's prob gonna have to be confined for a few days before any contact meaning it will be even longer til I see him! :(

[bexy]

A dear friend of mine lost her baby girl a week before she was due to be born and this friend just finished a family portrait painting with her with them and seeing it just makes me all sad for them. I just wish i could be nearby to give her a big hug.

This just made me cry....I am so sorry for your friend's loss Megan :(

[Tooz]

Not hangin' with my hoes :(

[undrcovrbrothr]

Vengeful people who just can't let people go just out of spite, or are too oblivious to know the difference... killing the happiness of others because they can. :(

[Slamaga]

I have to share it with you: my grandfather one the side of my step father is dead since one week and I went to the funerals. I felt like disconnecteds for one week and I don't think I went on dims to see what happened. I kinda feel sad now because I knew how much he took me as one of his true little son. He always said he had seven little children, I was include in this seven. I miss him so much.

[Ruffie]

This made me as horse freak and general animal lover feel like crying last night when I saw it on the news.
Police and wildlife officials are investigating the fatal shooting of three wild horses, including a pregnant mare, near Sundre, northwest of Calgary.

The animals were found Tuesday night near the Mountain Aire Lodge motel and campground west of the town, about 500 metres from a mountainside road, the RCMP said Wednesday.

It appears the horses were shot from the road late in the afternoon, police said. Evidence at the scene indicates that the mare went into labour after she was shot, said Bob Henderson, president of the Wild Horses of Alberta Society.

"For the first time in a long time, I actually cried this morning. It hurts your heart when you watch them out there, the way that they are and live out there. They're such a beautiful, magnificent animal, and to see this needless, senseless act just sickens the heart," said Henderson, who visited the scene on Wednesday.

The pregnant mare looked ready to foal within a day or two, Henderson said. A stud, about two to three years old, and a yearling colt were also found dead.

"He suffered a long, agonizing death by the look of the scene," Henderson said of the stud, who was found dead on his back with his legs in the air, tangled in some trees.

The deaths bring the total number of wild horses killed in Alberta to more than 22 over the last four years. The society is offering a $10,000 reward for information on the killings.

Would like to get ahold of these assholes myself!
Ruth

[kathynoon]

The plumber is ripping apart the pipes in my bathroom, and the bill is going up and up and up.

[Mathias]

It's my last day at college and I'm gonna miss all of my friends. :(

[Risible]

It's my last day at college and I'm gonna miss all of my friends. :(

For the summer, Matt? 'Cause if you're graduating, we need to throw you a (virtual) party!

[Scorsese86]

http://celebrities.unrealitytv.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2009/04/patrick_swayze_782756a.jpg

Please... this can't be true, can it? That man can't be Patrick Swayze? It doesn't look like him at all, but it is him... says the article. I find this to be so sad, I can't describe it. Swayze is, if not a great actor, a very likeable actor, with great presence, and he also starred in two of my all-time favorite movies (Donnie Darko and Red Dawn), as well as several very entertaining movies I gladly can watch again. It's so horrible to see how this horrible disease has done to him.

[Chode McBlob]

I got laid off my job and the chance of finding a new one is about the same as winning the lottery. I've been laid off every job I've ever had in my life and they only last a few years at a time. Being an Engineer really sucks because of that. Its a disposable job.

[undrcovrbrothr]

I am all alone in paradise, and yet it is all so empty and sad... :(

[Mathias]

For the summer, Matt? 'Cause if you're graduating, we need to throw you a (virtual) party!

I'm going to be a junior. Only halfway done here. :)

[Surlysomething]

I had a long, hard emotional day and am no longer friends with someone I care about. Tomorrow better be an improvement...

[BarbBBW]

A friend of mine is going away for 4 days!! Not too bad right? But I will miss him!!:(

[luscious_lulu]

I had a long, hard emotional day and am no longer friends with someone I care about. Tomorrow better be an improvement...

*hugs* that's always hard.

[steely]

I feel lost, set adrift.

[Surlysomething]

*hugs* that's always hard.

Thanks. Live and learn, right? I went and gave myself a little retail therapy to ease the pain. ;)

[BarbBBW]

I feel lost, set adrift.

Steely? whats wrong hunny?? Please call me If you need to talk you have my number!!

[steely]

Steely? whats wrong hunny?? Please call me If you need to talk you have my number!!

I'm ok :) Thanks Barb, sometimes being diabetic just sucks! :(

[succubus_dxb]

A guy that I had recently started seeing, and REALLY started to care about and see a future with, dropped the bomb that he still has strong feelings for his ex. ouch.

[chocolate desire]

Life is not going as it should and I can't seem to get it on track.

[luscious_lulu]

That my brother has been diagnosed with Leukemia.

[steely]

That my brother has been diagnosed with Leukemia.

I'm so sorry. :( I will quit feeling sorry for myself immediately.

[BarbBBW]

That my brother has been diagnosed with Leukemia.

i am so sorry hun! prayer prayer prayer!!

[Surlysomething]

That my brother has been diagnosed with Leukemia.

*big hug* I recently had a 17 yo cousin diagnosed with Hodgkins so I feel you

[luscious_lulu]

I'm so sorry. :( I will quit feeling sorry for myself immediately.

i am so sorry hun! prayer prayer prayer!!

*big hug* I recently had a 17 yo cousin diagnosed with Hodgkins so I feel you

Thank you. We'll find out over the next few days what stage he's at and what happens next.

[t3h_n00b]

I graduate from college tomorrow and my dad is not alive to see it (he's been gone for 4 years now).

one of my friends was murdered last week a few days after he graduated from college. (http://www.buffalonews.com/opinion/editorials/story/674146.html)

one of my former classmates was murdered 2 weeks ago.
(http://topics.nytimes.com/top/reference/timestopics/people/j/johanna_justinjinich/index.html)

one of my other friends is in jail awaiting trial for murder.
my mom is undergoing chemo therapy because she had stomach cancer (she's making an incredible recovery though, last week she did 6 miles in an AIDS walk).
my grandmother went to the hospital yesterday from complications with her diabetes.

edit-
Even though I have 6 big things that I'm sad about, I couldn't even begin to make a list of the thousands if not millions of things I am thankful for.

[Zandoz]

Just when I thought I was out... they pull me back in......

After months disappointment after disappointment house hunting, culminating with being outbid buy $500 on a house that wife and daughter were in love with, we finally gave up the idea of moving and made peace and plans for staying here. The middle of the week we arranged to have the place painted, and we have our contractor friend working up an estimate for drastic changes necessary for me to be able to stay here (mobility issues).

Yesterday, the missed by $500 dream house came back on the market...the deal must have fallen through. Now everything is up in the air again.

And to make matters worse, this time it is a quick sale with bids only being accepted through Tuesday...the day work was supposed to start on this place. Now wife and daughter can not agree on what to do, and I'm stuck in the middle again.

:(

[Bafta1]

This is the saddest thread ever. But I guess it shows that no one has it easy; we can take solace in the fact that we aren't alone.

I didn't get a scholarship that I needed in order to study in the US - a life-long dream went up in smoke thanks to the economic situation. I feel frustrated and defeated. I'm utterly sad, very lonely, and so, so lost. I just wish I knew what to do with my life; I wish there were someone who could just point me in the right direction.

[mossystate]

That my brother has been diagnosed with Leukemia.

So sorry, lulu. I hope he beats the crap out of that invader.

[luscious_lulu]

So sorry, lulu. I hope he beats the crap out of that invader.

thanks........

[squidge dumpling]

being told that my 9 week old pup has a heart murmur, im just hoping and praying my fur baby grows out of it.:(

[BarbBBW]

being told that my 9 week old pup has a heart murmur, im just hoping and praying my fur baby grows out of it.:(

awww that puppy is adorable!! And heart murmurs are pretty common in animals and humans when they are that young!! So hes got a GREAT future I am sure!!!!

[undrcovrbrothr]

Our CWSP network SUCKS because the freakin antenna can't find the damn SIGNAL!!! The same TIME too... during the evening!!! Sad, ohh yes, very sad indeed. :(

[JohnWylde]

Hello Renee

Same here for me - things are not working out how I would like at the moment.

But is it lovely to read your comments on here - it does cheer me up a lot to read what you are saying.

Here's hoping things work themselves out as we want soon.

John


Life is not going as it should and I can't seem to get it on track.

[Weeze]

We had to put my doggie down this morning.
I love everyone here who's helping me get through it, because I honestly don't know how to do it at all. It is so, so, much harder than I ever thought it would be. She was just a massive part of our lives and now she's gone. Fifteen is old for a dog. I know. I knew it was going to happen, but, I wasn't ready for there to be this big hole so soon. I feel so empty. I came home from work tonight, and no one came down the steps to come see me. I want that back, so bad. I don't know how i'm going to make it through this, I really don't.

[squidge dumpling]

We had to put my doggie down this morning.
I love everyone here who's helping me get through it, because I honestly don't know how to do it at all. It is so, so, much harder than I ever thought it would be. She was just a massive part of our lives and now she's gone. Fifteen is old for a dog. I know. I knew it was going to happen, but, I wasn't ready for there to be this big hole so soon. I feel so empty. I came home from work tonight, and no one came down the steps to come see me. I want that back, so bad. I don't know how i'm going to make it through this, I really don't.

Krismiss, I am so sorry to hear of your sad lost, its not easy loosing a beloved pet, as they become part of the family. I had to have my Yorkie put to sleep in Febuary and i miss him everyday, he was 15. I have another Yorkie now and she is 10 weeks old and i love her to bits. She can never replace him but she is helping heal the massive gap that he left behind. Maybe when the time is right for you, you might want to get another dog. Sending you friendly hugs as i know you will need then right now.

[Shosh]

I am so sorry Krismiss. Having to put your doggie down must have been devastating.

xoxo
Shosh

[Rowan]

That my mom comes home from work slamming stuff around and when i ask her what is wrong, apparently it's me. Even though i was home and away from her all night long, i still apparently did stuff wrong. *sigh* Here i was hoping to sleep in on a saturday for a change...but no...woken up at 8 am to all kinds of wicked mean attitude :(

[chocolate desire]

Krissmiss I am very sorry to hear about your dog.

[mergirl]

We had to put my doggie down this morning.
I love everyone here who's helping me get through it, because I honestly don't know how to do it at all. It is so, so, much harder than I ever thought it would be. She was just a massive part of our lives and now she's gone. Fifteen is old for a dog. I know. I knew it was going to happen, but, I wasn't ready for there to be this big hole so soon. I feel so empty. I came home from work tonight, and no one came down the steps to come see me. I want that back, so bad. I don't know how i'm going to make it through this, I really don't.
I'm so sorry to hear about your dogger. I know it feels empty now but i promise it will get less painful for you. Sending you lots of love. xx

[luscious_lulu]

That my mom comes home from work slamming stuff around and when i ask her what is wrong, apparently it's me. Even though i was home and away from her all night long, i still apparently did stuff wrong. *sigh* Here i was hoping to sleep in on a saturday for a change...but no...woken up at 8 am to all kinds of wicked mean attitude :(

You know it's not you right? You're mom has issues and is taking them all out on you. It's not fair and you deserve better. *hugs*

[OneWickedAngel]

We had to put my doggie down this morning.
I love everyone here who's helping me get through it, because I honestly don't know how to do it at all. It is so, so, much harder than I ever thought it would be. She was just a massive part of our lives and now she's gone. Fifteen is old for a dog. I know. I knew it was going to happen, but, I wasn't ready for there to be this big hole so soon. I feel so empty. I came home from work tonight, and no one came down the steps to come see me. I want that back, so bad. I don't know how i'm going to make it through this, I really don't.

Oh honey, I'm so sorry. I know it hurts like hell right now, but it does get a little easier to handle day by day.

That my mom comes home from work slamming stuff around and when i ask her what is wrong, apparently it's me. Even though i was home and away from her all night long, i still apparently did stuff wrong. *sigh* Here i was hoping to sleep in on a saturday for a change...but no...woken up at 8 am to all kinds of wicked mean attitude :(
Sounds like whatever frustration that's coming down on her at work , is being transfered to you at home (the only safe place she let get it all out). It does not make it right or any easier to deal with, but it is what it is. You know you did not do anything wrong, try not to let her misdirected anger become your misery. It's so hard when it's your mother, but Lulu's right; it's not you.

{{{{{{{{{{ Kriss & Rowan }}}}}}}}}}

[Rowan]

Thanks ladies...I just keep telling myself that its only another year or so that I have to live with her...just until im out of school. And she is now looking for a house to buy, so we're going to have to move soon....so that just adds to the stress im sure. *sigh*

but again..thanks ladies! *huge hugs*

[HottiMegan]

I am sad that Saturday is my 11th wedding anniversary. We were going to celebrate by hitting Sacramento for the weekend and playing at the water park all weekend. (our gifts to eachother are water park season passes.) Now it's going to be raining and cold the rest of the week :( I'm glad i didn't book the hotel yet. I am hoping to only postpone it a week. I'm bummed because i was totally looking forward to going.

[chocolate desire]

The thought of not having a date for my birthday.

[mossystate]

The last of the LOVELY flowers a purty bunch of Dims women bought me, have wilted. They graced my coffee table, and made me smile everytime I looked at them.

:wubu:



the strawberies were gone in 2 days...ha

[ThikJerseyChik]

A very dear friend of mine has been diagnosed with cancer. She is a wonderful gentle spirit who has never had a decent break in her life. She is 63.

When my life was pretty much in the toilet, she was my lifeline....now it's my turn to return the favor.....

As frightened as I am for her and for the thought of losing her...she will NEVER see it in my eyes.....


TJC

[mossystate]

A very dear friend of mine has been diagnosed with cancer. She is a wonderful gentle spirit who has never had a decent break in her life. She is 63.

When my life was pretty much in the toilet, she was my lifeline....now it's my turn to return the favor.....

As frightened as I am for her and for the thought of losing her...she will NEVER see it in my eyes.....


TJC

Glad she has you in her corner. I hope she catches a huge break when all is said and done. Fucking cancer. I can imagine, just from this post, that you will help her in the best ways possible.

[Shosh]

That I cant go to the Dims bash in Florida.:(

[GWARrior]

Im wicked sad that theres no news of Boosh touring the States. Actually, I cant find much up-to-date info at all.

damn them!

[Shosh]

I am sad because I am going to miss my BBG, Big Beautiful Garden when I move.:(:D

[sirumberto]

That I'm going to have to learn to be single again.

On the plus side, I'm now free to post here again.

[GWARrior]

I need time away from my bff and it makes me sad to think about it.

I love him to pieces, and we've been eachothers lifeline for years and years, but it can be so hard to be around him. Im sure Im not that easy to be around either, but at least I like to have fun.

He's anal about everything, and a complete neat freak. Im pretty chill and couldnt care less about washing my hands a bajillion times a day.

I never seem to do anything right by him. I cant load the dishwasher right, I cant cook pasta right, I couldnt even put ice in the cooler the right way (who knew there was a special way to put ice in the cooler??).

And his remarks can be so biting and mean and unfriendly.

Me: Im gonna try to give up soda. I drink waaay too much.
Him: Thats stupid.
Me: Huh?
Him: Why dont you give up something that actually matters?

a few days later...
Me: I havent had soda in 3 days! YAY!
Him: You had an energy drink the other day. Thats basically soda.

Me: I spray painted my boots silver! I love them!!
Him: You look ridiculous. (he was very serious about it, not trying to be funny)

Then he asked to go to Pride weekend in Boston. Im jobless at the moment and money's a bit tight. I told him this. Now he thinks he has the right to question every single purchase I make

GAH! I cant be around him without feeling like shit!

[Les Toil]

What's making me sad? what's making me sad? The fact that 102 incredibly important minutes of my life were spent watching a Will Farrell movie last night.

I do this every time. I convince myself that anyone that's that popular couldn't be as bad as I think, and then I watch another one of his movies and I'm then more convinced than ever that he's the most iritating man in film history.

Btw, the movie was "Semi Pro". Poor Woody Harrelson.

[Zandoz]

Pretty much everything lately.

[Ruffie]

I am sad to hear that my favorite kitty niece Mavis died. Our friends have 6 cats that I babysit cause one of them(not her) has seizures and has to have medicine and be watched when their mom and dad out of town on gigs or to visit family. She was having trouble breathing and as Derek got her into the cat cage and was rushing her to the vet she had a seizure and died. They are of course devastated as they have no kids other than their cats and Mavis was my favorite. Bye Floppy cat I will miss you!
Ruth

[kayrae]

A boy from Ohio who's breaking my heart into a million pieces.

Y'know... It's so much easier to be friends with straight boys. It's so much more fun. But when friendship begins to evolve into some kind of romantic relationship, it is so frustrating! I thought I was over him. I've been having fun. Too much fun maybe. I don't know. I can't even look at any other guys because I am pining away for the dumbest person ever. I just feel so silly caring so much. And I've basically closed myself off from forming close bonds with guys who fucking like me!

[DeniseW]

lost doggies

[JoyJoy]

No trip to FL for me :(

/whine

[Shosh]

No trip to FL for me :(

/whine

I would like to go too.:(

[Mathias]

I would like to go too.:(

Ditto. :(...

[BarbBBW]

Ditto. :(...

me too but there is a NJBBW bash in Oct ober ,.. No matter what I am going!!

[Mishty]

Every country song on my playlsit is depressing.
I love me some country music, but in my fragile state of confusion it's almost bringing me to tears for about five songs now, and I just peeked and the next song is "Tonight I'm Gonna Cry" so......yah.

Songs about love,divorce,fried chicken and babies, thats makin' me SAD.

[BubbleButtBabe]

I lost a dear friend and my aunt this past week,they were buried a day apart..Since I am now a coward and can barely handle funerals I only went to my aunt's and not to my friend's services..I couldn't bring myself to go to my friend's funeral because I didn't want to tell her good-bye yet...I wasn't ready..

[Weeze]

Every country song on my playlsit is depressing.
I love me some country music, but in my fragile state of confusion it's almost bringing me to tears for about five songs now, and I just peeked and the next song is "Tonight I'm Gonna Cry" so......yah.

Songs about love,divorce,fried chicken and babies, thats makin' me SAD.

hmmm...
New Playlist for Miss Mishty:
Alright-Darius Rucker
It Happens -Sugarland
One in Every Crowd -Montgomery Gentry
Sideways - Dierks Bentley
Boots On -Randy Houser
Out Last Night -Kenny Chesney

GO girl :)

[mergirl]

I lost a dear friend and my aunt this past week,they were buried a day apart..Since I am now a coward and can barely handle funerals I only went to my aunt's and not to my friend's services..I couldn't bring myself to go to my friend's funeral because I didn't want to tell her good-bye yet...I wasn't ready..
You can tell her when you are ready. Two funerals in the same week is too much for anyone, actually one funeral is too much. Sorry to hear of your loss. Take care. x

[mergirl]

Every country song on my playlsit is depressing.
I love me some country music, but in my fragile state of confusion it's almost bringing me to tears for about five songs now, and I just peeked and the next song is "Tonight I'm Gonna Cry" so......yah.

Songs about love,divorce,fried chicken and babies, thats makin' me SAD.
I think GD has hidden my Neko Case CD for this very reason. See she thinks i get sad when i listen to it but its actually that i feel sad and thats why i listen to it. Sad music is the best for not feeling so sad by yourself!

[Mishty]

GO girl :)

I did, and downloaded all kinds of Sugarland/Jen Nettles stuff. She has some roarin' arse man hatin' songs I'm diggin'!
Grassyass!

I think GD has hidden my Neko Case CD for this very reason. See she thinks i get sad when i listen to it but its actually that i feel sad and thats why i listen to it. Sad music is the best for not feeling so sad by yourself!

Yesh! I dunno why we get blue and find heart wrenching music to make it so much worse, I guess so we have something to compare it to. :happy:

[Tracy]

I'm SAD because there is so much hate and racism in the world that we live in. I truly wish that LOVE was blind. I'm SAD to hear about all the children in the world who are sick, hungry, abused and killed. I'm SAD because so many people are losing their jobs. We need to pray to God to have mercy on the world that we live in.

[HottiMegan]

My sadness comes because for the second night in a row, Alex hasn't gone to sleep. It's 4am and i'm exhausted and he's awake. No signs of going down. I put him in the crib and he cries his ass of waking up everyone. i'm tired. We are supposed to go on a little mini-vacation and i'm going to be too tired to function. The angry thoughts pouring into my head directed at Alex really make me sad.

[chocolate desire]

I am sad bcause he still is not here:(

[BarbBBW]

I have been posting alot in this thread,...never a good sign!!
Alas,... I have fucked up another online friendship!!
SO whats my deal?? Am I too nice? Too forward ? Too caring? Too annoying? Too what?!?!? I just dont get it!!:(

[Surlysomething]

I have been posting alot in this thread,...never a good sign!!
Alas,... I have fucked up another online friendship!!
SO whats my deal?? Am I too nice? Too forward ? Too caring? Too annoying? Too what?!?!? I just dont get it!!:(


From what I see (and you asked) you need to calm down. Too many of these "!!!" too many of these "???" . Less posts, more quality. Ease up on the overt sexuality. Give people some space. Relax.

[TraciJo67]

From what I see (and you asked) you need to calm down. Too many of these "!!!" too many of these "???" . Less posts, more quality. Ease up on the overt sexuality. Give people some space. Relax.

n to the a to the i to the l to the e to the d to the i to the t.

[JoyJoy]

I have been posting alot in this thread,...never a good sign!!
Alas,... I have fucked up another online friendship!!
SO whats my deal?? Am I too nice? Too forward ? Too caring? Too annoying? Too what?!?!? I just dont get it!!:(
Barb, you seem like a very, very nice person....but I have to agree with Surly. Your attitude is great, just very overwhelming in this format.

That said, I'm sorry you lost a friend - that's not a good feeling. I hope you're able to patch it up.

[BarbBBW]

lol well thank you ladies!! point well taken!! and I agree with you all!! Thanks a bunch!:):happy:

[thejuicyone]

I have been posting alot in this thread,...never a good sign!!
Alas,... I have fucked up another online friendship!!
SO whats my deal?? Am I too nice? Too forward ? Too caring? Too annoying? Too what?!?!? I just dont get it!!:(

People are intimidated by your awesomeness...
But, whenever I'm sad I just imagine if babies were born with mustaches...lol :p;)

[undrcovrbrothr]

I have been posting alot in this thread,...never a good sign!!
Alas,... I have fucked up another online friendship!!
SO whats my deal?? Am I too nice? Too forward ? Too caring? Too annoying? Too what?!?!? I just dont get it!! :(

People are intimidated by your awesomeness...
But, whenever I'm sad I just imagine if babies were born with mustaches...lol :p;)

DITTO!!!!!! Rep.

1. Don't EVER apologize for who you are or change to suit others.

2. If they can't accept you for who you are, then they were not your friend.

3. Life is WAY too short to be worried about a few bad apples or some jealous people... venom comes easily, patience is a hard road. :)

Told ya I had your back!! :wubu:

[Surlysomething]

DITTO!!!!!! Rep.

1. Don't EVER apologize for who you are or change to suit others.

2. If they can't accept you for who you are, then they were not your friend.

3. Life is WAY too short to be worried about a few bad apples or some jealous people... venom comes easily, patience is a hard road. :)

Told ya I had your back!! :wubu:

Yeah, I really don't think that's it. But thanks for taking some actual constructive criticism and warping it to suit your own needs.

[steely]

I have been posting alot in this thread,...never a good sign!!
Alas,... I have fucked up another online friendship!!
SO whats my deal?? Am I too nice? Too forward ? Too caring? Too annoying? Too what?!?!? I just dont get it!!:(

Barb, you can only be what you are and those who mind don't matter and the ones that matter don't mind, to paraphrase Dr. Suess. To thine own self be true.:happy:

[undrcovrbrothr]

Yeah, I really don't think that's it. But thanks for taking some actual constructive criticism and warping it to suit your own needs.

Thanks for taking a differing opinion that didn't knock yours and making it into something it is not... that says more than I could ever say. EVER. :rolleyes:

[BarbBBW]

Yeah, I really don't think that's it. But thanks for taking some actual constructive criticism and warping it to suit your own needs.

I do not want this to turn into something negative please!

I appreciate everyones comments!

There is no right or wrong in any answers to my thread!

[mossystate]

... jealous people...

A few days back, I was going to post about times I have seen the jealousy charge whipped out, and how it sometimes does nothing to actually address an issue...and more than that...does nothing solid for the person one is trying to make feel better.

I am not even talking about any particular situation, although, as you see, Barb did ask a question. She was not slammed by a bunch of people. Would it be any more fair to suggest that you just want to be told how wonderful you are, and be sexually flirted with, over and over? If someone said that, then they would be dismissing your friendship with Barb...yes? I think so.

While jealousy can be real, it is probably best to back up off a situation and get a clear look. It's just something I see a lot, online, and off. So odd. Oh, and to call anybody jealous, when you don't know if it is the case...that is rather snakelike, in and of itself. :)

[Surlysomething]

Thanks for taking a differing opinion that didn't knock yours and making it into something it is not... that says more than I could ever say. EVER. :rolleyes:


You interact and encourage this behavior because you find it titillating, most do not. And I think Barb is far too nice of a person to recognize the difference.

[TraciJo67]

Thanks for taking a differing opinion that didn't knock yours and making it into something it is not... that says more than I could ever say. EVER. :rolleyes:

Well, your opinion *did* knock hers, and let's not pretend otherwise.

What Surly said to Barb was, I'm sure, difficult to absorb. But Barb did ask for feedback, and I think it was valid. Barb may not think so, you may not think so & 99.5% of those reading this may not ... but it is Surly's perspective, and I happen to share it. That doesn't mean that I'm "jealous" or "mean" or any of the other labels that you attached to your response, or that Surly is any of those things. It simply means that Barb's online persona rubs some people the wrong way. Just as mine does. And yours, probably, for some people. When someone expresses disagreement, it doesn't always mean that person is jealous. Frankly, I'm tired of seeing that cheap, meaningless, and actually rather insulting term being so casually slung around.

[Surlysomething]

I do not want this to turn into something negative please!

I appreciate everyones comments!

There is no right or wrong in any answers to my thread!

No worries. I just don't want wishy washy bullshit to negate any true advice.

[Surlysomething]

A few days back, I was going to post about times I have seen the jealousy charge whipped out, and how it sometimes does nothing to actually address an issue...and more than that...does nothing solid for the person one is trying to make feel better.

I am not even talking about any particular situation, although, as you see, Barb did ask a question. She was not slammed by a bunch of people. Would it be any more fair to suggest that you just want to be told how wonderful you are, and be sexually flirted with, over and over? If someone said that, then they would be dismissing your friendship with Barb...yes? I think so.

While jealousy can be real, it is probably best to back up off a situation and get a clear look. It's just something I see a lot, online, and off. So odd. Oh, and to call anybody jealous, when you don't know if it is the case...that is rather snakelike, in and of itself. :)

Exactly. :)

[mossystate]

I do not want this to turn into something negative please!


Barb, I think it would have been nice if you had noticed the part where undercover started in on the ' jealous ' people...that is fairly negative. I am afraid that this confirms that, if it is a man you want to flirt with, you wander past his negativity. Maybe you did not read his post...if that's the case, then, no problem.

[Surlysomething]

Well, your opinion *did* knock hers, and let's not pretend otherwise.

What Surly said to Barb was, I'm sure, difficult to absorb. But Barb did ask for feedback, and I think it was valid. Barb may not think so, you may not think so & 99.5% of those reading this may not ... but it is Surly's perspective, and I happen to share it. That doesn't mean that I'm "jealous" or "mean" or any of the other labels that you attached to your response, or that Surly is any of those things. It simply means that Barb's online persona rubs some people the wrong way. Just as mine does. And yours, probably, for some people. When someone expresses disagreement, it doesn't always mean that person is jealous. Frankly, I'm tired of seeing that cheap, meaningless, and actually rather insulting term being so casually slung around.

Yes, i'm far from jealous. In fact i'm pretty happy that I don't get what I see as 'negative' attention.

[undrcovrbrothr]

No worries. I just don't want wishy washy bullshit to negate any true advice.

Venom, and more venom. Sorry, but your blatant, immature attack on my advice, as if that invalidates it, is totally below the belt and uncalled for. Once again, you are digging yourself a hole, not I!

[Surlysomething]

Venom, and more venom. Sorry, but your blatant, immature attack on my advice, as if that invalidates it, is totally below the belt and uncalled for. Once again, you are digging yourself a hole, not I!


:doh: I think you're the one digging a hole. Venom? Immaturity? Not from me. Take a look in the mirror.

[undrcovrbrothr]

:doh: I think you're the one digging a hole. Venom? Immaturity? Not from me. Take a look in the mirror.

I'm just sitting here laughing, for you are so tightly wound in anger it is very obvious... words like "warping it to suit your own needs" and "petty" and "bullshit", words that are not mature to say the least. Very amusing, but I'm not biting. :p

[mossystate]

You just did.

:D


Nom nom nom.

[Surlysomething]

I'm just shaking my head and laughing. Unbelievable.

Sorry everyone, i'm an asshole magnet.

[undrcovrbrothr]

You just did.

:D


Nom nom nom.

THEY were standing under a tree, each with an arm round the other's neck, and Alice knew which was which in a moment, because one of them had "DUM" embroidered on his collar, and the other "DEE". `I suppose they've each got "TWEEDLE" round at the back of the collar,' she said to herself.

They stood so still that she quite forgot they were alive, and she was just going round to see if the word "TWEEDLE" was written at the back of each collar, when she was startled by a voice coming from the one marked "DUM".

`If you think we're wax-works,' he said, `you ought to pay, you know. Wax-works weren't made to be looked at for nothing. Nohow.'

`Contrariwise,' added the one marked "DEE", `if you think we're alive, you ought to speak.'

`I'm sure I'm very sorry,' was all Alice could say; for the words of the old song kept ringing through her head like the ticking of a clock, and she could hardly help saying them out loud: Tweedledum and Tweedledee
Agreed to have a battle!
For Tweedledum said Tweedledee
Had spoiled his nice new rattle.
Just then flew down a monstrous crow,
As black as a tar-barrel!
Which frightened both the heroes so,
They quite forgot their quarrel.'

`I know what you're thinking about,' said Tweedledum; `but it isn't so, nohow.'

`Contrariwise,' continued Tweedledee, `if it was so, it might be; and if it were so, it would be; but as it isn't, it ain't. That's logic.'

And the circle is complete! And with that, I bid a fond adieu. Barb, now you know what I was saying long before this thread ;) You're the best :wubu:

[Surlysomething]

Hahahaha.


I'm not going to say anything about men not being secure in their own masculinity around strong women and resulting to childish behavior. Nope, not going there. Napoleon? Nope. Not going there.

[fatgirlflyin]

I don't understand what was so wrong with Surly's reply. Barb asked a question and Surly gave her answer based on her own opinions of behavior she has seen exhibited by Barb.

I don't think it was out of line for Surly to suggest that Barb's overt flirtations are a turn off to some people here. Its not like it was unsolicited, Barb asked! I don't know that it was necessary to come riding to the rescue when no harm was being done. To you Barb's the best, but to someone she obviously wasn't. Otherwise she wouldn't have been on here posting about being sad over blowing a friendship.




THEY were standing under a tree, each with an arm round the other's neck, and Alice knew which was which in a moment, because one of them had "DUM" embroidered on his collar, and the other "DEE". `I suppose they've each got "TWEEDLE" round at the back of the collar,' she said to herself.

They stood so still that she quite forgot they were alive, and she was just going round to see if the word "TWEEDLE" was written at the back of each collar, when she was startled by a voice coming from the one marked "DUM".

`If you think we're wax-works,' he said, `you ought to pay, you know. Wax-works weren't made to be looked at for nothing. Nohow.'

`Contrariwise,' added the one marked "DEE", `if you think we're alive, you ought to speak.'

`I'm sure I'm very sorry,' was all Alice could say; for the words of the old song kept ringing through her head like the ticking of a clock, and she could hardly help saying them out loud: Tweedledum and Tweedledee
Agreed to have a battle!
For Tweedledum said Tweedledee
Had spoiled his nice new rattle.
Just then flew down a monstrous crow,
As black as a tar-barrel!
Which frightened both the heroes so,
They quite forgot their quarrel.'

`I know what you're thinking about,' said Tweedledum; `but it isn't so, nohow.'

`Contrariwise,' continued Tweedledee, `if it was so, it might be; and if it were so, it would be; but as it isn't, it ain't. That's logic.'

And the circle is complete! And with that, I bid a fond adieu. Barb, now you know what I was saying long before this thread ;) You're the best :wubu:

[mossystate]

And the circle is complete! And with that, I bid a fond adieu. Barb, now you know what I was saying long before this thread ;) You're the best :wubu:

Bet your eyelid is twitching.

:D

[GWARrior]

WAY TO GO everyone.

[undrcovrbrothr]

I don't understand what was so wrong with Surly's reply. Barb asked a question and Surly gave her answer based on her own opinions of behavior she has seen exhibited by Barb.

I don't think it was out of line for Surly to suggest that Barb's overt flirtations are a turn off to some people here. Its not like it was unsolicited, Barb asked! I don't know that it was necessary to come riding to the rescue when no harm was being done. To you Barb's the best, but to someone she obviously wasn't. Otherwise she wouldn't have been on here posting about being sad over blowing a friendship.

Umm, it wasn't her reply, it was her reply to MY advice which was so very out of line, based on the flimsiest of reasoning and assumptions that were way off. Some people ARE jealous of her, and that doesn't mean all, which is wrong. She's a very open person, and I totally respect her for that... it is wonderful. I have lost too many people in this life to see others be hemmed into a corner for being themselves. And with the inevitable defense of my advice came the swooping down by a couple of others to try and gang up on me like kids. That's why I found it so amusing.

[fatgirlflyin]

ok but how do you know people are jealous of her? Have you seen people say so? I haven't. So what makes you assume that some people are jealous?


Umm, it wasn't her reply, it was her reply to MY advice which was so very out of line, based on the flimsiest of reasoning and assumptions that were way off. Some people ARE jealous of her, and that doesn't mean all, which is wrong. She's a very open person, and I totally respect her for that... it is wonderful. I have lost too many people in this life to see others be hemmed into a corner for being themselves. And with the inevitable defense of my advice came the swooping down by a couple of others to try and gang up on me like kids. That's why I found it so amusing.

[Surlysomething]

"And with that, I bid a fond adieu"


That lasted long.

[BarbBBW]

:(:doh:STOP:(:doh:

[thejuicyone]

How come the more I say "don't get it in my eyes," the more gets in my eyes?
:p
(Doesn't really make me sad, but this forums mood needs some lightening)

[JoyJoy]

Well, your opinion *did* knock hers, and let's not pretend otherwise.

What Surly said to Barb was, I'm sure, difficult to absorb. But Barb did ask for feedback, and I think it was valid. Barb may not think so, you may not think so & 99.5% of those reading this may not ... but it is Surly's perspective, and I happen to share it. That doesn't mean that I'm "jealous" or "mean" or any of the other labels that you attached to your response, or that Surly is any of those things. It simply means that Barb's online persona rubs some people the wrong way. Just as mine does. And yours, probably, for some people. When someone expresses disagreement, it doesn't always mean that person is jealous. Frankly, I'm tired of seeing that cheap, meaningless, and actually rather insulting term being so casually slung around.Excellent post.

People have been snarky to Barb. *I* have been snarky toward Barb, and for that I apologize. I can definitely understand why her friends are coming to her defense here. The thing is, though, in this thread - people weren't trying to cut her down. As has been said, she asked, people answered constructively. Not to cut her down or hurt her feelings, but to be honest about the effect she has on some people.

Darrell, I'm not going to assume that you were including me in the "jealous people", but if you were, you couldn't be more wrong. You know Barb's personality is totally different from mine - nothing wrong with that, but I am among the people who gets rubbed the wrong way by her "enthusiasm" and blatant and almost constant, overt sexual comments. You know, Darrel..I do wish I weren't so gloomy feeling right now, but I'm not the sort of person who would treat someone badly over my own personal issues, and those issues have nothing to do with what we're discussing here.

No one is asking her to feel bad about herself or not "be" herself, but if an adult can't come into a group of diverse personalities and be able to temper themselves, and then wonder why they get a negative reaction from some, then there's a lesson to be learned. She can act however she wants here, just like all of us can, but that doesn't mean people are going to suddenly stop being annoyed.

Barb...I love your positivity and sunny disposition and the way you have kind words for everyone. In real life, I'm willing to bet you'd be a pleasure to be around. Again, I apologize if I've hurt your feelings, but just as others are encouraging you to express yourself freely, I feel the same freedom to express myself and I hope you'll take it in the nature it's intended. If there's any confusion about what exactly that nature is, please feel free to PM me. :)

[chocolate desire]

That this thread is starting to look like Hyde Park...

[undrcovrbrothr]

Darrell, I'm not going to assume that you were including me in the "jealous people", but if you were, you couldn't be more wrong. You know Barb's personality is totally different from mine - nothing wrong with that, but I am among the people who gets rubbed the wrong way by her "enthusiasm" and blatant and almost constant, overt sexual comments. You know, Darrel..I do wish I weren't so gloomy feeling right now, but I'm not the sort of person who would treat someone badly over my own personal issues, and those issues have nothing to do with what we're discussing here.


Ohh, NOOOO, I was NOT talking about you at all, and I am SOOOO sorry if you thought for even one minute you were one of those "jealous" people or someone who would be like that. Maybe I used the wrong word, but I don't know what other word to use for the kind of thing that happens where other women talk about another woman to the point where it is a bitch session or worse off of the flimsiest of reasoning, or there is a hint of it.

Now I am sad, for that was the last thing I would ever want you to think... I know how hard it is to be assailed for being different and for people to try and change me because I don't fit in, and I just didn't want to see it happen to her. You know me, it is just in my nature to care. You don't have to be gloomy alone, you know... I'm still here ;)

[BarbBBW]

this thread is making me sad now,... and I thought I had other issues haha.
Ok Let me just clear up a few things here please.

Constructive criticism is always welcomed, and I can always use it! I appreciate that people can tell me, in their opinions, honestly, what they think!

I know I am annoying to alot of people here on the DIMS boards. I don't mean it. Thats just who I am. I am very caring, affectionate,silly, and yes very sexual in my remarks, or comments, when it is in the right setting.

I am caring to a fault! I just want to take care of everyone and make sure they are happy. If they are sick, i want to make sure they are feeling better. If they are sad, I want to see what I can do to make them happy. I know it is impossible. But thats my urge. To encourage people to be happy with life, even though it is hard alot of times for alot of us. To encourage confidence within themselves, and show the world just how great they are, inside and out. And Yes, it does make me feel good to post such things, because if I can help just 1 or 2 people be a little happier, to maybe share a smile with a stranger, in the very least. Then makes me happy!

As far as the sexual comments, I think I have toned them down quite a bit. Yes, I know I can get outta hand with some of them. But, honestly, thats just me. I have always been a flirty, a big annoying flirt. Its just worse for me, the sexual reactions towards FA's. They are my addiction.And when I am on Dims, between all the gorgeous women and all the good looking men, true I say some pretty sluttly things. And If I wasnt married, they would all be true and I would prob be the biggest slut on DIMS. As for right now, I am just a woman who flirts alot with men and women!

AS for my enthusiasm , YES i am very excited to be a part of the DIMS community. I love that there is a place for people of size to talk, chat, flirty,see pics, and have events together. That just makes me life better! Just to know people of any size can post and exchange idea's about everyday life, recipes ,fantasies, stories, etc!

So, in a nut shell, thats all I wanted to say. I can not thank you all enough for dealing with me, reading this blah blah from me.
For those who enjoy reading my post, I thank you :bow:
For those of you I annoy, i am sorry, but this is me!:bow:

[Surlysomething]

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[goofy girl]

I need time away from my bff and it makes me sad to think about it.

I love him to pieces, and we've been eachothers lifeline for years and years, but it can be so hard to be around him. Im sure Im not that easy to be around either, but at least I like to have fun.

He's anal about everything, and a complete neat freak. Im pretty chill and couldnt care less about washing my hands a bajillion times a day.

I never seem to do anything right by him. I cant load the dishwasher right, I cant cook pasta right, I couldnt even put ice in the cooler the right way (who knew there was a special way to put ice in the cooler??).

And his remarks can be so biting and mean and unfriendly.

Me: Im gonna try to give up soda. I drink waaay too much.
Him: Thats stupid.
Me: Huh?
Him: Why dont you give up something that actually matters?

a few days later...
Me: I havent had soda in 3 days! YAY!
Him: You had an energy drink the other day. Thats basically soda.

Me: I spray painted my boots silver! I love them!!
Him: You look ridiculous. (he was very serious about it, not trying to be funny)

Then he asked to go to Pride weekend in Boston. Im jobless at the moment and money's a bit tight. I told him this. Now he thinks he has the right to question every single purchase I make

GAH! I cant be around him without feeling like shit!

So what you're saying is that you're irritated at your husband and tired of married life? ;)

[GWARrior]

So what you're saying is that you're irritated at your husband and tired of married life? ;)

friends have often commented that we act like we're married :p

[Cors]

friends have often commented that we act like we're married :p

Heh, tell yourself that men (or to a lesser extent, butches) just don't get it sometimes, and continue posting your awesome DIY projects here! ;)

[CleverBomb]

:(:doh:STOP:(:doh:
Hammertime.

-Rusty

[JohnWylde]

and I am sooo sad I am not there!

But I do love Renee's new profile


lil john


I am sad bcause he still is not here:(

[Mini]

I can't get a date to save my life.

I love living in a relatively isolated mountain community, but it does make certain things nigh-on impossible.

[mergirl]

I can't get a date to save my life.

I love living in a relatively isolated mountain community, but it does make certain things nigh-on impossible.
But, i'll bet the higher altitude makes masturbation slighty more exhilarating.

[sirumberto]

Know what? I'm refusing to be sad right now. That's right, screw you sad. I don't need you.

[BarbBBW]

I can't get a date to save my life.

I love living in a relatively isolated mountain community, but it does make certain things nigh-on impossible.

If YOU can't get a date,.. the world is in serious trouble!!

[Mathias]

I live kind of a dull life... :(

[BarbBBW]

I live kind of a dull life... :(

me too babe ,... me too!! Gotta make it interesting somehow! go cause some trouble! thats what I always do! :)

[sirumberto]

I live kind of a dull life... :(

Dull never lasts. Pretty soon you'll be wishing for dull.

[sirumberto]

A friend of mine suggested getting blackout drunk for just one night to deal with depression. Her idea was that if you can deal with whatever is bothering you with a killer hangover, you can deal with it any other time.

...I gotta see if I did any damage to the bathroom.

[mergirl]

See! my gf disagrees but i totally feel that getting a bit drunk can reprogram your brain in some way. I have done this twice in the past year and a half when i felt a bit clouded and it TOTALLY worked! Though, i might just have been killing off the brain cells that were the ones causing me anoyance. :D. I dont really like the feeling of being steaming drunk, so i guess on the whole i am a poor advocate for scotland!! :(

[BeautifulPoeticDisaster]

my lack of social life.

[GWARrior]

Im sad that my favorite show was just on and when I tried to watch it, my satelite was all "Fuck you bitch, I dont feel like working today!" :(

Yea, it was an episode Ive already seen and I can watch it again online... but thats not the point! :p

[mergirl]

my lack of social life.
Shout up some of the Uk dimmers for a wee night out sometime!! See i choose to have no social life because i prefer foosting away in my study shaking my fist at the pesky children making all the racket outside!! pesky kids!!

[sirumberto]

See! my gf disagrees but i totally feel that getting a bit drunk can reprogram your brain in some way. I have done this twice in the past year and a half when i felt a bit clouded and it TOTALLY worked! Though, i might just have been killing off the brain cells that were the ones causing me anoyance. :D. I dont really like the feeling of being steaming drunk, so i guess on the whole i am a poor advocate for scotland!! :(

We'll see how I feel later today. For now I'm just starting to be able to move without waves of nausea.

I'll keep you posted on the experiment.

[CurvyEm]

The fact that I'm always there for people and never get anything in return. I mean, I don't do things for the reward, I just do what I would want people to do for me if I was in their situation but if I ever need any help or someone to talk to no one is ever there for me.

I'm pretty sick of it. It seems to be every friend that I've ever had. To be honest I don't think they do it to be mean, they're just all self absorbed and put themselves before everyone else.

Which is what I'm going to do too. So from now on everyone can just sod off and if they're in trouble they can just fix it themselves because I will not be saving another person. I will not be listening to people, I won't be lending money or taking friends out to cheer them up and I certainly won't be offering my house out to anyone to live in.

:(

[mergirl]

We'll see how I feel later today. For now I'm just starting to be able to move without waves of nausea.

I'll keep you posted on the experiment.
Oh yeah..Hangovers are not so fun.. Which is why i leave my brain rebooting to just a couple of times a year! Yes keep us updated.

[Ruffie]

I hear you Em. Been seeing that alot around in my life right now also. Thankfully not with my closest friends but alot of coworkers, acquaintances and with the kids I work with. I think extending yourself is never a mistake, but as you have learned its not doing it over and over again for people who do not appreciate it. You are awesome for doing so!

[Ruffie]

I guess whats making me sad is the negativity that others spread around trying to make themselves superior or to gain favors with others. Grow up already - seriously!

[sirumberto]

The fact that I'm always there for people and never get anything in return. I mean, I don't do things for the reward, I just do what I would want people to do for me if I was in their situation but if I ever need any help or someone to talk to no one is ever there for me.

I'm pretty sick of it. It seems to be every friend that I've ever had. To be honest I don't think they do it to be mean, they're just all self absorbed and put themselves before everyone else.

Which is what I'm going to do too. So from now on everyone can just sod off and if they're in trouble they can just fix it themselves because I will not be saving another person. I will not be listening to people, I won't be lending money or taking friends out to cheer them up and I certainly won't be offering my house out to anyone to live in.

:(

I understand the feeling. You can try what I'm trying right now. I feel pretty beat up emotionally and financially from the past couple years, and I'm taking the rest of the year for myself. Don't cut off that part of you forever, just try taking some time for yourself.

[mergirl]

The fact that I'm always there for people and never get anything in return. I mean, I don't do things for the reward, I just do what I would want people to do for me if I was in their situation but if I ever need any help or someone to talk to no one is ever there for me.

I'm pretty sick of it. It seems to be every friend that I've ever had. To be honest I don't think they do it to be mean, they're just all self absorbed and put themselves before everyone else.

Which is what I'm going to do too. So from now on everyone can just sod off and if they're in trouble they can just fix it themselves because I will not be saving another person. I will not be listening to people, I won't be lending money or taking friends out to cheer them up and I certainly won't be offering my house out to anyone to live in.

:(
Friendship has to be reciprocal or you just end up feeling shit and with no energy. I had to cut a few folks out of my life a couple of years ago because they only took from me; My emotional energy, money, time, patience..and so on and gave nothing back in return. I think these kind of people need to learn and the only way they will do so is if you cut them off. Unless they are emotionally retarded in which case they possibly will never get it and you just have to avoid them. I think i have actually got better at spotting energy suckers a mile off and try to avoid them like the plague!!! You need to save your energies for the people who love you and give you energies back.

[Spanky]

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[mergirl]

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wow. A pyramid of sadness!

[Gingembre]

...that I won't be waking up to this again for quite a while :(:

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[bexy]

I'm sooo out of the loop!! When did that happen!?! Oh and sorry you're sad hun, nearly forgot that bit! xx

[GWARrior]

I was watching Gordon Ramsay's The F Word and he had his piggies slaughtered. :( They were electrocuted and then their throats were slit. It was loud and bloody and very upsetting. I cried a lot. even Gordon was having trouble watching.

Im so happy I dont contribute to that.

[BarbBBW]

I was watching Gordon Ramsay's The F Word and he had his piggies slaughtered. :( They were electrocuted and then their throats were slit. It was loud and bloody and very upsetting. I cried a lot. even Gordon was having trouble watching.

Im so happy I dont contribute to that.

yes they had one where he had his sheep killed also!! and ducks too
ITS GROSSSSS

[BarbBBW]

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HMMMMMMMMMMM WHY SO MANY SAD FACES!?
you are Spanky,... be Happy!!

[undrcovrbrothr]

I'm sad because the Amazon will be missing a woman for a while :( I'm with ya, Gingembre!

[Mini]

I love getting shot down for dates.

[GWARrior]

I love getting shot down for dates.

you're asking out the wrong people!

[CurvyEm]

I just wanted to say that I was wrong about my friends.

I needed them the most today and they were there for me. Searching the streets at 6:30am, helping me ring round vets and rescue centres and one even took time out of his work day to make me a load of posters and flyers and got his work friend to deliver them for me.

[disconnectedsmile]

the oppression of Iranian people is making me very sad right now.
but i'm hopeful that this 21st century revolution will provide some kind of salvation.

[mel]

missing my kiddies :(

[Mini]

you're asking out the wrong people!

How do I identify the right people?

[mossystate]

I have no more raspberries. This is a tragedy.

[mergirl]

I have no more raspberries. This is a tragedy.
Sorry, my pain is worse. I had bought strawberries and they were 'in date' and when i went to eat them this morning they were furry!! :( My driver..i mean my girlfriend is off on holiday so i cant even take them back to complain and shout and be an arsehole to the poor help desk people who are on minimum wage and to pretend that i ate them and got sick etc.. i could get a bus but to be frank that is beneath me.. plus its raining. My story of fruity pain just shat right over yours there.. i mean..FURRY STRAWBERRIES!! Its like they are there... they still smell great..but you know you just should never eat furry foods.. goddam society and its food rules!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[JoyJoy]

I have no more raspberries. This is a tragedy.
I read this and didn't take it in the literal sense, but knew right away I was wrong...because Monique with no raspberries left is an impossibility. :p

[KnottyOne]

My favorite teacher from high school passed away the other day. He really helped mold who I am today, so I'm just kind of totally blown away by this. The worst part is I was supposed to grab a drink with him a while ago but we had to cancel and never rescheduled. So yea.... kinda more than bumed out at the moment......

[mossystate]

Sorry, my pain is worse. I had bought strawberries and they were 'in date' and when i went to eat them this morning they were furry!! :( My driver..i mean my girlfriend is off on holiday so i cant even take them back to complain and shout and be an arsehole to the poor help desk people who are on minimum wage and to pretend that i ate them and got sick etc.. i could get a bus but to be frank that is beneath me.. plus its raining. My story of fruity pain just shat right over yours there.. i mean..FURRY STRAWBERRIES!! Its like they are there... they still smell great..but you know you just should never eat furry foods.. goddam society and its food rules!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Get your finger out of your nose....oh, wait, that's me....and CALL THE STORE. Then, when you go back in, they will have your merplaint ( com is off for the day ), and...TA-DA!

Oh, and, what the hell were these things packed in that you could not do that very difficult action of looking at the berries??!!? I say you should experience more pain. What is your home address. I want to send you some shifty looking pineapple.

I read this and didn't take it in the literal sense, but knew right away I was wrong...because Monique with no raspberries left is an impossibility. :p

Me? Huh? What? You sure you have the right person?

:confused:

[mergirl]

Oh, and, what the hell were these things packed in that you could not do that very difficult action of looking at the berries??!!? I say you should experience more pain. What is your home address. I want to send you some shifty looking pineapple.



Mossy:mad:..they got furry overnight on the day BEFORE they were ment to go off!! Well the day they were ment to be sold by!! This shop are shit..here are my complaints.
1-I bought strawberry and bannana smoothies and i drank one and then realised that on the day i bought them they were 2 days out of date!!
2-I bought carrots for a shepherds pie and they went bendy after a day.. Even if this is because of nature.. i shall blame the store..
3-Oh..its a whole cheese incident.. but i need to go cause beth ditto is on tv wearing a purple thing and slagging off rich people..i need to write to her to tell her "Beth, you are hot and i like your dress..but have you really given all your money away to charity?"

Anyway..my adress is:
The Mergirl
The Sea
The Scotland
The UK
The Universe

I await my shifty pinapple with trepidatious squirming excitement!!:happy:
Oh..good idea about calling the store btw!! You americans know your shopping rights.. us in the UK just eat our mouldy fruit and grumble on forums!!

[Surlysomething]

My favorite teacher from high school passed away the other day. He really helped mold who I am today, so I'm just kind of totally blown away by this. The worst part is I was supposed to grab a drink with him a while ago but we had to cancel and never rescheduled. So yea.... kinda more than bumed out at the moment......


I'm sorry you lost your friend. :(

[Ali]

Screwing up at my job *again*

I need to get a mindless job where I cannot make mistakes...my tender heart can't take this.

[Sandie_Zitkus]

I miss our pup Peanut. :(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(

[Gingembre]

My favorite teacher from high school passed away the other day. He really helped mold who I am today, so I'm just kind of totally blown away by this. The worst part is I was supposed to grab a drink with him a while ago but we had to cancel and never rescheduled. So yea.... kinda more than bumed out at the moment......


*hugs* I'm really sorry.

[sirumberto]

I am becoming increasingly aware of my lack of any physical contact with another person, though I'm grateful for the social contact I get here. The little town I'm currently stuck in isn't exactly the best for socializing.

[bexy]

I am sad because I have been let down yet again by someone I love.
I'm sad that I spend too much time, effort and energy on people only to get nothing in return.
I'm sad that I am 36 weeks pregnant and although I have lots of lovely friends, I have no family of my own to share this with.
I'm sad that the girl I call my family is more interested in getting drunk and spending £20 a week on wine than £50 on return flights to Belfast in August, despite promising me she was coming.
I'm sad that she is going to spend money on her friend's baby's christening, but still not come here as promised.
I'm sad that when I tried to talk to her about it she told me I was out of order!!

(She was recently prosecuted for Benefit Fraud and is going to lose her benefits and have to pay the money falsely claimed back. I pity her but it is her own fault! I understand she has no money now, but if she has enough to buy wine and get drunk, and go to see other people's babies, are there no cutbacks anywhere she could make to come and see mine, like promised?!?!?!)

I'm fed up of loving people more than they love me.

And I am fed up of being so desperate to have people to call family that I put up with shit all of the time.

[mergirl]

And I am fed up of being so desperate to have people to call family that I put up with shit all of the time.

George and the bump are your family now. You need to save your energies for them and not on anyone who doesn't give you energies back.

[bexy]

I know they are Mer, it just feels like if god forbid George and I ever broke up or rowed or anything, he would have his rents. I have no one. I know I sound like I am feeling sorry for myself, but I'm just so cross that life is so unfair that I have don't have anyone to call my family.

Maybe I will feel more secure once babba comes along, but at the mo because this girl has let me down, and I have known her like 13 years, I really feel like I just can't trust a single soul, even George. :(

[mergirl]

I know they are Mer, it just feels like if god forbid George and I ever broke up or rowed or anything, he would have his rents. I have no one. I know I sound like I am feeling sorry for myself, but I'm just so cross that life is so unfair that I have don't have anyone to call my family.

Maybe I will feel more secure once babba comes along, but at the mo because this girl has let me down, and I have known her like 13 years, I really feel like I just can't trust a single soul, even George. :(
I think your baby hormones wont be helping either, You must feel all over the place. I can speak from experience and say that even having 'family' doesnt always make you feel secure. I know once your baby comes you will feel better. Your friend is going through her own drama at the moment and it seems like she is acting a bit self obsessed, it doesn't mean she loves you any less. She has let you down and i think you were right in telling her how she made you feel. Is there no way she can work out a way of saving to come see you. There is a legal amount the government have to give you to live on even if you are paying stuff back..so maby she can work something out. Sorry to hear you are feeling like this..

[BarbBBW]

I know they are Mer, it just feels like if god forbid George and I ever broke up or rowed or anything, he would have his rents. I have no one. I know I sound like I am feeling sorry for myself, but I'm just so cross that life is so unfair that I have don't have anyone to call my family.

Maybe I will feel more secure once babba comes along, but at the mo because this girl has let me down, and I have known her like 13 years, I really feel like I just can't trust a single soul, even George. :(

*BIG HUGS* I am sorry hunny, you are feeling sad and dealing with this shit right now. sometimes people SUCK and its usually when we need them the most. But things will get better! Keep being positive and relaxed , as much as possible!:kiss2:

[bexy]

*BIG HUGS* I am sorry hunny, you are feeling sad and dealing with this shit right now. sometimes people SUCK and its usually when we need them the most. But things will get better! Keep being positive and relaxed , as much as possible!:kiss2:

Thanks Barb :) xo

[cinnamitch]

I am sad because I have been let down yet again by someone I love.
I'm sad that I spend too much time, effort and energy on people only to get nothing in return.
I'm sad that I am 36 weeks pregnant and although I have lots of lovely friends, I have no family of my own to share this with.
I'm sad that the girl I call my family is more interested in getting drunk and spending £20 a week on wine than £50 on return flights to Belfast in August, despite promising me she was coming.
I'm sad that she is going to spend money on her friend's baby's christening, but still not come here as promised.
I'm sad that when I tried to talk to her about it she told me I was out of order!!

(She was recently prosecuted for Benefit Fraud and is going to lose her benefits and have to pay the money falsely claimed back. I pity her but it is her own fault! I understand she has no money now, but if she has enough to buy wine and get drunk, and go to see other people's babies, are there no cutbacks anywhere she could make to come and see mine, like promised?!?!?!)

I'm fed up of loving people more than they love me.

And I am fed up of being so desperate to have people to call family that I put up with shit all of the time.

Bexy you don't know me from Adam so what i say might or might not mean a whole lot. You have so many surrogate family members on this site and many of us can even be your surrogate mom. My own daughter is due with her second baby at nearly the same time you are and often when im thinking of her due date , you pop into my mind as well and i wonder how you are doing and how you are handling the upcoming event. I come from a small family , the only child of an only child. I was not close to my mom, my grandparents died before most of my kids were born so it was just me and my ex. No family on my side at all. I promise you that the child you carry will be the filler to the hole in your heart. You will have your family , the child will be the center of your universe until you die. Plus you have us here at Dims, moms, dads, uncles, aunts, bratty brothers and sisters and even grandparents. No we are'nt there physically but we are there through this amazing technology. Webcams, microphones, telephones, i mean can you imagine how big your family really is? Please focus on the one inside you and the one beside you. They and we are in your corner and waiting for you to share your life with us. Heck i can always use more grandchildren.

[sugar and spice]

This is beautifully said, and I agree 100%. Bexy we are all here for you and very happy and excited for you and George.:wubu:

[JoyJoy]

A little over a year ago, I answered an ad on the local Freecycle from a woman who was wanting to find a home for her cat. I called the lady and we talked a bit, then made arrangements to meet, and for me to meet the cat. We ended up talking for over an hour about stuff, and found out that she is a business associate of one of my best friends - small world. I took the cat, but she has called every few months to check on him, and brought her 6 yr old daughter over to see him and play with him a couple of times (he was her daughter's first cat and they only gave him to me because they had to move and couldn't take him with them). She was always very upbeat and cheerful..just a pleasant person to know.

I just found out that she and her daughter were found dead (http://www.katv.com/news/stories/0609/632848.html#commentsform) yesterday, both shot to death. They're saying that she killed her daughter, and then herself. Everyone who knew her, though, is saying that's impossible. Her closest friends just can't believe that this woman could have done something like this. That very morning, she was cheerful and laughing with her friends...and then this. Everyone I've talked to who knew her said it just feels very fishy. It's all so very heartbreaking. :(

[Surlysomething]

A little over a year ago, I answered an ad on the local Freecycle from a woman who was wanting to find a home for her cat. I called the lady and we talked a bit, then made arrangements to meet, and for me to meet the cat. We ended up talking for over an hour about stuff, and found out that she is a business associate of one of my best friends - small world. I took the cat, but she has called every few months to check on him, and brought her 6 yr old daughter over to see him and play with him a couple of times (he was her daughter's first cat and they only gave him to me because they had to move and couldn't take him with them). She was always very upbeat and cheerful..just a pleasant person to know.

I just found out that she and her daughter were found dead (http://www.katv.com/news/stories/0609/632848.html#commentsform) yesterday, both shot to death. They're saying that she killed her daughter, and then herself. Everyone who knew her, though, is saying that's impossible. Her closest friends just can't believe that this woman could have done something like this. That very morning, she was cheerful and laughing with her friends...and then this. Everyone I've talked to who knew her said it just feels very fishy. It's all so very heartbreaking. :(

Oh hell, Joy, that's so awful. :( I hope they come up with some real answers fast. It really does sound fishy.

So sorry.

[ladle]

So little time left in the US..:mad:
But off to Europe is a small consolation :happy:

[bexy]

Bexy you don't know me from Adam so what i say might or might not mean a whole lot. You have so many surrogate family members on this site and many of us can even be your surrogate mom. My own daughter is due with her second baby at nearly the same time you are and often when im thinking of her due date , you pop into my mind as well and i wonder how you are doing and how you are handling the upcoming event. I come from a small family , the only child of an only child. I was not close to my mom, my grandparents died before most of my kids were born so it was just me and my ex. No family on my side at all. I promise you that the child you carry will be the filler to the hole in your heart. You will have your family , the child will be the center of your universe until you die. Plus you have us here at Dims, moms, dads, uncles, aunts, bratty brothers and sisters and even grandparents. No we are'nt there physically but we are there through this amazing technology. Webcams, microphones, telephones, i mean can you imagine how big your family really is? Please focus on the one inside you and the one beside you. They and we are in your corner and waiting for you to share your life with us. Heck i can always use more grandchildren.

This is beautifully said, and I agree 100%. Bexy we are all here for you and very happy and excited for you and George.:wubu:


Thank you both so, so much. xox

A little over a year ago, I answered an ad on the local Freecycle from a woman who was wanting to find a home for her cat. I called the lady and we talked a bit, then made arrangements to meet, and for me to meet the cat. We ended up talking for over an hour about stuff, and found out that she is a business associate of one of my best friends - small world. I took the cat, but she has called every few months to check on him, and brought her 6 yr old daughter over to see him and play with him a couple of times (he was her daughter's first cat and they only gave him to me because they had to move and couldn't take him with them). She was always very upbeat and cheerful..just a pleasant person to know.

I just found out that she and her daughter were found dead (http://www.katv.com/news/stories/0609/632848.html#commentsform) yesterday, both shot to death. They're saying that she killed her daughter, and then herself. Everyone who knew her, though, is saying that's impossible. Her closest friends just can't believe that this woman could have done something like this. That very morning, she was cheerful and laughing with her friends...and then this. Everyone I've talked to who knew her said it just feels very fishy. It's all so very heartbreaking. :(

Joy that is so awful. I am so sorry. Hopefully they will get to the bottom of it all soon. x

[sugar and spice]

A little over a year ago, I answered an ad on the local Freecycle from a woman who was wanting to find a home for her cat. I called the lady and we talked a bit, then made arrangements to meet, and for me to meet the cat. We ended up talking for over an hour about stuff, and found out that she is a business associate of one of my best friends - small world. I took the cat, but she has called every few months to check on him, and brought her 6 yr old daughter over to see him and play with him a couple of times (he was her daughter's first cat and they only gave him to me because they had to move and couldn't take him with them). She was always very upbeat and cheerful..just a pleasant person to know.

I just found out that she and her daughter were found dead (http://www.katv.com/news/stories/0609/632848.html#commentsform) yesterday, both shot to death. They're saying that she killed her daughter, and then herself. Everyone who knew her, though, is saying that's impossible. Her closest friends just can't believe that this woman could have done something like this. That very morning, she was cheerful and laughing with her friends...and then this. Everyone I've talked to who knew her said it just feels very fishy. It's all so very heartbreaking. :(

This is so tragic, It just boggles the mind if indeed it was a murder suicide.

[mel]

I really miss my daughter.

[BarbBBW]

I really miss my daughter.

aww Mel I am sorry to hear that :(
you can borrow mine!! she is 7 and really cute!

[mel]

aww Mel I am sorry to hear that :(
you can borrow mine!! she is 7 and really cute!


:) aww thanks!! as long as she isnt a teen yet that will work ..lol. Luckily I will get see her in about 4 weeks.

*being a mother is the hardest job in the world*

[sirumberto]

Despite the fact that I've had weeks to brace for this, I'm still feeling like I'm in shock.

Pending the paperwork, my marriage of 5+ years is over.

I'm not sure why I'm even bringing this up here, but it certainly fits the theme of the thread.

Umm... yeah. Thanks for listening... or reading... or whatever. :(

[OneWickedAngel]

Despite the fact that I've had weeks to brace for this, I'm still feeling like I'm in shock.

Pending the paperwork, my marriage of 5+ years is over.

I'm not sure why I'm even bringing this up here, but it certainly fits the theme of the thread.

Umm... yeah. Thanks for listening... or reading... or whatever. :(


Umberto,

For whatever reasons your marriage ended, it did in fact END. Almost any ending between two people is going to be tinged with some level of loss, even when "it is for the best". You have every right to feel to feel the sadness of that loss and this was perfect thread to say it.

[mergirl]

On Monday i was walking along the shore with my Friend and her mum and wee sister who were visiting from sweden. We saw a seagull who was lying on the street bleeding and struggling to get up. I called the S.S.P.C.A to come and help it. I waited two hours for them to come. I gave it water, defended it from passing dogs and gave it healing energies and also got anoyed at all the people who said just to kill it and put it in the bin. Eventually the animal ambulance came and took it away. Yesterday My friend txd me and asked how the bird was because i said i would call the animal sanctuary and find out. I never lie but her wee sister is only 8 and i didnt want to make her upset so i said that he just had a broken wing and would heal soon and be back with his friends soon. I found out today that he had to be put to sleep. I can't tell my friend..and i don't know why i felt so sad. Maby it was because When i found the bird someone said "oh yeah i saw that being hit by a car 3 hours ago"!! Sometimes I feel like i could give up on humans!! I cryed a bit.. also i feel weird for lying because i never do... My friends wee sister was just so happy that she might have saved an animals life i just couldnt say.. "well actually he died".. I think also, out of all the problems this is a small thing.. but it made me sad today anyway..

[furious styles]

i managed to throw my back out incredibly bad somehow. can't .. move ..

[mossystate]

Aw, mer...that is heartbreaking, and outrageous that nobody did anything. :(

That little birdie had you on its side for a few hours. That had to have comforted him.... a lot. You are good people.

[BarbBBW]

I miss chatting with a certain SOMONE who is BUSY!! uGH:(

[mel]

Despite the fact that I've had weeks to brace for this, I'm still feeling like I'm in shock.

Pending the paperwork, my marriage of 5+ years is over.

I'm not sure why I'm even bringing this up here, but it certainly fits the theme of the thread.

Umm... yeah. Thanks for listening... or reading... or whatever. :(


I'm sorry :( I know it is hard but you have try to keep positive and know that there is someone else out there for you and you will be loved. I hope you have great friends and a supportive family/network :)

i managed to throw my back out incredibly bad somehow. can't .. move ..

Ouch!! so sorry to hear this. Try to get some rest and I hope this gets better really soon!

I miss chatting with a certain SOMONE who is BUSY!! uGH:(


Maybe that someone will have an opening in the bust schedule and chat ya up soon :)

[BarbBBW]

I

Maybe that someone will have an opening in the bust schedule and chat ya up soon :)
aww thank you hunny! you are the best! i hope so

[chocolate desire]

I am sad because someone I care about very much just does not seem to notice it or perhaps they simply don't care:(

[OneWickedAngel]

On Monday i was walking along the shore with my Friend and her mum and wee sister who were visiting from sweden. We saw a seagull who was lying on the street bleeding and struggling to get up.
...snip...
.. I think also, out of all the problems this is a small thing.. but it made me sad today anyway..
Some members of the human race are truly not worthy of the title. Mer you did the right thing on all counts. There's going to enough ugliness coming to that little girl as a natural part of life. On Monday she learned something more important. How a human being is suppose to act, respect and care for a living being in need. Someday much later you may tell her the truth, or she may figure it out on her own. For now, she can do without it. You put a lot of yourself into trying to comfort and save the bird. You're untitled to your anger at the uncaring members of our species as you are of the overall sadness for it.

i managed to throw my back out incredibly bad somehow. can't .. move ..
Damn, I'm pressuming you've been given something. I hope you feel better - at least functional - fast.

I miss chatting with a certain SOMONE who is BUSY!! uGH:(

Awww, poor thing.

[thejuicyone]

I'm sad that I don't see OWA around as much as I used too, mainly when we flirted with each other though. ;):p

[sirumberto]

I'm sorry :( I know it is hard but you have try to keep positive and know that there is someone else out there for you and you will be loved. I hope you have great friends and a supportive family/network :)


Thanks for the kind words. I do have a great support network actually. I have a wonderful friend who is doing her level best to keep me busy, and a mother who is doing the whole motherly thing and making sure I eat, etc.

I know I'll be alright. It just hit me pretty hard this morning.

[Paquito]

I'm sad because I truly feel alone in this world, despite the amazing friends I have. Even though I love them dearly, not a day goes by that I feel guarded and incapable of letting someone actually get to know all of me, not just the surface. I guess I feel like no one will care.

I fear that I don't have what it takes to make it in this world and I'm gonna fail at college, work, etc.

And the one I love will never feel the same about me.

[steely]

Feeling underappreciated.....

[LoveBHMS]

Awful abandonment issues.

Unrequited love.

Losses of friendship.

[Red_Men]

I am sad because I fell in love with an FFA that opened my heart up to the bright side of being fat, and she can't love me back because she doesn't want to try any relationship with any sort of distance after her previous one. I went to her house yesterday and I held her for several hours, and I felt happy, then when I went home and thought about how she doesn't love me back, I felt like shit. She is home for the summer from college, and I am attending a local one, and I should hopefully be going to the same school as her in the spring or the following school year at the latest. But until then, I am to be all alone with my thoughts and my shitty pillows that don't feel like her or smell like her or do anything to help fill the void. And that's enough womanly garbage from me for now. That is why I am sad.

[mergirl]

I am sad because I fell in love with an FFA that opened my heart up to the bright side of being fat, and she can't love me back because she doesn't want to try any relationship with any sort of distance after her previous one. I went to her house yesterday and I held her for several hours, and I felt happy, then when I went home and thought about how she doesn't love me back, I felt like shit. She is home for the summer from college, and I am attending a local one, and I should hopefully be going to the same school as her in the spring or the following school year at the latest. But until then, I am to be all alone with my thoughts and my shitty pillows that don't feel like her or smell like her or do anything to help fill the void. And that's enough womanly garbage from me for now. That is why I am sad.
You will find someone much better soon i promise! There are Lots of FFa's here that are total sluts so just take your pic! :D lmao
only joking ladies..




shhhh...not really..

[Cors]

Saying goodbye to a substantial chunk of the wardrobe I once worked so hard for...

No point keeping fun colours and super-feminine styles I will never wear, slutty hostess gowns and dominatrix gear, other items that I have clearly grown out of or are too big to be properly altered, gifts from people I no longer love and generally stuff that deserve to be shown off more.

[debz-aka]

The job market it making me crazy sad! I've been unemployed since January and right now I feel like my B.A. is the equivalent of a high school diploma! Crazy sad times!

[Red_Men]

You will find someone much better soon i promise! There are Lots of FFa's here that are total sluts so just take your pic! :D lmao
only joking ladies..




shhhh...not really..

if only i could believe that :(

[BarbBBW]

if only i could believe that :(

me me me me:bounce: she is right! I am a total slut,.. but I am married :( sorry:doh:

[Red_Men]

ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[luscious_lulu]

She is a shameless flirt and a lot of fun though....:)
Both are qualities I greatly admire

[Tania]

I am a fearful, cold, unresponsive fantasy-ruiner. I fail at relationships. I even fail at the rebound. Or maybe these things fail me - I'm still too close to the eye of the proverbial emo shitstorm to have much perspective at the moment.

Worst of all is the continual rediscovery that love is rarer than we lead ourselves to believe and that desire is rampant, dangerous, and leads people (mainly boys) to say and do shit they regret later. And that still fucking hurts my goddamn feelings, even though I should probably know better by now after 22 years of near perpetual disappointment. Why do emotions have to be so damn complicated? Why do I always feel like I have to apologize for giving a shit? This is madness.

It also makes me sad and angry that I'm enough of a douchebag to whine about it all on the internet, but if I didn't need some sort of semi-anonymous venting mechanism, I promise I wouldn't have posted this shit. I was kind of hoping I'd be over all this by now, but I'm not.

Sorry. I guess I fail at that too.

[Red_Men]

I am a fearful, cold, unresponsive fantasy-ruiner. I fail at relationships. I even fail at the rebound. Or maybe these things fail me - I'm still too close to the eye of the proverbial emo shitstorm to have much perspective at the moment.

Worst of all is the continual rediscovery that love is rarer than we lead ourselves to believe and that desire is rampant, dangerous, and leads people (mainly boys) to say and do shit they regret later. And that still fucking hurts my goddamn feelings, even though I should probably know better by now after 22 years of near perpetual disappointment. Why do emotions have to be so damn complicated? Why do I always feel like I have to apologize for giving a shit? This is madness.

It also makes me sad and angry that I'm enough of a douchebag to whine about it all on the internet, but if I didn't need some sort of semi-anonymous venting mechanism, I promise I wouldn't have posted this shit. I was kind of hoping I'd be over all this by now, but I'm not.

Sorry. I guess I fail at that too.


<3 my female counterpart

[Paquito]

I am a fearful, cold, unresponsive fantasy-ruiner. I fail at relationships. I even fail at the rebound. Or maybe these things fail me - I'm still too close to the eye of the proverbial emo shitstorm to have much perspective at the moment.

Worst of all is the continual rediscovery that love is rarer than we lead ourselves to believe and that desire is rampant, dangerous, and leads people (mainly boys) to say and do shit they regret later. And that still fucking hurts my goddamn feelings, even though I should probably know better by now after 22 years of near perpetual disappointment. Why do emotions have to be so damn complicated? Why do I always feel like I have to apologize for giving a shit? This is madness.

It also makes me sad and angry that I'm enough of a douchebag to whine about it all on the internet, but if I didn't need some sort of semi-anonymous venting mechanism, I promise I wouldn't have posted this shit. I was kind of hoping I'd be over all this by now, but I'm not.

Sorry. I guess I fail at that too.

+1

Sometimes I wish I could just turn off my emotions :(

[mergirl]

I felt like that for a long time too..less so now..Though i have been told i am too emotional. I think its better to feel and for it to hurt than to not feel and to feel the same everyday though. Though, when i used to feel particularaly up and down i might have thought differently.

[BarbBBW]

I am a fearful, cold, unresponsive fantasy-ruiner. I fail at relationships. I even fail at the rebound. Or maybe these things fail me - I'm still too close to the eye of the proverbial emo shitstorm to have much perspective at the moment.

Worst of all is the continual rediscovery that love is rarer than we lead ourselves to believe and that desire is rampant, dangerous, and leads people (mainly boys) to say and do shit they regret later. And that still fucking hurts my goddamn feelings, even though I should probably know better by now after 22 years of near perpetual disappointment. Why do emotions have to be so damn complicated? Why do I always feel like I have to apologize for giving a shit? This is madness.

It also makes me sad and angry that I'm enough of a douchebag to whine about it all on the internet, but if I didn't need some sort of semi-anonymous venting mechanism, I promise I wouldn't have posted this shit. I was kind of hoping I'd be over all this by now, but I'm not.

Sorry. I guess I fail at that too.

<3 my female counterpart

Both of you need to STOP dating people, and start looking within yourself. Explore yourselves completely. Find out what it is that makes you happy, what in a mate makes you happy. STart by Loving yourselves, respecting yourselves and realize how wonderful , as a person, you are. I believe before dating anyone, you need to connect with "you" first. Once you see all the goodness in yourselves, and you can express that thru your walk, talk, the way you poise yourself, in pure confidence,.... I know the interactions with the opposite sex will improve. You can be gorgeous on the outside, but if you dont know how awesome you really are on the inside, it doesnt matter. Allow yourselves to be in a great relationship. Start working on "YOU" from the inside :)

[Red_Men]

I don't ever date people, I have only been on a handful of dates my entire life due to me somewhat despising such an activity, and I already know I'm a great person and that I spread my awesomeness to women I talk to by being the best guy they have ever met but won't ever have due to them either already being taken, not liking fat guys, or being too stupid to see what a good deal they have come across. I am only depressed over this one person you see, that is quite fucked up in the head, and it has spread to me now.

[leener38]

While I feel I'm too old to indulge in fantasies about perfect dates, I still want one. And lemme tell ya: Online dating is not for me!

What makes me sad right now? Someone I thought a friend just got laid off. To make matters worse, she blames me and our boss, rather than the corporate machine that churned out a letter saying her position should be terminated. Not she herself; they didn't call her by name. But she thinks it was personal. Then I get to hear from elsewhere that she's upset I got to keep my job.

I want nothing but to stuff myself for the three days I have off work, now I'm a little too depressed and self-conscious to do it. That should be a motivator, right?

*sigh*

[leener38]

Mmm. Yes. Dating bad. Eating good!

[mossystate]

I don't ever date people, I have only been on a handful of dates my entire life due to me somewhat despising such an activity, and I already know I'm a great person and that I spread my awesomeness to women I talk to by being the best guy they have ever met but won't ever have due to them either already being taken, not liking fat guys, or being too stupid to see what a good deal they have come across. I am only depressed over this one person you see, that is quite fucked up in the head, and it has spread to me now.

You should know that quality women are not impressed by men who crow about being the best any woman could hope for ( she is the one who decides who is best )..and calling those women stupid...not a move that will get you dates.

[Red_Men]

Do you honestly think I tell them up front how great I am? I let them figure that out on their own just by talking to me, and as I already said, not really one for dating, it's a waste of time in my own opinion

[mossystate]

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.

[Red_Men]

hmmmmm ? ? ? ? ?

[OneWickedAngel]

Do you honestly think I tell them up front how great I am? I let them figure that out on their own just by talking to me, and as I already said, not really one for dating, it's a waste of time in my own opinion
A healthy ego and confidence in yourself are fine, but wow:rolleyes:. Is there any room left to find something awesome with someone else when you're so in love with your own awesomeness?