BBW Confessions thread

[calauria]

I've noticed that when I say things here, the things that hurt and torment me, they start to get better so I'm sharing this here so the feeling can go away already.

I'm obsessed. I obsess rarely - I'm generally an easy going girl - but when I do obsess it just gets ugly. Last week a beautiful young man started working with me on a project. He's based in the US but is in SA for 6 months while we get it off the ground. He is everything I ever wanted. EVERYTHING!!!!! He's smart and thoughtful, creative, so talented, funny. He's all long, lean lines of muscle and smiling eyes. I want him so very, very badly. I just ache for him with every particle of my stupid fat girl body :( When he's around its like I'm smothered in hot, lust filled water, all sticky ooze of just unreasoning want. I can't think around him, he probably thinks I'm a complete bimbo, and I know I don't stand a chance with him. I KNOW this - painfully, utterly, hopelessly do I know this and yet my body and my heart are refusing to let go of this...thing. I can't even call it a crush cos I've done things in the short time I've known him that I am not proud of...creepy things *blushes* So this weekend I met another guy - a really nice guy, goodlooking too - and I, ofcourse, feel nothing :doh:. I'm going out with him Wednesday night but I don't want to. I want to stay home with my fevered imaginings of Mr Untouchable. I want to live in the fantasy of his lips and skin on mine, of his words in my ear and his rough, delicious laugh in my ears. I'm a fucking mess right now. This unrequited bullshit is for the birds. Dear God please can you make me fall for people I can have and not long in agonizing futility for the ones that will never want me back *cries*

Girlina, the story of my life!!! I know exactly how you feel!! *hugs*

[hal84]

I confess that I'm desperately unhappy and have no where to go from here.

Hope all is well and you can smile again!

[Tania]

I confess that I went through old pictures of myself tonight, and I was actually pretty pleased with how I looked! That's kind of a first. :D

[LovelyLiz]

I confess that I went through old pictures of myself tonight, and I was actually pretty pleased with how I looked! That's kind of a first. :D

That's a really lovely pic! Glad you can see it too. :)

[Tania]

Thanks, doll. :*

[Jes]

My boyfriend is a cuckoo bird.

[Tau]

My boyfriend is a cuckoo bird.

:p Elaborate woman!!

[Tau]

I confess that I went through old pictures of myself tonight, and I was actually pretty pleased with how I looked! That's kind of a first. :D

I agree - seriously adorable pic right there

[LovelyLiz]

My boyfriend is a cuckoo bird.

I'm not sure how I feel about inter-species relationships...

[whome]

I/C that I have set myself up for disappointment yet again. Met a fellow online who I thought had lots of potential. He wanted to go on a date and I said sure as long as it was not something naughty. He did not write back as quick as he had in the past so I flat out asked him if he was looking to date or just to have sex. Surprise surprise he was willing to date me, take a walk on the beach, head to star bucks for a coffee and then head home for sex - on the first date.

So I am not planning on having sex with him, should I meet him for the date part and then leave from starbucks or is that just going to be disaster???

[MizzSnakeBite]

I'm not sure how I feel about inter-species relationships...

Scrabble and I have a fabulous relationship. Best and longest one!

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P.S. Whome.....I get a bad feeling from that. You told him outright you aren't having sex with him then, and he didn't respect that.

[littlefairywren]

Scrabble and I have a fabulous relationship. Best and longest one!

85557

There's my boy!!! Look at him....sooo cute :wubu:

[LovelyLiz]

Scrabble and I have a fabulous relationship. Best and longest one!

85557

LOL...I knew someone was going to post something like this. ;) I thought of it just now when I was out for a walk. Let's say, inter-species romantic relationships. You and Scrabble keep it pretty platonic, right? :p

[Punkin1024]

Yup, Scrabble is a cutie!

[LovelyLiz]

I/C that I have set myself up for disappointment yet again. Met a fellow online who I thought had lots of potential. He wanted to go on a date and I said sure as long as it was not something naughty. He did not write back as quick as he had in the past so I flat out asked him if he was looking to date or just to have sex. Surprise surprise he was willing to date me, take a walk on the beach, head to star bucks for a coffee and then head home for sex - on the first date.

So I am not planning on having sex with him, should I meet him for the date part and then leave from starbucks or is that just going to be disaster???

If you're looking for a real relationship, my advice is don't bother with this guy.

[mossystate]

Scrabble and I have a fabulous relationship. Best and longest one!

85557

Be honest. Is he the only guy that crapped on newspaper?

[MizzSnakeBite]

There's my boy!!! Look at him....sooo cute :wubu:

As The Baby says, "I agree!"

LOL...I knew someone was going to post something like this. ;) I thought of it just now when I was out for a walk. Let's say, inter-species romantic relationships. You and Scrabble keep it pretty platonic, right? :p

Welllllll........I'll tell you a secret, when breeding season hits, parrots often want a romantic relationship with their people. I decline his advances. lol

Yup, Scrabble is a cutie!

Scrabbie "tank ewes" :D

[mossystate]

I/C that I have set myself up for disappointment yet again. Met a fellow online who I thought had lots of potential. He wanted to go on a date and I said sure as long as it was not something naughty. He did not write back as quick as he had in the past so I flat out asked him if he was looking to date or just to have sex. Surprise surprise he was willing to date me, take a walk on the beach, head to star bucks for a coffee and then head home for sex - on the first date.

So I am not planning on having sex with him, should I meet him for the date part and then leave from starbucks or is that just going to be disaster???

Sounds like you both want to convince the other. In other words, it is already a disaster-ish situation.

[LovelyLiz]

Welllllll........I'll tell you a secret, when breeding season hits, parrots often want a romantic relationship with their people. I decline his advances. lol

Even after a few glasses of wine? ;) JK. Lovely bird. :)

[MizzSnakeBite]

Be honest. Is he the only guy that crapped on newspaper?

Welllllllllllll.......since you're requesting I'm honest, there was the one dude that wanted to crap on me. :eek: I declined....vehemently. lol

[MizzSnakeBite]

Even after a few glasses of wine? ;) JK. Lovely bird. :)

Thanks. :)

TBH, he's more than lovely :)

[CarlaSixx]

IC I let my family get to me today. My brother and mother ganged up on me and called me good for nothing and a wasting loser. I just broke down and avoided my mother for 4 hours because of it. I'd avoid her longer but she always demands things from me late at night.

I wish I could prove them wrong but I've got nothing.

[calauria]

IC I let my family get to me today. My brother and mother ganged up on me and called me good for nothing and a wasting loser. I just broke down and avoided my mother for 4 hours because of it. I'd avoid her longer but she always demands things from me late at night.

I wish I could prove them wrong but I've got nothing.

I think you really need to get away from your family......

[CarlaSixx]

I think you really need to get away from your family......

I truly do. I have no ressources, though. I've looked into doing it and look at websites daily for jobs and housing in other cities... There's nothing for me :(

[thirtiesgirl]

I/C that I have set myself up for disappointment yet again. Met a fellow online who I thought had lots of potential. He wanted to go on a date and I said sure as long as it was not something naughty. He did not write back as quick as he had in the past so I flat out asked him if he was looking to date or just to have sex. Surprise surprise he was willing to date me, take a walk on the beach, head to star bucks for a coffee and then head home for sex - on the first date.

So I am not planning on having sex with him, should I meet him for the date part and then leave from starbucks or is that just going to be disaster???

He wants to have sex with you for the price of a cup of coffee. Is this what you want? If not, don't date him.

[Mishty]

I feel like such a Republican right now. :blink:
I'm disgusted.

[CastingPearls]

I feel like such a Republican right now. :blink:
I'm disgusted.
Your avatar is making me LMAO.

IC I'm wondering when in all this worry and issues there will be time for me in his life. <impatient but not going anywhere>

[Jes]

:p Elaborate woman!!

Just cuckoo! But not an actual bird like MissSnake's BF. :)

[mossystate]

I just placed an order for 75 pairs of ear plugs.

[fat9276]

I/C that I have set myself up for disappointment yet again. Met a fellow online who I thought had lots of potential. He wanted to go on a date and I said sure as long as it was not something naughty. He did not write back as quick as he had in the past so I flat out asked him if he was looking to date or just to have sex. Surprise surprise he was willing to date me, take a walk on the beach, head to star bucks for a coffee and then head home for sex - on the first date.

So I am not planning on having sex with him, should I meet him for the date part and then leave from starbucks or is that just going to be disaster???


he is honestly admitting that he would and wants to have sex on the 1st date (with some other things thrown in, probably to wine and dine you-warm you up)... you said "not something naughty", so.... there's your answer!

[luscious_lulu]

I just placed an order for 75 pairs of ear plugs.

Ummmmm why?

[MizzSnakeBite]

Ummmmm why?

Her cat snores loudly.

:(

[mossystate]

Ummmmm why?

Doesn't everybody buy dozens of ear plugs? OK...all the stores I look in have discontinued my favorite brand, so I had to find them online...and they were a good deal. I am all excited to get them. Don't judge me. :D

Her cat snores loudly.

:(

Mr. Bucky is NEVER allowed in my bedroom at night...or during the day for that matter. He is on the couch behind me...lightly snoring. lol I have been told I snore...loudly. I simply will not believe it!!! ;)

[whome]

Sounds like you both want to convince the other. In other words, it is already a disaster-ish situation.


You are so right. We spent days trying to convince the other. Me dating him fwb. No good for me. Finally decided to be done with it and blocked him. I am so waiting for intimacy I was willing to take my chances with an inappropriate jerk. But what a cutie was he. Good body. Great eyes. Accent. Blarg.

Thanks to the few ladies on here that responded:)

[Sweet Tooth]

IC I miss my kitty something fierce. It's hard to sleep at night without her little noises and movements throughout the house. Yet I wasn't sleeping well before I had to put her to sleep, either, because I'd worry about her too much. I dreaded having to leave her for work every day, just hating to leave her all alone... so a part of me is overwhelmingly relieved about not seeing her decline either. And I'm so grateful that there are still vets who will make house calls so she could go peacefully at home with me there and on her favorite pillows.

<sigh>

[littlefairywren]

IC I miss my kitty something fierce. It's hard to sleep at night without her little noises and movements throughout the house. Yet I wasn't sleeping well before I had to put her to sleep, either, because I'd worry about her too much. I dreaded having to leave her for work every day, just hating to leave her all alone... so a part of me is overwhelmingly relieved about not seeing her decline either. And I'm so grateful that there are still vets who will make house calls so she could go peacefully at home with me there and on her favorite pillows.

<sigh>

I am so sorry about your wee kitty, ST. Soft hugs.

[MizzSnakeBite]

IC I miss my kitty something fierce. It's hard to sleep at night without her little noises and movements throughout the house. Yet I wasn't sleeping well before I had to put her to sleep, either, because I'd worry about her too much. I dreaded having to leave her for work every day, just hating to leave her all alone... so a part of me is overwhelmingly relieved about not seeing her decline either. And I'm so grateful that there are still vets who will make house calls so she could go peacefully at home with me there and on her favorite pillows.

<sigh>

(((hugs)))

[jewels_mystery]

IC I miss my kitty something fierce. It's hard to sleep at night without her little noises and movements throughout the house. Yet I wasn't sleeping well before I had to put her to sleep, either, because I'd worry about her too much. I dreaded having to leave her for work every day, just hating to leave her all alone... so a part of me is overwhelmingly relieved about not seeing her decline either. And I'm so grateful that there are still vets who will make house calls so she could go peacefully at home with me there and on her favorite pillows.

<sigh>

My heart goes out to you. I know how it feels to loose a pet. {{hugs}}

[jewels_mystery]

You are so right. We spent days trying to convince the other. Me dating him fwb. No good for me. Finally decided to be done with it and blocked him. I am so waiting for intimacy I was willing to take my chances with an inappropriate jerk. But what a cutie was he. Good body. Great eyes. Accent. Blarg.

Thanks to the few ladies on here that responded:)

You deserve better. Thankfully he was upfront and you are not going to waste any more time on him.

[jdsumm]

IC I miss my kitty something fierce. It's hard to sleep at night without her little noises and movements throughout the house. Yet I wasn't sleeping well before I had to put her to sleep, either, because I'd worry about her too much. I dreaded having to leave her for work every day, just hating to leave her all alone... so a part of me is overwhelmingly relieved about not seeing her decline either. And I'm so grateful that there are still vets who will make house calls so she could go peacefully at home with me there and on her favorite pillows.

<sigh>

(((HUGS)))

[Tania]

Oh, kitty. :( I'm so sorry.

I know I'll be an absolute wreck when Francine goes. She's pretty much my everything.

[thirtiesgirl]

Hugs, Sweet. My kitties are my babies and I don't know how I could be without one. Deepest sympathies.

IC I hate my annoying neighbors who moved out 3 weeks ago almost as much as if they were still here. They left their basketball hoop behind - the kind that comes on a stand with a base - and the thing is in everybody's way in our carport area. It always has been, but when the neighbors lived here, everyone tolerated it. Now that they're gone and didn't take the b-ball hoop with them, or have it hauled away, I decided to call 1-800-Got-Junk to get the thing gone. Come to find out, Got Junk charges a $119 minimum to haul any item, no matter how big or small. Since it's the neighbors' b-ball hoop and not mine, I was willing to pay, at most, $10-$15, but certainly not $119. So I had to send the 1-800-Got-Junk guys away. F-ing rude neighbors, leaving their shit behind.

[CastingPearls]

IC I miss my kitty something fierce. It's hard to sleep at night without her little noises and movements throughout the house. Yet I wasn't sleeping well before I had to put her to sleep, either, because I'd worry about her too much. I dreaded having to leave her for work every day, just hating to leave her all alone... so a part of me is overwhelmingly relieved about not seeing her decline either. And I'm so grateful that there are still vets who will make house calls so she could go peacefully at home with me there and on her favorite pillows.

<sigh>
So sorry about your Kitty. Don't know what I'd do without my girl, Wonton.

[Punkin1024]

IC I miss my kitty something fierce. It's hard to sleep at night without her little noises and movements throughout the house. Yet I wasn't sleeping well before I had to put her to sleep, either, because I'd worry about her too much. I dreaded having to leave her for work every day, just hating to leave her all alone... so a part of me is overwhelmingly relieved about not seeing her decline either. And I'm so grateful that there are still vets who will make house calls so she could go peacefully at home with me there and on her favorite pillows.

<sigh>

Aw, Sweetie, I'm so sorry for your loss. :( It will be difficult for a while because you miss her so, but, with time, you'll be able to sleep well again. We've had to say goodbye to so many of our dear kitties over the years and it never gets any easier. I am thankful for the ones still here, they give us such comfort.

[whome]

I confess that I keep hoping I will find someone! Just put another ad on craigslist with my photo hope it does not get into perv hands!

[littlefairywren]

I confess that I keep hoping I will find someone! Just put another ad on craigslist with my photo hope it does not get into perv hands!

Good luck, whome! :)

[luscious_lulu]

Doesn't everybody buy dozens of ear plugs? OK...all the stores I look in have discontinued my favorite brand, so I had to find them online...and they were a good deal. I am all excited to get them. Don't judge me. :D


Hey, no judgement here. Substitue shoes for earplugs and I'd be all over it! :p

[luscious_lulu]

IC I miss my kitty something fierce. It's hard to sleep at night without her little noises and movements throughout the house. Yet I wasn't sleeping well before I had to put her to sleep, either, because I'd worry about her too much. I dreaded having to leave her for work every day, just hating to leave her all alone... so a part of me is overwhelmingly relieved about not seeing her decline either. And I'm so grateful that there are still vets who will make house calls so she could go peacefully at home with me there and on her favorite pillows.

<sigh>

(((hugs))) I know how you feel. I had to put my kitty down this year. You absolutely did the right thing.

[Sweet Tooth]

Thank you to all who offered support and kind words either here in the thread or privately. [And thanks to my bash peeps who cried with me when it was even fresher than it is today.]

I happen to think she was one of the most beautiful babies ever, and so it's hard to realize how much weight she'd lost until I look at pics which I've done some this weekend. Still, up until the end, she was beautiful and loving.

Older pics...
http://i196.photobucket.com/albums/aa218/SmartyFatPants_2007/Calli/Calli.jpg
http://i196.photobucket.com/albums/aa218/SmartyFatPants_2007/Calli/WebsiteCalli-resized.jpg

Recent pics...
http://i196.photobucket.com/albums/aa218/SmartyFatPants_2007/Calli/IMG00773.jpg
http://i196.photobucket.com/albums/aa218/SmartyFatPants_2007/Calli/DSC_0278.jpg

[Dmitra]

Thank you to all who offered support and kind words either here in the thread or privately. [And thanks to my bash peeps who cried with me when it was even fresher than it is today.]

I happen to think she was one of the most beautiful babies ever, and so it's hard to realize how much weight she'd lost until I look at pics which I've done some this weekend. Still, up until the end, she was beautiful and loving.

Older pics...
<snip>


She is purely adorable, Sweetie. I think one of the biggest hopes I have in life is that our darling furbabies really do go to a better place after their suffering is over. *hugs*

[jewels_mystery]

Thank you to all who offered support and kind words either here in the thread or privately. [And thanks to my bash peeps who cried with me when it was even fresher than it is today.]

I happen to think she was one of the most beautiful babies ever, and so it's hard to realize how much weight she'd lost until I look at pics which I've done some this weekend. Still, up until the end, she was beautiful and loving.

Older pics...
http://i196.photobucket.com/albums/aa218/SmartyFatPants_2007/Calli/Calli.jpg
http://i196.photobucket.com/albums/aa218/SmartyFatPants_2007/Calli/WebsiteCalli-resized.jpg

Recent pics...
http://i196.photobucket.com/albums/aa218/SmartyFatPants_2007/Calli/IMG00773.jpg
http://i196.photobucket.com/albums/aa218/SmartyFatPants_2007/Calli/DSC_0278.jpg

She is so cute and a model. Love her poses.

[littlefairywren]

Thank you to all who offered support and kind words either here in the thread or privately. [And thanks to my bash peeps who cried with me when it was even fresher than it is today.]

I happen to think she was one of the most beautiful babies ever, and so it's hard to realize how much weight she'd lost until I look at pics which I've done some this weekend. Still, up until the end, she was beautiful and loving.

Older pics...


She was a beautiful baby, ST. Thank you for sharing her pics with us :)

[MizzSnakeBite]

Thank you to all who offered support and kind words either here in the thread or privately. [And thanks to my bash peeps who cried with me when it was even fresher than it is today.]

I happen to think she was one of the most beautiful babies ever, and so it's hard to realize how much weight she'd lost until I look at pics which I've done some this weekend. Still, up until the end, she was beautiful and loving.

Older pics...


Recent pics...



Oh, she's stunning! That reminds me of when my Bruce suddenly became ill. He dropped so much weight, but I hadn't really noticed it until one day.

(((hugs)))

[fatgirlflyin]

IC that I am not sure of what is the appropriate amount of time to wait before going on a date after a breakup...

[Fallenangel2904]

Thank you to all who offered support and kind words either here in the thread or privately. [And thanks to my bash peeps who cried with me when it was even fresher than it is today.]

I happen to think she was one of the most beautiful babies ever, and so it's hard to realize how much weight she'd lost until I look at pics which I've done some this weekend. Still, up until the end, she was beautiful and loving.

Older pics...
http://i196.photobucket.com/albums/aa218/SmartyFatPants_2007/Calli/Calli.jpg
http://i196.photobucket.com/albums/aa218/SmartyFatPants_2007/Calli/WebsiteCalli-resized.jpg

Recent pics...
http://i196.photobucket.com/albums/aa218/SmartyFatPants_2007/Calli/IMG00773.jpg
http://i196.photobucket.com/albums/aa218/SmartyFatPants_2007/Calli/DSC_0278.jpg

She was absolutely beautiful sweetie! Beautiful coloring and eyes!

I know how difficult it is- I had to put my dog- my best friend- down 3 years ago (Will be 3 years in November) and I still miss her something fierce! ::hugs:: You never ever forget or stop loving and missing them, but it does get a bit easier.

[Fallenangel2904]

IC I'm not sure where the hell things are going for me romantically and its frustrating and confusing. Truth is I am not satisfied with my current complicated romantic situation, and actually confused as hell by it. And I feel like a bad person for it and for looking and seeing what else is out there...even though I shouldn't because technically there is nothing holding me back. I am so mixed up and confused about what I want, and feel SO shitty about it, I kinda just want to scream at the top of my lungs.

And IC that I don't think this rant made a lick of sense....

[mszwebs]

IC that I am not sure of what is the appropriate amount of time to wait before going on a date after a breakup...

You do it when you want to. Simple as that. :)

[whome]

I/c that spending another thanksgiving alone is really hard. I have a lot to be thankful for but that is lost in the sadness of not having anyone to share the day with

[Jes]

the 1-800-Got-Junk guys away. F-ing rude neighbors, leaving their shit behind.

Freecycle? Craigslist?

[luscious_lulu]

IC that I am not sure of what is the appropriate amount of time to wait before going on a date after a breakup...

Whenever you feel ready.

[Punkin1024]

IC that it aggrevates me when I have plans to get a major task done and Mother Nature derails my plans by making her monthly visit! :doh: I was going to finish an on-line Defensive Driving course today, but when my monthly comes calling, I get major headaches and can't think straight. I actually caught myself before spraying Pam in my coffee this morning! (It was right next to my coffee flavor syrup!) :doh: I had a lot of :doh: moments today. At least I finally got my clothes order in to Woman Within, but I'd waited too long and a couple of items I'd wanted were out of stock in my size. Double sigh!

[MizzSnakeBite]

IC that it aggrevates me when I have plans to get a major task done and Mother Nature derails my plans by making her monthly visit! :doh: I was going to finish an on-line Defensive Driving course today, but when my monthly comes calling, I get major headaches and can't think straight. I actually caught myself before spraying Pam in my coffee this morning! (It was right next to my coffee flavor syrup!) :doh: I had a lot of :doh: moments today. At least I finally got my clothes order in to Woman Within, but I'd waited too long and a couple of items I'd wanted were out of stock in my size. Double sigh!

(((hugs))), Ella

[LovelyLiz]

IC that most of the time I'm pretty happy with my body, and don't experience a lot of shame or negative feelings about it...except when I fly somewhere - often that makes me feel like I am just "too big." And tomorrow I'm flying across the country. Really not looking forward to that.

[Jes]

IC that most of the time I'm pretty happy with my body, and don't experience a lot of shame or negative feelings about it...except when I fly somewhere - often that makes me feel like I am just "too big." And tomorrow I'm flying across the country. Really not looking forward to that.Bummer, baby. You're big, but 'too big' is a judgement, not a reality, at least in terms of the moral or emotional component to this. So try to think of it that way if at all possible. And make whatever concessions you need to make to fit into the space comfortably. Fat people can be too fat for a plane seat, yes. But that doesn't mean you're too fat to fly, or too fat to look sexy flying (haha), or too fat in general. Yes?

[fatgirlflyin]

IC that most of the time I'm pretty happy with my body, and don't experience a lot of shame or negative feelings about it...except when I fly somewhere - often that makes me feel like I am just "too big." And tomorrow I'm flying across the country. Really not looking forward to that.

ugh I can relate to that. I spend more time in an airplane than I do in my car some months and I get really tired of hitting people in the face with my hips as I walk by and having the arm rests digging into my thighs. Hope your flight is as comfortable as possible!

[sarie]

i confess that i've always wanted to sit the way skinny girls do soemtimes with their knees folded up into their chest. D:

[Dmitra]

IC that most of the time I'm pretty happy with my body, and don't experience a lot of shame or negative feelings about it...except when I fly somewhere - often that makes me feel like I am just "too big." And tomorrow I'm flying across the country. Really not looking forward to that.

*hugs* I've come to seriously hate flying so you have my sympathies for that alone! It really is that the airplane seat is TOO SMALL because those cheap bastards want to squish as many people into the space as possible.

Also, if they really wanted to make air travel safer they'd pay to have the seats facing backwards. Sorry, getting a little distracted into a rant and stopping now.

I'll keep you in my thoughts tomorrow. :)

[LovelyLiz]

Bummer, baby. You're big, but 'too big' is a judgement, not a reality, at least in terms of the moral or emotional component to this. So try to think of it that way if at all possible. And make whatever concessions you need to make to fit into the space comfortably. Fat people can be too fat for a plane seat, yes. But that doesn't mean you're too fat to fly, or too fat to look sexy flying (haha), or too fat in general. Yes?

Yeah, totally. You're absolutely right. Sadly tho, that very rational and logical and true stuff doesn't always win the day in my crazy brain! ;) But thanks for the absolutely true perspective. And I'll do my best to look sexy flying...lol.

ugh I can relate to that. I spend more time in an airplane than I do in my car some months and I get really tired of hitting people in the face with my hips as I walk by and having the arm rests digging into my thighs. Hope your flight is as comfortable as possible!

Thanks so much! Just hearing from people who relate helps me feel better about things.

*hugs* I've come to seriously hate flying so you have my sympathies for that alone! It really is that the airplane seat is TOO SMALL because those cheap bastards want to squish as many people into the space as possible.

Also, if they really wanted to make air travel safer they'd pay to have the seats facing backwards. Sorry, getting a little distracted into a rant and stopping now.

I'll keep you in my thoughts tomorrow. :)

Thank you, Dmitra!

I guess the upside is, I'm going to a wedding, and I'll have a chance to wear this dress I got from eshakti a while back and haven't had a chance to wear yet. I really like the dress, so I'm looking forward to that - and to seeing friends I haven't seen in a looooooooong time. It makes the trip worth it.

[CarlaSixx]

I C I am in full blown clinical depression mode right now and I don't know what I can do about it.

[Jes]

I guess the upside is, I'm going to a wedding, and I'll have a chance to wear this dress I got from eshakti a while back and haven't had a chance to wear yet. I really like the dress, so I'm looking forward to that - and to seeing friends I haven't seen in a looooooooong time. It makes the trip worth it.See? You gonna look sexy flyin', guurrrrrl!

Where you goin'?

[Surlysomething]

I have a hard time reading this thread as it's so depressing.

:(

[LovelyLiz]

See? You gonna look sexy flyin', guurrrrrl!

Where you goin'?

Tennessee and Kentucky.

What up, southeast?

[Fallenangel2904]

i confess that i've always wanted to sit the way skinny girls do soemtimes with their knees folded up into their chest. D:

Haha me too! I don't envy that much about skinny girls, but that and crossing your legs are high on my list lol.

[calauria]

I C that I am loving life right now!!!!:)

[thirtiesgirl]

Freecycle? Craigslist?

Property manager. I exchange rent stability (rent doesn't go up) with a property manager who is very hands off and barely does anything to maintain the building. I wish the manager would do a lot more around here, but I'm not complaining about the rent stability and I try not to bug him with too many issues. The property management company owns lots of bigger properties that make them far much more money than my little building does, so we're just a drop in the bucket to them. But I did call the manager about the basketball hoop. He says he's aware the other tenants left it behind and they will have it hauled away soon.

[Weeze]

i confess that i've always wanted to sit the way skinny girls do soemtimes with their knees folded up into their chest. D:

Me too, actually.

[butch]

IC that I appear to have chosen something other than ambition. I've never quite been the Type A 'type,' anyway.

[CarlaSixx]

I don't know what the panda thing is about, but I decided to play along anyways.

[thatgirl08]

i confess that i've always wanted to sit the way skinny girls do soemtimes with their knees folded up into their chest. D:

Me too.. and crossing my legs.

[CarlaSixx]

Me too.. and crossing my legs.

Crossing my legs is one thing I envy of skinny girls. It's the only feminine thing I really want to be able to do and can't. Not even close and never even came close, lol. Part of it is because of my hanging belly, though. It knocks me backwards, which is why I can't even sit on the ground at all :(

[thatgirl08]

Crossing my legs is one thing I envy of skinny girls. It's the only feminine thing I really want to be able to do and can't. Not even close and never even came close, lol. Part of it is because of my hanging belly, though. It knocks me backwards, which is why I can't even sit on the ground at all :(

I feel your pain on this. I sit on the ground sometimes but I hate it.. like reallllly hate it.

[Fallenangel2904]

I'm starting to think every fat girl at one time or another has wished she could sit like that- with your knees tucked up, or legs crossed....I've talked to SO many- in the SA community and outside of it who have said the same thing lol.

[LovelyLiz]

Yep - me too! I even remember an abstract figurine I saw a few years back that was sitting like that, knees into her chest, face between the knees...and it just seemed so comforting somehow. But alas...

[littlefairywren]

I have always wanted to be able to cross my legs too. I can kinda manage it if I lean way over and almost end up with my face in the side of the couch lol. My tummy and thighs just wont cooperate with me. And yeah, the same for sitting on the ground. I watch people just plonk themselves down there and want to join them, but know the drama of having to actually get up.

[spiritangel]

That I cancelled going to the meditation retreat because I had to trust my gut instinct and listen to all the roadblocks that were being thrown in my path. I have learnt the hard way that when I dont trust my intuition I get myself into trouble

and am miffed at where spring is anyone know cause we seem to still be in winter here?

[thirtiesgirl]

Ok, I really don't mean to be gross and disgusting here, but IC I've had a major case of the farts since yesterday afternoon. I don't know what I ate, or when, but since I got home from work yesterday afternoon, something has been making me incredibly gassy. It's continued this morning, while I sit here wasting time on the computer before going to work. I really hope it doesn't continue while I'm at work. Talk about embarrassing. I really don't want to have a student sitting in my tiny office while I'm farting away. Gas is just not meant for tiny spaces. :(

[jewels_mystery]

Crossing my legs is one thing I envy of skinny girls. It's the only feminine thing I really want to be able to do and can't. Not even close and never even came close, lol. Part of it is because of my hanging belly, though. It knocks me backwards, which is why I can't even sit on the ground at all :(

Same here. Nice to know we are all part of this wonderful club.

[isamarie69]

I have always crossed my legs and find it more uncomfortable to not cross them. maybe my body trained its self. Weird though well maybe because most of my weight is in my belly.

[TinyTum]

I have always crossed my legs and find it more uncomfortable to not cross them. maybe my body trained its self. Weird though well maybe because most of my weight is in my belly.

I think it's the thighs that determine on how well you can cross your legs. At my heaviest, my thighs became quite chunky and I found it uncomfortable to cross my legs then.

[CarlaSixx]

Yeah I have muscle thighs with lotsa fat on the inner part so crossing doesn't happen. It sucks.

IC I am at a bus stop, stealing Internet. I'm glad I am because I found out my book I pre ordered in April has been shipped today. A week ahead of time. So I might receive it by Friday. And I am extremely excited!

[Punkin1024]

Add one more little fatty that can't cross her legs. The best I can do is cross my ankles. Having short legs has never helped either! IC that I also envy those that have a lap! I've never been able to hold a child, baby or pet in my "lap" - there's none there because of my tummy. Sigh!

[CastingPearls]

Add another one to the list. I've always wanted to cross my legs but my thighs are too heavy to do so.

[Tau]

But on a serious tip what is with all the pandas??

[Jes]

Property manager. I exchange rent stability (rent doesn't go up) with a property manager who is very hands off and barely does anything to maintain the building. I wish the manager would do a lot more around here, but I'm not complaining about the rent stability and I try not to bug him with too many issues. The property management company owns lots of bigger properties that make them far much more money than my little building does, so we're just a drop in the bucket to them. But I did call the manager about the basketball hoop. He says he's aware the other tenants left it behind and they will have it hauled away soon.

well, i didn't really understand this answer 30s, as a listing on freecycle usually gets people to come and haul away stuff for free since they want to own it for free, but i'm glad you are getting your frustration taken care of. if the mgr. doesn't do it, post a curb alert on freecycle. someone would be happy to have that thing.

[Jes]

Ok, I really don't mean to be gross and disgusting here, but IC I've had a major case of the farts since yesterday afternoon. I don't know what I ate, or when, but since I got home from work yesterday afternoon, something has been making me incredibly gassy. It's continued this morning, while I sit here wasting time on the computer before going to work. I really hope it doesn't continue while I'm at work. Talk about embarrassing. I really don't want to have a student sitting in my tiny office while I'm farting away. Gas is just not meant for tiny spaces. :(

You can buy some pills and give 'em a shot. You don't want to risk being known as 'that farty advisor' so early in the schoolyear.

[thirtiesgirl]

well, i didn't really understand this answer 30s, as a listing on freecycle usually gets people to come and haul away stuff for free since they want to own it for free, but i'm glad you are getting your frustration taken care of. if the mgr. doesn't do it, post a curb alert on freecycle. someone would be happy to have that thing.

I didn't want to go so far as to spend time looking around for a freecycle group in my area or post it on Craigslist and wait for responses. The last time I posted something on CL, I received responses from 3 people who said they wanted the item, and all 3 of them flaked on me. I don't use CL much to sell or get rid of items anymore. I just wanted the b-ball hoop gone, without a lot of effort on my part since it isn't mine. The neighbors who left it behind were also some of the rudest neighbors I've ever lived near, so I really didn't want to put in any extra effort for something they left behind.

What happened was the property manager called the neighbors at their new place and told them that they had to remove the hoop, as they should have done when they moved out. The rude neighbors showed up last night and took the hoop apart so they could break it in pieces and haul them away. It's now gone.

You can buy some pills and give 'em a shot. You don't want to risk being known as 'that farty advisor' so early in the schoolyear.

I've tried Beano and gas relief pills, and while they do work well, I find that they make me even more farty while eliminating the gas, which is kind of at cross-purposes for helping me be less farty. I think I figured out the cause of the issue, though. Monday night, I had sauerkraut for dinner, which I haven't eaten in a while, so I'd forgotten what effect cabbage has on my tum. Fortunately, I had no major incidents at work yesterday, except for one rather bad moment when I was walking around outside during lunch supervision. I had to make a quick rush to an area away from students, and fortunately it was mostly silent and I was outside.

[CarlaSixx]

Ask your doc for Ovol. My mom got some cuz she gets gassy when stressed and she ended up not gassy at all with the use of them.

[LovelyLiz]

IC that my flight yesterday was actually quite comfortable. Maybe expecting the worst helped me to be pleasantly surprised. ;) But seriously, I was actually quite happy with how things went - didn't feel "too big" really at all. I'm super grateful for that!

[fat9276]

IC that my flight yesterday was actually quite comfortable. Maybe expecting the worst helped me to be pleasantly surprised. ;) But seriously, I was actually quite happy with how things went - didn't feel "too big" really at all. I'm super grateful for that!

Yay!! :happy:

[Brenda]

So sorry about losing your beautiful kitty.

Brenda

[Ruffie]

I confess this week feel kind of defeated. One of the kids we work with overdosed and one of our former youth committed suicide so rather emotionally wrung out.

[Famouslastwords]

I confess this week feel kind of defeated. One of the kids we work with overdosed and one of our former youth committed suicide so rather emotionally wrung out.

Oh God. Ruffie that's terrible! I'm so sorry that you have to go through this.

I C I can be rather ungrateful most of the time for the things I have. I always want more, more, more. I wish I'd win the lottery so I can buy a house, and a better car, etc. I should be thankful that I have a car at all, so many here have to use the bus, a thing I haven't had to do since I was a freshman in high school, and that I have a place to live that is bigger than what I used to live in. Sometimes I also wish my boyfriend would make more money, he used to bring in $45,000 a year, and now he brings in less. But really I should be thankful he has a job, and that I have one as well, and that we have extra every month. So many people are looking for jobs, and are scraping by barely. I guess I don't think about that and focus solely on what I want, like it's a race. And I am thankful for what I have. I try to give back to others, by tipping well-even for average service, and donating to charities and food drives. I went to the grocery store sometime this year and there was a drive for groceries. I donated bags upon bags of stuff. Stuff that was on the list that I didn't think people would donate. Like the good kind of laundry detergent, and stuff. So I'm not a terrible person. I'm just ungrateful when I'm so blessed.

[calauria]

I confess this week feel kind of defeated. One of the kids we work with overdosed and one of our former youth committed suicide so rather emotionally wrung out.

OMG!! Why are so many committing suicide? My cousin committed suicide on Oct. 8th, went to his funeral, yesterday....It's so disturbing!!:(

[Jes]

IC that my flight yesterday was actually quite comfortable. Maybe expecting the worst helped me to be pleasantly surprised. ;) But seriously, I was actually quite happy with how things went - didn't feel "too big" really at all. I'm super grateful for that!

Did you look sexy flying? i won't be happy 'til you tell me you looked sexy on that plane.

[Punkin1024]

I confess this week feel kind of defeated. One of the kids we work with overdosed and one of our former youth committed suicide so rather emotionally wrung out.

Ruffie, I am so, so sorry this has happened. (((((((HUGS)))))))

[Punkin1024]

Oh God. Ruffie that's terrible! I'm so sorry that you have to go through this.

I C I can be rather ungrateful most of the time for the things I have. I always want more, more, more. So I'm not a terrible person. I'm just ungrateful when I'm so blessed.

You know, I imagine there are many of us that feels this way. I blame society, the constant push to do better. There is a feeling that, if you are doing okay, that you should push to be FANTASTIC. Sigh! Sometimes I just want to sit a while and smile. And, I don't think you are ungrateful, just perhaps frustrated that you feel you need more in life to be satisfied (again, media and society to blame). However, I never will give up my dream of winning the lotto - ;)!

[LovelyLiz]

Did you look sexy flying? i won't be happy 'til you tell me you looked sexy on that plane.

Today I was ridiculously hungover and had 2 hours of sleep. Did not look sexy. But I hope you can be happy anyway. :p

[Tau]

I confess this week feel kind of defeated. One of the kids we work with overdosed and one of our former youth committed suicide so rather emotionally wrung out.

I'm so, so sorry. Sending prayers your way and theirs *LOVE*

[Tau]

Today I was ridiculously hungover and had 2 hours of sleep. Did not look sexy. But I hope you can be happy anyway. :p

Nice :p:p I hope you took pictures!!!

[jewels_mystery]

I confess this week feel kind of defeated. One of the kids we work with overdosed and one of our former youth committed suicide so rather emotionally wrung out.

Ruffie, my heart is going out with you. I am so sorry.

[Ruffie]

Thanks everyone*hugs* I appreciate the kind words, thoughts and prayers. It is something that we understand can and does happen working with at risk people but it is something you never get used to.

[thirtiesgirl]

So sorry to hear, Ruffie. Rough to hear about kids going before their time, especially when affected by depression.


IC, I'm pissed off at a guy I just met online. He sent me a message this afternoon, including his phone number, suggesting that I call him right away. I messaged him back, saying I don't usually call someone that I've just met online. I asked him to tell me a little bit about himself, which he did in his next message, although he kept it very brief and again said that I should call him. I like what he has to say for himself in his profile, so I decided that I should give him the benefit of the doubt and give him a call. ...Which I did about 15 minutes later, only to get his voicemail. All this urging to call him (the 'right now!' seemed implied in his messages)... and then he doesn't even pick up the phone. Jerky boy.

[jewels_mystery]

So sorry to hear, Ruffie. Rough to hear about kids going before their time, especially when affected by depression.


IC, I'm pissed off at a guy I just met online. He sent me a message this afternoon, including his phone number, suggesting that I call him right away. I messaged him back, saying I don't usually call someone that I've just met online. I asked him to tell me a little bit about himself, which he did in his next message, although he kept it very brief and again said that I should call him. I like what he has to say for himself in his profile, so I decided that I should give him the benefit of the doubt and give him a call. ...Which I did about 15 minutes later, only to get his voicemail. All this urging to call him (the 'right now!' seemed implied in his messages)... and then he doesn't even pick up the phone. Jerky boy.

wow. that was so rude of him. Did he call you back?

[jewels_mystery]

IC I got another job offer. I am half happy about it. I have to pass a security check which I am not worried about. No start date, just "sometime in November". I will be moving to Ohio. I plan to throw my stuff in storage until I get settled and move it down later. I kind of wanted to stay in Oklahoma but could not find anything here. Ohio is closer to NYC and my family and friends. So that is a huge bonus.

On a side note, just found out my cousin is pregnant. I am like wtf? This woman has 3 kids that her mom had to raise. She lost her parental rights for her two daughters. Sad to say but several of the family members are concerned that her mom will be forced to raise this child also. My aunt is in her mid 60's and in bad health.

[MizzSnakeBite]

IC I got another job offer. I am half happy about it. I have to pass a security check which I am not worried about. No start date, just "sometime in November". I will be moving to Ohio. I plan to throw my stuff in storage until I get settled and move it down later. I kind of wanted to stay in Oklahoma but could not find anything here. Ohio is closer to NYC and my family and friends. So that is a huge bonus.

On a side note, just found out my cousin is pregnant. I am like wtf? This woman has 3 kids that her mom had to raise. She lost her parental rights for her two daughters. Sad to say but several of the family members are concerned that her mom will be forced to raise this child also. My aunt is in her mid 60's and in bad health.

Good luck with the job!

[thirtiesgirl]

wow. that was so rude of him. Did he call you back?

Nope. Never heard from him again, via phone or online. ...Cluck cluck cluck.

[gobettiepurple]

IC that I went to the gym on sunday to upgrade so I can go to any gym in the country [cool, right? and it didnt even cost a thing!] and the guy at the counter, totally hot and totally flirting with me I think. He was hot and chisled out of stone . . . but, most likely, just being nice, making the sell and probably has a gf. still, totally made my day!

[luscious_lulu]

Ic that I'm feeling sad/depressed today and I don't know why. I just want to go home, cry & sleep.

[MizzSnakeBite]

I hear ya, Lulu. I'm feeling the same way.

[jewels_mystery]

Ic that I'm feeling sad/depressed today and I don't know why. I just want to go home, cry & sleep.

I hear ya, Lulu. I'm feeling the same way.

{{Hugs}} I hope it gets better. Have a glass of wine or go out with friends. That always helps me.

[luscious_lulu]

I hear ya, Lulu. I'm feeling the same way.

(((hugs)))

[MizzSnakeBite]

{{Hugs}} I hope it gets better. Have a glass of wine or go out with friends. That always helps me.

(((hugs)))

Thanks, ladies, and (((hugs))) backatcha

[thirtiesgirl]

IC I did a dumb thing last night. I drank one of those damn Starbucks iced coffee drinks (the adult Yoohoo) around 11 pm last night because I happened to have it in the fridge, and then I couldn't get to sleep the whole damn night. I've been at work all day, and now I'm home feeling totally spaced out and blank due to sleep deprivation. That's what happens when you don't think before you drink. :rolleyes:

[luscious_lulu]

Picked up my new med today. We'll see if it helps with the swallowing.

[littlefairywren]

Ic that I'm feeling sad/depressed today and I don't know why. I just want to go home, cry & sleep.

I hope you're feeling better soon, lulu....hugs.

I hear ya, Lulu. I'm feeling the same way.

Hey Momma B, I got lotsa hugs for you :wubu:

[MizzSnakeBite]

**snip**



Hey Momma B, I got lotsa hugs for you :wubu:

Tank ewe, bebeh doll. :wubu: I'm needing them.

[luscious_lulu]

I hope you're feeling better soon, lulu....hugs.



Hey Momma B, I got lotsa hugs for you :wubu:

Thanks lfw

[Jes]

Nope. Never heard from him again, via phone or online. ...Cluck cluck cluck.

PM everyone his phone no. We'll all call and leave him cuckoo messages. I certainly will. Do it.

[calauria]

PM everyone his phone no. We'll all call and leave him cuckoo messages. I certainly will. Do it.

YES!!! DO IT!!! :D

[BigCutieMeg]

I confess that I love to check out chubby chicks on forums all the time and compare their shapes to my shapes... :p

[thirtiesgirl]

PM everyone his phone no. We'll all call and leave him cuckoo messages. I certainly will. Do it.

YES!!! DO IT!!! :D

Seriously?? That would be damn funny. I can think of other guys I've met online who are way more deserving of that kind of meanness than this guy, though. ...I mean, all he did was not pick up the phone. ...But it would be kind of funny to at least let one of these online jerks know that their antics are not appreciated. Should I do it?

[CastingPearls]

Do it. .....................

[mossystate]

Seriously?? That would be damn funny. I can think of other guys I've met online who are way more deserving of that kind of meanness than this guy, though. ...I mean, all he did was not pick up the phone. ...But it would be kind of funny to at least let one of these online jerks know that their antics are not appreciated. Should I do it?

Ummmm...no....don't do it. I already know you would do it, as I asked you to post a pic of your ex in chat...lol...but fight the power of the poke and dare...this time. :D

[LovelyLiz]

Ummmm...no....don't do it. I already know you would do it, as I asked you to post a pic of your ex in chat...lol...but fight the power of the poke and dare...this time. :D

I agree, since he sounds more like a floppy fish than a shark. But I think it's something we should hold in our back pockets for future reference. ;)

[thirtiesgirl]

Ummmm...no....don't do it. I already know you would do it, as I asked you to post a pic of your ex in chat...lol...but fight the power of the poke and dare...this time. :D

The pics of my ex were harmless. He wasn't naked, he wasn't sharing anything for my eyes only, and one of them was a pic he's already posted online himself. I think that's a bit different than sharing the phone number of a guy I've only talked with online twice.

[CarlaSixx]

The problem with posting pics of ids on dating sites is that there's plenty of pedophiles on those sites, and it just gives them something to oggle after, even if the parent didn't intend for that kind of thing to happen (which if they did, that would be creepy).

I would mark someone as a NO if they had pics of little kids up on a dating site, no matter what.

I've often flagged pictures of people because of this and more often than not, the site owners agree and make the person take them down. It's for protection of the child's safety.

[thirtiesgirl]

The problem with posting pics of ids on dating sites is that there's plenty of pedophiles on those sites, and it just gives them something to oggle after, even if the parent didn't intend for that kind of thing to happen (which if they did, that would be creepy).

I would mark someone as a NO if they had pics of little kids up on a dating site, no matter what.

I've often flagged pictures of people because of this and more often than not, the site owners agree and make the person take them down. It's for protection of the child's safety.

I agree, it's questionable, but I don't judge someone on making an unintentional bad choice, and I'd rather see honesty online than guys trying to hide things. I've experienced that one too many times. I wouldn't have responded to the guy if he'd written anything that indicated he was anything other than he is, which is a hard working single dad with some family problems. I dated the guy for 2 years and if I felt he had any bad intentions towards his kids, I would have ended things much sooner.

[Lovelyone]

I woke up from a nap this afternoon feeling rather unpretty. I took a look in the mirror and saw tangled unbrushed hair, bags under my eyes, a pimple, and more gray hair. The thoughts "old maidish" and "matronly" popped into my mind. I've gotta start doing something about that. :D

[Jes]

I woke up from a nap this afternoon feeling rather unpretty. I took a look in the mirror and saw tangled unbrushed hair, bags under my eyes, a pimple, and more gray hair. The thoughts "old maidish" and "matronly" popped into my mind. I've gotta start doing something about that. :D

I hear you....I'm not a morning person and now that I'm older, it really shows. :)

[EvilPrincess]

Please respect the intent of this thread along with the BBW Forum. If you have an issue with a poster take it to PM. If you feel that you need assistance contact a moderator.

Regards EP/Mod

[CarlaSixx]

IC I would've stayed at a certain bar last night with friends if the ex-strippers and the guys gawking at them didn't make me feel as ugly and uncomfortable as they did :(

Not that I didn't have a great time when we left, but it wouldn't have been as bad if we didn't leave. It kinda sucks that I let them get to me. Then again... the bar we went to just recently stopped being a strip club, so someone like me won't really be accepted there, anyways.

[Jes]

sweet jesus on the cross, I have spent almost the entire afternoon dicking around and not doing homework. I don't like this stupid book, I don't feel like being inside, and I feel itchy. I just keep doing other stuff. In class tomorrow, I'm just gonna say the thing sucked. It sucks! I'm bored! I have to clean my house! it's 5.45 and I haven't even put on a bra yet today.

the end.

[Jes]

i haven't done laundry in so long that i am now faced with the prospect of wearing a hot pink g-string to the gym.

Helloooo, freeballin!

[CastingPearls]

I have a pile of clean clothes next to the bed that has reached tsunami proportions. I am not the least bit bothered by it.

[thatgirl08]

For the first time in a long time I put myself out there with a guy who didn't identify as an FA and after a week of mixed signals ending in semi-rejection I reallllllllly regret it.

[LovelyLiz]

For the first time in a long time I put myself out there with a guy who didn't identify as an FA and after a week of mixed signals ending in semi-rejection I reallllllllly regret it.

Been there SOOOO often. Sucks majorly (whether the guy is an FA or not...but I agree, there's a special way it stings when he's not). STILL...MAJOR PROPS to you for being in the game!!!! Putting yourself out there is not easy, not at all, and I hope you can recognize - even amid all the pain accompanying rejection - that you are a brave-ass girl for doing that! *Especially* with someone who doesn't identify as an FA. So, even tho it probably won't make you feel better now, these bows are for you puttting yourself out there: :bow::bow::bow::bow::bow::bow: Seriously, props.

[thatgirl08]

Thank you doll :]

[Tau]

For the first time in a long time I put myself out there with a guy who didn't identify as an FA and after a week of mixed signals ending in semi-rejection I reallllllllly regret it.

I have got to echoe Mcbeth here!! Way to go chick!!! :bow: I really respect that you did it at all - sucky as being rejected is. And major hugz to help take the sting out a little *smish*

[littlefairywren]

IC that I have been having off days. Days when my body feels wrong, and it actually annoys me. When I feel FAT, which sounds completely stupid, because I actually am fat.

[Donna]

IC that I have been having off days. Days when my body feels wrong, and it actually annoys me. When I feel FAT, which sounds completely stupid, because I actually am fat.

Doesn't sound stupid at all to me. If I am reading between the lines correctly, what you are saying is that some days you feel the effects of being fat moreso than others.

Anyway, I'm sorry you are having those days and I hope they are few and far between.

[Lovelyone]

IC that the man that I am interested in regularly calls me beautiful and sexy. While that is a wonderful thing in most situations and most women would do anything to have someone talk to them this way, I dont know why, but it feels awkward to me. I dare say that I would feel more comfortable if he said "cute" or "good looking" over beautiful and sexy.

I can't figure out why I have such a problem accepting the compliment and believing that he really thinks that way about me. I don't particularly think I am "sexy" persay--that is to say that I never really felt sexyish even when I tried--I've always felt kinda clumsy when it comes to the word "sexy" (and now I am laughing and terrified at the same time that I am sharing this info with anyone, much less an entire forum full of people who know me both from here and in person). I am pretty sure that they don;t use my face for the mold when they make monster cookies...in fact, I just think (and I am just being honest with myself here) that I am an average looking person. I don't think that its bad to b e an average looking person, so why is it so hard for me to think that being a beautiful person is out of reach?

[TraciJo67]

IC that the man that I am interested in regularly calls me beautiful and sexy. While that is a wonderful thing in most situations and most women would do anything to have someone talk to them this way, I dont know why, but it feels awkward to me. I dare say that I would feel more comfortable if he said "cute" or "good looking" over beautiful and sexy.

I can't figure out why I have such a problem accepting the compliment and believing that he really thinks that way about me. I don't particularly think I am "sexy" persay--that is to say that I never really felt sexyish even when I tried--I've always felt kinda clumsy when it comes to the word "sexy" (and now I am laughing and terrified at the same time that I am sharing this info with anyone, much less an entire forum full of people who know me both from here and in person). I am pretty sure that they don;t use my face for the mold when they make monster cookies...in fact, I just think (and I am just being honest with myself here) that I am an average looking person. I don't think that its bad to b e an average looking person, so why is it so hard for me to think that being a beautiful person is out of reach?

I think that you have beautifully warm, expressive eyes and that you are far from average. Hopefully, you will become more comfortable and more accepting of hearing that you are sexy and desirable to your man, the more he tells you (and shows you).

[MizzSnakeBite]

IC that I have been having off days. Days when my body feels wrong, and it actually annoys me. When I feel FAT, which sounds completely stupid, because I actually am fat.

(((hugs))) to mah Chicklet :wubu:

[Jes]

in fact, I just think (and I am just being honest with myself here) that I am an average looking person. I don't think that its bad to b e an average looking person, so why is it so hard for me to think that being a beautiful person is out of reach?

I hear you. It can seem weird b/c it foregrounds something you either don't think is true about yourself or b/c you're just not used to it. Have you ever known a man (or even a woman, if we're talking about the word 'beautiful') who wouldn't be considered conventionally attractive but about whom you think 'good looking' or 'hot' or 'sexy?' If you're capable of that, why can't this guy be? I don't know that I'm a proponent of the 'everyone is good looking' thing. That's just my opinion. So I know what you're grappling with, if you think that too. But as I see it, when I'm naked with someone, I've got the best-looking set of tits in the room (depending on the room. haha. Just kidding). He's saying you're sexy. He's not saying you're the sexiest woman of all the sexy women who have ever walked this sexy, sexy earth. It just means he thinks you're sexy, or being sexy, or that you make him feel sexy or like being sexy.

Now, that said, you used the word 'awkward' to describe this, and I do want to point out that sometimes, it IS awkward and you SHOULD be reacting as you're reacting. THere are guys who start calling you 'hon' in Chat, or online, or whatever. They pay you endless compliments, trying to win you over. They write you awful love poems and talk about marriage before you've met. They come off as slimey and they usually ARE slimey. So if that's what the situation is, and that's what you're feeling, keep in mind that you're probably right.

Sometimes, I wish I was told I was beautiful more often, but if I'm honest with myself, I have to admit it would probably decenter me at times. So...

[thirtiesgirl]

IC that the man that I am interested in regularly calls me beautiful and sexy. While that is a wonderful thing in most situations and most women would do anything to have someone talk to them this way, I dont know why, but it feels awkward to me. I dare say that I would feel more comfortable if he said "cute" or "good looking" over beautiful and sexy.

I can't figure out why I have such a problem accepting the compliment and believing that he really thinks that way about me. I don't particularly think I am "sexy" persay--that is to say that I never really felt sexyish even when I tried--I've always felt kinda clumsy when it comes to the word "sexy" (and now I am laughing and terrified at the same time that I am sharing this info with anyone, much less an entire forum full of people who know me both from here and in person). I am pretty sure that they don;t use my face for the mold when they make monster cookies...in fact, I just think (and I am just being honest with myself here) that I am an average looking person. I don't think that its bad to b e an average looking person, so why is it so hard for me to think that being a beautiful person is out of reach?

I know where you're coming from, Lovely. I have no issue with a guy telling me he finds me beautiful and sexy...just not all the time. I don't know if that's exactly what's going on with you, but hearing I'm beautiful and sexy all the time starts seeming fake after a while, or like he's trying to placate me or thinks I have self-confidence issues and need to hear it all the time. Hearing it once in a while is nice, or in a moment of intimacy is nice. But all the time? That's a bit much and usually tells me that the guy doesn't really get me and is saying it for the wrong reasons.

[Lovelyone]

Thanks TraciJo, Jes and Thirtiesgirl for the comments and encouragement.

I really think that Jes hit the nail on the head when she said "It can feel weird b/c it foregrounds something you either don't think is true about yourself or b/c you're just not used to it." To some degree I think that you are correct on both parts of that sentence.
I truly think the guy is sincere, I dont feel that he's trying to placate me and he's not doing it in a creepy "I want more pics of you" way. He's just a really sweet and kind man who isn't afraid to say what he's thinking and he happens to think I am beautiful and sexy. Maybe upon hearing it so often I might actually start feeling that way...I dont know. I feel so perplexed cos I WANT someone to think of me that way--but oddly enough--I dont usually believe it when they say it.

[IrishBBWQueen]

IC that I miss my daughter!!

As a single Mother I would give a limb to have some free time to myself without the constant invasion of head & physical space, demands, tantrums, attitude etc Oh to be able to go where I want, when I want...at the drop of a hat... stay up all night..... stay in bed all day.... eat cheese on toast for dinner or even forget to eat at all!!

Then I get my wish, maybe twice a year... it feels like heaven.... it should feel like heaven.... but.... the house is empty, cold and so so quiet. Nobody needs me.... I find I don't have too many places to go or things to do afterall, most of my friends have kids... I miss the love, laughter, joy and playfullness she brings... her face lights up when she sees me and I find.... that's where heaven is... in her lovely warm brown eyes.

Now my eyes are like the weather here today.. it's raining lol

IC I'm a fool!!

[MissStacie]

right now..I hate being a fattie. I hate that I'm almost 6 months pregnant and don't LOOK pregnant. I hate that I can't feel the baby kick against my hand like other women do. I hate that, outwardly, it just doesn't LOOK like I'm pregnant. Its taken away some of joy from this because when my husband looks at me...all he sees is fat...not our baby...

Damn it all....right now...being fat sucks.:mad:

[MizzSnakeBite]

Thanks TraciJo, Jes and Thirtiesgirl for the comments and encouragement.

I really think that Jes hit the nail on the head when she said "It can feel weird b/c it foregrounds something you either don't think is true about yourself or b/c you're just not used to it." To some degree I think that you are correct on both parts of that sentence.
I truly think the guy is sincere, I dont feel that he's trying to placate me and he's not doing it in a creepy "I want more pics of you" way. He's just a really sweet and kind man who isn't afraid to say what he's thinking and he happens to think I am beautiful and sexy. Maybe upon hearing it so often I might actually start feeling that way...I dont know. I feel so perplexed cos I WANT someone to think of me that way--but oddly enough--I dont usually believe it when they say it.

I really understand where you're coming from. When I was growing up, I pretty much never got told I was pretty/beautiful/etc, and when I did, it was with the disclaimer, "...is slimming," "you have a pretty face," etc. My mother almost never told me I looked nice, and the very, very few times she'd tell me I looked nice in such and such, I'd flinch in shock.. It all makes me very uncomfortable.

IC that I miss my daughter!!

As a single Mother I would give a limb to have some free time to myself without the constant invasion of head & physical space, demands, tantrums, attitude etc Oh to be able to go where I want, when I want...at the drop of a hat... stay up all night..... stay in bed all day.... eat cheese on toast for dinner or even forget to eat at all!!

Then I get my wish, maybe twice a year... it feels like heaven.... it should feel like heaven.... but.... the house is empty, cold and so so quiet. Nobody needs me.... I find I don't have too many places to go or things to do afterall, most of my friends have kids... I miss the love, laughter, joy and playfullness she brings... her face lights up when she sees me and I find.... that's where heaven is... in her lovely warm brown eyes.

Now my eyes are like the weather here today.. it's raining lol

IC I'm a fool!!

right now..I hate being a fattie. I hate that I'm almost 6 months pregnant and don't LOOK pregnant. I hate that I can't feel the baby kick against my hand like other women do. I hate that, outwardly, it just doesn't LOOK like I'm pregnant. Its taken away some of joy from this because when my husband looks at me...all he sees is fat...not our baby...

Damn it all....right now...being fat sucks.:mad:

(((hugs)))

MissStacie, I hope your pregnancy goes as smoothly as possible.

[MissStacie]

Thats the thing..MsSB, it IS going incredibly smooth(knock on wood), and I'm just bitching about not being able to visibly SEE the pregnancy. Thank you, though...both baby and I are doing very, very well!

[Surlysomething]

Thats the thing..MsSB, it IS going incredibly smooth(knock on wood), and I'm just bitching about not being able to visibly SEE the pregnancy. Thank you, though...both baby and I are doing very, very well!


My sister never felt my niece move hardly at all and she was average size.

I'm glad things are going so smoothly for you though! Sounds exciting, don't be too down. :)

[Salus in Arduis]

I confess that Facebook is rather aptly named. I want to punch it in the face. :mad:

[CarlaSixx]

A guy I used to like when I was younger (but he didn't know) started talking to me recently, and last night he talked about meeting up. Not only that, but he talked about if it went smoothly, what he would like to do with me. And while I would find it weird had it been someone I went to school with, it's not the case! Lol.

But at the same time, I'd give anything to hear from some people I went to school with. We may not have been good friends but we got along pretty nicely when school ended. I just want to hear from them all. I want them to update me on their lives. For some reason I really miss my old classmates. I mean... Its been over 3 years since I last saw most of them, but I wish I could see them now. I know most of them would be positive influences on me if we were to talk. Perhaps that's the reason I want to talk with them so badly.

[LovelyLiz]

A guy I used to like when I was younger (but he didn't know) started talking to me recently, and last night he talked about meeting up. Not only that, but he talked about if it went smoothly, what he would like to do with me. And while I would find it weird had it been someone I went to school with, it's not the case! Lol.

But at the same time, I'd give anything to hear from some people I went to school with. We may not have been good friends but we got along pretty nicely when school ended. I just want to hear from them all. I want them to update me on their lives. For some reason I really miss my old classmates. I mean... Its been over 3 years since I last saw most of them, but I wish I could see them now. I know most of them would be positive influences on me if we were to talk. Perhaps that's the reason I want to talk with them so badly.

Hope things go well with that guy! :) As for the other people you went to school with, can you contact them, instead of waiting for them to contact you?

[Bigtigmom]

right now..I hate being a fattie. I hate that I'm almost 6 months pregnant and don't LOOK pregnant. I hate that I can't feel the baby kick against my hand like other women do. I hate that, outwardly, it just doesn't LOOK like I'm pregnant. Its taken away some of joy from this because when my husband looks at me...all he sees is fat...not our baby...

Damn it all....right now...being fat sucks.:mad:

Please don't be down on yourself MissStacie!! I have 2 daughters and I was obese during both of my pregnancies. I guess I didn't really fret over not seeing my pregnancy, I kinda just accepted that I wasn't going to LOOK pregnant. Your focus Missy is that beautiful little bundle that is being nourished from your body. I had no trouble feeling the kicking. One experience I did have while carrying my youngest was the experience of watching my entire stomach roll. One night while watching tv on the couch, I felt her move and actually saw my whole stomach distort at the same time. You see my little independent minded child decided to flip herself around and become breach. That was a sight, to say the least. Of course an ultrasound confirmed she was in fact butt side down. I had no choice, my C-section was all scheduled and I just had to wait. Funny thing is she flipped herself back 2 days before the C-section. Besides the acrobatics it was a normal pregnancy. When you hold your baby nothing else will matter!! Believe me.

As far as your husband only seeing fat when he looks at you, not true. As you progress, you and he will both notice the changes. Not to mention that your hormones are messing with your thought pattern and rationality. I swear it will be ok. Wish I could give you a hug and convey the support that I'm sure alot of women would be happy to give you. From Mommy to Mommy you are awesome and deserve the best!!!

[mossystate]

Pushing myself to get my ass in gear with doing something, anything, with all the bits and baubles I have accumulated. Two necklaces that are not complete, but going to show a quick blurry pic of them anyway...me shoving myself. :D
All vintage findings. I will be getting better pictures when they done, as those rhinestones on that locket are insanely sparkly. I am in deep love of those ruby glass ' wing ' cabochons on the watch necklace. Oh, and not sure about that connector...might switch that out.:p That's a brass mesh bow...sweeeeet.

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[MissStacie]

Thank you so much, Ma'am...I know I'm just hormonal and emotional these days, but its just a small part of the whole experience, I know. I've actually been feeling the baby more and more the last few days, so that, in and of itself is a blessing for sure.

I am pretty belly heavy, with some water retention at a surgical site that has YET to go away after 2 years, so it makes my belly much heavier and thicker than normal, so I'm interested to see how much further my belly sticks out as the baby grows...I should take pictures, but to this point, nothing much has changed except my boobs...:p

Thank you again for the pep talk!


Please don't be down on yourself MissStacie!! I have 2 daughters and I was obese during both of my pregnancies. I guess I didn't really fret over not seeing my pregnancy, I kinda just accepted that I wasn't going to LOOK pregnant. Your focus Missy is that beautiful little bundle that is being nourished from your body. I had no trouble feeling the kicking. One experience I did have while carrying my youngest was the experience of watching my entire stomach roll. One night while watching tv on the couch, I felt her move and actually saw my whole stomach distort at the same time. You see my little independent minded child decided to flip herself around and become breach. That was a sight, to say the least. Of course an ultrasound confirmed she was in fact butt side down. I had no choice, my C-section was all scheduled and I just had to wait. Funny thing is she flipped herself back 2 days before the C-section. Besides the acrobatics it was a normal pregnancy. When you hold your baby nothing else will matter!! Believe me.

As far as your husband only seeing fat when he looks at you, not true. As you progress, you and he will both notice the changes. Not to mention that your hormones are messing with your thought pattern and rationality. I swear it will be ok. Wish I could give you a hug and convey the support that I'm sure alot of women would be happy to give you. From Mommy to Mommy you are awesome and deserve the best!!!

[NancyGirl74]

IC...You know that look a man gives a woman when he finds her attractive? It's a look in their eye, a slightly knowing smile. Whatever it is its very attractive on men. I can spot that look a mile away when a man aims it at another woman. When it's aimed at me...I wonder if I have something in my teeth or if my makeup is smeared across my face. That look was directed at me today...So, I had to find a mirror just to make sure a booger wasn't stuck to my upper lip or something. Is it self doubt or just a mental block? *shrug* I have no idea.

[CastingPearls]

IC that the man that I am interested in regularly calls me beautiful and sexy. While that is a wonderful thing in most situations and most women would do anything to have someone talk to them this way, I dont know why, but it feels awkward to me. I dare say that I would feel more comfortable if he said "cute" or "good looking" over beautiful and sexy.

I can't figure out why I have such a problem accepting the compliment and believing that he really thinks that way about me. I don't particularly think I am "sexy" persay--that is to say that I never really felt sexyish even when I tried--I've always felt kinda clumsy when it comes to the word "sexy" (and now I am laughing and terrified at the same time that I am sharing this info with anyone, much less an entire forum full of people who know me both from here and in person). I am pretty sure that they don;t use my face for the mold when they make monster cookies...in fact, I just think (and I am just being honest with myself here) that I am an average looking person. I don't think that its bad to b e an average looking person, so why is it so hard for me to think that being a beautiful person is out of reach?

I think that you have beautifully warm, expressive eyes and that you are far from average. Hopefully, you will become more comfortable and more accepting of hearing that you are sexy and desirable to your man, the more he tells you (and shows you).

I agree. We've never met in person, but I do see a lovely woman with warm eyes and smile. I see no reason why a man would not find you beautiful and sexy. If he's into you, he's into you. Enjoy it!

[Candy_Coated_Clown]

feels lately that I need some kind of positive miracle or breakthrough to happen...or least some kind of amazing adventure to come onto my path...

Things feel stagnant lately, and gray...money is tight...although I am doing well with regulating my schedule and the activities therein on a daily basis...

[MizzSnakeBite]

A guy I used to like when I was younger (but he didn't know) started talking to me recently, and last night he talked about meeting up. Not only that, but he talked about if it went smoothly, what he would like to do with me. And while I would find it weird had it been someone I went to school with, it's not the case! Lol.


But at the same time, I'd give anything to hear from some people I went to school with. We may not have been good friends but we got along pretty nicely when school ended. I just want to hear from them all. I want them to update me on their lives. For some reason I really miss my old classmates. I mean... Its been over 3 years since I last saw most of them, but I wish I could see them now. I know most of them would be positive influences on me if we were to talk. Perhaps that's the reason I want to talk with them so badly.

Good luck! Also, you might consider contacting your old friends :).

Pushing myself to get my ass in gear with doing something, anything, with all the bits and baubles I have accumulated. Two necklaces that are not complete, but going to show a quick blurry pic of them anyway...me shoving myself. :D
All vintage findings. I will be getting better pictures when they done, as those rhinestones on that locket are insanely sparkly. I am in deep love of those ruby glass ' wing ' cabochons on the watch necklace. Oh, and not sure about that connector...might switch that out.:p That's a brass mesh bow...sweeeeet.



They're FAB, M!! :bow: You better be showing them off in the hobby thread too! :D

IC...You know that look a man gives a woman when he finds her attractive? It's a look in their eye, a slightly knowing smile. Whatever it is its very attractive on men. I can spot that look a mile away when a man aims it at another woman. When it's aimed at me...I wonder if I have something in my teeth or if my makeup is smeared across my face. That look was directed at me today...So, I had to find a mirror just to make sure a booger wasn't stuck to my upper lip or something. Is it self doubt or just a mental block? *shrug* I have no idea.

Yep, I know exactly what you're talking about.

[littlefairywren]

(((hugs))) to mah Chicklet :wubu:

Ta, my darling. Here is a ((((((hug)))))) for you too, cause a girl can never have too many of those :wubu:

[mossystate]

They're FAB, M!! :bow: You better be showing them off in the hobby thread too! :D


Thanks, Devi! :) I think I will wait until I finish them and take pics that don't look like I smeared Vaseline on the camera lens. :D

:kiss2:

[Tau]

feels lately that I need some kind of positive miracle or breakthrough to happen...or least some kind of amazing adventure to come onto my path...

Things feel stagnant lately, and gray...money is tight...although I am doing well with regulating my schedule and the activities therein on a daily basis...

Absolutely hear you - I also need a major change soon. There's times I can barely resist getting into my car and just driving, just to be somewhere else.

[mszwebs]

IC...You know that look a man gives a woman when he finds her attractive? It's a look in their eye, a slightly knowing smile. Whatever it is its very attractive on men. I can spot that look a mile away when a man aims it at another woman. When it's aimed at me...I wonder if I have something in my teeth or if my makeup is smeared across my face. That look was directed at me today...So, I had to find a mirror just to make sure a booger wasn't stuck to my upper lip or something. Is it self doubt or just a mental block? *shrug* I have no idea.

Dude. I see that look all the time on guys when they look at ladies... its like a twinkle. But I wouldn't even recognize it aimed at me if he was wearing neon and had a marching band leading the way.

[Bigtigmom]

Thank you so much, Ma'am...I know I'm just hormonal and emotional these days, but its just a small part of the whole experience, I know. I've actually been feeling the baby more and more the last few days, so that, in and of itself is a blessing for sure.

I am pretty belly heavy, with some water retention at a surgical site that has YET to go away after 2 years, so it makes my belly much heavier and thicker than normal, so I'm interested to see how much further my belly sticks out as the baby grows...I should take pictures, but to this point, nothing much has changed except my boobs...:p

Thank you again for the pep talk!

You are quite welcome, what else am I for but to be a friend and help when needed? Thank you for sharing with us and letting us offer our support. I would love to see pics. Hope to interact with you again soon. Have a great weekend!!!

[jewels_mystery]

I am giving up on internet dating. I have had success in the past but lately I have been dealing with slim balls. The lastest...... I just got a call from a guy I was talking to......WIFE!!!! I am still in shock. I told her nothing happened, we haven't met and we were just talking. OMG. My profile clearly states if you are married, separated, living with someone or have a girlfriend, do not contact me. Now I feel like crap although I did not create this situation. ugggh

[littlefairywren]

I am giving up on internet dating. I have had success in the past but lately I have been dealing with slim balls. The lastest...... I just got a call from a guy I was talking to......WIFE!!!! I am still in shock. I told her nothing happened, we haven't met and we were just talking. OMG. My profile clearly states if you are married, separated, living with someone or have a girlfriend, do not contact me. Now I feel like crap although I did not create this situation. ugggh

That totally sucks! I am sorry that you had to find out that the dude is married, and also the way it came to light. The whole on-line dating thing just depressed me after a while, so I gave it the flick. Hugs, honey!

[MizzSnakeBite]

I am giving up on internet dating. I have had success in the past but lately I have been dealing with slim balls. The lastest...... I just got a call from a guy I was talking to......WIFE!!!! I am still in shock. I told her nothing happened, we haven't met and we were just talking. OMG. My profile clearly states if you are married, separated, living with someone or have a girlfriend, do not contact me. Now I feel like crap although I did not create this situation. ugggh

Ugh. I'm so sorry. :( (((Hugs)))

[Punkin1024]

IC that stress and lack of time is making me so tired. All I want to do when I get home is shower, put on some comfy jammies and hang out in front of the computer. I know this is counter productive, I should keep up with walking and eating healthy fare, but sometimes I feel a need to just chill and take in some comfort food.

[thirtiesgirl]

I am giving up on internet dating. I have had success in the past but lately I have been dealing with slim balls. The lastest...... I just got a call from a guy I was talking to......WIFE!!!! I am still in shock. I told her nothing happened, we haven't met and we were just talking. OMG. My profile clearly states if you are married, separated, living with someone or have a girlfriend, do not contact me. Now I feel like crap although I did not create this situation. ugggh

I generally prefer a guy's balls to be medium kiwi-sized, too. No slim balls for me. ;)

I'm so sorry you met a married asshole. I've met my share of them online, too, and met plenty of guys with live-in girlfriends. Two things to consider, though: one, a lot of guys on dating websites like to play assholes when you specifically state you're NOT looking for something in your ad. If I were to say I don't want to meet any sports fans, I'd get contacted by a bunch of sports fans. No drug or alcohol abusers? I'd hear from a bunch of recreational drug using alcoholics. No married guys? Guess who chats you up. It's immature, but then these are the guys who thought it was funny to snap a girl's training bra straps when they were 13.

And two, why the hell should you have to justify your contact with the guy to his wife?? I would have told the woman to go yell at her husband since he's the one who contacted you and lied about the fact that he's married, and then hung up on her. You owe no explanations for your behavior to her. Her husband, however, owes her many.

[littlefairywren]

I generally prefer a guy's balls to be medium kiwi-sized, too. No slim balls for me. ;)

I'm so sorry you met a married asshole. I've met my share of them online, too, and met plenty of guys with live-in girlfriends. Two things to consider, though: one, a lot of guys on dating websites like to play assholes when you specifically state you're NOT looking for something in your ad. If I were to say I don't want to meet any sports fans, I'd get contacted by a bunch of sports fans. No drug or alcohol abusers? I'd hear from a bunch of recreational drug using alcoholics. No married guys? Guess who chats you up. It's immature, but then these are the guys who thought it was funny to snap a girl's training bra straps when they were 13.

And two, why the hell should you have to justify your contact with the guy to his wife?? I would have told the woman to go yell at her husband since he's the one who contacted you and lied about the fact that he's married, and then hung up on her. You owe no explanations for your behavior to her. Her husband, however, owes her many.

If I were that poor man's wife, I would actually feel sorry for her. Putting myself in her shoes, I would appreciate another woman showing some compassion for the situation. Considering no woman I know wants to find herself in that place, I would have done the same as Jewels. Hanging up on her would be needlessly cruel.

[thirtiesgirl]

In confession... I have a small garden lizard in my apartment and it's really freaking me out. I have no idea how it got in here, and I have no idea how to catch it and get it out. I really don't want to touch it if I can help it. I know these little lizards mostly like to hide, and there are a lot of places for it to hide in my apartment. But I'm really freaked out about finding it in the bathtub some early morning when I'm taking a shower, or having it crawl over me while I'm in bed.

Based on info I've read online about trying to get rid of a small lizard in your apartment, most of them stay hidden and eventually die, only to be discovered later when you're vacuuming behind the couch. They're also good for eating bugs...and I must admit that I occasionally have the omnipresent California cockroach pay a visit to my apartment and it might be nice to have some help in getting rid of them.

Then again, I also have two cats in my apartment and as much as it might pique their interest to have some 'live bait,' so to speak, to chase around the house, I'd feel bad if they caught the lizard and killed it. I'm surprised they haven't noticed it yet, actually, but it just showed up this evening. I happened to notice it scooting across the floor to hide under my tv stand. I'm too afraid to try and get it out. It also might have found a different place to hide, under one of my bookcases next to my tv stand. I really don't want to tear apart my whole apartment to find one little lizard.

I know my girl kitty noticed the lizard when it was scooting to hide under the tv stand, but I think she was so surprised to see it in the house, she didn't know what to do. Given enough time, though, I'm sure my cats will figure out that it's a live plaything and will shortly be chasing it around the apartment. ...Provided it comes out of hiding.

Ach. I have no idea what to do. Let it fend for itself in my apartment, or try to get it out?

[thirtiesgirl]

If I were that poor man's wife, I would actually feel sorry for her. Putting myself in her shoes, I would appreciate another woman showing some compassion for the situation. Considering no woman I know wants to find herself in that place, I would have done the same as Jewels. Hanging up on her would be needlessly cruel.

What right does his wife have to call someone else and expect an explanation? If she thinks her husband is talking with another woman, she needs to talk to her husband, not call the other woman up and demand explanation. Her husband is the issue, not the clueless person he's talking with.

[littlefairywren]

What right does his wife have to call someone else and expect an explanation? If she thinks her husband is talking with another woman, she needs to talk to her husband, not call the other woman up and demand explanation. Her husband is the issue, not the clueless person he's talking with.

She may have no right at all. And the fact that Jewels had to deal with her is horrid. But I have the ability to see things from all angles, not just my own. I might even do the same thing myself if I were pushed, plus take on my shit of a husband for being a total dick (like the above dude). Maybe I am more empathetic than you, thirtiesgirl. I just don't see how treating someone badly when they are in distress would help the situation. If on the other hand, the wife was screaming at me like a banshee, I would deal with it another way. But that was not stated in the original post, so I am basing my comment on what I read.

[jewels_mystery]

What right does his wife have to call someone else and expect an explanation? If she thinks her husband is talking with another woman, she needs to talk to her husband, not call the other woman up and demand explanation. Her husband is the issue, not the clueless person he's talking with.

I really do not regret the way I handled the phone call. If I was his wife, I would call the other woman too. The husband is going to lie and the only way she is going to find out the truth would be via the other woman. The wife did not yell nor was she rude. If anything I felt bad for her. I heard kids in the background. She did seem to soften when I told her I did not know he was married. I am grateful she did call me. Otherwise I would have continue talking to him. If I was married and the other woman KNEW she was dating a married man, I would snatch both of them.

[thirtiesgirl]

She may have no right at all. And the fact that Jewels had to deal with her is horrid. But I have the ability to see things from all angles, not just my own. I might even do the same thing myself if I were pushed, plus take on my shit of a husband for being a total dick (like the above dude). Maybe I am more empathetic than you, thirtiesgirl. I just don't see how treating someone badly when they are in distress would help the situation. If on the other hand, the wife was screaming at me like a banshee, I would deal with it another way. But that was not stated in the original post, so I am basing my comment on what I read.

I really do not regret the way I handled the phone call. If I was his wife, I would call the other woman too. The husband is going to lie and the only way she is going to find out the truth would be via the other woman. The wife did not yell nor was she rude. If anything I felt bad for her. I heard kids in the background. She did seem to soften when I told her I did not know he was married. I am grateful she did call me. Otherwise I would have continue talking to him. If I was married and the other woman KNEW she was dating a married man, I would snatch both of them.

Having been with a cheating partner in the past, I never would call the other person. The way I see it, if you suspect your partner is cheating, you know, so what good does it do you to call the other person? I see no lack of empathy in telling a cheated on wife or girlfriend that you had no idea her partner was attached, but that you're not going to discuss the issue with her and she needs to talk to her partner about it. Those things can be said politely, without malice, and without prolonging the conversation. I think it's important to set boundaries and let the wife or girlfriend know that you're not available for future conversations. It's never happened to me, but I've seen it happen to friends one too many times, where the cheated-on wife or girlfriend continues to call back, rather than discussing the issue with her partner. Again, you owe her no explanations, since it was her partner who made the error in judgment, not you.

[jewels_mystery]

IC that stress and lack of time is making me so tired. All I want to do when I get home is shower, put on some comfy jammies and hang out in front of the computer. I know this is counter productive, I should keep up with walking and eating healthy fare, but sometimes I feel a need to just chill and take in some comfort food.

Sometimes you need to just veg out. There is nothing wrong with that. {{hugs}}

[Famouslastwords]

Stacie,

I hope you get to feel the baby more and more as your pregnancy progresses. I think you are very lucky. I want a baby myself but it looks like it's never going to happen for me for many reasons. You'll be a good mama.

[Ruffie]

I confess that I am happy to be escaping from all my responsibilities tomorrow for a weekend away with my hubby. No taking care of the big kids, no work, no taking care of my mom, no furry beasts to feed and walk. Hubby is in a conference days so have them for shopping, museums, art galleries or just veg time and evenings for couple time. I have had my fill of doing so much for others of late and this weekend and then having time off next week from work hopefully will let me have some time just to be Ruth not all the roles others define for me! YAY

[jewels_mystery]

I confess that I am happy to be escaping from all my responsibilities tomorrow for a weekend away with my hubby. No taking care of the big kids, no work, no taking care of my mom, no furry beasts to feed and walk. Hubby is in a conference days so have them for shopping, museums, art galleries or just veg time and evenings for couple time. I have had my fill of doing so much for others of late and this weekend and then having time off next week from work hopefully will let me have some time just to be Ruth not all the roles others define for me! YAY

Sounds like this is over due for you. yay. Have fun!!!

[Candy_Coated_Clown]

I confess that I've been struggling with acute feelings of loneliness for awhile now and I really want that to change.

It must.

[CastingPearls]

I confess that my kitten Wonton (okay she's not a kitten anymore but she's cuddly and little) is getting fat. When she jumps off the bed, there's a thud which I kinda like. She's like a fuzzy little me. Everyone around me gets fatter. I think it's the water. <scratches head>

[Lovelyone]

Having been with a cheating partner in the past, I never would call the other person. The way I see it, if you suspect your partner is cheating, you know, so what good does it do you to call the other person? I see no lack of empathy in telling a cheated on wife or girlfriend that you had no idea her partner was attached, but that you're not going to discuss the issue with her and she needs to talk to her partner about it. Those things can be said politely, without malice, and without prolonging the conversation. I think it's important to set boundaries and let the wife or girlfriend know that you're not available for future conversations. It's never happened to me, but I've seen it happen to friends one too many times, where the cheated-on wife or girlfriend continues to call back, rather than discussing the issue with her partner. Again, you owe her no explanations, since it was her partner who made the error in judgment, not you.

Being suspicious of someone and actually having proof that the cheating is being done are two totally different things. Suspicion doesn't mean KNOWING. I've been in the situation of being suspicious(and thinking that I knew for sure that he was cheating) but I was 100% completely wrong about it. He was not doing anything with anyone--he was taking dancing lessons. In that case, my suspicions were totally unfounded.
I've been in the situation of having to talk to a live-in GF of a man who said he was single but showed interest in me. We'd gone out on a few dates, he said he was single--I didnt question it. It's an awkward situation at best...but had she not called me, I'm not sure that I would have found out what kind of person I had welcomed into my life. IMHO, she had the right to ask questions...and I had an obligation to tell her what I knew. We were civil to one another because we had several things in common. We both were duped by a man without scruples, we both shared a certain naivity about men, and we both wanted that person to love us and suffered the heartbreak of realizing that the person who we thought we could trust and love turned out to be a lying slimebag.

[jewels_mystery]

I confess that I've been struggling with acute feelings of loneliness for awhile now and I really want that to change.

It must.

I confess that my kitten Wonton (okay she's not a kitten anymore but she's cuddly and little) is getting fat. When she jumps off the bed, there's a thud which I kinda like. She's like a fuzzy little me. Everyone around me gets fatter. I think it's the water. <scratches head>

Candy Coated Clown {{hugs}} I know how you feel

Casting Pearls ROFL

[thirtiesgirl]

Being suspicious of someone and actually having proof that the cheating is being done are two totally different things. Suspicion doesn't mean KNOWING. I've been in the situation of being suspicious(and thinking that I knew for sure that he was cheating) but I was 100% completely wrong about it. He was not doing anything with anyone--he was taking dancing lessons. In that case, my suspicions were totally unfounded.

Suspicion and paranoia are two different things.

[Tania]

I confess that my kitten Wonton (okay she's not a kitten anymore but she's cuddly and little) is getting fat. When she jumps off the bed, there's a thud which I kinda like. She's like a fuzzy little me. Everyone around me gets fatter. I think it's the water. <scratches head>

I *love* the name Wonton for pets. A business owner in downtown LA has a Shih-tzu also named Wonton, and I just about died of the cute when I learned it.

Pets take on some traits of their owners, and vice versa! :D Francine is fluffy and princessy and has a big butt, just like me! And Alice is cuddly and outgoing, like me.

[Candy_Coated_Clown]

Candy Coated Clown {{hugs}} I know how you feel



Thanks, jewels_mystery :) A day at a time...

In the meanwhile, I try to find ways to incorporate little, simple pleasures into my life...

[Weeze]

IC that stress and lack of time is making me so tired. All I want to do when I get home is shower, put on some comfy jammies and hang out in front of the computer. I know this is counter productive, I should keep up with walking and eating healthy fare, but sometimes I feel a need to just chill and take in some comfort food.

Ella, I know *exactly* what you're talking about in this! I go to school and work two jobs, and it's really hard to like... stay going at the end of the night. Bed is toooo tempting!
Stay strong, girlie!

[CarlaSixx]

Pets take on some traits of their owners, and vice versa! :D

I agree, lol. My dog is super curious, will put anything in her mouth that she can find, is a total brat, and hates my father. Just like me, lol.


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IC I'm feeling a lil desperate lately, lol. Well... it doesn't help that this guy I was interested in decided not to meet up when he came through my area, and so it kind of upset me and now I'm just itching for any smidge of affection, even if it's totally fake.

[littlefairywren]

I confess that I've been struggling with acute feelings of loneliness for awhile now and I really want that to change.

It must.

Hugs, CCC. Baby steps, and yes, take the time to be good to yourself.

[Lovelyone]

Well, I can honestly tell you that what I was feeling was suspicion and NOT paranoia. Its interesting that you think that you can make a distinction about it without knowing the full facts of the situation. That's very presumptuous of you.

Suspicion and paranoia are two different things.

[thirtiesgirl]

Well, I can honestly tell you that what I was feeling was suspicion and NOT paranoia. Its interesting that you think that you can make a distinction about it without knowing the full facts of the situation. That's very presumptuous of you, but then again I wouldn't expect anything less from someone who quite obviously believes that she knows EVERYTHING.

I really don't. What I know is this: if you're paranoid that a guy is cheating on you simply because he's not coming home at the end of the day, that's not exactly healthy, nor a reason to think he's cheating. There are many reasons a guy might not come home on time. If all of them point to cheating in your mind, it shows a lack of confidence in yourself and your relationship.

If, on the other hand, the signs are there - he gets phone calls on his phone and closes the door to talk, or says "I have to go," and abruptly hangs up when you walk in the room; gets jumpy when you get near him when he's on the computer, quickly closing chat windows, or closing his computer altogether; starts paying more attention to how he's dressing, shaving more, wearing a new aftershave... that leads to healthy suspicion that the guy is cheating. Having observed all those signs in my relationship with a cheater, my suspicions were well-founded and healthy, not based in a lack of confidence about my desirability. I had no need to confront the girl he'd cheated with. I simply confronted the guy with what I'd observed. He lied and said I was being paranoid and "seeing things that weren't there." I told him I didn't believe him, which was all that needed to be said. We were living together at the time, so I shortly moved out and stayed with my mom for a few months while I looked for a new apartment. He couldn't afford the rent on the place we shared, but through friends, I heard he'd tried to convince the girl he'd cheated with to move in with him, but once she realized he'd been living with a girlfriend while they were "starting their relationship," as she assumed, she left him high and dry.

It was a bad time in my life and I was hit pretty hard by his infidelity. Before the other girl left him, I even saw them around town together, which really hurt. But he got his just desserts in the end, and there was no need for me to contact the girl he cheated with. The explanations needed to come from him, not her. Of course I never got them from him and I had to learn to accept that, as hurtful as that was. Sometimes you're not always going to get what you want in life, no matter how much you might want it. It's a lesson all adults need to learn at some point in time.

[lovelocs]

30's- Lovely never did divulge all the facts about her situation with her guy. So you are still making assumptions based on what you think was happening. She never, from what I read, alluded to any of his behaviors, but simply stated that he had been taking dancing lessons in the end.

Maybe he was late getting home.
Maybe he he had unexplained charges on the credit card bill (you know, paying for dancing lessons).
Maybe he was conducting phone or email business that she happened to overhear (you know, setting up lessons or changing lesson times).

We don't know, because she didn't say.

Not all of the hallmarks of cheating are easy to spot, especially if the man has a compliant partner or is experienced in lying or cheating.

I'm sorry you experienced infidelity. It's horrible, and can make a person physically ill. It just sounds like your way of healing and dealing with the situation is different from hers. It sounds like Lovely had a fruitful and important conversation with this person, and it helped her grow and move on and did no harm to the other party. Not sure how one can object to that...

On topic, IC that I'm tired of my car, which is unreliable as hell, and bleeding me dry one sensor at a time...

[CastingPearls]

I don't understand why one would need to invalidate or dismiss anyone else's 'truths', feelings, or experiences in order to extol the virtues of their own.

[Donna]

I don't understand why one would need to invalidate or dismiss anyone else's 'truths', feelings, or experiences in order to extol the virtues of their own.

I've read that it is a sign of serious self-esteem issues. Arrogance is more times interpreted not as over-confidence, but over-compensation.

[thirtiesgirl]

I don't understand why one would need to invalidate or dismiss anyone else's 'truths', feelings, or experiences in order to extol the virtues of their own.

I'm not invalidating or dismissing Lovely's feelings, Casting. What I'm doing is asking her to think about why she assumed her guy was cheating simply because he was late coming home. I'm not saying she was wrong to feel how she feels. I've been there, too, assuming every guy I dated was a cheater simply because he didn't pick up the phone when I wanted to talk or didn't come home on time. I've found that way of thinking to be counterproductive and only hurt me more and caused more damage to the relationship. I had to learn my lesson the hard way a couple of times when the guys left because I wasn't able to trust them or trust that their feelings for me were real. Seeing the signs of actual cheating is a bit different, though. I wasn't looking for it or expecting it. I'd worked through a lot of my trust issues in therapy. But I couldn't deny that the cheater's behavior was undeniably suspicious, even though I didn't want to believe it. That's a little different than expecting he's cheating simply because he doesn't come home on time or doesn't meet your expectations in some other way.

[Lovelyone]

I'm not invalidating or dismissing Lovely's feelings, Casting. What I'm doing is asking her to think about why she assumed her guy was cheating simply because he was late coming home. I'm not saying she was wrong to feel how she feels. I've been there, too, assuming every guy I dated was a cheater simply because he didn't pick up the phone when I wanted to talk or didn't come home on time. I've found that way of thinking to be counterproductive and only hurt me more and caused more damage to the relationship. I had to learn my lesson the hard way a couple of times when the guys left because I wasn't able to trust them or trust that their feelings for me were real. Seeing the signs of actual cheating is a bit different, though. I wasn't looking for it or expecting it. I'd worked through a lot of my trust issues in therapy. But I couldn't deny that the cheater's behavior was undeniably suspicious, even though I didn't want to believe it. That's a little different than expecting he's cheating simply because he doesn't come home on time or doesn't meet your expectations in some other way.

Wow, you REALLY DO read into a posting whatever you want to read into it. I never once said that I was assuming he was cheating on me because " he was simply a little late coming home". In fact--you inferred that from what I had written about him taking dance lessons. Just to be clear on things there were a lot of--as you say--"signs" that lead me to the belief that my guy was taking liberties with someone else. The end result being that he admitted he was taking dance lessons and didnt want to be judged by ANYONE on that...which is why he kept it secret, which in turn lead to SUSPICION. Lovelocs was right--I never alluded to what the reason behind my SUSPICION was--just that there WAS suspicion (which is by definition: the act of suspecting; or the vague notion of anything to be the case or to be likely). I never said that I was paranoid about his cheating. I never said that I was sitting in my house wringing my hands, worried and trying to figure out where he was at every minute of the day...and wondering who he was having sex with, or giving his quality time to. I only said that I suspectied that there was a possibility..or a vague notion that this could be the case.

[Surlysomething]

Isn't this supposed to be a warm, accepting area of Dims?


I confess that I hate personality conflicts spreading to every thread on this site.

:rolleyes:

[lovelocs]

1. I don't know how much more accepting this area is than any other area of Dimensions. I've seen my share of catfighting everywhere here.

2. I don't like conflict, but from time to time it becomes necessary to either defend one's self, or point out obvious flaws in another member's logic, or demeanor. Not doing so can be more damaging to the site than a confrontation.

[littlefairywren]

Isn't this supposed to be a warm, accepting area of Dims?


I confess that I hate personality conflicts spreading to every thread on this site.

:rolleyes:

I agree, but it's usually the same suspect/s.

[thirtiesgirl]

1. I don't know how much more accepting this area is than any other area of Dimensions. I've seen my share of catfighting everywhere here.

2. I don't like conflict, but from time to time it becomes necessary to either defend one's self, or point out obvious flaws in another member's logic, or demeanor. Not doing so can be more damaging to the site than a confrontation.

For the record, I think Surly's post was directed at me, not Lovely. I'm the one it's ok to discredit or slam any post I write.

[EvilPrincess]

This issue is closed. If you find a post that is objectionable or against the forum guidelines, then report it.

Your cooperation is appreciated.

EvilPrincess Moderator.

[CastingPearls]

I confess that when I don't get what I need out of a relationship that I doubt myself and think I'm not good enough and not worth the trouble.

[CarlaSixx]

IC I sometimes really hate how heavy I am only because I can't wear heels comfortably. Or pretty much at all for that matter... What good is a drag queen when she isn't wearing heels?! :p

[Donna]

IC I sometimes really hate how heavy I am only because I can't wear heels comfortably. Or pretty much at all for that matter... What good is a drag queen when she isn't wearing heels?! :p

Not even platforms?

[CastingPearls]

Not even platforms?
I can't do heels or platforms either. :(

[CarlaSixx]

Not even platforms?

I walk flat footed in platforms, so that doesn't work, and they aren't even as cute.

[Tania]

Heels and I don't really get along, but I force myself into them anyway. Sofft engineers their shoes well enough that I don't kill myself, and their strappy heels are particularly adaptable (I shocked myself by actually LIKING my 3.5 inch Cally sandals...I guess they WOULD fit, given the name, ha!).

Pumps, however, are the devil. No matter how heavy I am or am not, nor how big or small my feet get, they're just a bitch. I have wide balls (haha) and narrow heels, which means I'm usually buying regular widths for the backs of my feet and getting the toeboxes punched out to accommodate my stupid reverse-bunions. Still, even with those skid petal things, silicone heel grippers, and shoes in the right size, the fronts of my feet go slamming into the toebox and the pumps flop off my heels. Seriously, just THINKING about it makes me want to stab some shoes right now.

LOL.

[jewels_mystery]

I gave up heels years ago. Which sucks because I love them!!! Damn these bad knees

[Lovelyone]

I agree, but it's usually the same suspect/s.

Sorry.

Ic that I was greedy and didn't want to share my teddy grahams with 3 little girls today. I gave in. It's hard to pass up a smiling 3 1/3 year old saying "Pweaaaaaaaaaase? Can I have some of your Teddy bear cookies things?"

[Candy_Coated_Clown]

Hugs, CCC. Baby steps, and yes, take the time to be good to yourself.

Thanks for the encouragement, littlefairywren. *hug* :)

[jewels_mystery]

IC that I could really go for some girl scout cookies right now. Trefoils :eat2:

[Surlysomething]

For the record, I think Surly's post was directed at me, not Lovely. I'm the one it's ok to discredit or slam any post I write.

It was a general statement.

I would have quoted you if I was specifying. But i'm thankful the mod got on it and we're back on track.

:)

[Weeze]

IC that I think that new show Mike and Molly is actually helping my mother feel good about herself. The evening after she watches it, she's a completely different, more confident person, and it's really great to see... even if it's coming from a corny tv show :p

[thatgirl08]

IC that I'm absolutely exhausted mentally and physically. I'm grateful for my new (second) job but eight days with no day off has left me tired and irritated. It was supposed to be 11 days with no day off but I had to call in sick today.. which leads me to my second confession. I also C that I hatehatehatehatehate PCOS and how it messes with my period .. I hate that I feel so achey and weak and that I'm bleeding and leaking everywhere.. I hate that I only made it 9 hours yesterday at my new job before I finally had to leave because I really felt like I was going to pass out.. I hate that I had to leave my coworkers without an extra person when there was still a good 2 hours work left to do.. and I hate that I had to call in today when it's only my second week.

[MizzSnakeBite]

IC that I'm absolutely exhausted mentally and physically. I'm grateful for my new (second) job but eight days with no day off has left me tired and irritated. It was supposed to be 11 days with no day off but I had to call in sick today.. which leads me to my second confession. I also C that I hatehatehatehatehate PCOS and how it messes with my period .. I hate that I feel so achey and weak and that I'm bleeding and leaking everywhere.. I hate that I only made it 9 hours yesterday at my new job before I finally had to leave because I really felt like I was going to pass out.. I hate that I had to leave my coworkers without an extra person when there was still a good 2 hours work left to do.. and I hate that I had to call in today when it's only my second week.

(((hugs))) I hope you're able to get some rest.

[CarlaSixx]

IC I'm really afraid of going to the movie theatre and not fitting in the seats :( I wanna go see HP7 part1 sooooo bad but I want to be able to watch it without hurting. Sometimes I wish I was more an apple than a pear :(

[Tracy]

IC that the new guy in my life is driving me crazy insane with his huge body....he must weigh at least 400lbs + and all I can think about is exploring every inch of his body! :eat2::blush:

[lozonloz]

IC that I feel useless for taking so much time off Uni after my Dad died that I dont know if I can catch up.

[MizzSnakeBite]

IC that I feel useless for taking so much time off Uni after my Dad died that I dont know if I can catch up.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Have you spoken with your professors and/or your adviser? They might be able to offer some advice or assistance.

[Surlysomething]

IC that I'm absolutely exhausted mentally and physically. I'm grateful for my new (second) job but eight days with no day off has left me tired and irritated. It was supposed to be 11 days with no day off but I had to call in sick today.. which leads me to my second confession. I also C that I hatehatehatehatehate PCOS and how it messes with my period .. I hate that I feel so achey and weak and that I'm bleeding and leaking everywhere.. I hate that I only made it 9 hours yesterday at my new job before I finally had to leave because I really felt like I was going to pass out.. I hate that I had to leave my coworkers without an extra person when there was still a good 2 hours work left to do.. and I hate that I had to call in today when it's only my second week.


Have you talked to your Dr? Maybe you need to take Iron or something like that to give you more pep in your step.

Feel better, kiddo.

[jewels_mystery]

IC that I'm absolutely exhausted mentally and physically. I'm grateful for my new (second) job but eight days with no day off has left me tired and irritated. It was supposed to be 11 days with no day off but I had to call in sick today.. which leads me to my second confession. I also C that I hatehatehatehatehate PCOS and how it messes with my period .. I hate that I feel so achey and weak and that I'm bleeding and leaking everywhere.. I hate that I only made it 9 hours yesterday at my new job before I finally had to leave because I really felt like I was going to pass out.. I hate that I had to leave my coworkers without an extra person when there was still a good 2 hours work left to do.. and I hate that I had to call in today when it's only my second week.

I am so sorry honey. {{hugs}}. I hope you feel better tomorrow.

[jewels_mystery]

IC I'm really afraid of going to the movie theatre and not fitting in the seats :( I wanna go see HP7 part1 sooooo bad but I want to be able to watch it without hurting. Sometimes I wish I was more an apple than a pear :(

I have that problem too. Do you have a theater that has stadium seating in your area?

IC that the new guy in my life is driving me crazy insane with his huge body....he must weigh at least 400lbs + and all I can think about is exploring every inch of his body! :eat2::blush:

Sounds Yummy

[littlefairywren]

IC that I'm absolutely exhausted mentally and physically. I'm grateful for my new (second) job but eight days with no day off has left me tired and irritated. It was supposed to be 11 days with no day off but I had to call in sick today.. which leads me to my second confession. I also C that I hatehatehatehatehate PCOS and how it messes with my period .. I hate that I feel so achey and weak and that I'm bleeding and leaking everywhere.. I hate that I only made it 9 hours yesterday at my new job before I finally had to leave because I really felt like I was going to pass out.. I hate that I had to leave my coworkers without an extra person when there was still a good 2 hours work left to do.. and I hate that I had to call in today when it's only my second week.

Soft (((hugs))), baby girl. I like Surly's suggestion, you may want to get your iron levels checked.

[thatgirl08]

Yeah, I'm definitely going to ask my doctor about taking iron pills. Under normal circumstances my levels are fine but I'm losing so much blood right now that I'm sure my iron is low. Every time I try to talk to her about PCOS she tells me I have to take birth control.. she like refuses to talk about any other ways of managing it and I'm just really nervous about the potential side effects of BC. I feel a little better tonight though.. apparently my new job is pissed at me (says my friend who got me the job) so I have to go in for sure tomorrow whether I feel good or not.. hoping I'll feel a lot better tomorrow morning:)

[Sweet Tooth]

IC I'm really afraid of going to the movie theatre and not fitting in the seats :( I wanna go see HP7 part1 sooooo bad but I want to be able to watch it without hurting. Sometimes I wish I was more an apple than a pear :(

I wish you could come to Detroit to go with us! My plus size staff member and her plus size daughter are both going with me at midnight. [I'll understand if my staffer is sleepy the next day at work, as I will be too.] We have a theater with seats where the armrests raise. Are there any where you are?

[JerseyGirl07093]

In keeping with the 'confession' part of this thread...
IC that if it weren't for stadium seating I probably wouldn't be able to go to the movies at all.
Don't be shy about calling a theater and seeing if they have stadium seating. Or, as I asked the last theater I called "Do you have the seats with the arms that go up?" :p My friend gets free movies on Tuesdays with one of her credit cards and I wanted to make sure I could fit in the seat or else there was no use in me even going. Luckily they did have seats with the arms that go up and hopefully this will lead to more free movies for me! :)

[CarlaSixx]

I wish you could come to Detroit to go with us! My plus size staff member and her plus size daughter are both going with me at midnight. [I'll understand if my staffer is sleepy the next day at work, as I will be too.] We have a theater with seats where the armrests raise. Are there any where you are?

Sadly there's only 2 movie theatres in my city, and only one is playing HP7, and not even doing the midnight showing! :(

They are stadium seating (I'm guessing) but the arms don't go up. The seats flip but there's a solid black plastic armrest with a cupholder on it. There's designated sections that are supposed to be for wheelchairs, too, but I don't think I'd be allowed to sit on the floor where the wheelchairs go to watch the movie, though that would TOTALLY fix my problem.

Unfortunately I don't have any friends in my city anymore, so I will be headed there alone. My father has severe claustrophobia so he can't sit in the theatre in the dark, and my mother can't sit for long than about an hour or two.

She's actually getting a heavy duty wheeled walker sometime this week or the next, and I was thinking of borrowing it if she got it in time. It holds 450 lbs, so it'll hold me with absolutely no problem, and the cushion on the seat is very nice and squishy. So perhaps I'll be able to get that, though I'll look weird being a 21 year old walking in with a walker and not even needing to use it for anything but to sit comfortably. At least the cinema won't be losing any money, but sheesh... I'm willing to sit on the frikkin floor to see the damn movie!

The last time I went was when Couples Retreat was out, and I'm pretty sure I was smaller than I am right now, and the armrests dug into my thighs and hips so bad that I was crying from the pain, and getting up to leave took about 10 minutes :( So I'm pretty sure this time will hurt if I even attempt it.

[Lovelyone]

I confess that I am a little terrified of trying to get what I want most, because it will mean leaving behind what I am most comfortable with and beginning new in a place where I don't know anyone.

[Vespertine]

The last time I went was when Couples Retreat was out, and I'm pretty sure I was smaller than I am right now, and the armrests dug into my thighs and hips so bad that I was crying from the pain, and getting up to leave took about 10 minutes :( So I'm pretty sure this time will hurt if I even attempt it.

Ugh horrible, I feel your pain. Well, I have felt it xP farrr too many times. I'm also looking at the prospect of going to the one theatre in town to see HP<3! I wish we could apparate to some location with comfy seating. Why can't humans do this yet??? Good luck with your ideas for solutions, it sucks we have to deal with this. I never ever want to sit in a chair so painful I cry again, it shouldn't happen to anyone....

IC that I'm insanely attracted to someone in class and it is effecting my work negatively, as I'm having a lot of trouble concentrating. I found out he's not available and usually that kills any feelings that were stirred but not this time around. I generally find casual sex about as enticing as the rash I fear I'd get but this is special circumstances. I'm a hair away from telling him to meet me in an alley by the railway station, and my scruples can go find someone else to inhibit. Make it stoppppp.... In any case even if wanting someone I can't have is driving me mad (or toward lower scholastic achievement at least :doh:) there is some joy in knowing that my switches can be flipped like this (it's been idk how many years), that feels pretty great at the moment and has put a bounce in my step. Well, I'm trying to focus on the positive here :rolleyes:

Yes, that was a lot of Morrissey references.

[LovelyLiz]

IC that I'm insanely attracted to someone in class and it is effecting my work negatively, as I'm having a lot of trouble concentrating. I found out he's not available and usually that kills any feelings that were stirred but not this time around. I generally find casual sex about as enticing as the rash I fear I'd get but this is special circumstances. I'm a hair away from telling him to meet me in an alley by the railway station, and my scruples can go find someone else to inhibit. Make it stoppppp.... In any case even if wanting someone I can't have is driving me mad (or toward lower scholastic achievement at least :doh:) there is some joy in knowing that my switches can be flipped like this (it's been idk how many years), that feels pretty great at the moment and has put a bounce in my step. Well, I'm trying to focus on the positive here :rolleyes:

Yes, that was a lot of Morrissey references.

Ohhhhhhh yes. I know that feeling. Happy for the bounce in your step (seriously, realizing you still got it in ya is a super thing! rock it!) - but bummer about the unavailability and schoolwork distraction. How well do you know this guy?

When I had these feelings recently, and they were also affecting my schoolwork, I stumbled upon the guy's myspace music page (where he puts up his recorded work). (And okay, stumbled upon is totally a lie, I was searching the interwebz for him.) And I really didn't like the music. Found it awful. That pretty much killed the attraction for me. So that's my advice, get to know him, find out where he uploads his awful art, and that will help destroy the chemistry. :D :p

[gobettiepurple]

Ohhhhhhh yes. I know that feeling. Happy for the bounce in your step (seriously, realizing you still got it in ya is a super thing! rock it!) - but bummer about the unavailability and schoolwork distraction. How well do you know this guy?

When I had these feelings recently, and they were also affecting my schoolwork, I stumbled upon the guy's myspace music page (where he puts up his recorded work). (And okay, stumbled upon is totally a lie, I was searching the interwebz for him.) And I really didn't like the music. Found it awful. That pretty much killed the attraction for me. So that's my advice, get to know him, find out where he uploads his awful art, and that will help destroy the chemistry. :D :p

I agree . . . a little internet ingenuity and facebook stalking never hurt anybody :) lol

[Punkin1024]

I confess that I am a little terrified of trying to get what I want most, because it will mean leaving behind what I am most comfortable with and beginning new in a place where I don't know anyone.

I understand where you're at, been there before and I have regrets for not being a risk taker. What you need to decide is if what you want most is worth getting out of your comfort zone,and will what you want most leave you with regrets if you don't give it a try?

[CastingPearls]

I confess that I am a little terrified of trying to get what I want most, because it will mean leaving behind what I am most comfortable with and beginning new in a place where I don't know anyone.
I know the feeling, T. I do but I'm taking baby steps and reaching for my dreams anyway even if I toddle and stumble when I do it. We only get one life. I don't even know where I'm going but I'm headed in the right direction. Take one step and be encouraged. You're an amazing beautiful person.

[gobettiepurple]

I confess that during my online dating escapades . . . I met a guy who told me that he wasn't looking for an "overly intelligent, self-aware, confident girl" . . . I can't help it if I am honest and call all the a-holes out on their BS! So, you want me to be spank-bank fodder for your nightly rituals? I am sorry, but I am worth so much more than that. I thought being intelligent, self-aware and confident was a GOOD THING!

I don't get men, they are sort of disgusting to me right now, perhaps because I keep meeting these tools that don't know that women don't like to be objectified and talk to in such a derogatory way!

I also confess that sometimes I wish I was born in the 1930s, because then I wouldn't have to put up with this stuff! Or I could have grown up in the 40s and 50s, where courting actual meant something other than "lets have a coffee and talk about all the ways I'm going to" VIOLATE YOUR DIGNITY! The internet sucks! . . . ugh.

WTF! This guy is totally not worth my time and a total tool . . . I don't get what part of "NOT LOOKING FOR A HOOK UP" don't people understand! FRUSTRATED!

[MizzSnakeBite]

I confess that during my online dating escapades . . . I met a guy who told me that he wasn't looking for an "overly intelligent, self-aware, confident girl" . . . I can't help it if I am honest and call all the a-holes out on their BS! So, you want me to be spank-bank fodder for your nightly rituals? I am sorry, but I am worth so much more than that. I thought being intelligent, self-aware and confident was a GOOD THING!

I don't get men, they are sort of disgusting to me right now, perhaps because I keep meeting these tools that don't know that women don't like to be objectified and talk to in such a derogatory way!

I also confess that sometimes I wish I was born in the 1930s, because then I wouldn't have to put up with this stuff! Or I could have grown up in the 40s and 50s, where courting actual meant something other than "lets have a coffee and talk about all the ways I'm going to" VIOLATE YOUR DIGNITY! The internet sucks! . . . ugh.

WTF! This guy is totally not worth my time and a total tool . . . I don't get what part of "NOT LOOKING FOR A HOOK UP" don't people understand! FRUSTRATED!

Eh, just tell him, that's ok, I'm not looking for a douche.

I know how it is....so many guys wanting to "try out a SS/BBW;" like I'm a fucking car. And I'm supposed to be flattered by that. You know, I'm sure there were plenty of tools back in the day, just ask your grandma. Never mind, scratch that thought. Our parents and grandparents never had sex, so what would they know! :D

[jewels_mystery]

I confess that during my online dating escapades . . . I met a guy who told me that he wasn't looking for an "overly intelligent, self-aware, confident girl" . . . I can't help it if I am honest and call all the a-holes out on their BS! So, you want me to be spank-bank fodder for your nightly rituals? I am sorry, but I am worth so much more than that. I thought being intelligent, self-aware and confident was a GOOD THING!

I don't get men, they are sort of disgusting to me right now, perhaps because I keep meeting these tools that don't know that women don't like to be objectified and talk to in such a derogatory way!

I also confess that sometimes I wish I was born in the 1930s, because then I wouldn't have to put up with this stuff! Or I could have grown up in the 40s and 50s, where courting actual meant something other than "lets have a coffee and talk about all the ways I'm going to" VIOLATE YOUR DIGNITY! The internet sucks! . . . ugh.

WTF! This guy is totally not worth my time and a total tool . . . I don't get what part of "NOT LOOKING FOR A HOOK UP" don't people understand! FRUSTRATED!

I so know how your feeling.

[Candy_Coated_Clown]

I need to learn to relax more in life. I am realizing that when I approach most things in my life with a perfectionist streak, out of a long-term habit, things wind up easily turning into little crises on a daily basis or often. I've got to stop doing this to myself and take more things in stride and learn to embrace the natural chaos present in living.

Coping skills version 5.0. Definitely a work in progress...

[CarlaSixx]

Mom's new wheeled walker came in yesterday and it's freaking amazing. I kept sitting on it all night trying it out. It's freaking tall... I have to not only get on tip toes to hoist myself on the seat, but I've gotta jump a little to get a boost, too. But the padding on it is wonderful and I think it's awesome. It's one hell of a monster walker, though. It's HUUUUGE. It barely fits through our apartment! But it works :) I don't think mom's enjoying walking with one... it's quite a difference from a stationery walker to a wheeled one, but I'm liking it.

I already talked to her about using it to go watch the movie and she's perfectly fine with that. She'll be calling the theatre on Saturday to check if it's alright if I go in and sit on the walker instead of the chairs, since there's at least 1 wheelchair section in every room, and some even have 2! And each wheelchair section is about 8 normal seats wide, so around 4 wheelchairs can go there. Mom's walker should be just fine.

If anything, we'll ask my father to drive her there, and I'll walk to the movie theatre, and once inside, I'll get to sit on the walker for the whole movie, lol. Or at least most of it. Since it's so long, mom's gonna need to get to the washroom right after or during the movie.