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Old 10-24-2009, 07:22 PM   #1397
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Originally Posted by LoveBHMS View Post
I agree with you, totally. But if you go read the Main Board thread regarding "Preference vs. Fetish" you'll see the reason for my post. There is always going to be a contingent on here for whom Dims is the place where they sharpen and demonstrate the bullying skills they can't utilize IRL. I do believe people that go out of their way to be mean, nasty, derisive, and judgemental on a message board are those who have no chance to do it for real. This is their chance to be equal parts "Mean Girls" and equal parts professional victims where they obsessively seek out things to be offended by.

The reduced traffic on the WB is likely a combination of the realization that it's never going to be safe to post on here because somebody is likely going to come along and make a joke out of something you or another fetishist takes seriously and also the fact that newbies are immediately laughed away. Yes a lot of newbie posts are crude and clear invitations to stroke material, but I'm guessing a lot of them are also fetishist getting their internet sea legs and trying to figure out how to talk about *this stuff* that's been a part of their inner self since they were children.
By not posting, you let them win.

Bullies are completely neutralized when you beat them at their own game, if you post that you like someone with a big belly, and one of them says you're objectifying.....respond with either a cheapshot to that person or say you like what you like and if you don't like it, leave. The bully isn't used to being stood up to so they'll fall backwards out of their chair leaving you free to post.

A lot of people do have to learn how to be tactful and respectful when their first post comes off as stroke material, but for others like you and me who like a certain preference or fetish and can be respectful about it....NO ONE has a right to talk down to you about it.

If people have a right to melt over tall men, why can't the rest of us melt over what we like? Know what I mean...
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