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Old 01-16-2010, 08:19 PM   #49
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Originally Posted by rainyday View Post
Liam, I am not posting to ridicule you. Your struggle is very clear and I don't discount that it really is a struggle for you. As a fat woman though, I'm posting to ask you not to date my fellow fat sisters. Until you have dealt with the obvious shame you feel about what you prefer, please be man enough to avoid exposing potential partners to you the same way you hopefully would if you knew you had a communicable disease. Even if that means you have to be celibate and unpartnered.

Your mixed feelings, your excuses, your justifications--there is a little truth in all of them and you are entitled to them. I worked in a very image-conscious industry in New York. I am not unfamiliar with the type of societal pressure you're referring to. But that is the path you chose and what you are electing to make meaningful in your life. You have the potential to do harm, and since you know you're unwilling to stand up for a fat partner, the harm you'll do will be done knowingly and with premeditation. If you are unwilling to push back against the pressures you feel, do not make your struggle the burden of someone else who deserves better and deserves not to be splattered by the self-loathing you haven't yet come to terms with.


This is such perfection I felt the need to say that here, as well as in rep.


I am a long term Los Angeleno (in spite of being on the east coast now), and spent many formative years in Santa Monica and Venice....I guess I have a different experience of Los Angeles than Liam does (working in education and THE ENTERTAINMENT INDUSTRY, thank you....do I win the shallow profession contest?)....as a fat girl who never really had a hard time of it, and dated all the time, and got work easily..hrm...

While there might be tiny bits of merit in what Liam said, and I am glad its not just HIS experience he speaks of...... or else it sounds like he is in for a very very lonely life...very sad.
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