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Old 01-17-2010, 11:22 AM   #67
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Originally Posted by joswitch View Post
@rainyday... Imagine some bloke dropped by a thread on body issues in the BBW board and told all BBWs with self-loathing/fat-hating/body issues that they should remain celibate because their feelings and attitudes were like a "communicable disease" which would "splatter" any prospective partner... Imagine the hurricane force shitstorm that would ensue in response to the arrogance of that... That's equivalent to what you just did here! (and it IS painful/sad/soul destroying to love someone who loathes herself, btw... But wtf, we're adults and we're none of us perfect and love ain't all roses, so we try...) @James - yes absolutely it's better for neophyte FAs to work this stuff out on here than in a relationship... But we all make mistakes (and hopefully learn from them) in our relationships... And letting people tell struggling FAs they are "diseased" isn't going to help them come out of the closet! Or make them feel ok about sharing their feelings on here..
You are probably right Jo. I thanked Rainy because she expressed a truth for many BBWs in a way that was probably about as respectful as could be while still conveying how she (and many other fat people) feel about closet FA/FFAs. Comparitively there has been much less respect shown to the purpose and users of this space by some others in the last few months and quite a few infractions have now been issued (unfortunately).I hope that people will begin to understand that I'm very serious about making the FA/FFA forum a safe space for FA/FFAs and that new or transitional FA/FFAs will feel comfortable opening up here?

To that end, I am 100% behind any and all ideas that are helpful towards FA/FFAs coming out of the closet... but I also think that it would be sad if someone did so, only to go on and treat a partner poorly. This is one of the reasons why the FA/FFA forum is not a private or exclusive space and why the constructive involvement of non- FA/FFAs is welcome here.
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