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Old 05-18-2014, 09:21 PM   #93
Amaranthine
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Originally Posted by mediaboy View Post
When you have desires, sexual longing, a craving for physical intimacy, which sex do you nominally prefer?

When I fantasize sexually it's usually quite a bachonal of lovers of both sexes. My desire is always rooted in physical fantasy and aesthetics or some kinky scene I want to work out to try in the flesh one day.

I'm wondering what are the underpinings of desire in a saposexual? Do you just experience desire in a completely different way than say us plain old garden variety bisexuals?

Would you mind enlightening us? I find this very interesting. I get the feeling you may experience desire and love for that matter on a unique and compelling way. One that I can't quite wrap my head around. If there's another way to love people and another way to be compelled by a beauty my eyes are blind too by all means please share it!
I'd say I consider myself sapiosexual as well, to an extent. Essentially, someone demonstrating themselves to be intelligent - especially with the characteristics Indig0 mentioned - is arousing to me? It helps if I find them aesthetically and physically attractive, but it's not really a requirement. I used to have the issue of becoming somewhat aroused during debate events, if someone did a stellar job. It also means that (if it seems justified) I can enjoy someone being a bit arrogant.

I find your own fantasy-description interesting. I generally only fantasize about typically sexual things with someone I'm already interested in. And then it's great. Otherwise, I have little interest in most straightforwardly sexual material unless it has a significantly kinky or taboo twist on it.

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I have noticed that whilst I can be and am attracted to mentally/emotionally attractive people regardless of their size I have a pretty strong preference for big guys and slender women. And somehow that makes me feel kinda guilty, that I prefer a different aesthetic on men than women. I mean, don't get me wrong, there are skinny men and SSBBW that I find attractive but I do have different preferences in men and women. I guess I am just rambling here.
I definitely don't think you should feel guilty for that! I don't feel like it's uncommon at all - physically and personality-wise - to differ between preferences for men and women. I have different aesthetic preferences as well - my sexual preferences just remain pretty consistent. Which perhaps makes it weirder that my aesthetic preferences differ.
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