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Old 01-13-2015, 10:04 PM   #3
Amaranthine
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Originally Posted by magodamilion View Post
If approximately 15% of the general population is obese and more older people are then younger people, we could estimate that maybe 5% of guys under 30 are BHM's. And out of that small number about 99.999% of them aren't attracted to me or are married or are religious.
I agree that numbers are a big part of it; when you try to incorporate personal preferences, both physical and mental, it seems as if you're looking at an impractically constricted pool.

* Realistically speaking, you're just not going to be attracted to all BHMs. General appearance comes into play, hygiene, and the fact that people gain weight in different ways.

* Intellectually and personality-wise, you're also just not going to be compatible with many, many people. Regardless of their body. Especially when religiousness is a deal-breaker, though I haven't had much trouble finding fellow seculars online or in school. Then again, I do not live in Texas.

* Insecurity + body issues: FAs probably have to deal with that obstacle more than the average non-FA.

Personally, I've never really been approached by a BHM. Plenty of thin men. Women don't typically have to adopt the role of the pursuer, but I think being an FFA might change that dynamic a bit, in many cases. I'm currently in a relationship; my dating life has actually been, comparatively, very active...except that wouldn't be the case if I hadn't also dated non-BHMs. At times I've definitely wished I had a wider range of attraction.
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