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Old 08-21-2015, 12:55 AM   #18
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Add ice cream to that cake and I am in
Well we clearly have a plan set up! =D

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I am just posting this for your opinion. Please do not throw things at me (except for undergarments, those are fine).
http://time.com/4001475/filbanserin-...agra-approved/
Authorities have approved flibanserin to treat lack of sexual desire among women

The first drug to treat a lack of female sexual desire has been approved by federal authorities.

The drug flibanserin, which has been coined “female Viagra,” was approved Tuesday by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA). The drug is intended to treat hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD)—a persistent lack of libido—in premenopausal women. The agency had rejected the drug twice in the past
I admit it is kinda hard for not to get frustrated when people post things like this in relation to asexuality, mainly because it is a big misunderstanding of what asexuality is. It is not a lack of sexual desire. It is a lack of sexual attraction. Many asexuals have libidos. Many of them masturbate. Several of them have or have had sexual partners. But they aren't sexually attracted to anybody. There is nothing 'wrong' with us to fix or treat. Think about it this way; is a straight man 'broken' for not finding other men attractive? Is a straight woman 'broken' for not finding women attractive? Of course not. And with asexuals, it is just that we don't find either gender attractive in that way.

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Originally Posted by lucca23v2 View Post
Honestly, I don't find it difficult to understand. From my understanding, it is the same as when you just want your partner to hold you and cuddle you. You are not looking for sex, you are looking for the comfort part of the relationship. The emotional comfort.

Loopy if I am wrong please correct me.
Yes, that is pretty much exactly it! In the asexual community, we call it 'romantic attraction' as opposed to sexual attraction. For instance, when I'm in a relationship I want to feel loved by someone, to spend time with them and be held and to feel special. Which is something a lot of people want in a relationship, I think?

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I think the confusion arises from people who claim they are asexual and then find a person that they do hit it off with and get engaged sexually. Or when people claim to be gay then turn straight (not to be confused with bi)...

Those peeople can it seem like it is a choice for everyone and clearly you have not found the right person yet...as opposed to those who are truly asexual.

I personally kind of envy it, to be honest. My engine is always revving and if can be frustrating.
I guess I can understand that causing confusion, but in a lot of ways I think it comes from a general misunderstanding about human sexuality. Specifically, that sexuality is fixed and never changing once you reach adulthood. And to be honest, that just isn't true for most people. Even if you only ever find one gender attractive, you find different things attractive when you are 30 compared to when you are 18, right?

I know I mentioned this earlier, but asexual people can have sexual partners and still be asexual. I have had. It was... fine. Something that I did because it brought happiness to my partner and meant a lot to him. Kind of like rubbing somebodies back at the end of a long day. It's not something I would generally offer to do or especially enjoy doing, but I don't mind doing it if it would really mean so much to my partner.

Sadly, lots of asexual people have libidos. They just aren't 'aimed' at anybody. Hence why a lot of asexuals do masturbate; the body says 'OMG, sexy times now!' but at the same time says 'no, not with anybody else involved, gross'. It can be frustrating!


Also, I just want to say thank you all for taking the time to comment on this. It makes me really happy to have people recognise my sexuality and have questions about it and I will always try and answer any questions. You're all awesome. =)
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