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Old 01-06-2016, 11:59 AM   #1
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I recognize that no label ever changed because some eccentric objected to it. Nevertheless, I'd like to get this off my chest: I don't really care for the term Fat Admirer. It makes it sound like I 'admire' a disembodied lump of fat. And it lends itself to this ridiculous charge we sometimes hear, 'that he only loves me for my fat,' that sort of thing.

No, I admire fat women, and it's not just the fat per se, but (speaking purely physically) their beautiful bodies as a whole - it's the magical way the fat enhances everything. The FA label maybe also reinforces in a subtle way some of our negative tendencies, e.g., the tendency to take a purely 'quantitative' approach to the female body ('how much did you gain??' 'What are your measurements??' etc.).

And going beyond that, it's not strictly about 'fat' inasmuch as we're not personally attracted to any and all fat women...like most human beings, I'm more physically attracted to some women than others, within the preferred 'weight range' (whatever that is). But maybe no label can fully deal with this.

The older appellation of 'chubby chaser' is, I think, a marginal improvement. Its problem is the 'chaser' noun, which maybe plays into the idea of FAs as perverts or deviants, slobberingly 'chasing' women all over the place. It also echoes patriarchal ideas about women as objects to be pursued.

If I had my druthers, the label would be 'AFW:' Admirer of Fat Women. (The only reason for not going with BBWA is that it's just too many syllables).

I know, a futile sentiment. But heck, I thought I'd get it out there!
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