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Old 02-24-2016, 03:29 PM   #47
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There absolutely are guys who are only interested in women who are gaining weight, or who are at very extreme weights. And since 'relationships' based on such narrow and likely damaging footing tend not to be as long lasting as ones with broader and more sustainable basis, these guys can inflict themselves on quite a number of women over their lives, and potentially hit on many more (making it seem like people of their persuasion are more common than they really are).

Of course, the ones who are really open about by asking every woman on ever fat related site if they'll meet the guy's fantasy are annoying, but the really dangerous ones are the ones who can cover up what they really want, and just try to manipulate someone into doing what they want, while claiming otherwise. "No, I'm not a feeder, I just love your body as it is" while trying to manipulate a partner into gaining weight, for example.

Sadly, such people do exist (likely more men than women, but almost certainly existing in both genders -- just based on general trends for anti-social behavior). You can't blame someone whose been afflicted by such a person for distrusting every other person who says the same things -- their experience is that the words don't match the actions.

All we can really do on a site like this is be open about the fact that manipulating your partner is not good, that if you feel you are being manipulated that is a big warning sign, and help people work through their feelings by talking them over. But sadly the worst offenders don't care that anyone else thinks it is wrong, they are going to do what appeals to them and will do what they can from anyone ever seeing past their mask.
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