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Old 03-02-2016, 10:31 PM   #62
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Originally Posted by ThisIsBrian View Post
Ok, apart from being a lazy obstinate dickhead, the other reason I didn't want to quote you is because I didn't feel like having the conversation where we go over what you said line by line and you backpedal and mince words and lawyer your way out of standing by what you actually said. But you went ahead and did that anyway.

The fact that I didn't want to facilitate your tedious debate style doesn't mean that I haven't reviewed everything that you've said. If you think you haven't attempted to define what a fetishist is I suggest that you take another good long look at what you've actually said.

But whether or not what you offered could truly be called a "definition" or whether or not you used the words "may" or "will" is not the point. The point is that you don't seem to understand the subject you're pontificating about and you're pushing your misunderstanding out into this community. Your misconceptions could very well serve to further marginalize people who may already feel marginalized.

You seem like a perfectly nice guy. I don't mean to be an asshole but I don't think that this should go unchallenged. The only fruit in this "utterly fruitless" discussion is the discussion itself and it needs to be had.
If you can't connect your conclusion to the statement from which you drew it maybe you shouldn't mischaracterize what people say. It's easy and cheap to "summarize" what you believe is meant by a statement but it takes some actual thinking to go back and take another look and challenge your initial conclusions.


I'll invite you again to use my statements directly and bridge the gap between the statement and your conclusion. I will stand by my words unless a well thought argument shows me I'm wrong or at a minimum challenges me to rethink my wording in an effort to improve how I communicate my points. I make this in all sincerity because like free thinker noted I suspect we are more alike than not.

Otherwise I'm content to accept you are as you've described yourself and just here to make accusations and conclusions that are void of merit. I hope you'll at least engage even if ultimately we don't agree. We will at least be better for having the discussion.
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