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Old 11-24-2016, 08:14 AM   #5
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You might have meant me in regard to the Bernese. Though I have a lot in common with happily_married. happily_married if you do have 2 mountain dogs, that would just be eerie.

I come from an athletic family. My mom is obsessed with thinness, to the point I think it might border on anorexia. I do believe that is unrelated to me being a FA though. After she saw my first chubby girlfriend (a long time ago) she said to me she didn’t want a fat daughter-in-law. Since then my partners size doesn’t seem to get any notice.

Every once in a while a thread on Dimensions pops up asking a question about this. Here is one of them.
http://www.dimensionsmagazine.com/fo...d.php?t=119784

Most people say no. But we will never know what creates a FA. Some people think its genetic. Some people think it’s a specific event. For me, I believe it was an event. I am reposting my story.
It was a specific event for me. When I was 5 years old and still in daycare before kindergarten even. Someone explained to me what fat is, what it looks like in food, on a person, that it is bad for everyone, and thin people look better. Fat was bad.

One of the caretakers at my daycare was a young attractive BBW with very wide hips. It was the 80s so she wore spandex every day. I think I was her favorite kid there because she always seemed to give me lots of attention compared to other kids there. Being 5 years old, I had no social filter and just learning what fat is means I had to point it out. I told her she was fat and she should not be, a few times in a row. She started arguing that she was not fat, and started crying. I saw how much it hurt her saying it. It was also one of my first memories of what I say really effects someone.

And something in my mind snapped. She was fat, but rather than being “bad”, I really liked her. The switch flipped, fat girls are good. Not only was she good, she was attractive. So fat girls are attractive. I noticed she was a bit distant with me after that, so I realized I needed to be nice to fat girls. To me, it was the most obvious life-changing event I have experienced.

Within a few days of that, I was by some guys gawking at a women walking by with large breasts. They made comments to each other about how huge her tits were (she was thin). I noticed that thin girls usually did not have big breasts. Fat girls on the other hand much more often had big breasts. This reconfirmed what I had just learned, fat girls are attractive.
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