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Old 03-07-2017, 05:56 PM   #38
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Originally Posted by TwoSwords View Post
If she didn't consider fatness to be one of her characteristics, there would be no reason for her to get upset. Confused, certainly, but not upset.
You're still missing it, but I'll try again, using my own wife as an example. She will be the first to tell you that "fat" is part of her physical characteristics. She has overheard people say, "look at that fat woman" and she knows they're talking about her. She has described herself as a fat woman from a strictly physical standpoint.

However, she does not define herself as a fat woman. In other words, she does not consider that who she is. There are plenty of other things she identifies as the essence of her being. She's a wife, mother, friend to her friends, etc...a person of value with certain values she considers more defining of HER than her physical characteristics.

The proof is in this: if she loses weight she is unlikely to be a wildly different person. There may some marginal changes due to confidence gained, energy levels being higher, etc. but the person she is, the "who" she is, wouldn't be that different from the fat version of her.
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