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Old 09-06-2017, 09:44 PM   #243
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Originally Posted by Tad View Post
At my new workplace there is a summer student (intern I guess you could say) who appears to have bought a new work wardrobe for this job, in probably a size L, and who would probably be better served by a size XL at this point. In the circumstances even noticing her body is all sorts of wrong, and I end up having to give myself a figurative smack across the nose with a rolled up newspaper about twice a day when I cross paths with her and my FA instincts start cataloging all the little signs and I have to tell myself 'no, no, NO! No oggling, not even semi-casual glances, best briefly meet her eyes then get interested in something over there and never even allow your gaze to focus below her cheekbones."

Then today she was leaving the break room just as I was coming in, and saw another guy peel his eyes away from her posterior, give me a sheepish grin and a bit of a 'what can you do?" shrug. He's much younger, not in a management position, and for all I know could be single. I'm not sure if I feel better that I'm not the only one who has a hard time not looking, or jealous that others are in a position where they can look without it being so bad.
I have this problem, and sometimes I feel like I am back as that 18 year old nascent FA (instead of the 47 year old, married 19 years that I am). This past evening I was at the local Wal-Mart (yes total chiche) - and there she was: an average height, 500 + pound attractive young woman (probably 30-40 age range) with curves in all the right places. I admit to going out of my way to catch an extra glimpse (or two) of her. I wish I could have approached her and given words of encouragement or something constructive - I am still so shy I could not hardly make eye contact when she realized I was eyeing her. maybe I just need to get a shirt that is fat girl positive and wear it in public - that would be a STATEMENT! Just very unsettled and glad to see I am not the only one.......

ETA: well what you described is not quite the same, but just being a 'mature' FA and still dealing with how we approach our interactions with attractive young fat girls in public settings seems somewhat of a parallel
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