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Old 01-11-2018, 08:06 AM   #2
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From what you said, I'd agree with you. If you don't want to gain, you shouldn't just for a partner.

It sounds like (based again solely on what you wrote) some aspect of feedism is probably pretty central to her sexuality, maybe even her persomality, so that someone in the relationship needs to be gaining. Which is a problem when she can't for health reasons and ultimately you don't want to.

It sucks if that drives you apart, but it may be something of a fundamental problem? I'd think some very frank talks should happen first, maybe when laid out stripped to its bare bones it is an issue you two can find a way to work with. Or maybe not, but try first.
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