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Old 10-08-2008, 07:35 PM   #8
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Originally Posted by activistfatgirl View Post
We've had several threads about different variants of the "gay" community recently - one from a man who likes the idea of a fat woman/thin woman combo and another asking where the gay male FAs are.

I thought it would be great if we had a place where Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered Questioning/Queer (this is what that long acronym stands for) FAs AND fatties of all stripes could chat about their issues. Obviously there's lots of spaces on the net for this, but fewer places that include discussions of both being queer AND being fat or being queer AND liking fat.

I can start with my first thought, and I suppose why I want to see a level for all thread. I have and want to continue spending time in the Dims community, but it can be hard to be in a space that is very hetero focused. It works for me as I do like boys, but I always feel like a part of me is not exactly closeted, but not really able to roam free if that makes sense. I can and do go to GLBTQ events, but the part of me that's been forever change by the fatty-lovin' world of Dims feels like its missing out of something!

I wonder if I should recruit my favorite gays to come on over.

Also, if this thread isn't supportive of gay men or transfolk, I will cry.
Hooray for this thread!

I pretty much live my life as an open book -- I'm fat, I'm black, I'm gay -- the diversity trifecta! I do think DIMS is hetero centered, but I don't blame that on the site in particular...I just think it's a sort of microcosm of how the rest of the world works.

Through my lens, someone is always going to have a problem with who I am - but I can't live for them. I am making my way in the world, and that's the only thing that matters. Now sure, it would be great if people could be open minded...and strangely enough, I've never had any negativity from people, whether its because I was gay or anything else. I think most times, people are just curious and that's fine with me. I love getting questions and answering them as long as people are respectful.

That said, I'm one half of a lesbian BBW/FFA duo -- my partner likes the thick chicks; I think its the contrast that really does it for her. She loves how soft and warm I am...and just the same, I'm drawn to how tall/athletic she is. I think it's a great balance that we each bring to our lil unit. As far as being involved in the LGBTQ community -- Chicago is a fantastic place to be for us! There are tons of ways for anyone to get involved here. Boystown is only one part of the hub for gays/lesbians/bi/etc...there is even the Center on Halsted which caters to us http://www.centeronhalsted.org/home.cfm and lots of other organizations. In this city, its just a matter of getting out and about and figuring out what speaks to you.

I am also a member of a black lesbian group on the southside -- I don't get to attend meetings regularly since its a trek from the northside where I reside, but its still nice to feel a kindred with other lesbians that look like me.
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