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Old 01-03-2012, 04:39 PM   #6
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Originally Posted by willowmoon View Post
I don't know if this sort of issue has been discussed on a prior thread with anyone else before or not, but I'm curious about this, because this is the body image situation I'm in.

I've always typically been attracted to larger women (well, obviously ... otherwise I wouldn't be on this site) but I absolutely hate the fact that I myself am overweight. I'm 5'9" and now I'm just at 200 lbs. I was around 175 lbs for the past 5 years or so. But about a month ago, I weighed myself and I was up to 208 lbs and I just couldn't believe it. The first thing I thought to myself was this: "I have seriously let myself go."

It's a horrible thing to say.

It also sounds hypocritical.

I mean, here I am, attracted to larger-sized women, yet I absolutely hate how my own body looked. I've been working out a lot more this past month, eating & drinking healthier, and I'm starting to see some positive results. I'm certainly not where I want to be, and I know it's a lot of work, but I'm getting there. I did manage to lose 8 lbs this past month.

I used to be in extremely good shape back in my twenties and I'd like to get at least close to that type of physique, if possible. I wasn't exactly a muscle-bound football player (far from it!) but I was definitely toned and had a low body fat percentage.

Obviously with getting older, I've gained weight over the years which is pretty normal ... of course, I can attribute a lot of the weight gain to living in Wisconsin for twenty years, lol. And I've always carried a little extra "baggage" across the midsection in recent years ... just not to that level last month.

So does this make me somewhat of a hypocrite? I like women who are bigger ... to me, it looks good on them ... I just don't like the look on myself. And I'm certainly not slamming the guys who are BHM's because there are plenty of ladies who certainly fancy them. Ask their admirers, they are called "handsome" for a reason!

I don't know if any other guys out there have run into this situation but I'd be interested in reading any comments about this. Ladies, feel free to chime in as well.
There's nothing wrong with a man that wants to stay in shape, but wants his women to be big and soft. Be happy with yourself, and your choice in a female, because it's not hypocritical at all.
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