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Old 11-05-2013, 03:51 PM   #32
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Question A little harder to get........maybe?

So, I actually have a little relationships question of my own.....

Iíve never been one to Ďplay hard to get.í I donít even like that phrase, it sounds the same as toying with someone, which Iím not a fan of. If I genuinely like you as a person, but not in that way, you will know. If Iím into you in allll the ways....well....you will know

Recently though, Iíve been rethinking this strategy....or lack thereof. Maybe itís just a phase Iím in right now, but Iím starting to feel wary of over-expressing myself to someone. (It may be worth saying to those who havenít yet noticed, Iím naturally a verrry expressive person Ė not just to someone whoís a love interest.)

I think the point is that I feel the need to tread more carefully and make sure what Iím expressing is, at least eventually, fully reciprocated. This can be a bit complicated tying into the whole BHM issue, because I canít imagine not letting my future BHM know just how incredibly attractive he is. So, I guess itís one of those balancing act type things. Maybe itís also a case of getting honest with myself sooner if the attraction isnít truly mutual. Or maybe Iíve actually been doing pretty ok and itís just a bit of rawness talking.....

Iíve agreed totally with all you FFAs that have said itís best to be pretty upfront about the extent of your attraction. And I still do agree. My question is, do you ever feel the need to balance that out a bit / measure it carefully? And if so, how would you go about it?

Hope that made sense and didnít sound too self-deprecating
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