BBW Confessions thread

Tina · 07-07-2009, 07:59 PM

I confess that it's much quieter in here than I expected. It feels a little uncomfortable, even though many have wanted this for a long time.

I also confess that I'm beyond thrilled that olwen and butch are fellow mods here.

olwen · 07-07-2009, 08:03 PM

I confess, that I don't have much to confess except to say that this board is awesome.

ashmamma84 · 07-07-2009, 08:08 PM

IC my heart kinda fluttered when my honey and I were talking and out of nowhere she grabbed me by my waist and said, "I really love your curves, and your lumps and your bumps." She then sort of blushed and grinned at the same time. That TOTALLY made my week.

Fascinita · 07-07-2009, 08:09 PM

I confess that I can't wait to read scads of confessions here in the weeks to come.

Tina · 07-07-2009, 08:12 PM

Oh, Ash, that is so romantic.

ashmamma84 · 07-07-2009, 08:15 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tina

Oh, Ash, that is so romantic.

Yeah, it was. I live for those moments of spontaneity though. *sigh*

mossystate · 07-07-2009, 08:24 PM

I'm fat.

.....

Sweet Tooth · 07-11-2009, 03:26 PM

IC that the SA movement and this site have given me a great deal of overall confidence in my life in the last 17 years, I still have a hard time thinking that I'm not still automatically judged based on weight by others, like it's a fight I'm constantly ready to have. Of course, I go about my life without stressing too much about my size either. It's very matter-of-fact.

IC that I'm completely unmotivated to do anything productive these days, as much as I want to get stuff done. I worry sometimes that my weight makes it harder to fight inertia, but I think sometimes it's just that there's a disconnect between what I want to do and what I feel guilted into doing by society's norms. [Like, hey, maybe I want to come home and eat dinner while chatting rather than getting yardwork done.]

IC that sometimes living so closely tied to an online community really skews my idea of how things work. Take relationships... the start of something... and how intense it is online versus how it is offline where you talk every few days, go on occasional dates, etc.

tinkerbell · 07-12-2009, 04:42 AM

IC we're going to go see Transformers 2 today, for the 2nd time

Sweet Tooth · 08-12-2009, 04:43 PM

I have someone in my life that has appointed herself the health guru for everyone in her little circle of influence.

I'm really getting sick of it. I can name twenty serious life issues she needs to focus on in her own life, but she doesn't want to deal with those things.

She's not my savior or my rescuer. I'm tired of this person thinking she knows why I don't want to suddenly go for a walk tonight [uh, I'm exhausted from the stronger-than-multiple-Benadryl drugs I'm on for serious hives and I have to get ready to go on a work retreat in the morning], and why I get annoyed at her for being all blowing off her "need" to get me moving more [her words, not mine]. She doesn't get that it's less about the exercise and more about her.

And, really, you can't say anything without it being misunderstood or seen as deflecting or whatever. Ugh.

msbard90 · 08-12-2009, 08:09 PM

i confess that i want a tattoo, even though I am the one always protesting others getting theirs... uh oh

Keb · 08-12-2009, 08:52 PM

IC I'm spending entirely too much time reading the FA forum.

Weeze · 08-13-2009, 11:56 AM

I confess that since we do not have a private bbw forum, i'm going to start bitching about feminine products and not give a shit who sees it.

THEY NEED TO MAKE PADS LONGER.
The length of my underside IS BIGGER THAN THAT.
STOP LETTING MY PANTIES GET RUINED, ALWAYS.
am I the only one that doesn't want to move them around so I can put 2 together, because then they go up TOO far on either side and it's awkward.

It's just bad. Bad. Bad.

Also. I met a guy on okcupid and I have to be honest, I am freaked to hell about the fact that I DON'T KNOW HE LIKES FAT GIRLS. I feel like I shouldn't worry about that, but at the same time.... even FA's have a "hard time" actually going out with fat girls, so what in HELL does that say for going out with someone who might not be? He wants to get dinner (found me on okcupid) and I'm nervous as all hell.
If guys who like SPECIFICALLY fat girls have a struggle... what's a guy who doesn't going to do?

Crystal · 08-13-2009, 02:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by krismiss

I confess that since we do not have a private bbw forum, i'm going to start bitching about feminine products and not give a shit who sees it.

THEY NEED TO MAKE PADS LONGER.
The length of my underside IS BIGGER THAN THAT.
STOP LETTING MY PANTIES GET RUINED, ALWAYS.
am I the only one that doesn't want to move them around so I can put 2 together, because then they go up TOO far on either side and it's awkward.

It's just bad. Bad. Bad.

Gah, I used to have such problems with this. I now buy "Extra Long" pads from Kotex. They work wonders and they are definitely long enough in both the front and back.

I use these. They're medium coverage, but they also have Extra Long in super coverage.
http://www.kotex.com/na/UltraThinRegular.aspx

Quote:

Originally Posted by krismiss

Also. I met a guy on okcupid and I have to be honest, I am freaked to hell about the fact that I DON'T KNOW HE LIKES FAT GIRLS. I feel like I shouldn't worry about that, but at the same time.... even FA's have a "hard time" actually going out with fat girls, so what in HELL does that say for going out with someone who might not be? He wants to get dinner (found me on okcupid) and I'm nervous as all hell.
If guys who like SPECIFICALLY fat girls have a struggle... what's a guy who doesn't going to do?

I know exactly what you mean. I always think, "Should I mention something about being fat? Should I warn him? I probably should, but then...why? Should it matter that I'm fat, it doesn't define who I am." It's such a back and forth with me. I usually end up hinting around at it, hoping he'll get the hint. I also have a couple full body shot pics on Okcupid so that they can see for themselves. And if that isn't enough, in my profile, I mention being a BBW. I want to make damn sure that if they hate fat girls, they won't contact me.

Go have dinner, darling! I know you must be nervous, and I'm not going to be silly and tell you not to be. But, I WILL say that if he doesn't like fat girls, it'll be pretty clear during your date and then you can chalk it up to practice for when you DO find the right guy.

katorade · 08-13-2009, 04:06 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by krismiss

I confess that since we do not have a private bbw forum, i'm going to start bitching about feminine products and not give a shit who sees it.

THEY NEED TO MAKE PADS LONGER.
The length of my underside IS BIGGER THAN THAT.
STOP LETTING MY PANTIES GET RUINED, ALWAYS.
am I the only one that doesn't want to move them around so I can put 2 together, because then they go up TOO far on either side and it's awkward.

It's just bad. Bad. Bad.

Yes! Always Infinity Overnights are your friend.

Ernie · 08-15-2009, 10:54 PM

Oh, oops. Just ignore my mediocre joke b4.

Ruffie · 10-22-2009, 09:15 AM

I am going to the big city this weekend for some shopping with hubby and son and to pick up proofing and enlargements for clients. I confess I really don't wanna go cause the last time I went clothes shopping there couldn't find anything I wanted/needed and was exhausted after a day of shleping the malls and outlet stores all for naught.

Crystal · 10-22-2009, 09:41 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ruffie

I am going to the big city this weekend for some shopping with hubby and son and to pick up proofing and enlargements for clients. I confess I really don't wanna go cause the last time I went clothes shopping there couldn't find anything I wanted/needed and was exhausted after a day of shleping the malls and outlet stores all for naught.

I hope you do find something.

There's nothing worse than shopping all day, being excited for a new outfit, and finding nothing. That's something, as a plus sized college student, that I experience pretty often.

It'd be nice if we could walk into any store, anywhere, and find something that we liked AND that came in our size.

MizzSnakeBite · 10-26-2009, 09:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ruffie

I am going to the big city this weekend for some shopping with hubby and son and to pick up proofing and enlargements for clients. I confess I really don't wanna go cause the last time I went clothes shopping there couldn't find anything I wanted/needed and was exhausted after a day of shleping the malls and outlet stores all for naught.

Quote:

Originally Posted by CrystalUT11

I hope you do find something.

There's nothing worse than shopping all day, being excited for a new outfit, and finding nothing. That's something, as a plus sized college student, that I experience pretty often.

It'd be nice if we could walk into any store, anywhere, and find something that we liked AND that came in our size.

Yeah, I'd LOVE to be able to go to a store (or on-line), see an outfit I like/love, and it's in my size. That would be.......heaven. lol

CrystalUT11, I really understand what you're talking about. When I was in college, I could never find cute and/or trendy clothes. I always felt old since I could only find clothes in my size that was geared towards women in their 30s (before anyone goes crazy, being in your 30s isn't old, but when your 19, 21, etc., it often feels that way for that age group).

When will stores and designers start increasing their sizes in clothing they already designing! We're a big market, and they would see a huge amount of money come in!

Sweet Tooth · 10-24-2009, 08:51 AM

IC I'm so tired of lying scoundrels.

Honest scoundrels, fine. At least you know where they stand, and you can take them for what they're worth. You can make a decision based on full information rather than on a contrived image.

Why do they feel the need to lie when you aren't even asking for anything?

I guess the biggest problem is that they make one wary of the likely decent people out there who don't deserve one's suspicion.

Tania · 10-26-2009, 02:23 PM

IC that I think I may have found a wonderful man.

IC that I may be speaking too soon.

IC that I am knocking on wood with my free hand as I type.

IC that every time he texts me I swoon.

IC that I wish his stupid meetings would get over with so he can call me. xD

Dmitra · 10-26-2009, 05:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tania

IC that I think I may have found a wonderful man.

IC that I may be speaking too soon.

IC that I am knocking on wood with my free hand as I type.

IC that every time he texts me I swoon.

IC that I wish his stupid meetings would get over with so he can call me. xD

Yay, Tania!! I hope he turns out to be the good guy for you.

IC to being a closet optimistic romantic. haha

littlefairywren · 10-26-2009, 07:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tania

IC that I think I may have found a wonderful man.

IC that I may be speaking too soon.

IC that I am knocking on wood with my free hand as I type.

IC that every time he texts me I swoon.

IC that I wish his stupid meetings would get over with so he can call me. xD

Woo Hoo!!! How exciting

I have my fingers and toes crossed for you!

MizzSnakeBite · 10-26-2009, 09:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Tania

IC that I think I may have found a wonderful man.

IC that I may be speaking too soon.

IC that I am knocking on wood with my free hand as I type.

IC that every time he texts me I swoon.

IC that I wish his stupid meetings would get over with so he can call me. xD

How exciting!!! I hope he's a keeper!

We're all rooting for you!

MizzSnakeBite · 10-26-2009, 09:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sweet Tooth

IC I'm so tired of lying scoundrels.

Honest scoundrels, fine. At least you know where they stand, and you can take them for what they're worth. You can make a decision based on full information rather than on a contrived image.

Why do they feel the need to lie when you aren't even asking for anything?

I guess the biggest problem is that they make one wary of the likely decent people out there who don't deserve one's suspicion.

Oh man..........I so understand.

Yep, and they make you suspicious of the character of all men, including the good ones.

07-07-2009, 07:59 PM	#1
Tina Di's claimed me. :) Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: location, location. Posts: 20,592	BBW Confessions thread I confess that it's much quieter in here than I expected. It feels a little uncomfortable, even though many have wanted this for a long time. I also confess that I'm beyond thrilled that olwen and butch are fellow mods here. __________________ "It is possible to believe in something and still fail to live up to it." -- Wilson, House M.D. "I'm really tired of a fat woman's sexuality being just another fat joke." -- Felicia/Supero "Sookie! I am so over Sookie and her precious fairy vagina and her unbelievably stupid name! Fuck Sookie!" -- Pam

07-07-2009, 08:03 PM	#2
olwen Disco Bear Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: nyc Posts: 7,812	I confess, that I don't have much to confess except to say that this board is awesome. __________________ http://afatgirlwho.blogspot.com/

07-07-2009, 08:08 PM	#3
ashmamma84 Om Namah Shivayah Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Mild Sauce City Posts: 4,043	IC my heart kinda fluttered when my honey and I were talking and out of nowhere she grabbed me by my waist and said, "I really love your curves, and your lumps and your bumps." She then sort of blushed and grinned at the same time. That TOTALLY made my week. __________________ Bellydance is my religion; my body is a temple, my dance is a prayer

07-07-2009, 08:09 PM	#4
Fascinita Jeez, we're blessed! Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 6,377	I confess that I can't wait to read scads of confessions here in the weeks to come. __________________ ...................... \|:\| Sponsor a puppy or kitten. \|:\|

07-07-2009, 08:12 PM	#5
Tina Di's claimed me. :) Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: location, location. Posts: 20,592	Oh, Ash, that is so romantic. __________________ "It is possible to believe in something and still fail to live up to it." -- Wilson, House M.D. "I'm really tired of a fat woman's sexuality being just another fat joke." -- Felicia/Supero "Sookie! I am so over Sookie and her precious fairy vagina and her unbelievably stupid name! Fuck Sookie!" -- Pam

07-07-2009, 08:24 PM	#7
mossystate flicks a booger on conrad Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 13,127	I'm fat. .....

07-11-2009, 03:26 PM	#8
Sweet Tooth Deep. W i d e. Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Hockeytown Posts: 1,327	IC that the SA movement and this site have given me a great deal of overall confidence in my life in the last 17 years, I still have a hard time thinking that I'm not still automatically judged based on weight by others, like it's a fight I'm constantly ready to have. Of course, I go about my life without stressing too much about my size either. It's very matter-of-fact. IC that I'm completely unmotivated to do anything productive these days, as much as I want to get stuff done. I worry sometimes that my weight makes it harder to fight inertia, but I think sometimes it's just that there's a disconnect between what I want to do and what I feel guilted into doing by society's norms. [Like, hey, maybe I want to come home and eat dinner while chatting rather than getting yardwork done.] IC that sometimes living so closely tied to an online community really skews my idea of how things work. Take relationships... the start of something... and how intense it is online versus how it is offline where you talk every few days, go on occasional dates, etc. __________________ ♪ ♫ Cathedrals have tried in vain to show the image of Your face, but we are, by your design, the signature of divine. ♫ ♪ [Needtobreathe] You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life. [Winston Churchill]

07-12-2009, 04:42 AM	#9
tinkerbell Master Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Michigan Posts: 1,008	IC we're going to go see Transformers 2 today, for the 2nd time __________________ My Running blog!!

08-12-2009, 04:43 PM	#10
Sweet Tooth Deep. W i d e. Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Hockeytown Posts: 1,327	I have someone in my life that has appointed herself the health guru for everyone in her little circle of influence. I'm really getting sick of it. I can name twenty serious life issues she needs to focus on in her own life, but she doesn't want to deal with those things. She's not my savior or my rescuer. I'm tired of this person thinking she knows why I don't want to suddenly go for a walk tonight [uh, I'm exhausted from the stronger-than-multiple-Benadryl drugs I'm on for serious hives and I have to get ready to go on a work retreat in the morning], and why I get annoyed at her for being all blowing off her "need" to get me moving more [her words, not mine]. She doesn't get that it's less about the exercise and more about her. And, really, you can't say anything without it being misunderstood or seen as deflecting or whatever. Ugh. __________________ ♪ ♫ Cathedrals have tried in vain to show the image of Your face, but we are, by your design, the signature of divine. ♫ ♪ [Needtobreathe] You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life. [Winston Churchill]

08-12-2009, 08:09 PM	#11
msbard90 Master Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 1,338	i confess that i want a tattoo, even though I am the one always protesting others getting theirs... uh oh

08-12-2009, 08:52 PM	#12
Keb Princess Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Virginia Posts: 1,490	IC I'm spending entirely too much time reading the FA forum. __________________ Happiness is making others happy.

08-13-2009, 11:56 AM	#13
Weeze Justin Bieber of Dims Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: wouldn't YOU like to know.. Posts: 2,086	I confess that since we do not have a private bbw forum, i'm going to start bitching about feminine products and not give a shit who sees it. THEY NEED TO MAKE PADS LONGER. The length of my underside IS BIGGER THAN THAT. STOP LETTING MY PANTIES GET RUINED, ALWAYS. am I the only one that doesn't want to move them around so I can put 2 together, because then they go up TOO far on either side and it's awkward. It's just bad. Bad. Bad. Also. I met a guy on okcupid and I have to be honest, I am freaked to hell about the fact that I DON'T KNOW HE LIKES FAT GIRLS. I feel like I shouldn't worry about that, but at the same time.... even FA's have a "hard time" actually going out with fat girls, so what in HELL does that say for going out with someone who might not be? He wants to get dinner (found me on okcupid) and I'm nervous as all hell. If guys who like SPECIFICALLY fat girls have a struggle... what's a guy who doesn't going to do? __________________ Consistency is the last refuge of the unimaginative.

08-15-2009, 10:54 PM	#16
Ernie Banned Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: El Paso, Texas Posts: 80	Oh, oops. Just ignore my mediocre joke b4.

10-22-2009, 09:15 AM	#17
Ruffie Master Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Saskatchewan Canada Posts: 1,749	I am going to the big city this weekend for some shopping with hubby and son and to pick up proofing and enlargements for clients. I confess I really don't wanna go cause the last time I went clothes shopping there couldn't find anything I wanted/needed and was exhausted after a day of shleping the malls and outlet stores all for naught. __________________ Teach without expecting. Give without wanting. Nurture without possessing.

10-24-2009, 08:51 AM	#20
Sweet Tooth Deep. W i d e. Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Hockeytown Posts: 1,327	IC I'm so tired of lying scoundrels. Honest scoundrels, fine. At least you know where they stand, and you can take them for what they're worth. You can make a decision based on full information rather than on a contrived image. Why do they feel the need to lie when you aren't even asking for anything? I guess the biggest problem is that they make one wary of the likely decent people out there who don't deserve one's suspicion. __________________ ♪ ♫ Cathedrals have tried in vain to show the image of Your face, but we are, by your design, the signature of divine. ♫ ♪ [Needtobreathe] You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life. [Winston Churchill]

10-26-2009, 02:23 PM	#21
Tania Disneyland Bobsled Team Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: The corner of Small World Mall & Matterhorn Way. Posts: 1,979	IC that I think I may have found a wonderful man. IC that I may be speaking too soon. IC that I am knocking on wood with my free hand as I type. IC that every time he texts me I swoon. IC that I wish his stupid meetings would get over with so he can call me. xD __________________ You're such a strange girl I think you come from another world ~ The Cure "She will never submit to any thing requiring industry and patience, and a subjection of the fancy to the understanding." ~ Mr. Knightley on Emma, Jane Austen's Emma

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