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Old 12-29-2011, 07:06 PM   #1
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How many have become fat and happy in their 30s. I struggled with it for a long time after 30, but now I am finally accepting myself and enjoying it Thanks mostly to this forum and the lovely people here.
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Old 12-29-2011, 07:36 PM   #2
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How many have become fat and happy in their 30s. I struggled with it for a long time after 30, but now I am finally accepting myself and enjoying it Thanks mostly to this forum and the lovely people here.
This is a two-fold answer because I've always been fat. And I've mostly always been happy. But I feel like up until my 30s I was sort of happy despite my fat. Well, not really despite it...I just sort of ignored it. I've never felt fat, so I really only had to deal with fat when I was shopping for clothes or looking into a mirror. Now I'm happy. Altogether. Fat and all. I've really found that I've come into my own the last few years. And I think it's because I've stopped ignoring it, dealt with all of my bottled up feelings, and I've accepted myself completely.

I'm definitely fat and happy in my 30s. These have been my best years by far.
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Old 12-29-2011, 07:39 PM   #3
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If you specifically mean happy about my body in my 30's then yes...

I ride a fine line between confidence and arrogance now (but I have other "flaws" to keep me humble haha)
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I'm fat and have been pretty much all my life. I'm at a point where I'm happy with myself again and plan to focus more on health than numbers. I don't want to stay at this weight, but I know I'll never be a size 10 and I don't aspire to be that. I'd rather find a weight my body is happiest at and easiest to maintain.
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I'm fat and have been pretty much all my life. I'm at a point where I'm happy with myself again and plan to focus more on health than numbers. I don't want to stay at this weight, but I know I'll never be a size 10 and I don't aspire to be that. I'd rather find a weight my body is happiest at and easiest to maintain.
Oh don't worry about being a size ten. I've been small"er" most of my life and now, looking back, I feel like I've wasted a lot of time trying to be that "girl in the magazine". Now I just enjoy myself and what makes me happy. To my suprise, it has definitely been better than I imagined. In the end, that's all that really matters right?
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Old 12-29-2011, 10:12 PM   #6
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Oh don't worry about being a size ten. I've been small"er" most of my life and now, looking back, I feel like I've wasted a lot of time trying to be that "girl in the magazine". Now I just enjoy myself and what makes me happy. To my suprise, it has definitely been better than I imagined. In the end, that's all that really matters right?
I completely agree. You need to do the things that make you happy. That is what matters most.

I know I'm not female and I'll never know firsthand the double standard that y'all have to deal with, but the way I look at it, you can be the "girl" in the magazine and look exactly like her and even have on the same outfit. Even with all that, half the people will still find fault with you because you're not blonde, or redheaded, or you don't have green eyes or blue.

The bottom line is that there is always someone out there that's gonna hate on you for something, religion, skin color, sexual orientation, the car you drive, the house you live in etc. etc.

The thing I have learned in this journey is that people only have the power over you that you give them. The only people whose opinion matters are those in your inner circle. Anyone else can go shit in their hat for all I care.

When confronted on anything by anyone that is not in that inner group, I just reserve my well practiced look of disdain mixed with incredulity. Kind of like the face you would make if a lump of dog excrement all of a sudden started talking and decided to insult you. That is usually followed by a hearty laugh at their expense as everyone has something they are insecure about, horse teeth, or moles, or being old and hump backed (hey, assholes get old too you know, they're not all nice old people). Then I go on about my business and don't much give them another thought. I prefer to focus my energies on those that I love and that love me.

I felt this way to an extent when I was younger, but I did have more bouts of insecurity on occasion than I do now. I almost never feel insecure now. Something switched off for me in my early 30's that started me down the road of not caring about the thoughts of people that do not matter to me. So in answer yes I'm fat and happy in my 30's, although I have been varying levels of fat all my life size depending on my activities at any given time, i.e. sports or weight training. I guess I have always been kind of an asshole my whole life, but I have really been coming into my own at it starting in my mid 30's. That makes it easier to have this outlook on life.
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I'm learning to be fat and happy. (Well, happy anyway. I've always been fat). I'm learning to set health and fitness goals that don't involve losing weight...if weight loss happens, that's fine, but I really just want to be the healthiest Lizzie possible. And partially through this board, learning to love the woman in the mirror and see her best features. So...not there yet, but well on the way to fat-happiness!
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I've always been fat - ever since I can remember - and have steadily grown over the years.

Im not unhappy with me - far from it - Im a warm, loving, honest person - but what I find hard to deal with is other people that judge me as I walk down the street or assume that they know the reason that I am in the Dr's waiting room (dodgy toenail!!) - that is what makes me sad.

I have spent years and years wishing I was a lot smaller - but more recently have realised that I have spent precious time wishing for something that will not make me any happier - I am who I am - wobbles and all!!
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only in the past few months have i really started to actually WORK on my crappy self-esteem and body image. it's incredible the progress that has been made in just a few months. i'm going out tomorrow night, to a club, with wonderful dear old friends and i KNOW that i am going to look good.

first, the fact that i'm going out at all is amazing. for many years, i have let my weight convince me that people were judging me, or that i was disgusting. and i let that keep me from going out and enjoying time with people i love in public.

second, the fact that i know i am going to look good! not just "oh i'll ignore it" or "i'll do my best" but, "i'm gonna look good." wow.

if this is how getting older works, bring it on. i have a feeling 37 may be the best year of my life so far.
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I'll be 32 this summer and I'm still seeking my happiness. I've been fat my whole life, but I'm very active. I can't walk as fast as others, but I get out a few times a day to walk my dog. I guess I've reached a plateau now. I'm married now and I am accepted there. My job is okay, but I'd rather have one where I can be home every day.

It feels like I'm still searching for something. That's why I'm not entirely happy yet. There's still something out there for me.
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I am for sure happy and fat in my 30's. I think there is a serious switch for people when they hit 30. There was one for me anyway. HAPPY HAPPY HAPPY!!!!
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