If you had the power to change your FA-ness...

The Orange Mage · 07-13-2010, 12:25 PM

would you? How?

Gspoon · 07-13-2010, 01:02 PM

Well, not entirely sure how to respond. Are you asking if I could stop being an FA? Or if I could change preferences of how I see BBW's?

Wantabelly · 07-13-2010, 01:58 PM

I wouldn't change it for the world.... the excitement and pleasure it brings me, nothing compares

Gspoon · 07-13-2010, 02:28 PM

Well if thats the case. I'd say I wouldn't change cause I don't really know what it is like to not be into fat girls. I am quite content with having my desire for the fat female body. Not only that, being an FA is one of my key characteristics

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If I changed that, I'd be a completely different person than I am today, I like who I am

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The Orange Mage · 07-13-2010, 03:50 PM

For those not getting it, this is a FA/FFA Board version of the "If you had the power to change your weight" thread that is off somewhere else on the boards.

Oirish · 07-13-2010, 04:47 PM

I always like to say that I'm an equal opportunist and I find girls of most shapes and sizes sexy. I do think it would be nice if I could more purely just see beauty for what it is in a more straightforward way. Increasingly of late I'll look at a girl that is beautiful and thin and recognize that she is sexy but in the back of my mind I'll think "if only she could throw a little more ass on that frame" or some such thought. I've some feeder tendencies and have been an FA a while but this is a fairly new attitude I'm recognizing. I'd prefer going back to recognizing beauty in people how they are rather than wishing to see them change.

Blackjack · 07-13-2010, 05:07 PM

Not a chance.

Well, actually, I'd like a tiny bit more leeway in just what turns me on, just on the off chance that Christina Hendricks shows up at my door naked one day. I'd so go to that special hell if my wiring worked that way.

Jon Blaze · 07-13-2010, 05:11 PM

Pretty much what Blackjack said.

My manual control has dwindled. I would like more of my past because there's a time and a place for everything. But other than that: It's fine.

john_in_indy · 07-13-2010, 06:18 PM

I've been having a lot of "I'm sooooo glad I'm an FA!!!" moments this year, so I'm going to say a most emphatic "No" to the idea of changing my FA-ness.

The Orange Mage · 07-13-2010, 06:34 PM

Like Oirish, I wish I could change it somewhat. I'm honestly all about supersize and honestly I'd drop my "sweet spot" down to the size 14-20 range if I really could just to make things easier and open up more possibilities.

Devil's Subjugate · 07-13-2010, 06:46 PM

I'm sure a lot of people will stand up and proclaim their satisfaction with their specific pedigree of fat admiration. That's easy, especially behind a computer. I wouldn't change the fact I'm an FA, but I would probably get rid of the feeder fantasy stuff. I'm attracted to very large women (400 - 500 lbs), and well, I guess I'd prefer to be into mid-size BBWs (275 - 375) because it's healthier and mobility and travel are important to me. The gaining fantasy is great and all, but I think appreciating a woman as she is makes everyone happier.

Tad · 07-14-2010, 07:26 AM

Given a choice, at this point in my life, I'd drop most of the FA stuff and all the feeder stuff. I'd like to retain an appreciation of a wide range of sizes, but lose the specific turn on from fat and being fatter. It would certainly change who I am, and who knows what all that would do to my sexuality (the fat stuff has been a key part of it since I had a sexuality), but given that none of this interests my wife, it would just be better that way.

chicken legs · 07-14-2010, 08:46 AM

Well considering I do have a muscle fetish as well...I'm pretty cool with my FA-ness. The two fetishes seem to compliment each other..lol.

musicman · 07-15-2010, 03:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Gspoon

Well if thats the case. I'd say I wouldn't change cause I don't really know what it is like to not be into fat girls. I am quite content with having my desire for the fat female body. Not only that, being an FA is one of my key characteristics

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If I changed that, I'd be a completely different person than I am today, I like who I am

.

I agree with Gspoon. Being an FA is an essential part of who I am. Without it, or the other 10000 things that make me who I am, I would be completely different. Also, I wouldn't have met my wife, who is the most wonderful woman (of any weight) that I've ever known. I wouldn't want to risk missing out on her.

mercy · 07-15-2010, 03:19 PM

Not at all. I consider myself an FA, but not to the exclusion of other body types, so I don't really feel like I'm missing out on anything.

MrRabbit · 07-15-2010, 04:04 PM

I will be the dissonant voice here, but I'd say: Yes.
Where I live, there are not many BBWs, so as an FA, finding a partner is much more difficult. In addition, WLS is very abundant here, so even if you do find a BBW partner, there is a big chance that at some point she will turn to WLS.

It would make me a different person, but it would also be a lot easier if I could physically appreciate women of all sizes rather than just BBWs.

Cors · 07-15-2010, 05:40 PM

What Oirish and Blackjack said. I do date outside of my preference if there is amazing chemistry but often end up wishing I could change my partner to fit my physical ideal. I wish I could be attracted to anyone, regardless of their size or gender.

BigBeautifulMe · 07-15-2010, 05:48 PM

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Originally Posted by The Orange Mage

Like Oirish, I wish I could change it somewhat. I'm honestly all about supersize and honestly I'd drop my "sweet spot" down to the size 14-20 range if I really could just to make things easier and open up more possibilities.

I hardly ever post in the FA forum, but this post was depressing to me.

Honestly, it's been my experience that a lot of men want to bang supersized women, but marry smaller bbws, because it's just easier and less hassle, and this post really relates to that, IMO. (NOT saying you're this type of person personally, Orange Mage!) On an intellectual level, I get it, I guess, but emotionally it's difficult to hear and process.

(This is not directed at Orange Mage, but at people who think the way I'm describing) -- I don't understand sacrificing what you're ultimately attracted to for the sake of what is easy. You might be able to handle it for a year... or five years... or maybe even ten... but eventually you're going to recognize that you haven't really gotten everything you wanted out of life and you're missing out, and more people than you are going to end up getting hurt.

Amandy · 07-15-2010, 06:22 PM

No, I feel it's such an integral part of me, and what makes me, me - and I like me; I don't want to be anyone else.

I also believe my preference is the reason for my high sex drive, which I wouldn't EVER trade out, not even for all the frustrating yes-damnit-you-are-hot conversations I've ever had.

The Orange Mage · 07-15-2010, 07:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BigBeautifulMe

I hardly ever post in the FA forum, but this post was depressing to me.

Honestly, it's been my experience that a lot of men want to bang supersized women, but marry smaller bbws, because it's just easier and less hassle, and this post really relates to that, IMO. (NOT saying you're this type of person personally, Orange Mage!) On an intellectual level, I get it, I guess, but emotionally it's difficult to hear and process.

(This is not directed at Orange Mage, but at people who think the way I'm describing) -- I don't understand sacrificing what you're ultimately attracted to for the sake of what is easy. You might be able to handle it for a year... or five years... or maybe even ten... but eventually you're going to recognize that you haven't really gotten everything you wanted out of life and you're missing out, and more people than you are going to end up getting hurt.

I understand and really didn't want to depress anyone but it's mostly a semi-snarky/experience-based response to that other thread and what I've had to deal with IRL. I'm totally wired towards SSBBWs, and that will likely never change, but my experiences have been shitty in my pursuit of...uhh...the FA life?

In summary, I wish I was completely unbiased when it comes to body size and crap because there are lots of wonderful women of every size, and my physical preference cuts off so damn many of them. =\

spanky.pinata · 07-15-2010, 07:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Blackjack

Not a chance.

FAT FOREVER!!

mmm the fat...i worship u

BigBeautifulMe · 07-15-2010, 07:36 PM

Sorry you've had such shitty experiences, dude. I recognize that it can't be easy, because I know it's not on the other side.

I hope no one minds that I posted what I did. I tried to do so in a pretty respectful manner, because I'm actually interested in the discourse we could have about this...

LoveBHMS · 07-15-2010, 07:55 PM

There is a difference between saying "I wish i were not attracted to a certain size because there are too many difficulties to being with a SS partner" and "I wish i could be attracted to a range of sizes".

I think what has mostly been said is that it can be frustrating to be very narrow or limitted in what can turn you on. Like if a guy meets a super nice girl with whom he has a lot in common, it might be suck to realize that the only thing that stops you from going out with her is she's not the right size that you can be attracted to. I mean does any man really want to be in a position of saying "Oh sure she's nice and thoughtful and a good person, but her outward appearance is not 'enough' for me".

BigBeautifulMe · 07-15-2010, 08:46 PM

FWIW, I wasn't responding to MOST of what was said, but a very specific part of one post, and saying it RELATES to this other issue that's very closely intertwined with this one (and inseperable, IMO).

I understand wishing preferences were not so narrowly defined. Who doesn't wish for a larger dating pool? I think that's pretty natural - to want more options, and more possibilities. That wasn't what I was addressing, though.

tonynyc · 07-15-2010, 10:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BigBeautifulMe

FWIW, I wasn't responding to MOST of what was said, but a very specific part of one post, and saying it RELATES to this other issue that's very closely intertwined with this one (and inseperable, IMO).

I understand wishing preferences were not so narrowly defined. Who doesn't wish for a SSBBW? I think that's pretty natural - to want more options, and more possibilities. That wasn't what I was addressing, though.

There fixed it for ya- sounds like a good wish to me

07-13-2010, 12:25 PM	#1
The Orange Mage ♓ Fishy Pisces! ♓ Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,282	If you had the power to change your FA-ness... would you? How?

07-13-2010, 01:02 PM	#2
Gspoon Spoonah Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: San Diego, California Posts: 727	Well, not entirely sure how to respond. Are you asking if I could stop being an FA? Or if I could change preferences of how I see BBW's? __________________ "If you're going through hell, keep going." - Winston Churchill

07-13-2010, 01:58 PM	#3
Wantabelly 100% FFA Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Manchester, UK Posts: 278	I wouldn't change it for the world.... the excitement and pleasure it brings me, nothing compares __________________ I have less rep than you. I probably always will :p It does not make me any less of a valued FFA or contributor to this community. xxxxx Don't say anything, i don't wanna speak, i don't wanna think - i just want you to take me and kiss me and make love to me right here, right now xxxxx [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC]

07-13-2010, 02:28 PM	#4
Gspoon Spoonah Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: San Diego, California Posts: 727	Well if thats the case. I'd say I wouldn't change cause I don't really know what it is like to not be into fat girls. I am quite content with having my desire for the fat female body. Not only that, being an FA is one of my key characteristics . If I changed that, I'd be a completely different person than I am today, I like who I am . __________________ "If you're going through hell, keep going." - Winston Churchill

07-13-2010, 05:07 PM	#7
Blackjack Fupa Troopa Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Connecticut Posts: 9,927	Not a chance. Well, actually, I'd like a tiny bit more leeway in just what turns me on, just on the off chance that Christina Hendricks shows up at my door naked one day. I'd so go to that special hell if my wiring worked that way. __________________ 284/1001

07-13-2010, 03:50 PM	#5
The Orange Mage ♓ Fishy Pisces! ♓ Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,282	For those not getting it, this is a FA/FFA Board version of the "If you had the power to change your weight" thread that is off somewhere else on the boards.

07-13-2010, 04:47 PM	#6
Oirish The Dude Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: San Luis Obispo, CA Posts: 950	I always like to say that I'm an equal opportunist and I find girls of most shapes and sizes sexy. I do think it would be nice if I could more purely just see beauty for what it is in a more straightforward way. Increasingly of late I'll look at a girl that is beautiful and thin and recognize that she is sexy but in the back of my mind I'll think "if only she could throw a little more ass on that frame" or some such thought. I've some feeder tendencies and have been an FA a while but this is a fairly new attitude I'm recognizing. I'd prefer going back to recognizing beauty in people how they are rather than wishing to see them change.

07-13-2010, 05:11 PM	#8
Jon Blaze Dusk Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: San Angelo, Texas Posts: 6,748	Pretty much what Blackjack said. My manual control has dwindled. I would like more of my past because there's a time and a place for everything. But other than that: It's fine. __________________ Love people of all sizes!!! History is sometimes more logical than society.- Me :D "Happiness is not stopping to think if you are."- Palmer Sondreal

07-13-2010, 06:18 PM	#9
john_in_indy Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Indianapolis Posts: 18	I've been having a lot of "I'm sooooo glad I'm an FA!!!" moments this year, so I'm going to say a most emphatic "No" to the idea of changing my FA-ness.

07-13-2010, 06:34 PM	#10
The Orange Mage ♓ Fishy Pisces! ♓ Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 2,282	Like Oirish, I wish I could change it somewhat. I'm honestly all about supersize and honestly I'd drop my "sweet spot" down to the size 14-20 range if I really could just to make things easier and open up more possibilities.

07-13-2010, 06:46 PM	#11
Devil's Subjugate Rad Moniker Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Los Angeles, CA Posts: 59	Interesting... I'm sure a lot of people will stand up and proclaim their satisfaction with their specific pedigree of fat admiration. That's easy, especially behind a computer. I wouldn't change the fact I'm an FA, but I would probably get rid of the feeder fantasy stuff. I'm attracted to very large women (400 - 500 lbs), and well, I guess I'd prefer to be into mid-size BBWs (275 - 375) because it's healthier and mobility and travel are important to me. The gaining fantasy is great and all, but I think appreciating a woman as she is makes everyone happier. __________________ D. Subjugate

07-14-2010, 07:26 AM	#12
Tad mostly harmless Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 12,614	Given a choice, at this point in my life, I'd drop most of the FA stuff and all the feeder stuff. I'd like to retain an appreciation of a wide range of sizes, but lose the specific turn on from fat and being fatter. It would certainly change who I am, and who knows what all that would do to my sexuality (the fat stuff has been a key part of it since I had a sexuality), but given that none of this interests my wife, it would just be better that way. __________________ Criticism is so often nothing more than the eye garrulously denouncing the shape of the peephole that gives access to hidden treasure. -Djuna Barnes, writer and artist

07-15-2010, 03:19 PM	#15
mercy Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: UK Posts: 296	Not at all. I consider myself an FA, but not to the exclusion of other body types, so I don't really feel like I'm missing out on anything.

07-15-2010, 04:04 PM	#16
MrRabbit Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 61	I will be the dissonant voice here, but I'd say: Yes. Where I live, there are not many BBWs, so as an FA, finding a partner is much more difficult. In addition, WLS is very abundant here, so even if you do find a BBW partner, there is a big chance that at some point she will turn to WLS. It would make me a different person, but it would also be a lot easier if I could physically appreciate women of all sizes rather than just BBWs.

07-15-2010, 05:40 PM	#17
Cors Delurking Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Europe Posts: 2,763	What Oirish and Blackjack said. I do date outside of my preference if there is amazing chemistry but often end up wishing I could change my partner to fit my physical ideal. I wish I could be attracted to anyone, regardless of their size or gender.

07-15-2010, 06:22 PM	#19
Amandy Snarktacular Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: USA Posts: 231	No, I feel it's such an integral part of me, and what makes me, me - and I like me; I don't want to be anyone else. I also believe my preference is the reason for my high sex drive, which I wouldn't EVER trade out, not even for all the frustrating yes-damnit-you-are-hot conversations I've ever had. __________________ It only seems kinky when the Harlem Globetrotters join in...

07-15-2010, 07:36 PM	#22
BigBeautifulMe That was a heart. Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Sydney, Australia as of January 2014! Posts: 7,504	Sorry you've had such shitty experiences, dude. I recognize that it can't be easy, because I know it's not on the other side. I hope no one minds that I posted what I did. I tried to do so in a pretty respectful manner, because I'm actually interested in the discourse we could have about this... __________________ "I am a size 0 if you multiply my current size by 0." - liz (di-va) "I just think your culinary choices could use more death of sentient creatures. Is that so wrong?" - Mini -Rosebud- I am imagining how lovely it would be to see your golden hair rising up over my belly when you are between my thighs -Rosebud- Like a cunnilingus sunrise

07-15-2010, 07:55 PM	#23
LoveBHMS default title Join Date: Apr 2006 Posts: 4,087	There is a difference between saying "I wish i were not attracted to a certain size because there are too many difficulties to being with a SS partner" and "I wish i could be attracted to a range of sizes". I think what has mostly been said is that it can be frustrating to be very narrow or limitted in what can turn you on. Like if a guy meets a super nice girl with whom he has a lot in common, it might be suck to realize that the only thing that stops you from going out with her is she's not the right size that you can be attracted to. I mean does any man really want to be in a position of saying "Oh sure she's nice and thoughtful and a good person, but her outward appearance is not 'enough' for me". __________________ It was all very careless and confused.

07-15-2010, 08:46 PM	#24
BigBeautifulMe That was a heart. Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Sydney, Australia as of January 2014! Posts: 7,504	FWIW, I wasn't responding to MOST of what was said, but a very specific part of one post, and saying it RELATES to this other issue that's very closely intertwined with this one (and inseperable, IMO). I understand wishing preferences were not so narrowly defined. Who doesn't wish for a larger dating pool? I think that's pretty natural - to want more options, and more possibilities. That wasn't what I was addressing, though. __________________ "I am a size 0 if you multiply my current size by 0." - liz (di-va) "I just think your culinary choices could use more death of sentient creatures. Is that so wrong?" - Mini -Rosebud- I am imagining how lovely it would be to see your golden hair rising up over my belly when you are between my thighs -Rosebud- Like a cunnilingus sunrise