FA Myths Thread #16

Jon Blaze · 07-01-2012, 04:45 PM

"Female FAs are looking more for a daddy-substitute than a romantic partner. Male FAs have a mother complex."

KHayes666 · 07-01-2012, 05:03 PM

Both false. I dated thin girls into my 20s so the whole mother complex doesnt apply at all.

Dr. Feelgood · 07-01-2012, 07:03 PM

Both my parents were rabid fatphobes, and I was raised on the gospel that, on the moral scale, fat people rank somewhere between drug pushers and child molesters. My mother died before I met my ex-wife, so she was spared the shame and degradation of a BB daughter-in-law. Nevertheless, I was not at all sure how my father would take it. He took it well. True, after he met my ex, he took me aside and said, "Son, your mother was never fat." To which I replied, "No, Dad, she never was." For some reason, that seemed to settle it. At any rate, he and I were agreed that I had not married a mother-substitute.

Webmaster · 07-02-2012, 08:03 AM

My mom is 5' and about 95 pounds, so the myth certainly doesn't apply to me.

BigFA · 07-05-2012, 02:26 PM

The myth does not apply to me either. My mother was very slim her whole life and I have been attracted to chubby and fat women since puberty. Its just the way I am wired and I love it.

Weirdo890 · 07-08-2012, 06:06 PM

I have never heard of that myth until now. It's weird what people can come up with to degrade a group of people.

Still a Skye fan · 07-09-2012, 10:35 AM

A mother complex? That's the first time I've ever heard of that myth.

My late mom was an averaged sized woman who never tried to make me into something I wasn't...like an athlete, for instance.

She and my Dad always let me be myself.

Dennis

Cors · 07-10-2012, 02:46 AM

Uh, no to both.

We are all influenced by our upbringing and experiences to different degrees, so this may be true for some people in relationships. I don't think it is more or less common for FAs.

superblooper · 07-10-2012, 10:46 AM

I believe I have an Oedipal complex, so I guess that makes 1 of us.

bmann0413 · 07-14-2012, 05:33 PM

Even though I love my mother, I'm DEFINITELY sure I don't have a mother complex. I've already established to myself and my dad that if, by some messed-up coincidence, I find someone, I need to do a background check on her and her family. My mom is kinda... nuts, to say it nicely.

Sooooo, yeah, this myth is true for some but not for all.

Kenster102.5 · 12-11-2012, 12:11 PM

I am 130 and 5'11'' my mother is about 105 lbs at 5'5'' and she used to do Phys Ed and running when she was in University. It certainly may not apply to the mother complex. Just a thin guy who though the chubby teachers were cute when he was in middle school.

Steve373 · 01-02-2013, 06:55 PM

I don't fit this stereotype either !

Artemisia · 01-13-2013, 06:26 PM

A logical fallacy based on the correlation of greater weight with age. It also erases fat men and women from the pool of common-wisdom 'sexy' people (who are usually young). Additionally, it assumes (as per the fatphobic typical) that there's no way a fat person can be found sexy, and therefore apparent sexual interest in a fat person must be a proxy for a true non-sexual reason.

ODFFA · 01-17-2013, 10:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Artemisia

A logical fallacy based on the correlation of greater weight with age. It also erases fat men and women from the pool of common-wisdom 'sexy' people (who are usually young). Additionally, it assumes (as per the fatphobic typical) that there's no way a fat person can be found sexy, and therefore apparent sexual interest in a fat person must be a proxy for a true non-sexual reason.

What she said

J_Underscore · 01-22-2013, 07:06 PM

I literally just said "Who comes up with these" lol. What on earth was going through the person's mind that first thought that.

Anyway, my Mother has always been slim & is an avid weight watcher too. Not only that but my fiance has different hair colour & even ethnicity. You put my fiance next to my Mother and they couldn't look more different.

07-01-2012, 05:03 PM	#2
KHayes666 Retired Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Boston, MA Posts: 7,877	Both false. I dated thin girls into my 20s so the whole mother complex doesnt apply at all. __________________ Put your hands on a hot stove and a second can seem like an hour. When I put my hands on my hot fiancee an hour seems like a second

07-01-2012, 07:03 PM	#3
Dr. Feelgood intellectual nerd Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: the Twilight Zone Posts: 3,963	Both my parents were rabid fatphobes, and I was raised on the gospel that, on the moral scale, fat people rank somewhere between drug pushers and child molesters. My mother died before I met my ex-wife, so she was spared the shame and degradation of a BB daughter-in-law. Nevertheless, I was not at all sure how my father would take it. He took it well. True, after he met my ex, he took me aside and said, "Son, your mother was never fat." To which I replied, "No, Dad, she never was." For some reason, that seemed to settle it. At any rate, he and I were agreed that I had not married a mother-substitute. __________________ Now all you women, Don't you come around Unless you weigh 'Bout fo' hundred pound... -- Dr. Feelgood & the Interns

07-08-2012, 06:06 PM	#6
Weirdo890 Master Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Kent, WA Posts: 4,680	I have never heard of that myth until now. It's weird what people can come up with to degrade a group of people. __________________ "The whole world is crazy, it's just that there are a few of us smart enough to realize it" - Me "Conquer all, but one escapes Govern all, but one dissents Embark on genocide, and one shall rise to damn you." - Jack Kirby "Hunger Dogs" My YouTube video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wU24ty301nY

07-09-2012, 10:35 AM	#7
Still a Skye fan Normalcy is overrated Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Upstate New York Posts: 6,144	A mother complex? That's the first time I've ever heard of that myth. My late mom was an averaged sized woman who never tried to make me into something I wasn't...like an athlete, for instance. She and my Dad always let me be myself. Dennis __________________ "It's impossible to be neat and tidy amidst the natural majesty of mountains of books." Michelle (Read or Dream)

07-10-2012, 02:46 AM	#8
Cors Token Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Uppsala, Sweden Posts: 2,771	Uh, no to both. We are all influenced by our upbringing and experiences to different degrees, so this may be true for some people in relationships. I don't think it is more or less common for FAs. __________________ “And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” ~Anais Nin

07-01-2012, 04:45 PM	#1
Jon Blaze Dusk Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Oklahoma City, OK ya dig? ;) Posts: 6,697	FA Myths Thread #15 "Female FAs are looking more for a daddy-substitute than a romantic partner. Male FAs have a mother complex." __________________ Love people of all sizes!!! History is sometimes more logical than society.- Me "Happiness is not stopping to think if you are."- Palmer Sondreal Last edited by Jon Blaze : 12-05-2012 at 10:29 PM.

07-02-2012, 08:03 AM	#4
Webmaster The Chief Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Sacramento, CA area Posts: 5,674	My mom is 5' and about 95 pounds, so the myth certainly doesn't apply to me.

07-05-2012, 02:26 PM	#5
BigFA Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Chicago Area Posts: 207	The myth does not apply to me either. My mother was very slim her whole life and I have been attracted to chubby and fat women since puberty. Its just the way I am wired and I love it.

07-10-2012, 10:46 AM	#9
superblooper Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: England Posts: 30	I believe I have an Oedipal complex, so I guess that makes 1 of us.

07-14-2012, 05:33 PM	#10
bmann0413 PLAYER ONE READY! START! Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Louisiana Posts: 5,003	Even though I love my mother, I'm DEFINITELY sure I don't have a mother complex. I've already established to myself and my dad that if, by some messed-up coincidence, I find someone, I need to do a background check on her and her family. My mom is kinda... nuts, to say it nicely. Sooooo, yeah, this myth is true for some but not for all. __________________

12-11-2012, 12:11 PM	#11
Kenster102.5 Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Leaside, Toronto, Ontario Posts: 215	I am 130 and 5'11'' my mother is about 105 lbs at 5'5'' and she used to do Phys Ed and running when she was in University. It certainly may not apply to the mother complex. Just a thin guy who though the chubby teachers were cute when he was in middle school. __________________ "Some honies got it twisted, fat asses I mash `em" Jeru the Damaja

01-02-2013, 06:55 PM	#12
Steve373 Junior Member Join Date: Nov 2012 Posts: 17	I don't fit this stereotype either !

01-13-2013, 06:26 PM	#13
Artemisia Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 52	A logical fallacy based on the correlation of greater weight with age. It also erases fat men and women from the pool of common-wisdom 'sexy' people (who are usually young). Additionally, it assumes (as per the fatphobic typical) that there's no way a fat person can be found sexy, and therefore apparent sexual interest in a fat person must be a proxy for a true non-sexual reason. __________________ Market anarchist, scientist, spec fic writer, undercover agent for the forces of awesome.

01-22-2013, 07:06 PM	#15
J_Underscore Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: UK Posts: 557	I literally just said "Who comes up with these" lol. What on earth was going through the person's mind that first thought that. Anyway, my Mother has always been slim & is an avid weight watcher too. Not only that but my fiance has different hair colour & even ethnicity. You put my fiance next to my Mother and they couldn't look more different.

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