What is making you SAD right now...

[thatpumpkin]

It makes me sad that I've been loosing friends because they're willing to budge on their morals and I'm not.

[yoopergirl]

I realized this evening how long it's been since I've had physical contact (more than a handshake) with someone outside my family...I'm not a big touchy-feely person except with those I'm close to, but I don't even have any good friends around to get a hug from...guess I'm just lonely, and tired of working 2-4 jobs just to come home to an empty apt.

[moore2me]

Originally Posted by yoopergirl

I realized this evening how long it's been since I've had physical contact (more than a handshake) with someone outside my family...I'm not a big touchy-feely person except with those I'm close to, but I don't even have any good friends around to get a hug from...guess I'm just lonely, and tired of working 2-4 jobs just to come home to an empty apt.

Dear Yooper Girl,

I understand your need for close physical contact. It's something all humans crave from infancy and it doesn't go away just because we get older. How about turning your situation around and targeting a group of folks who also do not get enough hugs? People in nursing homes are often discarded by society and may need comfort that they never get. You can join another group or church working in a nursing home or you can start your own group. Alsom there are volunteers in my area who go into hospitals and rock babies that are neglected by their mothers and fathers (or do not have parents nearby).

[Diana_Prince245]

Originally Posted by moore2me

Dear Yooper Girl,

I understand your need for close physical contact. It's something all humans crave from infancy and it doesn't go away just because we get older. How about turning your situation around and targeting a group of folks who also do not get enough hugs? People in nursing homes are often discarded by society and may need comfort that they never get. You can join another group or church working in a nursing home or you can start your own group. Alsom there are volunteers in my area who go into hospitals and rock babies that are neglected by their mothers and fathers (or do not have parents nearby).

Also, and this depends on how comfortable you are around dying people, hospices are always looking for volunteers. It gives you a chance to comfort the patient and their families. I loved it.

[Donna]

This story about a very sick dog. Warning before clicking the link...the pictures and story are graphic and very upsetting if you are sensitive to this kind of thing. When my SPCA friend sent me the story yesterday via email, she didn't warn me about the pictures and I lost my lunch after opening the attachments.

No update on her condition today when I called. I'm praying for little Bella's recovery. I really hope there is a special extra torturous place in hell for people who neglect/abuse animals or children.

[Lamia]

Originally Posted by largenlovely

This must be the day for these types of discussions. Me and a friend were discussing whether or not we thought there is only one person who is "the" one or if there are a bunch of "the" ones.

There is a friend I've known since college and we clicked to the point that the entire rest of the world was shut out when we were together. we attempted sex at one point and it was disastrous. He's engaged to be married now...but when we get together, that chemistry is still there and as strong as ever.

I'm not secretly wishing that me and him could develop something. He's about to be married and I'm very happy for them but I have never clicked with another person like *that* before. I'm just hoping there are more "the" ones out there. If not, then I missed the boat.

Perhaps this person is a kindred spirit and since he was male you both misconstrued the feeling as attraction. Intense emotional bonds and connection don't always have to be relationships. I hope that made sense.

[cinnamitch]

Originally Posted by Donna

This story about a very sick dog. Warning before clicking the link...the pictures and story are graphic and very upsetting if you are sensitive to this kind of thing. When my SPCA friend sent me the story yesterday via email, she didn't warn me about the pictures and I lost my lunch after opening the attachments.

No update on her condition today when I called. I'm praying for little Bella's recovery. I really hope there is a special extra torturous place in hell for people who neglect/abuse animals or children.

If you find out something please let me know.

[CastingPearls]

Originally Posted by largenlovely

This must be the day for these types of discussions. Me and a friend were discussing whether or not we thought there is only one person who is "the" one or if there are a bunch of "the" ones.

There is a friend I've known since college and we clicked to the point that the entire rest of the world was shut out when we were together. we attempted sex at one point and it was disastrous. He's engaged to be married now...but when we get together, that chemistry is still there and as strong as ever.

I'm not secretly wishing that me and him could develop something. He's about to be married and I'm very happy for them but I have never clicked with another person like *that* before. I'm just hoping there are more "the" ones out there. If not, then I missed the boat.

Originally Posted by Lamia

Perhaps this person is a kindred spirit and since he was male you both misconstrued the feeling as attraction. Intense emotional bonds and connection don't always have to be relationships. I hope that made sense.

I agree with Lamia. He may be a soul mate that was meant to be part of your life for a period of time or to experience something together, so that bond may always be there. The good news is that we have several and, some, many soul mates, so when it ends, or transforms into something else, you can still be thankful for what was, while still being open to the possibility of what's down the road because you will have that bond again. I do believe that there is someone special for you, a partner, whether for life or not, is up to you.

[TwilightStarr]

That a good friend of mine from high school died last night in a car wreck
I've lost a lot of friends from school in the past couple of years and it shouldn't be like that!

[imfree]

Originally Posted by TwilightStarr

That a good friend of mine from high school died last night in a car wreck
I've lost a lot of friends from school in the past couple of years and it shouldn't be like that!

You have my condolences in your loss.

[Surlysomething]

Originally Posted by TwilightStarr

That a good friend of mine from high school died last night in a car wreck
I've lost a lot of friends from school in the past couple of years and it shouldn't be like that!

I'm so sorry about your friend. We all start to lose people when we leave school...it's scary. Big hugs your way.

[TwilightStarr]

Originally Posted by imfree

You have my condolences in your loss.

Originally Posted by Surlysomething

I'm so sorry about your friend. We all start to lose people when we leave school...it's scary. Big hugs your way.

Thank you

[Ho Ho Tai]

Originally Posted by yoopergirl

I realized this evening how long it's been since I've had physical contact (more than a handshake) with someone outside my family...I'm not a big touchy-feely person except with those I'm close to, but I don't even have any good friends around to get a hug from...guess I'm just lonely, and tired of working 2-4 jobs just to come home to an empty apt.

Mrs Ho Ho and I are full time 24/7 touchie-feelie-huggie folks. We never lack for touch. And yet . . .

I have been having back problems for weeks (and am seeking treatment). Yesterday, our housekeeper came over and, noting my pain, offered to give me a back rub (she is into Swedish massage). While our relationship is circumspect, we have become friends as well as employers. I wasn't quite sure if back rubs fit into this, but went ahead. I expected five minutes but she wouldn't let up for a full hour. I felt like a happy Velveteen Rabbit in danger of being loved until the fur wore off!

If I weren't in a very full and loving relationship, my emotions could have taken a different turn. Love and gentle (or firm!) touch go, literally, hand-in-hand. The skin, the psyche, and the deep, deep soul just suck it all up, like spring rains on a dry field.

Realizing that the experience is, in a way, synthetic and temporary, I would suggest seeking out a good, legit. masseuse in your area, trying out at least the introductory session (see my rep message). It may relieve some of the craving and leave you more prepared to accept love and partnership when it comes along (as it surely will).

Oh - an if you want to hasten things a bit, learn how to cook really good pasties.

[kaylaisamachine]

Still no apartment. School starts in 16 days. I will be homeless. I'm not giving up on school.

[Sweetie]

I'm feeling sad because I was RIGHT about someone. I gave an ex a second chance and the first chance he got to be a cheat he took it. This time isn't as painful because I didnt really let down my walls. I've been kind of braced for this all along.

[largenlovely]

Originally Posted by CastingPearls

I agree with Lamia. He may be a soul mate that was meant to be part of your life for a period of time or to experience something together, so that bond may always be there. The good news is that we have several and, some, many soul mates, so when it ends, or transforms into something else, you can still be thankful for what was, while still being open to the possibility of what's down the road because you will have that bond again. I do believe that there is someone special for you, a partner, whether for life or not, is up to you.

I'm not able to double quote on my phone app, so I'm including u as well Lamia

I like to think there's more than one. I have a girlfriend who I'm close with and I think we're soul sisters. So I suppose it has happened more than once, technically. I sure hope next time it happens with a man, that the sexual stuff is there. That was soooo frustrating that it didn't work because I really wanted it to...but we can't force it, no matter how hard we try (and I tried hard lol) Which, we were able to joke about how horrible the experience was afterwards lol..so I suppose at least it was cool that we were able to do that lol

[largenlovely]

I went out with a very good looking guy friend of mine last night club hopping. He didn't notice (or he would've probably hit somebody) but some people were whispering, staring and laughing with their friends. I am always super aware of my surroundings is why I noticed it (and I hadn't been drinking either). It was as if they were shocked and amused that he would be seen with me in public. It's not the first time it has happened...it has happened to us all. I guess I just forgot cuz I haven't really went downtown in a long time where most of the superficial assholes hang out to party.

It was really disheartening

Just to add...we went to one club where he was friends with the owner and the guy kept asking if we were going home together in a shocked manner. It was horrible

[Sweetie]

Originally Posted by largenlovely

I went out with a very good looking guy friend of mine last night club hopping. He didn't notice (or he would've probably hit somebody) but some people were whispering, staring and laughing with their friends. I am always super aware of my surroundings is why I noticed it (and I hadn't been drinking either). It was as if they were shocked and amused that he would be seen with me in public. It's not the first time it has happened...it has happened to us all. I guess I just forgot cuz I haven't really went downtown in a long time where most of the superficial assholes hang out to party.

It was really disheartening

I'm sorry this happened. I know how it feels and it SUCKS.

BTW, they were probably being eaten alive with JEALOUSY. :

Here are some {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

[largenlovely]

Originally Posted by Sweetie

I'm sorry this happened. I know how it feels and it SUCKS.

Here are some {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

Thanks..I know all you girls here understand how crappy it makes ya feel. I'm so glad he didn't notice it though because that would've made it worse

[Sweetie]

Originally Posted by largenlovely

Thanks..I know all you girls here understand how crappy it makes ya feel. I'm so glad he didn't notice it though because that would've made it worse

He was with you because he sees what an AWESOME person you are.

[largenlovely]

Originally Posted by Sweetie

He was with you because he sees what an AWESOME person you are.

Thanks

He would've got pissed off and defended me, which makes him pretty awesome too. I'm sure glad it didn't come to that though.

[seavixen]

Originally Posted by largenlovely

I went out with a very good looking guy friend of mine last night club hopping. He didn't notice (or he would've probably hit somebody) but some people were whispering, staring and laughing with their friends. I am always super aware of my surroundings is why I noticed it (and I hadn't been drinking either). It was as if they were shocked and amused that he would be seen with me in public. It's not the first time it has happened...it has happened to us all. I guess I just forgot cuz I haven't really went downtown in a long time where most of the superficial assholes hang out to party.

It was really disheartening

Just to add...we went to one club where he was friends with the owner and the guy kept asking if we were going home together in a shocked manner. It was horrible

I completely don't get that narrow-minded BS - especially since, seriously... you're GORGEOUS! I think jealousy is a likely culprit.

[seavixen]

I'm irked / sad / et cetera that everything is going wrong again, all at once. I keep thinking it's over, and then something else happens, and then more somethings, and so on.

[Linda]

I miss my sister. It's been 9 years since she walked away from our family and while I understand and commend her for being corageous and doing what she needed to do to survive this life I miss her terribly.

[largenlovely]

Originally Posted by seavixen

I completely don't get that narrow-minded BS - especially since, seriously... you're GORGEOUS! I think jealousy is a likely culprit.

Thanks It would sure make me feel better if it was jealousy rather than anything else