2012 Singles Thread

[largenlovely]

Originally Posted by biglynch

now thats a hell of a concept. I would'nt mine getting second place at the moment.

Single and out of luck. Well just like the littlest hobo said, "maybe tomorrow"

HA!! One of those instances where it's *truly* an honor to even be nominated lol

[largenlovely]

I've been friends with this guy for a couple years and have totally been crushing on him..like really bad. Last weekend I thought he was hitting on me when we went out. He called me the next day and said he had more fun with me than he has had with anybody in years.

Super flattering. So what's the problem? He's not normally into big girls. Bummer...

But, he called me tonight (just got off the phone with him) and said that he wanted us to try the whole dating thing and see what happens. He said that he's never felt a connection like the one we have and that he could totally see us having an amazing life together...wow huh? Lol

I'm kinda torn though. He's not normally into big girls so that's kind of an impairment....but I reeeeally really like him. He's very attractive, really smart, we have amazing conversations, he's funny, he's local, my friends like him, he's gotta good job....

I dunno..never been in this situation really...I've always assumed that previous bf's from before I knew about FA's *must* have been into big girls if they were with me.

This has kinda thrown me for a loop.

[largenlovely]

This is us a couple months ago at one of my friend's events.

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[biglynch]

Originally Posted by largenlovely

This is us a couple months ago at one of my friend's events.

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I think you got to give him a chance to prove you wrong.

[spiritangel]

Originally Posted by biglynch

I think you got to give him a chance to prove you wrong.

I agree with biglynch. You know as long as he finds you sexy and attractive that is the important thing. Not every man looks at a women and thinks of her size or lack therof some actually want the whole person Lots of Hugs and luck


Think it might be time for a Singles Bash in here, Gets comfy and hunkers down for the long haul

what are we watching?

[Diana_Prince245]

He may not be an FA, but maybe he's a LNLA (a largenlovely admirer), which might be better in the long run.

[aa_ya]

Originally Posted by largenlovely

This is us a couple months ago at one of my friend's events.

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you look very good as a couple

[aa_ya]

Originally Posted by largenlovely

Super flattering. So what's the problem? He's not normally into big girls. Bummer...

But, he called me tonight (just got off the phone with him) and said that he wanted us to try the whole dating thing and see what happens. He said that he's never felt a connection like the one we have and that he could totally see us having an amazing life together...wow huh? Lol

I'm kinda torn though. He's not normally into big girls so that's kind of an impairment....but I reeeeally really like him. He's very attractive, really smart, we have amazing conversations, he's funny, he's local, my friends like him, he's gotta good job....

I dunno..never been in this situation really...I've always assumed that previous bf's from before I knew about FA's *must* have been into big girls if they were with me.

This has kinda thrown me for a loop.

Assumptions have their limitations, and may not be true even if they had been for a while.
Putting it schematically, I see many plusses:
he's known you for years and still wants to be with you - a plus;
he likes you - another plus;
you like him, and looks like that a lot - a huge plus;
he's local, has a good job, etc. - ++++

He likes the person that you are, and that is the decisive factor here. He may not be an FA, but have those bf's that were FAs made you feel better? They might have tested their perfect image of women, and your dimensions may have been foremost for them. Did they see a person in you or did they just cared for you as a living picture?

Putting it car-wise, many people dream about having a Rolls-Royce (because rich ones have them), but have no idea what it actually means having a Rolls-Royce. Most of them put up with a Ford, finding it to be a good car and many do not want rolls-royces any longer, since they're inaccessible and may not be for them.

The guy you're talking about looks like to be past his time of rolls-royces and wants the ford he knows and likes. Many FAs still go after rolls-royces and never notice fords next door. This was just for the sake of comparing and is not to be taken personally. I'm sorry if I offended you, I never meant it.

I know men who just do not pay much attention to how fat their partner is provided that they click as personalities and the weight does not impair practical problems. If the guy you're talking about is not nagging you about your weight, he may be coming from this group.

So I would be perhaps the fourth person in this thread to advise you to give it a chance. And I would repeat once more - you do look good as a couple.

[BigBeautifulMe]

Lissa, GO FOR IT! What do you have to lose?! I am so excited for you!

[SoVerySoft]

Personally, I think LnL is a Rolls Royce. So there goes that theory

[BigBeautifulMe]

Yeah, I missed what he said up there... WOW. Yeah, LnL is whatever car is BETTER than a Rolls Royce. lol

[largenlovely]

Lol thanks y'all so much lol...I'm still kinda in shock I think. He has made friends with some of my friends in the time we've known each other. I told my best friend about it this morning and she was all excited.

I gotta text from her about an hour ago saying that he had accidentally butt dialed her and she heard him telling his friend that he was gonna take me out when he comes back to town lol (he's visiting friends in Nashville) so I was all aaawww lol

I'm totally gonna go ahead and give it a shot...ur right Ginny, what have I got to lose. We're good enough friends that if it was all weird that we could laugh it off and go back to being friends.

So YAY!!! Now I just gotta make sure I don't get nervous and puke on his shoes lol

[sco17]

Originally Posted by largenlovely

Lol thanks y'all so much lol...I'm still kinda in shock I think. He has made friends with some of my friends in the time we've known each other. I told my best friend about it this morning and she was all excited.

I gotta text from her about an hour ago saying that he had accidentally butt dialed her and she heard him telling his friend that he was gonna take me out when he comes back to town lol (he's visiting friends in Nashville) so I was all aaawww lol

I'm totally gonna go ahead and give it a shot...ur right Ginny, what have I got to lose. We're good enough friends that if it was all weird that we could laugh it off and go back to being friends.

So YAY!!! Now I just gotta make sure I don't get nervous and puke on his shoes lol

Yes, go for it. If you like someone and they like you then there's no sense wasting time. I recently learned that lesson the hard way. Explore and see where it goes. You don't want to wonder what might have been down the road. Best of luck.

[bmann0413]

Originally Posted by Blackjack

Guess who might've fucked everything up again.

I sure hope that's not the case for you, bro.

[largenlovely]

Originally Posted by sco17

Yes, go for it. If you like someone and they like you then there's no sense wasting time. I recently learned that lesson the hard way. Explore and see where it goes. You don't want to wonder what might have been down the road. Best of luck.

I agree I'm gonna give it a shot for sure.

[Blackjack]

Oh well. Was fun for a bit there.

[largenlovely]

I swear, it's either feast or famine with me.

Met another guy who is an FA that I'm gonna go out with this afternoon. I really like my friend a lot but I'm not putting all my eggs in one basket. He and I haven't made any commitments so.....

I would rather have two options than throw myself into just one and it not work out or something.

[CarlaSixx]

I've realized I'm totally dating material... I'm just absolutely NOT relationship material. Which sucks.

[crosseyedhamster]

Same boat. I never last long in a relationship.

Granted I'm still enjoying the freeloving single life, so there's that. :P

[Diana_Prince245]

Originally Posted by largenlovely

I swear, it's either feast or famine with me.

Met another guy who is an FA that I'm gonna go out with this afternoon. I really like my friend a lot but I'm not putting all my eggs in one basket. He and I haven't made any commitments so.....

I would rather have two options than throw myself into just one and it not work out or something.

This, so this. It's weird how that works, right?

[largenlovely]

Originally Posted by Diana_Prince245

This, so this. It's weird how that works, right?

Yes it is...and we had the most amaaaaaaazing time.

I'm hoping he did too..he said he did. He said he was gonna try to see me again tomorrow if he can. Holy cow, I like this dude.

[Victoria08]

I think i'm just gonna get comfy in this thread...maybe pull out the Ben & Jerry's and my old Seattle Mariners sweater. Because I'm apparently never leaving the singles thread. It's not even the fun kind of single where you can go on a few dates, flirt, and have fun. It's the legitimate not-a-damn-thing-happening-oh-so-lonely kind of single.

[Calisthenics]

Longest relationship was a year, but I'm blaming it on university life and the fact that everyone seems to know everything about everyone else before you do.

Still, starting a new job in London very soon, so I shall see what that brings!

[spiritangel]

Originally Posted by Victoria08

I think i'm just gonna get comfy in this thread...maybe pull out the Ben & Jerry's and my old Seattle Mariners sweater. Because I'm apparently never leaving the singles thread. It's not even the fun kind of single where you can go on a few dates, flirt, and have fun. It's the legitimate not-a-damn-thing-happening-oh-so-lonely kind of single.

Lots of Hugs I can understand that. I am in the same place(although do wish I wasnt) . But it does give me a chance to be selfish and create all I want and do my own thing so its not all bad

think its time we had a party in this thread to celebrate all the good things about being single

[largenlovely]

Gah, is there anything worse than the day after, what u thought was an awesome date, waiting for the guy to call or text.

My nerves are on edge lol

Edit/add nevermind..just heard from him. We're gonna go swim at my sister's and then I'm gonna make him supper and we're gonna hang out and watch a movie yay for date number 2 lol