Dimensions Forums  
Home Register Premium Membership Health Issues Market Place Big Fashion

Go Back   Dimensions Forums > Discussion > FA/FFA forum



Reply
 
Thread Tools
Old 04-04-2013, 05:02 PM   #1
FAbrony
 
FAbrony's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: mckinney texas
Posts: 30
FAbrony has said some nice things
Default other family members are thin fans

i live in a family where everyone else in it are vegan thin obsessors. What do you wall think i should do, i have my own way of handling it, but id like outside opinion
FAbrony is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-05-2013, 01:27 AM   #2
loopytheone
Administrator
 
loopytheone's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Robinhoodland
Posts: 3,458
loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.
Default

I'm not sure what you are asking. Do you want advice for talking to them about your preferences? Do you want advice on how to introduce them to a larger partner? The only advice in general I can give is that it isn't any of their business what you find attractive and you have no reason to discuss it with them. In the same way that you wouldn't feel a need to explain a preference for blondes or liking long legs or something. Personally I have never told my family that I like bigger partners but I suppose they are aware as my partner is a BHM. It isn't something that you have to share with anybody other than your partner.
loopytheone is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-05-2013, 07:44 PM   #3
FAbrony
 
FAbrony's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: mckinney texas
Posts: 30
FAbrony has said some nice things
Default now that i think about it

im not realy sure what i was asking, it was more of a just me wanting to talk about whats going on around me, im not realy sure though... jees sorry im so confusing
FAbrony is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-05-2013, 08:18 PM   #4
Webmaster
Chief Emeritus
 
Webmaster's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Knoxville, TN area
Posts: 2
Webmaster has ascended what used to be the highest level.Webmaster has ascended what used to be the highest level.Webmaster has ascended what used to be the highest level.Webmaster has ascended what used to be the highest level.Webmaster has ascended what used to be the highest level.Webmaster has ascended what used to be the highest level.Webmaster has ascended what used to be the highest level.Webmaster has ascended what used to be the highest level.Webmaster has ascended what used to be the highest level.Webmaster has ascended what used to be the highest level.Webmaster has ascended what used to be the highest level.
Default

It IS confusing, for a lot of us. I grew up in Switzerland where at the time virtually no one was fat, and I certainly didn't see any girls who looked nearly like what I desired and wanted. So where did it come from? Why was I 100% oriented towards fat women when there weren't any? It's just one of life's mysteries.

So what do you do? Not sure. It depends. Making it a big issue is sort of useless because you won't convince them and they won't convince you. So in your shoes, I'd just go my own way, explore my own world, and chase my own dreams. Because in the long run, that's the only way you'll ever truly find yourself.
Webmaster is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-05-2013, 08:26 PM   #5
FAbrony
 
FAbrony's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: mckinney texas
Posts: 30
FAbrony has said some nice things
Default me

for me i realized i was an FA through deviant art in a random art search in freshman year high school, part of the reason i've never been open about it before now is i was very very sheltered growing up. Im only now starting to meet and see a greater viraty of people and opinons, so im really not sure how to respond to it all you know?
FAbrony is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-07-2013, 09:29 AM   #6
Gingembre
radar detector
 
Gingembre's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Manchester, UK
Posts: 2,796
Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!
Default

I dont think you should do anything other than live your life the way you want to live it, and respond to any enquiries regarding your lifestyle truthfully, as they arise. I don't think you need to explain your preferences to anyone. Just live your life and people will work things out for themselves....or they won't care one way or the other....or they'll ask you about it, and then you can have a discussion.
__________________
This is my voice. My weapon of choice. - Grace Jones
We are the music makers, we are the dreamers of dreams - Charlie & the Chocolate Factory
Mediocre people do exceptional things all the time - Ok Go
Sticks and stones may break your bones but words can break your heart - Tim Minchin
Gingembre is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-09-2013, 12:55 PM   #7
FAbrony
 
FAbrony's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: mckinney texas
Posts: 30
FAbrony has said some nice things
Default

sorry for taking so long to respond, i could have sworn id said something. thanks for all the great advice ^^
FAbrony is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-09-2013, 01:09 PM   #8
drew_edwards
 
Join Date: Apr 2013
Posts: 42
drew_edwards has said some nice things
Default

That's your family. Your tastes are independent of them. If they're respectful of you, it should not be a problem.
drew_edwards is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-10-2013, 05:19 AM   #9
J_Underscore
 
Join Date: Mar 2007
Location: UK
Posts: 572
J_Underscore does more than just post hot picsJ_Underscore does more than just post hot picsJ_Underscore does more than just post hot picsJ_Underscore does more than just post hot pics
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Gingembre View Post
I dont think you should do anything other than live your life the way you want to live it, and respond to any enquiries regarding your lifestyle truthfully, as they arise. I don't think you need to explain your preferences to anyone. Just live your life and people will work things out for themselves....or they won't care one way or the other....or they'll ask you about it, and then you can have a discussion.
Completely agree, my own life is a perfect example of that, I just lived my life. My mum has gone to weight watchers & calorie counted etc and, when I was a teen, whenever we walked or drove past a ssbbw my mum would say "wow look at the size of her"

I think my family know as I was caught looking at images of bbws twice, which I said I found on a joke site (awesome cover up lol), and the 3 women my family knew about are all 350lbs+. Gingembre's last sentence sums its up, they've met my fiancÚ and they haven't said anything to me other then my mum saying every now & then that she should lose some weight for her health. Again, it's your life and it's your partner's life too
J_Underscore is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-10-2013, 03:55 PM   #10
FAbrony
 
FAbrony's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: mckinney texas
Posts: 30
FAbrony has said some nice things
Default

yea, ive started to realise it should be my choice through my depresion recovory that is still in progress (any my partners choice once i have one)
FAbrony is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-11-2013, 11:57 AM   #11
jakub
Visitor
 
jakub's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Poland
Posts: 143
jakub can now be the recipient of "two cans" jokesjakub can now be the recipient of "two cans" jokes
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by FAbrony View Post
i live in a family where everyone else in it are vegan thin obsessors. What do you wall think i should do, i have my own way of handling it, but id like outside opinion
Being vegan has nothing to do with being thin or thin obsessed :-)
jakub is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-11-2013, 01:49 PM   #12
FAbrony
 
FAbrony's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: mckinney texas
Posts: 30
FAbrony has said some nice things
Default

i just brought up the vegan fact cause my mom has forced me onto the diet, no other reason
FAbrony is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-11-2013, 04:03 PM   #13
Gingembre
radar detector
 
Gingembre's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Manchester, UK
Posts: 2,796
Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!Gingembre keeps pushing the rep limit!
Default

Assuming you're over 18, because you're on this site, I think you should stop letting your mom force you into doing things...
__________________
This is my voice. My weapon of choice. - Grace Jones
We are the music makers, we are the dreamers of dreams - Charlie & the Chocolate Factory
Mediocre people do exceptional things all the time - Ok Go
Sticks and stones may break your bones but words can break your heart - Tim Minchin
Gingembre is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-11-2013, 04:43 PM   #14
FAbrony
 
FAbrony's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: mckinney texas
Posts: 30
FAbrony has said some nice things
Default

i dont have much choice cause im living at home on their charaty, and wont be able to make money for a good few more months (im 20)
FAbrony is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-12-2013, 11:53 PM   #15
mediaboy
 
mediaboy's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: The corner of Hell & Holarity - pinky out, Mother Fucker
Posts: 995
mediaboy has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!mediaboy has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!mediaboy has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!mediaboy has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!mediaboy has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!mediaboy has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!mediaboy has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!mediaboy has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!mediaboy has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!mediaboy has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!mediaboy has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by FAbrony View Post
i dont have much choice cause im living at home on their charaty, and wont be able to make money for a good few more months (im 20)

So there's a no fat chicks rule in your house?


Burn it down.
__________________
"If you want to tell people the truth, make them laugh, otherwise they'll kill you."
Oscar Wilde
mediaboy is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-13-2013, 11:18 AM   #16
love handles
 
Join Date: Mar 2009
Posts: 62
love handles can now be the recipient of "two cans" jokeslove handles can now be the recipient of "two cans" jokeslove handles can now be the recipient of "two cans" jokes
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Webmaster View Post
It IS confusing, for a lot of us. I grew up in Switzerland where at the time virtually no one was fat, and I certainly didn't see any girls who looked nearly like what I desired and wanted. So where did it come from? Why was I 100% oriented towards fat women when there weren't any? It's just one of life's mysteries.

So what do you do? Not sure. It depends. Making it a big issue is sort of useless because you won't convince them and they won't convince you. So in your shoes, I'd just go my own way, explore my own world, and chase my own dreams. Because in the long run, that's the only way you'll ever truly find yourself.
This was the same for me growing up in Sweden no women were big until they got to be older then it was acceptable. (or so it seemed) I have always liked big women but I think it is becauase i am a sub too so like people who are more than me. If that makes sense. I think this sub side came first and then my love of big women.
There was an American woman visiting my hometown and we slept togehter. In the morning my friends laughed at me and said mean things about her pants. I lost my friend but gained a new love of big women.
I agree you have to be yourself. what is the point of pretending. If you like something sometimes its best not to psycho analyse it! Just go with it and be happy.
love handles is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-13-2013, 03:46 PM   #17
FAbrony
 
FAbrony's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: mckinney texas
Posts: 30
FAbrony has said some nice things
Default

lol :3 wow i never new messages had to be at least 10 characters
FAbrony is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-18-2013, 02:58 PM   #18
Tad
mostly harmless
 
Tad's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Ontario, Canada
Posts: 12,526
Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.
Default

Brony -- my personal opinion is that you should put a relationship out of your mind for a little while, while you focus on you, and getting yourself into a better place. When you are happier in your life and more secure in who you are, your odds of having a happy, successful, relationship go way up.

Basically, hold that out as a motivation and reward--"do I have my crap together yet? No, not quite there....OK, let's deal with these final issues so that I'm ready for a happy, healthy, relationship."

That said, in the process of getting yourself into a better place, things can happen, you could meet someone amazing, so who knows how things should play out. But I wouldn't pursue one until you are feeling more enabled and in control in your life.
__________________
Criticism is so often nothing more than the eye garrulously denouncing the shape of the peephole that gives access to hidden treasure.
-Djuna Barnes, writer and artist
Tad is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-21-2013, 02:26 AM   #19
Blockierer
FAntastic
 
Blockierer's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Germany
Posts: 1,166
Blockierer keeps pushing the rep limit!Blockierer keeps pushing the rep limit!Blockierer keeps pushing the rep limit!Blockierer keeps pushing the rep limit!Blockierer keeps pushing the rep limit!Blockierer keeps pushing the rep limit!Blockierer keeps pushing the rep limit!Blockierer keeps pushing the rep limit!Blockierer keeps pushing the rep limit!Blockierer keeps pushing the rep limit!Blockierer keeps pushing the rep limit!
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by FAbrony View Post
i live in a family where everyone else in it are vegan thin obsessors. What do you wall think i should do, i have my own way of handling it, but id like outside opinion
As an FA you have to do not only with comments from your family.
What about comments from your friends, colleagues, ect? How will you react when ppl gaze at your fat wife? When your fat wife doesn't fit in the armchair in restaurant, what must be done? This list is endless.
If you want to learn to swim jump in the water.
__________________
*Blockie*
Blockierer is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-22-2013, 02:12 PM   #20
FAbrony
 
FAbrony's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: mckinney texas
Posts: 30
FAbrony has said some nice things
Default

thank you for all the great advice everyone, i realy apriate it ^^
FAbrony is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-24-2013, 02:44 PM   #21
mbruback
 
Join Date: Aug 2009
Posts: 8
mbruback has said some nice things
Default Real Issue

Think this may be the most common issue for FA's and gainers. Might be why so many students gain weight their Freshman year. Once away from the family and left to your own devices your true inner self comes out. YOu have freedom for the first time and an excuse to gain. If people were more accepting, non-judgmental, weight gain would not be such a turn on for most feedees because there would not be that element of being naughty or going against the grain because it would just be accepted... like any other part of ones routine or lifestyle. We all love to eat, if you eat a lot you will have to work out more or gain weight. Pretty acceptable to me!

Be yourself so whatever selfish people are thinking backfires... because they will ask at some point, why is that FAT person so happy. We reep what we sow... and we all like to eat cake
__________________
"I am that I am." Anon
mbruback is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 04-27-2013, 04:46 PM   #22
FAbrony
 
FAbrony's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2013
Location: mckinney texas
Posts: 30
FAbrony has said some nice things
Default

thanks for the support everyone, ive come up with a minor stratgie to get around my parents, bascily whenever they allow me to make my own meals, i eat way more then they would make for me
FAbrony is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump


All times are GMT -7. The time now is 07:21 PM.

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.8
Copyright ©2000 - 2017, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Copyright Dimensions Magazine. All rights reserved worldwide.