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View Poll Results: How would you proceed?
I fit that description and would contact the person 5 14.29%
I don't fit that description and would not contact the person 20 57.14%
I don't fit the description, but would contact the person if they were attractive enough 10 28.57%
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Old 02-15-2014, 05:03 AM   #26
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Hatred is a great unifier. So many wonderful things blossom out of a single shared raging hatred; religions, secret groups, philosophical discussions about the unfathomable depths of the secret minds of morons... Endless.

Give hate a chance!
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Old 02-15-2014, 01:14 PM   #27
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(Yeah, I went straight to Godwin's Law. I'm hardcore like that.)
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So let's violate Godwin's Law (which is only a Social Media construct anyway, and this column for those prepared to discuss disliking /non-use of Social Media).

Is this discussion board part of social media? It fits some of the uses and definitions.

Are dating sites part of social media? Again, they fit many/all of the uses and definitions.

And, a pre-occupation with ANY technology (social media, on-line gaming, TV shows, movies, old cars, telephones, microwaves) may get in the way of a relationship with someone who doesn't share that pre-occupation.
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Old 02-16-2014, 01:46 AM   #29
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"What are some of the weirdest things you've seen?"
Truly, the weirdest things are not what you will see reflected in actual ads, per se, but-rather as direct result of what's inaccurately not-reflected in the same. When you meet-up. But's that's, kind of, part of the fun. The adventure in it.

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"The sheer irony of a person having an ad on a dating site and hating social media would make my head asplode."
No. Dating sites, generally, are able to attract membership based on the promise/potential for a pre-determined (and sometimes very specific) purpose, finding a RL-partner. I mean, imagine an Eharmony commercial where that old guy is saying "Hey, join Eharmony right-now. And we'll include a lifetime membership!" Would that work? No. People join Eharmony in the serious hope that, within a few years' time, their activity in the world of online dating will soon be but a quaint memory.

You probably can say the same, in varying degrees, for many of the others.

So, even as it falls, technically, under the umbrella of social-media, it's probably not what most people are talking about when they say "Jeezus! I HATE social-media!" More-so, just because someone claims to "hate" social media, doesn't really mean that said vitriol or even mild-disdain applies equally or uniformly across all examples.

In my case, I generally dislike social media. Most specifically, Facebook. Or really anything too much like that. Twitter....I'm kind of....I can understand how it makes sense for certain people. But I'm not one of them. The same or less for something like FourSquare. Yelp is another one: I mean, I will tend to avail myself of whatever information. But it's not like I'm just going to...

Dimensions, however, I feel like there's something I get out of it. Not to mention that other such forum type -environments, I think, are a generally good idea for people to be involved-with. As do I also think dating sites can be useful, & remarkably-so even for those who would so readily dismiss or be embarrassed by such an idea. And things like YouTube and Wikipedia, it bears repeating, are simply invaluable resources.

But, honestly, I don't that later group is really what's being talked about here.

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...I have minimal use for social media and didn't have a phone until a couple of years ago)...I'd worry that they were the controlling sort who likes their victim...to be isolated from other social support networks [or]...a curmudgeonly hermit type, which could be OK.....
I'm not hermity nor would I want to be in a relationship with someone who's not at least somewhat independent. Of both me AND whoever & whatever else. Any kind of "scene."

Really, I think that's the problem a lot of us have with it. Is how it enforces certain...contexts onto us. Defines us. Puts us into some sort of box. And of course, tends to sustain connections we'd all be better of to have more cleanly-cut.

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"To me, social media is a way to avoid boredom and nothing more."
I think you can tell a lot about a person based on how they spend their free time. About their character. Their disposition. Their mind.

There's a myriad of ways to occupy one's mind. If two people are, generally, both attracted by the same things and, similarly, repelled by yet another common set of things; that probably says something for their compatibility.

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"...but if you go out there searching for people on the basis that they have to have a hatred/negative opinion of something rather than that you want to have positive things in common then...I would only be interested in the positive people who talked about what they do like and what they want to share with people. I would want a friendship or relationship to be based on common ground and happiness rather than a shared hatred and negativity."
Certainly, if I were giving someone advice on how to better edit their ad; yeah, I would admonish them to focus more on what they like, what they're into, the type of person they want to meet, etc...rather than talking about all of that in terms of its relative-opposite. But, mentioned as just one or two things a person hates, I take it more as just a poetic-license.

I, too, have a phone, aside from a home-phone. But, truthfully, I don't really like taking calls on either. My friends and family will tend to email me when they want to get together or need something. And I will call or text them by way of following-up or saying I'm en route.

But it's not a number I like to give out. Mainly because of how I tend to keep-it either silent or shut-off altogether, along with its charger, in my glove-box. During the very cold part of the winter, the still-charged battery is usually in one of my jacket-pockets.

When I had a girlfriend (that lived about 25 minutes away), obviously, that was a little different. But, even-then, my attitude would generally be "Why would we waste time talking on the phone, when we could otherwise be face to face?"

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"This is what my wife said when she got her cell phone. She would only carry it in the car to use in emergencies. She would never, never distract herself by talking while driving. Yeah, right. It is now permanently attached to her ear, and she is learning to drive with her knees."
Right, if anything, this is what the "cell-phone hater" is railing against: Not the device-itself, but more-so how ongoing & constant competition with-it (against everything & everyone-else) will tend towards an inattentiveness in certain personalities. Of never really being fully present, in the moment with you.

The driving/safety aspect is but one of the most manageable; because, after-all, I can do the driving for both of us while said passenger yaps away. But if I'm trying to have an actual conversation with either a friend or significant-other....and they keep looking down at their phone? More-so, if we don't already have too much history, what might that portend? Probably that it's long past time to cut-bait...
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Old 02-16-2014, 03:44 AM   #30
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It occurs to me, thinking about it now, that my main issue with describing yourself on a website as somebody who 'hates' something is that, to me at least, hate is a very strong word. I hate rapists and sexism and racism, I dislike social media and constantly carrying a phone around everywhere with me. I understand though that this isn't a big deal for some people, the use of the word hate, which is cool and good for you guys but for me at least it is an issue. I admit using the word hate for things I just dislike in anger or frustration but I would never use that word for something trivial if I had time to actually think about it, like you do when creating a dating profile.
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It occurs to me, thinking about it now, that my main issue with describing yourself on a website as somebody who 'hates' something is that, to me at least, hate is a very strong word. I hate rapists and sexism and racism, I dislike social media and constantly carrying a phone around everywhere with me. I understand though that this isn't a big deal for some people, the use of the word hate, which is cool and good for you guys but for me at least it is an issue. I admit using the word hate for things I just dislike in anger or frustration but I would never use that word for something trivial if I had time to actually think about it, like you do when creating a dating profile.
Yeah, I guess it really depends on how each individual uses the word "hate." Personally, I'll use it interchangeably with everything from "mildly dislike" to "absolutely abhor." In the case of cell phones, it's about an 8.5/10 on the hate-scale. I would feel like a liar if I didn't toss that word out, because I AM a very hateful person who gets along well with other hateful people
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Old 02-18-2014, 10:37 AM   #32
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Anyway I hate social media and barely use my cell phone but anyone who feels the need to specify that they don't want a partner to own a cell would be way too uptight for me.
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Yeah, I guess it really depends on how each individual uses the word "hate." Personally, I'll use it interchangeably with everything from "mildly dislike" to "absolutely abhor." In the case of cell phones, it's about an 8.5/10 on the hate-scale. I would feel like a liar if I didn't toss that word out, because I AM a very hateful person who gets along well with other hateful people
See, this is where what you suggested posting would be perfect, because it would drive away both the social-media/cellphone addicts, and also the people who can't cope with hate. After all, the best dating ads aren't aimed at attracting a large number of random people, but rather to connect with the people who are most likely to be compatible. If that is who you are, and you are good with who you are.....then I'd say be as clear as possible about it.
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Honestly, it'd be a refreshing change of pace to see someone not having a cell phone and divorced from a specific set of social media (I consider dating sites to be in a sub cateogory of the catch all social media but I work in this hellish arena).

I'm so tethered to my devices due to work and communicating with my far flung network of contacts/friends... blah. Not a deal breaker in the slightest.
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Old 02-25-2014, 04:06 AM   #35
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I don't fit the description, but would contact the person if they were attractive enough i mean there's always compromise
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I don't fit the description, but would contact the person if they were attractive enough i mean there's always compromise
Heh, yeah I had to add that option, because sometimes you just have to go for it, in the hope that you can slip it in them a few times before your phone rings.
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I would reply and lay it down for some sweet, sweet pseudo-Hutterite lovin's.
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