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Old 03-25-2015, 10:47 AM   #1
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Hey guys ... This admission is so embarrassing but: not only have I never slept with a fat guy, but I have also never had sex. I'm a 24-year-old with the sex life of a cactus, haha. Erotica is so wonderful when sex scenes are included. How does a virgin write about fat boy sex, lol? Any tips would be extremely appreciated.
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Old 03-26-2015, 03:35 AM   #2
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2 pieces of advice:

1. Read more good porn. Analyse the convincing descriptions that get something going in you, make you tingle. Try to find out what it is in them that give off the erotic spark - and learn from that for your own writing. Also - there are some more psychological neutral, actually informative internet boards where women and men discuss their feelings, physical experiences with intercourse. That might also help get a feeling for the situation.

2. Do some observation exercises. Go somewhere were you can sit and (discreetly!!!) observe a BHM you find attractive in action (waiter in restaurant, sales person in store, etc.). Describe his body, how it moves, what you expect the different parts to feel like if you touch them - write that down. Move on from there and imagine what you would want to do to his body - and in turn have him to with yours. Write down those feelings and experiences and you'll get there.
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Old 03-26-2015, 05:23 PM   #3
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I agree with agouderia's advice, especially point number 2. Observation is really the basis of all writing, not just the sexy parts. There are also plenty of fat man or fat woman illustrations online that you can use for "reference" (Deviant Art, tumblr, etc).

I don't consider sex scenes to be the main focus of my own writing (though they do add a certain spice to a story), but my personal advice is that less is more. Sometimes the hints and insinuations of what's going on are much sexier than a blow by blow (sorry!) detailed anatomical account of the whole process. Leave something for the reader's imagination - that's part of the fun!
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Old 03-27-2015, 02:51 AM   #4
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I don't consider sex scenes to be the main focus of my own writing (though they do add a certain spice to a story), but my personal advice is that less is more. Sometimes the hints and insinuations of what's going on are much sexier than a blow by blow (sorry!) detailed anatomical account of the whole process. Leave something for the reader's imagination - that's part of the fun!
Definitely - very good advice!

Nothing is worse than sex scenes which are as technical as the user manual of a vacuum cleaner! Mechanics and eroticism are incompatible!
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A suggestion from one guy's point of view. I don't claim any great expertise in this area or anything like that. Your mileage may vary, etc.

It would depend on the point of view you are writing from, but if it works for your story you can focus on what the woman involved is feeling, without going into mechanical details. How does she react to his weight on her, or to his touch on her, what is she wanting, etc. That part, I'd imagine, you take a fair shot at.

Not that you can't mention the mechanics at all, but save the focus of extra adjectives and sub-clauses for the more internal part--by putting in less details on the mechanics there is less chance of tripping up, and by putting the details into her response you are fleshing her out (because everyone's internal responses will be somewhat distinct). And even on the internal, if you put some of those words into what she is wanting/lusting for, again you can draw on your feelings, and personally I think reading about the desire is at least as hot, if not way hotter, than reading about the sating of those desires.

So more along the lines of "She nuzzled into one his breasts, feeling a burst of desire to nibble if not gnaw on it, the more she pressed against it the more she wanted to do with it" (except, you know, better written and more plausible and all of that--just illustrating a very short bit of mechanics, with a lot of internal response).

Again, just my thoughts, not saying they make sense in anybody else's head.
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From a random suggestion perspective
  • Touch yourself. If you like it, imagining him doing it. How rough the skin would feel...how hard you would want him to squeeze...how you would want him to hold you?
  • Read a lot of trashy romances . This sounds silly but really? The first time you write a sex scene it feels kind of odd. (Is this too much? Too little? What will people think?). Immersing yourself in that cadence/verbiage helps make it feel more natural.
  • Write the sex scenes for you. Do you have to *cough* take a break while writing it? Good. You wont be able to satisfy everyone's taste...but make sure you try to at least satisfy your own on the first attempt.
  • Write it when you are really sexually excited. It helps. Nothing feels more odd to me than sitting down while cool and collected and writing a hot scene. I have to do it when I am bristling with sexual frustration!


From a how to perspective....here are my thoughts
  • Cadence: If nothing else, those trashy novels give you an idea of the rhythm of the sex. Timing is so critical to make it good - and it can be sudden, slow, gentle, rough... It's all good, as long as it fits!
  • Timing: Decide if you are going for the throat or if you are making it languid and gentle. This helps decide how you build up to the sex scene. In reality, goo sex scenes are like real good sex; the act doesn't take as long as the foreplay.
  • To be explicit, or not to be explicit?: Decide if you want this to be what i call 'on the nose' or 'implied'. This all wraps in with cadence and timing. If you abruptly launch into explicit verbiage about the size of his cock going in and out, it can be a little startling. Generally, if you want to go explicit you need to ramp your audience up faster and harder.
  • Decide if your focus is on the act, or the feeling. The feeling will be hardest for you because you haven't yet! If you are feeling a little lost and want some examples, PM me if you like. For example...that silky soft fatty flesh? Sticks like glue when a little sweaty! Cuddling post-coital? You have to carefully disengage because your flesh or else it rips apart!
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Thanks, everyone! Not only did you provide insightful and intellectual-stimulating advice, but your descriptions and tips seriously gave me the 'hots.' I need a cold shower.
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