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Old 12-26-2007, 11:33 AM   #76
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I think she was being sarcastic for the most part...
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Old 12-26-2007, 11:48 AM   #77
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I think she was being sarcastic for the most part...
I bet if she used punctuation every now and again, we'd know for certain.
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Old 12-26-2007, 12:22 PM   #78
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I feel for the brother looking for some blubber. The best post was the first, "runs and hides from the approaching firestorm." Knowing what was ahead in the agitated responses was great,"It's her body", etc. Let time and gravity and snacks take their toll and you'll have your ideal. Or get a fatty mistress, or fatten her up on the sly, or get her pregnant again.....
I think I repped him for it, as it made me laugh as well. Yours, however... Love your thinking- doesn't make me want to puke at all.
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I think I repped him for it, as it made me laugh as well. Yours, however... Love your thinking- doesn't make me want to puke at all.
I think we should all have a sarcasm contest.
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I think we should all have a sarcasm contest.
With ideas like that you should be recruited right into MENSA.
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With ideas like that you should be recruited right into MENSA.
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I'd think somebody of your stellar mental capabilities would know that.

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Old 01-01-2008, 09:53 PM   #83
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That seems to be a matter of opinion......
There is not a hell of lot of debate here. What you don't tend to hear to much of is the number of BBWs and SSBBWs who lose a lot of weight and lose their men. What you do hear a lot of is small women who gain a lot of weight and their husbands leave, that is not uncommon at all. A man who marries a woman that weighs 120 pounds and years later she weighs over 200 pounds, society sympathizes with his plight of having an over-weight/obese spouse and leaves her. Let a man have an SSBBW and she loses weight down to a much smaller size, he is portrayed as some sort of weirdo for not desiring a thin woman. Most men on this web board will tell you of some flak they have received because they love SSBBW's.

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Old 01-01-2008, 10:52 PM   #84
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A man who marries a woman that weighs 120 pounds and years later she weighs over 200 pounds, society sympathizes with his plight of having an over-weight/obese spouse and leaves her.
Yes, three cheers for people who leave their spouses when they get fat! Come on y'all, let's show these spouse-leavers how much we sympathize with their plight!
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Ummm - no cheers but I think you're missing Adrian's point.

I believe he is saying that there are two opposing but simlar situations - both of which are by any logical approach wrong but which do happen:
1) some people get traumatized to the point of wanting to divorce or at least not have sex with their partners because of weight gain

2) others get traumatized to the point of wanting to divorce or at least not have sex with their partners because of weight loss

The real problem is that change matters in an adverse way to some people. How we choose to deal with such change is the real issue. From the standpoint of many on this board the problem is that they have spouses who are not happy with themselves whereas they like things as they are.
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Old 01-01-2008, 11:23 PM   #86
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Ummm - no cheers but I think you're missing Adrian's point.

I believe he is saying that there are two opposing but simlar situations - both of which are by any logical approach wrong but which do happen:
1) some people get traumatized to the point of wanting to divorce or at least not have sex with their partners because of weight gain

2) others get traumatized to the point of wanting to divorce or at least not have sex with their partners because of weight loss

The real problem is that change matters in an adverse way to some people. How we choose to deal with such change is the real issue. From the standpoint of many on this board the problem is that they have spouses who are not happy with themselves whereas they like things as they are.
I think she understood his point perfectly, was posting a sarcastic response.
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I think she understood his point perfectly, was posting a sarcastic response.
Thank you, Ruby. Well said. A+

(And this time not being sarcastic.)

Observer, I think you missed my point. Adrian is claiming, in a forum where fat people congregate, that because women get left when they get too fat, we should understand that they're also liable to get left when they get too thin. He/She even suggests that we sympathize with the "plight" of the leaving spouses. Heinous and puerile BS.
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Well, Adrian seems to be agreeing that I understand him, while you and Ruby seem to have a different understanding.

He was not, at least in my view, trying to generate sympathy for the likes of the jerks over at myfatspouse.com We all agree (or at least I would hope we do) that their approach is bigoted and inane.

He was simply making the case that the distress of many spouses over weight gain that we hear about is a flip side to the dilemma that a lot of FA/FFA's have to deal with. If that is the case I didn't think sarcasm was warranted. I can also see where one with a contrary interpretation might think otherwise.

The point of my post was simply to paint with clarity what I feel is the entire picture - one that I've heard repeated from all four sides for decades. We agree that leaving anyone over weight change in either direction is definitely something that shouldn't happen.

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There is not a hell of lot of debate here. What you don't tend to hear to much of is the number of BBWs and SSBBWs who lose a lot of weight and lose their men. What you do hear a lot of is small women who gain a lot of weight and their husbands leave, that is not uncommon at all. A man who marries a woman that weighs 120 pounds and years later she weighs over 200 pounds, society sympathizes with his plight of having an over-weight/obese spouse and leaves her. Let a man have an SSBBW and she loses weight down to a much smaller size, he is portrayed as some sort of weirdo for not desiring a thin woman. Most men on this web board will tell you of some flak they have received because they love SSBBW's.

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Your original post seemed to imply that it's okay to leave your spouse over weight fluctuation of some sort. To me, weight fluctuations are a part of life. I don't get why some people that think it's their "right" to leave a commitment such as marriage over some weight gain.......or loss. Six of one and a half dozen of another. There are far worse "sins" in a marriage besides weight changes.....and if weight change is the worst thing your spouse has done then you should consider yourself fortunate and hold onto your marriage, IMO.
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I think she understood his point perfectly, was posting a sarcastic response.
Well that's OK but what does such a response achieve exactly?

As to Observer's rather more constructive response, I think many people, perhaps more men and certainly including me, keep eroticism and love in separate boxes. Love naturally leads you to support the loved one in becoming what they want to be. That support can't, in my case, run to being any less erotically aroused by my wife's being other than she would wish to be, but fortunately she understands this. I asked her if she feels that I actively discourage her from losing weight, and apparently I don't, which is good news. Her wishes and my support don't seem to be helping much however. This is not good since, however much I love my wife's body to be fat, she would definitely be healthier carrying less weight (asthma ETC). Anyway, just one more go round that familiar paradox.
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Well that's OK but what does such a response achieve exactly?
It achieves me stating my opinion, just as you've done in your post. Or is it only you who enjoys that privilege? I'm confused.
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