Dimensions Forums  
Home Register Premium Membership Health Issues Market Place Big Fashion
Old 11-01-2017, 07:22 AM   #1
aeris
 
aeris's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2007
Posts: 13
aeris can now change their title
Default BHM and Sex

Hi, I'm looking for some advice

My boyfriend and I have become sexually active. He is a very big boy, maybe around 400, and I love every inch of him, but he is concerned about his ability to have vaginal sex with me. His chub gets in the way a bit. Not his belly so much as the chub around his naughty bits, which hides a lot of his length unless pushed down.

Are there any positions we could try to get around this? We tried it with me on top but I wasn't able to glide it in from the angle.

Any advice would be very much appreciated! I love this man and very much want him to feel good too. We both enjoy the sex that we do have and understand that penetration is not necessary for a good time, but he really wants to try vaginal if its possible.

Thank you for your time.
aeris is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-01-2017, 06:43 PM   #2
djudex
I'm out
 
djudex's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Alberta, Canada
Posts: 1,358
djudex has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!djudex has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!djudex has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!djudex has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!djudex has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!djudex has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!djudex has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!djudex has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!djudex has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!djudex has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!djudex has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!
Default

You might want to try you on top but with your legs sticking out towards his head, more like you're sitting on the floor with your legs out in front of you than a squat, its official name is the Joystick Joyride. He can grab your ankles or wherever is easiest on your legs to grip given your respective heights and rock you back and forth, all the benefits of you on top with less leg strain and I've been told that that the naughty bit chub tends to rub quite nicely on the lady bits in this position.
__________________
Optimists and pessimists have it all wrong, it's not about whether the glass is half full or half empty. You should just enjoy having the glass.

"Quia Sic Dico"
djudex is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-02-2017, 12:57 PM   #3
dwesterny
Unpleasantly Plump
 
dwesterny's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: BuffaLOL
Posts: 1,695
dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!
Default

It also helps when laying on his back to have him rotate his leg at the hip and bend it up which stretches the fat pad out.
__________________
Send me dead flowers every morning, send me dead flowers by the mail.
dwesterny is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-04-2017, 01:43 AM   #4
aeris
 
aeris's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2007
Posts: 13
aeris can now change their title
Default

Thank you very much for the replies and suggestions We sadly did not get much time to try out too many positions before I had to go back home (we currently live in different states), but definately looking forward to more practice next time we're together. Thank you.
aeris is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-06-2017, 06:20 PM   #5
Cors
Delurking
 
Join Date: Jun 2008
Location: Europe
Posts: 2,763
Cors keeps pushing the rep limit!Cors keeps pushing the rep limit!Cors keeps pushing the rep limit!Cors keeps pushing the rep limit!Cors keeps pushing the rep limit!Cors keeps pushing the rep limit!Cors keeps pushing the rep limit!Cors keeps pushing the rep limit!Cors keeps pushing the rep limit!Cors keeps pushing the rep limit!Cors keeps pushing the rep limit!
Default

Being on top might not really work if your guy has really big legs and you're not that tall. Have you tried missionary with a pillow or two under your ass to change the angle of penetration? Bonus: He can lift his belly up and put it all over you.
Cors is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-07-2017, 07:46 AM   #6
dwesterny
Unpleasantly Plump
 
dwesterny's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: BuffaLOL
Posts: 1,695
dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!
Default

My ex was 4'11" and I have 36" thighs and a 74" belly and cowgirl worked perfectly for us. Just regular straddling.
__________________
Send me dead flowers every morning, send me dead flowers by the mail.
dwesterny is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-07-2017, 08:13 AM   #7
LeoGibson
Slangin'
 
LeoGibson's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2011
Location: Houston
Posts: 3,355
LeoGibson has ascended what used to be the highest level.LeoGibson has ascended what used to be the highest level.LeoGibson has ascended what used to be the highest level.LeoGibson has ascended what used to be the highest level.LeoGibson has ascended what used to be the highest level.LeoGibson has ascended what used to be the highest level.LeoGibson has ascended what used to be the highest level.LeoGibson has ascended what used to be the highest level.LeoGibson has ascended what used to be the highest level.LeoGibson has ascended what used to be the highest level.LeoGibson has ascended what used to be the highest level.
Default

I think it depends on the woman and her flexibility. My wife is 5í3 and Iím not sure what my width is, but itís enough to where she canít straddle me.
__________________
From the tattoo on her left leg and the garter on her right. She'd have the card to bring me down
if she played it right
LeoGibson is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-07-2017, 11:09 AM   #8
loopytheone
Administrator
 
loopytheone's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Robinhoodland
Posts: 3,463
loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.
Default

I'm 5'2 and found I couldn't straddled my SSBHM ex without pain in the hips.

I mean, I still did it but it was either an ache in my hips on my knees in his sides, so...
loopytheone is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 11-07-2017, 11:11 AM   #9
dwesterny
Unpleasantly Plump
 
dwesterny's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: BuffaLOL
Posts: 1,695
dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by loopytheone View Post
I'm 5'2 and found I couldn't straddled my SSBHM ex without pain in the hips.

I mean, I still did it but it was either an ache in my hips on my knees in his sides, so...
Aches, bruises and, you know, the occasional broken rib are all part of the ssbhm sex experience. It's definitely eaiser for a slim partner with ssbhm. Stuff fits better...
__________________
Send me dead flowers every morning, send me dead flowers by the mail.
dwesterny is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-07-2017, 12:19 PM   #10
loopytheone
Administrator
 
loopytheone's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Robinhoodland
Posts: 3,463
loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.loopytheone has ascended what used to be the highest level.
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by dwesterny View Post
Aches, bruises and, you know, the occasional broken rib are all part of the ssbhm sex experience. It's definitely eaiser for a slim partner with ssbhm. Stuff fits better...
I was actually pretty skinny when I was with him. Never had any problem actually having sex, it was just working out where to put my knees whilst we were doing it...
loopytheone is online now   Reply With Quote
Old 11-07-2017, 06:55 PM   #11
Marlayna
 
Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: NYC
Posts: 1,284
Marlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions communityMarlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions communityMarlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions communityMarlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions communityMarlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions communityMarlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions communityMarlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions communityMarlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions communityMarlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions communityMarlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions communityMarlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions community
Default

Doggie style; woman on knees on edge of bed, man standing up. You're welcome.
Marlayna is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-07-2017, 07:15 PM   #12
dwesterny
Unpleasantly Plump
 
dwesterny's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2015
Location: BuffaLOL
Posts: 1,695
dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!dwesterny keeps pushing the rep limit!
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by Marlayna View Post
Doggie style; woman on knees on edge of bed, man standing up. You're welcome.
Doggie is soooo tiring for a ssbhm. You have to kind of squat if the angle isn't right, you have to lift your belly and lay it on her ass and lower back to keep it out of the way, it's hard to spread your fupa enough to make it work and keeping a condom on gets tricky due to fupa issues. I'm pretty decently um... equipped but my fat makes doggie style really challenging.
__________________
Send me dead flowers every morning, send me dead flowers by the mail.
dwesterny is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-08-2017, 12:42 AM   #13
Marlayna
 
Join Date: Oct 2011
Location: NYC
Posts: 1,284
Marlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions communityMarlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions communityMarlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions communityMarlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions communityMarlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions communityMarlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions communityMarlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions communityMarlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions communityMarlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions communityMarlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions communityMarlayna is a pillar of the Dimensions community
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by dwesterny View Post
Doggie is soooo tiring for a ssbhm. You have to kind of squat if the angle isn't right, you have to lift your belly and lay it on her ass and lower back to keep it out of the way, it's hard to spread your fupa enough to make it work and keeping a condom on gets tricky due to fupa issues. I'm pretty decently um... equipped but my fat makes doggie style really challenging.
Yeah, it sounds like a lot of work... but I guess if there's a will, there's a way, so I hope it works out for them.
Marlayna is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-16-2017, 10:29 AM   #14
Tad
mostly harmless
 
Tad's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Ontario, Canada
Posts: 12,529
Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.Tad has ascended what used to be the highest level.
Default

I recall one SSBBW on here, who had a BHM husband at the time, mentioning in an old discussion on fat sex "We mostly just do oral now, it's just a lot easier."

Obviously some people like giving and getting oral a lot more than do others, and some may prefer other non-intercourse forms of stimulation, but broadly speaking: I'm curious if this is something people on here have concluded at all, or if all the effort is entirely worth it to them?
__________________
Criticism is so often nothing more than the eye garrulously denouncing the shape of the peephole that gives access to hidden treasure.
-Djuna Barnes, writer and artist
Tad is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-16-2017, 10:33 AM   #15
lille
 
lille's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: TX
Posts: 1,139
lille has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!lille has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!lille has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!lille has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!lille has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!lille has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!lille has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!lille has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!lille has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!lille has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!lille has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!
Default

Quote:
Originally Posted by dwesterny View Post
Doggie is soooo tiring for a ssbhm. You have to kind of squat if the angle isn't right, you have to lift your belly and lay it on her ass and lower back to keep it out of the way, it's hard to spread your fupa enough to make it work and keeping a condom on gets tricky due to fupa issues. I'm pretty decently um... equipped but my fat makes doggie style really challenging.

Finding the right object helps a lot, though my guy is a bhm rather than a ssbhm. The edge of the bed does not work at all for us but the ottoman with two pillows under my knees works great.
lille is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 11-19-2017, 02:21 PM   #16
Anjula
miss wonderfulamazing
 
Anjula's Avatar
 
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: Poland
Posts: 1,034
Anjula has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!Anjula has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!Anjula has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!Anjula has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!Anjula has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!Anjula has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!Anjula has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!Anjula has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!Anjula has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!Anjula has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!Anjula has a ton of rep. Literally. As in over 2000!
Default

Iím all hands on deck for missionary with legs up ❤️ Or doggie with the belly on my back ❤️ I donít really like cowgirl especially with guys bigger than ďmyĒ usual 350, but the extra weight makes missionary extremely ahmazing.
__________________
www.biijacz.tumblr.com
Anjula is offline   Reply With Quote
Reply

Tags
bhm, sex, sex positions

Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off

Forum Jump


All times are GMT -7. The time now is 04:01 PM.

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.8
Copyright ©2000 - 2017, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Copyright Dimensions Magazine. All rights reserved worldwide.