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Old 02-28-2010, 07:38 PM   #1
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Bon, chéris, I've got a question. Or a matter of opinions.

Being, I guess as you call an FFA (took me forever to figure out all the letter-thingers), how do large men react to girls of various sizes loving them for their physique?
I mean, I've never been an object of desire, so I can image what it'd be like to have someone lusting after you just because of your body. (I KNOW there's more to it than that, but let's just use it as a start)

Are men flattered? Or do you just accept it and think us girls are a bunch of goofs? Does it have to do at all with your self-estime? Because reading around there seems to be quite the spectrum of it, going from "I'm god's gift to women" to "I look terrible and will never find love".

So so so, opinions, speculations, answers. I want them.
And of course girls, tell me what you think, or experiences to do this this. I love hearing people talk.
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It so completely depends on the guy involved. Someone say like myself or Escapist would probably take it and play right back but there are quite a few heavier gents who have never encountered someone who likes them for their bodies and would likely be completely unaware of any attempts to compliment them and worst case scenario they would think you're making fun of them. It's all about the object of affection in question.
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That's my one big fear, that'll I'll compliment a guy and he'll take it badly. It'd break my heart.
Now, what about an emotional level? Does it make anyone feel warm and fuzzy to be considered beautiful?
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I'm warm and fuzzy all the time, it's a side effect of being a BHM!

I will say that when I've got someone who thinks I'm hot shit it's like being high, I'm elated and walking on clouds so that probably counts as warm and fuzzy.
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Gods gift to women eh? You wouldnt be referring to the Escapist would you? (Thats not meant to insult him, I say "thank you" to God every night for 500 lbs of sexy. Chicken, on the other hand, has to donate mass amounts of money to the church and paint the vestibule )

Jokes. Anyway.

Guys Ive been with in real life have pretty much all freaked out, and Ive gotten some pretty nasty reactions and had it used against me. Ive learned not to let it phase me, because no matter how much I got yelled at, I realize a) its not me and b) nasty words are not as painful as hiding who you truely are.


So in the meantime Im a total flamer and dont hide my preferences for the big fellas. (It was a long process. Thanks for helping Dims!!)I hope one day I get to hook up with a BHM who loves his size and into being fat. At the moment, I just kind of put it out there like "You do what makes you happy, but I love the way you look" and "You have a sexy body. Why do you even wear clothes?"
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Honestly for the longest time, whenever someone showed any amount of interest in me I would think that there must be something terribly wrong with her, or that they're just messing with me and I'd back off.

Quite a fucked up mentality, I know.

But now that I've moved past it, there's no one interested, haha.

I do have a difficult time taking a compliment though. I'm trying to work on that.
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Wow, um thanks for the honorable mention lol. I was actually put on notice to read this thread hehehe. So far I'll just agree with most everything said. I'm playful anyways so I can't help but knock the ball back if it gets tossed in my court. The more playful the interest the more playful I'll respond. Once though Chicken had to point out to me I was totally bouncing this one girl off my belly and squishing her agaisn't the wall. She's desensitized me so much to the FFA/BHM play stuff that I don't even notice I'm doing it anymore ....Holy Crap, she just totally caught me right now playing with my belly as I turned to read her what I was posting! I can't believe how oblivious I am to it now. Since I can be so unobservant of my own fat play its actually nice that an FFA can just enjoy as the random fun that it is.


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I will say that when I've got someone who thinks I'm hot shit it's like being high, I'm elated and walking on clouds so that probably counts as warm and fuzzy.
I'm hoping they make those NASA liquid cooling suits in Big-Azz-MoFo-Size myself.
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how do large men react to girls of various sizes loving them for their physique?

Are men flattered? Or do you just accept it and think us girls are a bunch of goofs? Does it have to do at all with your self-estime? Because reading around there seems to be quite the spectrum of it, going from "I'm god's gift to women" to "I look terrible and will never find love".

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Hindsight is a funny thing. If a guy knows about me before hand, or knows the "you're hot **drools** look, they usually react really well to me loving their physique. However, when they don't know me, or not good with reading body language (because usually I'm speechless and drooling) they usually run..lol.

OMG...a really good friend and totally Hot Guy picked up on my love of big men (he was big boned but not beefy yet...and got a kick that I really did just like him because of his personality). One night, he asked to meet me at the Hard Rock Casino and ambushed me with this totally hot BHM (about 6'3 350ish dark hair, green eyes...yes I remember it well..lol). I just stared at him like..wooowwaa..and he looked like he was going to eat me alive. I actually stepped behind my friend and peaked at him from around my friends body...lol.

My friend was totally giggling at my reaction because I totally froze. God I wished he prepped me because He was HOT. If only we exchanged phone numbers so I could have talked to him because there was no way I could do it in person.

Thats really what got me and Escapist together..talking before hand and chatting a lot via the net and phone (we live in the same town and dated but I'm quiet in person). I would say it took at least 3-6 months for me to be my chatty self and thats only because Escapist takes the edge off by joking with me alot and getting my jokes in turn.
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I think it's hard for many guys to imagine being wanted by women just because of their bodies. In Western culture (and in the US especially) men are conditioned that their attractiveness as mates is solely due to their ability to provide (income, personality, etc.) and that they should not care about their appearance. Men who take pains to make themselves look attractive are labeled by other men (and women also) as "vain" and "metrosexual" and a host of other unflattering names that speak ill of their sexuality. So it's often a hard thing for a man, especially one who has spent a good deal of his life bombarded by cultural messages saying that his fat makes him ugly and that women will only want him for his money, to grasp that a woman could lust after him in the same way that he lusts after them.

I was one of those men. It took me a long time (and a lot of persuasion by motivated females in my life) to realize that I was sexy just the way I was. I also admit that all the praise and comments I get whenever I post a picture of myself on the Dimensions Forums helps a lot too. Knowing this has helped me present a better image of myself by taking good care of my body (through exercise, diet, hygiene, grooming, choosing clothes that accentuate my body rather than hide it, etc). Looking good makes me feel good, and gives me a much more positive outlook on life that enables me to succeed. I think every man needs and wants to hear that he is attractive... but sometimes it's a hard want to admit.
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Once though Chicken had to point out to me I was totally bouncing this one girl off my belly and squishing her against the wall. She's desensitized me so much to the FFA/BHM play stuff that I don't even notice I'm doing it anymore
I'm a dude and even I have to admit that's pretty hot. No wonder she got jealous.
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I'm a dude and even I have to admit that's pretty hot. No wonder she got jealous.
I'm one of the weird ones who don't get jealous over people. I did however get turned on. He was a bit tipsy and I could tell he was totally enjoying engulfing this 5'2 woman in his belly and she was also a bit tipsy and giggling the "omg I'm turned on and don't know what to do about it" giggle. I read alot of FA/FFA type stories in the Library and on other sites and never read anything like what I saw. I just wish I had writing skills...and now I'm turned on again.
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Rabbit and I have had similar experiences - fat guys usually freaked out, got pissed off or had some other negative reaction to me. I'm married now (chunky guy...wouldn't call him "fat" though), and my husband still thinks something is wrong with me for liking fat guys, but it doesn't really bother him. This is the best scenario I've ever experienced :S
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Bon, chéris, I've got a question. Or a matter of opinions.

Being, I guess as you call an FFA (took me forever to figure out all the letter-thingers), how do large men react to girls of various sizes loving them for their physique?
I mean, I've never been an object of desire, so I can image what it'd be like to have someone lusting after you just because of your body. (I KNOW there's more to it than that, but let's just use it as a start)

Are men flattered? Or do you just accept it and think us girls are a bunch of goofs? Does it have to do at all with your self-estime? Because reading around there seems to be quite the spectrum of it, going from "I'm god's gift to women" to "I look terrible and will never find love".

So so so, opinions, speculations, answers. I want them.
And of course girls, tell me what you think, or experiences to do this this. I love hearing people talk.
I think another good place to look is the Objectification thread. No its not a huge thread right now but it certainly talks about your topic I think. You really seem to have a good grasp of the reactions and its range of possible impacts. I'd have to say over my lifetime I've experienced almost all of them.

I'm sure plenty here think I'm more in the "I'm god's gift to women" category but it just isn't so. Even when I was 245 lbs. or so I couldn't get the girl I wanted because I was too good looking or something. I was making out with the girl I wanted and she freaked out after about 10-20 minutes. It crushed me she didn't say a word other than "I gotta go". A few days later I was hanging out with her and our friends and I confronted her. She said, "You can have any girl out there, so me?". I was just crushed that she couldn't feel how much I really liked her.

Now after rabbitislove's comment I may need to rethink my position. I may perhaps be ok with the thought that I am God's gift to some women. I'll bet I could increase that factor if I came with a life-sized duplicate in chocolate.


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It wasn't just hot it was just one of many times we've had a lot of fun. Both chicken and the other girl are such cuties, I can't help but want to play with them and bounce them on my belly.

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I'm one of the weird ones who don't get jealous over people. I did however get turned on. He was a bit tipsy and I could tell he was totally enjoying engulfing this 5'2 woman in his belly and she was also a bit tipsy and giggling the "omg I'm turned on and don't know what to do about it" giggle. I read alot of FA/FFA type stories in the Library and on other sites and never read anything like what I saw. I just wish I had writing skills...and now I'm turned on again.
Grrrrrr and now people might understand why you say its ok to play, you just want them to sign a wavier so you can take pics and video .

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My Final word on this, sure I'm flattered. Flirting is fun, I'm one of the sick ones who usually enjoy's the entire experience. As long as someone can really read me and can step in time with the rhythm, whats not to love?
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One thing I can say for sure is that FFA's are addictive as heck. Once you have had a relationship where you are genuinely desired and showered with physical affection it is very hard to go back to a relationship where your body is politely tolerated at best or at worst treated as an unpleasant intruder in your own relationship.
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WOW, I can't imagine even putting up with that . I really hope you never experience such a thing again now that you know it can be different.
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BHMs and fat admiration I think can still be a touchy thing, even for some of us who've been around the community for a minute. Done my fair share of dances and community stuff and came away with thoroughly mixed feelings.

I've heard some of the BBWs complain that male FAs only chase big girls because they're socially inept etc. etc. etc. And I'd like to hope that's mostly just bitterness and pessimism on their part. But at the same time, I have to look around and admit that some of the skinny male FAs do seem kinda nerdy and sheltered. I've had women tell me that big guys only seem interested because they assume that "big people belong together" and as a veteran of many a blind date I know that people make those kinds of stupid assumptions all the time. I've read more than a few rants about blatant objectification, and that definitely exists too. There are also lots of guys who seem to be middle of the road very average individuals who just happen to like big girls the same way other men prefer latinas. I have to think that some of the same issues/cross section exists among the ffas.

As a guy, I don't mind a bit of harmless or flirtatious fun. Putting your hands/body on my fat, I can get a little defensive about if you're presumptuous about it.

That said, I confess I often feel the need to question the motivations of the ladies I meet who expresses serious interest and identifies as an ffa. The whole are you really into me.... really into my body... or really into both? It can be discouraging I think mostly because you never really know what someone is like until they give you the deeper glimpses into their personality. Like any relationship you have to make that initial investment.
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It happens to A LOT of guys and girls. Guys get it a little more often because.. well I don't want to be rude but women often look at social, academic and, financial status when they go hunting for a mate. Women also have the tendency to treat men like fixer-upper housing. They come in seeing lots of potential not realizing that the neighborhood and support structure of the house won't change. There are a lot of Large professionals and academics.
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Presumably.

Now, on the other hand, if they were referring to God's gift to Him/Herself...then we're talking about me!
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Believe it or not, only one of the women I have slept with was an FFA. It was definitely an awesome experience that I wish could happen again but alas it was just a one-night stand. I had never had someone pay so much attention to my stomach just rubbing it while we were making it. Definitely was a change of pace to have someone like you because of your weight and not in spite of it.
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Old 03-01-2010, 05:24 PM   #20
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I'm one of the weird ones who don't get jealous over people. I did however get turned on. He was a bit tipsy and I could tell he was totally enjoying engulfing this 5'2 woman in his belly and she was also a bit tipsy and giggling the "omg I'm turned on and don't know what to do about it" giggle. I read alot of FA/FFA type stories in the Library and on other sites and never read anything like what I saw. I just wish I had writing skills...and now I'm turned on again.
Now I wish I had actually been there. I might have to learn some moves from escapist
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Old 03-01-2010, 05:39 PM   #21
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This is such a contrast to the Hatery of me on the confession thread. I just wanted to say thanks to those who actually get me. Heck I really don't even mind those who hate me. Like I say, at least I'm expressing myself. Better to have people who love you and people who hate than to have people who don't even know you exist.

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The only move that was really important was we were all just having good fun. If I remember that day correctly I was having fun cooking and feeding everybody, the silly, flirty, fun stuff just happened as a result of everybody being in a good mood and enjoying the moment (The rest was all just sub-communication and knowing what to read and how to react). It was all just a vibe in the air that you could feel. I would say thats 90% of it, finding the vibe and just having fun with it.

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This is such a contrast to the Hatery of me on the confession thread. I just wanted to say thanks to those who actually get me. Heck I really don't even mind those who hate me. Like I say, at least I'm expressing myself. Better to have people who love you and people who hate than to have people who don't even know you exist.



Glad to see that we were all civil enough to keep it to one thread.
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Glad to see that we were all civil enough to keep it to one thread.
Now now lads...play naughty so I can spank(and grope) your big behinds.
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Old 03-01-2010, 06:30 PM   #24
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Now now lads...play naughty so I can spank(and grope) your big behinds.
Only if you take us to the Cheesecake Factory.
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I think it's hard for many guys to imagine being wanted by women just because of their bodies.
This is very true. I posted some photos of myself on this site and I've received some compliments on my looks.
They're the first compliments I've ever gotten based on my appearance(other than nice hair or something) and I still am having a difficult time wrapping my head around it. I sure do appreciate it though!
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