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Old 02-28-2009, 01:11 PM   #101
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It's incerdibally difficult if not impossible to find GOOD fat porn. Before I met my man I wanted to go into the porn business and make porn for women, but due to my hubbys job I can barely get away with having a paysite keeping my clothes ON!
I have never seen good fat porn. I dont really like porn much anyway so it doesnt bother me..though i think part of why i'm not really bothered by porn is because i havnt actually seen any good porn.. Am i making sense?? lol
The stuff you can get on cable is all pretty derogatory almost and is called stuff like "Filthy fat sluts 5" and crap like that... i think we need a new thred for this!!
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Old 02-28-2009, 01:16 PM   #102
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I have never seen good fat porn. I dont really like porn much anyway so it doesnt bother me..though i think part of why i'm not really bothered by porn is because i havnt actually seen any good porn.. Am i making sense?? lol
The stuff you can get on cable is all pretty derogatory almost and is called stuff like "Filthy fat sluts 5" and crap like that... i think we need a new thred for this!!

Call me a complete pervert/hypocrite closet whateveryoucallit...but my FAVOURITE porn is on a website called Sean Cody, lol. It's straight guys doing gay porn and for some reason...it gets my rocks off. In straight porn I am not as all fussed about the man, but for some reason seeing straight boys have gay sex....yum.

I would love to see two (or more, lol...the more the marrier!) get it on with a bunch of toys and feeding eachother. Yeah, that would be hot.
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Old 02-28-2009, 01:19 PM   #103
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totally. straight guys doing gay porn is kinna sexy.. though i really dont like the idea of straight women doing gay porn... i dont know why..hmmm
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totally. straight guys doing gay porn is kinna sexy.. though i really dont like the idea of straight women doing gay porn... i dont know why..hmmm
yeah me either....but I think maybe because it is over done. We see images of chicks doing things with other chicks in most porn films and most of those chicks are probably straight...I'm guessing anyways.
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Old 02-28-2009, 01:23 PM   #105
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yeah me either....but I think maybe because it is over done. We see images of chicks doing things with other chicks in most porn films and most of those chicks are probably straight...I'm guessing anyways.
yesh, and they do that thing where they take their clothes off but their shoes miraculously stay on.. For ages i thought that was a straight chick trick!
i must admit i have never seen any lesbian porn i liked.. though again, it was because i never saw any Fat lesbian porn. i'm so porn deprived! lol. I have a good imagination and a very hot gf though so i'm ok.. for years i wasnt though..lol
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Old 02-28-2009, 03:44 PM   #106
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we were posed to, but we are broke mofos. Boston happens to be when we will be in the states anyways for mikes job...so no extra cost for us except for hotel, food and bash costs. Maybe you should come to england:P
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Old 02-28-2009, 10:11 PM   #107
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Call me a complete pervert/hypocrite closet whateveryoucallit...but my FAVOURITE porn is on a website called Sean Cody, lol. It's straight guys doing gay porn and for some reason...it gets my rocks off. In straight porn I am not as all fussed about the man, but for some reason seeing straight boys have gay sex....yum.

I would love to see two (or more, lol...the more the marrier!) get it on with a bunch of toys and feeding eachother. Yeah, that would be hot.
Oh my I love Sean Cody too, I used to watch it with my gay friends! The wanking contests are hilarious. I doubt its authenticity sometimes and penis doesn't exactly turn me on, but I do get some sort of "Hmmm, maybe you'll be a little nicer the next time you beg your girlfriend to take it up the ass" satisfaction out of it.

Half the girls I slept with are straight and I quite like being their first female/Domme, but I find most of the "her first lezzie experience" disgustingly fake. Stories written by females (it is easy enough to tell, none of those "Pamela has perfect DDD tits, a nice wrinkly asshole and no cellulite" shit) are somewhat more appealing.
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As many have said before me Bexy- thanks for this thread!
I have such trouble with labels in my own life, who am i to say what label anyone else should choose to use to identify themselves?

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my ethnicity is comprised of dominican/cuban= dad and african american/powhatan indian/caucasian-[not sure where from?]/asian-[still doing research!] = mom...what do i call myself? When many see me they say what are you or light skinned black woman. I am the sum of all parts...I just say i am me. So, I have chosen
multi ethnic as my label I am proud and do not deny any of me.

my sexuality is the same, no short simple answers. I have always dreamed of the ideal partner. For many years I thought those ideals came in the form of a man, but I was lucky that i grew up in a home & area (NYC) where the possibility that my ideal could be a woman too was cool too.

I love slightly fem hetero men, Bears, butch women, androgyny of all sorts, slight cocky butch hetero men,slightly hetro "acting"? gay men and girly girls, we are not gonna even start on looks!....

my two long term committed relationships were;

-male; short, African caribbean american, skinny/slight fem hetro with an awesomely open mind [including sexuality] and a supportive nature -7 yrs

-female; very tall, german decent american blonde, thick-not bbw?, slightly butch lesbian woman - 4 yrs

So where do my desires, needs, choices fit on any scale? Do I consider my self bi? Not really only because it says to me I am lookin to have a relationship with a woman right now and i am not. do i still look at women find them attractive,yes! if Ms right came along instead of Mr. right would i go along....hell yeah i want my happiness. To me love comes in a human package..

my label I choose for me only is queer and open (short for open minded) so maybe I am am openqueerly hetro?

no answers here just observations
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Old 03-01-2009, 01:33 PM   #109
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I am Nik, and i am bisexual. I first realised i fancied guys when I was 19, and have until recently admitted it. I have also recently admitted to myself that I like cross dressing. I have only been an fa for about 2 and a half years.so I've had an enlightening couple of years. lol
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i am nik, and i am bisexual. i first realised i fancied guys when iwas 19, and havent until recently admited it. i have also recently admitted to myself that i like cross dressing. i have only been an fa for about 2 and a half years.so ive had an enlightening couple of years. lol
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lol. is he the only gay in the village?
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lol. is he the only gay in the village?
He is. Poor Daffith.
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I am Nik, and i am bisexual. I first realised i fancied guys when I was 19, and have until recently admitted it. I have also recently admitted to myself that I like cross dressing. I have only been an fa for about 2 and a half years.so I've had an enlightening couple of years. lol
I realise you are Em's other half, (so sorry Em lol!) but still....me likes what I reads...
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I realise you are Em's other half, (so sorry Em lol!) but still....me likes what I reads...
So do we LOL Uh oh.. soooooooooo, nice hair!
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So do we LOL Uh oh.. soooooooooo, nice hair!
We eh?? Oh my.....
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I'm not allowed alcohol nor the internet anymore so I'm going to have to decline talking to your hot self. hmm LOL
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Sorry im coming to the party late here....but here's my two cents.

as for the scale, I'd have to say that im predominantly hetero but definitely inclined toward women. Having been raised with a mother who had me in church multiple times a week, it was hammered in that gayness is wrong. It took me a long time to admit that I liked women and when i finally did, after my parents stopped being so religious, they said they had known a long time before I finally confessed that I was bi.

Funny thing is....I definitely look at women more than i do at men, however women don't look at me it seems. Even if i flirt shamelessly with them,....i dont seem to have women interested in me.

anyhow....thats my ramble lol
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As many have said before me Bexy- thanks for this thread!
I have such trouble with labels in my own life, who am i to say what label anyone else should choose to use to identify themselves?

labels:
my ethnicity is comprised of dominican/cuban= dad and african american/powhatan indian/caucasian-[not sure where from?]/asian-[still doing research!] = mom...what do i call myself? When many see me they say what are you or light skinned black woman. I am the sum of all parts...I just say i am me. So, I have chosen
multi ethnic as my label I am proud and do not deny any of me.

my sexuality is the same, no short simple answers. I have always dreamed of the ideal partner. For many years I thought those ideals came in the form of a man, but I was lucky that i grew up in a home & area (NYC) where the possibility that my ideal could be a woman too was cool too.

I love slightly fem hetero men, Bears, butch women, androgyny of all sorts, slight cocky butch hetero men,slightly hetro "acting"? gay men and girly girls, we are not gonna even start on looks!....

my two long term committed relationships were;

-male; short, African caribbean american, skinny/slight fem hetro with an awesomely open mind [including sexuality] and a supportive nature -7 yrs

-female; very tall, german decent american blonde, thick-not bbw?, slightly butch lesbian woman - 4 yrs

So where do my desires, needs, choices fit on any scale? Do I consider my self bi? Not really only because it says to me I am lookin to have a relationship with a woman right now and i am not. do i still look at women find them attractive,yes! if Ms right came along instead of Mr. right would i go along....hell yeah i want my happiness. To me love comes in a human package..

my label I choose for me only is queer and open (short for open minded) so maybe I am am openqueerly hetro?

no answers here just observations
The observations are great, btw, and thanks for putting into perspective how so many things we think are so clear cut are actually more complex and multifaceted than we care to realize. Welcome to the forum!
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yes, all this philosophy is interesting.. So whats happening with the crossdressing/bbw keys in a bowl party?!? lmao
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As many have said before me Bexy- thanks for this thread!
I have such trouble with labels in my own life, who am i to say what label anyone else should choose to use to identify themselves?

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my ethnicity is comprised of dominican/cuban= dad and african american/powhatan indian/caucasian-[not sure where from?]/asian-[still doing research!] = mom...what do i call myself? When many see me they say what are you or light skinned black woman. I am the sum of all parts...I just say i am me. So, I have chosen
multi ethnic as my label I am proud and do not deny any of me.

my sexuality is the same, no short simple answers. I have always dreamed of the ideal partner. For many years I thought those ideals came in the form of a man, but I was lucky that i grew up in a home & area (NYC) where the possibility that my ideal could be a woman too was cool too.

I love slightly fem hetero men, Bears, butch women, androgyny of all sorts, slight cocky butch hetero men,slightly hetro "acting"? gay men and girly girls, we are not gonna even start on looks!....

my two long term committed relationships were;

-male; short, African caribbean american, skinny/slight fem hetro with an awesomely open mind [including sexuality] and a supportive nature -7 yrs

-female; very tall, german decent american blonde, thick-not bbw?, slightly butch lesbian woman - 4 yrs

So where do my desires, needs, choices fit on any scale? Do I consider my self bi? Not really only because it says to me I am lookin to have a relationship with a woman right now and i am not. do i still look at women find them attractive,yes! if Ms right came along instead of Mr. right would i go along....hell yeah i want my happiness. To me love comes in a human package..

my label I choose for me only is queer and open (short for open minded) so maybe I am am openqueerly hetro?

no answers here just observations
openqueerly hetro! I like it!
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Personally I'd rather not be pigeon holed as anything. Before I dated Mer I would likely have described myself as bisexual. I absolutely take offence at people who assume bisexual means 'would shag anyone' or 'are just greedy' etc. I now in a monogamous relationship with a woman so I guess that makes me a Lesbian. Would I date a man again if Mer and I were to break up? I don't know. I can't say because I am in love with her and cannot imagine being with anyone else.

In a fantasy land I would say I fancy Russel Brand and Tanya Byron equally so I guess that makes me bi again. Like I said don't want to be pigeon holed. Do we need to put in a box and labelled to make other people more comfortable. I hope not.
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Personally I'd rather not be pigeon holed as anything. Before I dated Mer I would likely have described myself as bisexual. I absolutely take offence at people who assume bisexual means 'would shag anyone' or 'are just greedy' etc. I now in a monogamous relationship with a woman so I guess that makes me a Lesbian. Would I date a man again if Mer and I were to break up? I don't know. I can't say because I am in love with her and cannot imagine being with anyone else.

In a fantasy land I would say I fancy Russel Brand and Tanya Byron equally so I guess that makes me bi again. Like I said don't want to be pigeon holed. Do we need to put in a box and labelled to make other people more comfortable. I hope not.
I agree with you - I hate being labeled as something or putting a label on myself and having people make assumptions about what that means. Just like I hate some of the stereotypes people have around fatness. This is actually one of the things that really pisses me off lots!

I have no idea who Russel Brand or Tanya Byron are so I can't say "oh yeah, I'd do them" but I do like all kinds of people - a range of genders and shapes and sizes.

Congrats on snatching up Lisa. She is a really special chick and I'm sure that you are equally special to have won her heart. Nice to meet you, Golden! I'm Celisa - like Lisa with a "Ce" hahaa.

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I agree with you - I hate being labeled as something or putting a label on myself and having people make assumptions about what that means. Just like I hate some of the stereotypes people have around fatness. This is actually one of the things that really pisses me off lots!

I have no idea who Russel Brand or Tanya Byron are so I can't say "oh yeah, I'd do them" but I do like all kinds of people - a range of genders and shapes and sizes.

Congrats on snatching up Lisa. She is a really special chick and I'm sure that you are equally special to have won her heart. Nice to meet you, Golden! I'm Celisa - like Lisa with a "Ce" hahaa.

XO
thanks ceece. I've actually been on dims a while now but hadn't been posting for a while. Decided to come back however I'm not popular on another thread that doesn't fit the consensus. o'h well that's life I guess. x
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