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Today was Spirit Day.

For those who don't know, Spirit Day is all about this:

People everywhere wear purple on #SpiritDay in a stand against bullying and to show their support for LGBT youth. Getting involved is easy! Turn your Facebook and Twitter pics purple at http://glaad.org/spiritday and wear purple on October 17th and help create a world in which LGBT youth are celebrated and accepted for who they are.

I know some of you are thinking that wearing purple (I did), and posting about this on your social media pages won't do anything to change the bullying, but I believe it does, especially for my LGBT friends, and their friends. I think just getting the word out about this can turn it from a one day "event" to a work in progress.

Let's face it, bullying is everywhere, not just in the gay, lesbian and transgendered communities, but within our own as well. I posted one of the memes created for this day on my Facebook page, with the following quote:


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NO ONE should be bullied..............EVER. Come at me, bro. More important, come at my friends and see what happens to you.
For what it's worth, I was bullied as a kid, and it took until my teenage years to break the cycle of bullying. It's not easy, and it can happen to anyone, believe me. Here's a link to astory that was written by entertainer Margaret Cho, who endured bullying for being both fat and bi.



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August 28th, 2012

I donít think that we can talk about bullying enough, I mean, I know I complain still, and this is stuff that happened easily over thirty years ago, but I think itís hurting me, and continues to. Itís not one of those things that therapy and stuff like that can fix. I am just going to be mad about it until the day I am not, and the way that makes me not mad is writing about it.


There was once a weird thing that happened that gave me lots to think about. This one kid was really a nasty one, just an awful boy, and he was relentless to me about everything. He was not even in my grade Ė he was totally a younger kid, but I had such a hard time growing up that even younger kids were a threat.


I think that when you are a queer kid, other kids can sense that you are different, and if you donít have the words or the ideas or whatever it takes to understand and love yourself, then you end up kind of like the littlest kid of all. You just feel super small and itís hard to be the runt. It sucks and one of the reasons why I just wanted to grow up faster because I was sick of being around kids and being a kid.


Anyway, this shitty kid grew up and decided he wanted to be in show business, and called me to help him. I may have been in my twenties at that point, doing well for myself. I kind of didnít know what to do when he said who he was on the phone. I couldnít believe he didnít remember how terrible he was to me, and that he now looked up to me and was proud of my achievements and was hoping I would be able to give him advice and help him out. I tried to be encouraging but I was engulfed in my own child rage and I wasnít sure how to help him anyway. It made me sick but I was also satisfied too. I hope that he is doing well now, and I am not sure if he stuck with it. Showbiz is very hard, so good luck to anyone who tries.


Over the years, I heard about lots of bad things that happened to the terrible kids that I suffered an intensely awful childhood with and I donít feel sorry or anything. Itís weird. I wish I could feel bad about how life is filled with pain and no one is exempt from it and I just donít. thereís this Buddhist meditation where you breathe in the worldís suffering and breathe out compassion and I try to do it and choke.


Anyway, if you are a kid and you are being bullied now, try to remember that the bullies will get it in the end, they really will. And you, I hope you grow up strong and proud and are not mad still like I am. I want you to be happy and glad. Stay up everyone. Stay up.
- See more at: http://www.margaretcho.com/2012/08/2....v7ZDn8nw.dpuf
Bully
August 28th, 2012

I donít think that we can talk about bullying enough, I mean, I know I complain still, and this is stuff that happened easily over thirty years ago, but I think itís hurting me, and continues to. Itís not one of those things that therapy and stuff like that can fix. I am just going to be mad about it until the day I am not, and the way that makes me not mad is writing about it.


There was once a weird thing that happened that gave me lots to think about. This one kid was really a nasty one, just an awful boy, and he was relentless to me about everything. He was not even in my grade Ė he was totally a younger kid, but I had such a hard time growing up that even younger kids were a threat.


I think that when you are a queer kid, other kids can sense that you are different, and if you donít have the words or the ideas or whatever it takes to understand and love yourself, then you end up kind of like the littlest kid of all. You just feel super small and itís hard to be the runt. It sucks and one of the reasons why I just wanted to grow up faster because I was sick of being around kids and being a kid.


Anyway, this shitty kid grew up and decided he wanted to be in show business, and called me to help him. I may have been in my twenties at that point, doing well for myself. I kind of didnít know what to do when he said who he was on the phone. I couldnít believe he didnít remember how terrible he was to me, and that he now looked up to me and was proud of my achievements and was hoping I would be able to give him advice and help him out. I tried to be encouraging but I was engulfed in my own child rage and I wasnít sure how to help him anyway. It made me sick but I was also satisfied too. I hope that he is doing well now, and I am not sure if he stuck with it. Showbiz is very hard, so good luck to anyone who tries.


Over the years, I heard about lots of bad things that happened to the terrible kids that I suffered an intensely awful childhood with and I donít feel sorry or anything. Itís weird. I wish I could feel bad about how life is filled with pain and no one is exempt from it and I just donít. thereís this Buddhist meditation where you breathe in the worldís suffering and breathe out compassion and I try to do it and choke.


Anyway, if you are a kid and you are being bullied now, try to remember that the bullies will get it in the end, they really will. And you, I hope you grow up strong and proud and are not mad still like I am. I want you to be happy and glad. Stay up everyone. Stay up.
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Old 10-17-2013, 07:17 PM   #2
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People who have never been bullied never do seem to understand the impact it has on your life. The Margaret Cho piece the OP put up says that her bully didn't seem to understand or remember how awful he was to her, and also how she was still angry about it years later, and that resonates with me.

I meet old bullies occassionaly when I visit my home town, it's a small place. They're act as if we're old friends! It's surreal. I usually end up telling them to fuck off and remind them exactly how shitty they were to me. I feel like screaming, you made my life hell and you think that doesn't matter now? Most of them don't even realise that they were bullies, they remember things differently.

One time I ran into a guy and his friends on a night out and he asked if he could join us. I told him directly exactly why that was never going to happen and marched off. My friend later told me that he had apologised and said he had picked on me because he had a crush on me, and was I single? I don't know if that was true, but it sticks with my theory this guy apparently had no idea why throwing things at me and calling me names was not "friendly teasing" but emotionally scarring.
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One time I ran into a guy and his friends on a night out and he asked if he could join us. I told him directly exactly why that was never going to happen and marched off. My friend later told me that he had apologised and said he had picked on me because he had a crush on me, and was I single? I don't know if that was true, but it sticks with my theory this guy apparently had no idea why throwing things at me and calling me names was not "friendly teasing" but emotionally scarring.
*Hugs.* It's almost incomprehensible, but some pre-boys do not know how to talk to the opposite sex, so they resort to this. I had it a lot too. (I was shy and weird so easy to pick on, but also quite pretty...)
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