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Old 07-04-2014, 11:30 AM   #476
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regarding the women going after attractive guys hooey:

http://www.madsciencemuseum.com/msm/...e_experiments/


If you were a man walking across the campus of Florida State University in 1978, an attractive young woman might have approached you and said these exact words: "I have been noticing you around campus. I find you to be attractive. Would you go to bed with me tonight?"

If you were that man, you probably would have thought that you had just gotten incredibly lucky. But not really. You were actually an unwitting subject in an experiment designed by the psychologist Russell Clark.

Clark had persuaded the students of his social psychology class to help him find out which gender, in a real-life situation, would be more receptive to a sexual offer from a stranger. The only way to find out, he figured, was to actually get out there and see what would happen. So young men and women from his class fanned out across campus and began propositioning strangers.

The results weren't very surprising. Seventy-five percent of guys were happy to oblige an attractive female stranger (and those who said no typically offered an excuse such as, "I'm married"). But not a single woman accepted the identical offer of an attractive male. In fact, most of them demanded the guy leave her alone.

At first the psychological community dismissed Clark's experiment as a trivial stunt, but gradually his experiment gained first acceptance, and then praise for how dramatically it revealed the differing sexual attitudes of men and women. Today it's considered a classic. But why men and women display such different attitudes remains as hotly debated as ever.
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Old 07-04-2014, 11:42 AM   #477
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Or maybe that particular campus is just unrepresentative of Northeastern sensibilities. Or even men (in general) who are just a little bit older.

A lot of the men I know best would not be receptive to that type of overture. Even if you could change-up the wording a bit, give a professional-actor some latitude in their approach; that kind of fast pitch tends to provoke suspicion...or insult-maybe.
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I don't care about money, prestige, and other frivolous wants. I care about attitude, companionship, loving hard, fucking harder, intellect, and if he's aesthetically appealing lol
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I don't care about money, prestige, and other frivolous wants. I care about attitude, companionship, loving hard, fucking harder, intellect, and if he's aesthetically appealing lol
I agree with most of what you say except I don't want someone continuously flat broke (things do happen), who recognizes and enjoys some of the finer things in life in small doses but doesn't demand it all the time, has a good attitude, intellectual without being snobbish, comfortable companionship, has a good sense of humor, aesthetically appealing, is a sensual lover, loves deeply and honestly, and treats me as an equal partner - because that is what he would receive in return.
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Marriages between college educated professionals are by far the most stable. So yes relationships take work. Making oneself worth keeping takes work.


http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2010/...-marriage-gap/


http://online.wsj.com/articles/book-...ahn-1403295461
i clicked on the actual link to the study from the article. the study on assortative mating only shows that married people who both have degrees are more likely to have a higher income . it doesn't say anything about that same number staying together. and actually we already know that more people overall have degrees than they did in 1960, so many more opportunities for two people with degrees to both meet and marry. if there was a correlation you'd expect the increased number of degrees to lead to a decrease in divorce. it hasn't. divorce has increased. so no, a degree has nothing to do with marriage stability.

the other article said that young people with degrees were more likely to get married or to have been married. it does not say that they stay married, or have a happy marriage which they often do not. they still have a much higher divorce rate than in previous generations. there was even been a phrase coined " a starter marriage". meaning the marriage you have before you figure out what's really important. maybe the dependence on surface or material factors like degrees and income is their problem. you don't marry a degree a career or an image--well maybe you might but that won't be enough forever. for things to last you marry the person.

wanna know how many people my age or older feel like they wasted their entire life? a lot.
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Or maybe that particular campus is just unrepresentative of Northeastern sensibilities. Or even men (in general) who are just a little bit older.

A lot of the men I know best would not be receptive to that type of overture. Even if you could change-up the wording a bit, give a professional-actor some latitude in their approach; that kind of fast pitch tends to provoke suspicion...or insult-maybe.
there is a lot of porn mentality that might make it worse now and then again AIDS might have cooled people down since then and so does the prevalence of different types of social anxiety. whats going on with people now is kinda scary. so many people do seem so out of touch with each other. it really does remind me of the last time i read 1984. i mean, how are people supposed to get practice connecting when they are so afraid of talking to someone one on one that they feel more comfortable texting now? in the past we were forced to face things with one another. a study came out recently that said 67% of men would rather take an electric shock than be alone with their own thoughts. if that's not lost i don't know what is.

i don't care how pretty a guy is i doubt a woman would like it either. and that is my point exactly. it's much more than just looks. from a woman's stand point i can personally say that a lot of things can make a man attractive and honestly just from listening to my happy gfs and looking at who they were talking about sometimes i thought it was a different person. sweet guys, i could see why they were attractive but that is not what immediately would have come to most people's minds. even ideas of physical attractiveness are all over the place. flowing endorphins and mutual appreciation can make most people look really nice.

not being decent to people is a real no no
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I agree with most of what you say except I don't want someone continuously flat broke (things do happen), who recognizes and enjoys some of the finer things in life in small doses but doesn't demand it all the time, has a good attitude, intellectual without being snobbish, comfortable companionship, has a good sense of humor, aesthetically appealing, is a sensual lover, loves deeply and honestly, and treats me as an equal partner - because that is what he would receive in return.
sounds like a good candidate to me
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check out what men commonly spend on sports or anything else that gives them pleasure. men are not pragmatic when it comes to cost v pleasure. having been forced to do marketing and having worked in advertising here we charted actual numbers i know better.
And men have a lot more $$$ to spend on these things when the wife is paying half the mortgage. The numbers don't lie. Successful people are marrying other successful people. The last 40 years or so has seen a huge swing with regard to who successful guys are marrying. It used to be the cliche that a woman didn't want to be too educated or too successful if she wanted to get married. That's no longer the case. Indeed today its the most educated most successful women now have the highest marriage rates.

All this is spelled out in great detail in the recent book Marriage Markets: How Inequality is Remaking the American Family by law professors June Carbone and Naomi Cahn. Here are two reviews -- one from a liberal perspective and one from a conservative perspective.

http://www.truth-out.org/news/item/2...merican-family

http://online.wsj.com/articles/book-...ahn-1403295461

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Or maybe that particular campus is just unrepresentative of Northeastern sensibilities. Or even men (in general) who are just a little bit older.

A lot of the men I know best would not be receptive to that type of overture. Even if you could change-up the wording a bit, give a professional-actor some latitude in their approach; that kind of fast pitch tends to provoke suspicion...or insult-maybe.
As far as that Florida State study - difficult to comment as the link only presents an "abstract" of what was done. I would need more facts to comment one way or the other

1. It's a controlled study in that students approached strangers within the college campus

2. you have to somehow quantify the type of student (looks- appearance) and the strangers that they approached

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there is a lot of porn mentality that might make it worse now and then again AIDS might have cooled people down since then and so does the prevalence of different types of social anxiety. whats going on with people now is kinda scary. so many people do seem so out of touch with each other. it really does remind me of the last time i read 1984. i mean, how are people supposed to get practice connecting when they are so afraid of talking to someone one on one that they feel more comfortable texting now? in the past we were forced to face things with one another. a study came out recently that said 67% of men would rather take an electric shock than be alone with their own thoughts. if that's not lost i don't know what is.


flowing endorphins and mutual appreciation can make most people look really nice.
1. As far as texting - welcome to technology and this is what folks are doing regardless of gender

2. As far as flowing endorphins... Well a darkened room and plenty of liquid refreshments can do wonders for some


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And men have a lot more $$$ to spend on these things when the wife is paying half the mortgage. The numbers don't lie. Successful people are marrying other successful people. The last 40 years or so has seen a huge swing with regard to who successful guys are marrying. It used to be the cliche that a woman didn't want to be too educated or too successful if she wanted to get married. That's no longer the case. Indeed today its the most educated most successful women now have the highest marriage rates.

All this is spelled out in great detail in the recent book Marriage Markets: How Inequality is Remaking the American Family by law professors June Carbone and Naomi Cahn. Here are two reviews -- one from a liberal perspective and one from a conservative perspective.

http://www.truth-out.org/news/item/2...merican-family

http://online.wsj.com/articles/book-...ahn-1403295461
well both men and women who are successful can sometimes have the means to indulge in their passions
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And men have a lot more $$$ to spend on these things when the wife is paying half the mortgage. The numbers don't lie. Successful people are marrying other successful people. The last 40 years or so has seen a huge swing with regard to who successful guys are marrying. It used to be the cliche that a woman didn't want to be too educated or too successful if she wanted to get married. That's no longer the case. Indeed today its the most educated most successful women now have the highest marriage rates.

All this is spelled out in great detail in the recent book Marriage Markets: How Inequality is Remaking the American Family by law professors June Carbone and Naomi Cahn. Here are two reviews -- one from a liberal perspective and one from a conservative perspective.

http://www.truth-out.org/news/item/2...merican-family

http://online.wsj.com/articles/book-...ahn-1403295461
but they are not staying married so the degree the money etc... as an initial draw is still not working over time which is the whole point. if two people don't mesh all of the success in the world doesn't matter. in fact it frees them to go their separate ways if it doesn't.
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Mac one of your articles uses the Pew Research Center as a reference. maybe they didn't see this article. sounds somehow contradictory to your views either that or you misinterpreted the data:

http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank...heir-husbands/

FEBRUARY 12, 2014
Record share of wives are more educated than their husbands
BY WENDY WANG

It used to be more common for a husband to have more education than his wife in America. But now, for the first time since Pew Research has tracked this trend over the past 50 years, the share of couples in which the wife is the one “marrying down” educationally is higher than those in which the husband has more education.

Among married women in 2012, 21% had spouses who were less educated than they were—a threefold increase from 1960, according to a new Pew Research Center analysis of Census data.

The share of couples where the husband’s education exceeds his wife’s increased steadily from 1960 to 1990, but has fallen since then to 20% in 2012.

DN_Share_DeclinesThe trend toward wives being more educated than their husbands is even more prevalent among newlyweds, partly because younger women have surpassed men in higher education in the past two decades. In 2012, 27% of newlywed women married a spouse whose education level was lower than theirs. By contrast, only 15% of newlywed men married a spouse with less education. Among college educated newlyweds (including those with postgraduate and advanced degrees), nearly four-in-ten women (39%) married a spouse without a college degree, but only 26% of men did so.

Another important trend has to do with marriages between spouses with similar education levels. Even though college graduates are increasingly more likely to marry each other, the overall share of couples of similar education levels is down from nearly 80% in 1960 to about 60% in 2012.

The primary reason for the decline in the share of married couples with similar education levels is that marriages between spouses with high school or less than high school education are much less common these days — the share is down from 74% of all marriages in 1960 to 24% in 2012. In addition, adults with high school or less education are much less likely to marry. The marriage rate among this group plummeted —from 72% in 1960 to 46% in 2012.

Just the opposite has occurred among college graduates. The share of couples in which both spouses have a college degree has risen steadily in recent decades. In 1960, only 3% of couples were in this group, the share rose to 22% in 2012. Marriages between spouses with some college education were on the rise until 2000 (from 3% to 12%), but have leveled off since then.

Despite the rise of marriages between spouses with college degrees, only 22% of all newlyweds in 2012 were in this type of marriage. Another 19% were between spouses with a high school diploma or less. The share was 16% for newlyweds with some college education (but no bachelor’s degree).

Does marrying someone with less education mean “marrying down” economically? Not necessarily. When we look at the newlywed women who married someone with less education, we find that a majority of these women actually “married up.” In 2012, only 39% of newlywed women who married a spouse with less education out-earned their husband, and a majority of them (58%) made less than their husband.
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As far as that Florida State study - difficult to comment as the link only presents an "abstract" of what was done. I would need more facts to comment one way or the other

1. It's a controlled study in that students approached strangers within the college campus

2. you have to somehow quantify the type of student (looks- appearance) and the strangers that they approached



1. As far as texting - welcome to technology and this is what folks are doing regardless of gender

2. As far as flowing endorphins... Well a darkened room and plenty of liquid refreshments can do wonders for some




well both men and women who are successful can sometimes have the means to indulge in their passions
if you think texting is the kind of deep communication two people need in a relationship...? some things are timeless. maybe sexting is better than actually touching each other too?

drinks and a darkened room, just goes to prove physical attraction isn't such a big deal.
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if you think texting is the kind of deep communication two people need in a relationship...? some things are timeless. maybe sexting is better than actually touching each other too?

drinks and a darkened room, just goes to prove physical attraction isn't such a big deal.
never implied that texting is some kind of deep communication - now if some feel that way that is another issue
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never implied that texting is some kind of deep communication - now if some feel that way that is another issue
deep couple communication is what i was talking about. what does that have to do with average texting?

if somebody feels it is i truly feel sorry for them. no doubt about it, they are clueless.
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This thread is filled with fucking magic- kind of like going from zero-to-infinity and beyond ... I mean - you can wonder if someone is going to ask you out - then you can jump to "Are they going to remember to keep the toilet seat up?"

also date powerlifters or arm wrestlers....





See this is the source of your problems and since "adult" theme drinks like coffee are out and you don't do kiddie drinks like "koolaide" then the best drink for your nightmares is a bodybuilders fav called HYPHY MUD -



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homemade pre workout energy drink made popular by actor and body builder Kali Muscle.

Mud stands for "make u dangerous" He and others developed the drink while incarcerated.

It consists of 1-3 teaspoons of instant coffee and a few ounces of pepsi or your own preference of caffeinated beverage. Although simple it is quite effective.


see i don't have a source of problems, because i'm not looking .

not into koolaide because only unknowing kiddies drink poison willingly

only someone in jail would drink that tripe
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but they are not staying married so the degree the money etc... as an initial draw is still not working over time which is the whole point. if two people don't mesh all of the success in the world doesn't matter. in fact it frees them to go their separate ways if it doesn't.
True, having resources makes it easier to separate. It also makes it much easier to establish a family and deal with day to day stresses. Combining two professional incomes more than doubles disposable income. The bottom line -- while not all upper-middle class marriages succeed -- they succeed at a rate far greater than that of people further down the latter. They form at a much higher rate too.
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True, having resources makes it easier to separate. It also makes it much easier to establish a family and deal with day to day stresses. Combining two professional incomes more than doubles disposable income. The bottom line -- while not all upper-middle class marriages succeed -- they succeed at a rate far greater than that of people further down the latter. They form at a much higher rate too.
you have a lot of flaws and incorrect assumptions in your argument. not all professionals are higher up on the economic ladder. plumbers and electricians are not professionals and they often make more money than doctors and lawyers. i had a neighbor who as a plumber who had a few porsches and flew to italy every year for at least a month. i had a neighbor in my subdivision who was a builder without a degree. he had two sets of twins with everything their little hearts could desire and a whole storage facility chock full of collectible cars. what about the guy who owns a gas station etc...

i know a LOT of broke attorneys college professors accountants and other degreed people. just because someone has a degree it doesn't mean they'll be an earner. that is a fairy tale. everything depends on the individual person. some people are financially successful, some aren't. the comparison doesn't really make sense on a one to one level. relationships aren't a theory. they don't happen in a test tube or as a calculation in a lab book or on a graph. when you meet one person with a degree you aren't meeting every person with a degree, just that one person. that is why generalizing to a particular is a fallacy. so if anyone is expecting to depend on someone's financial success simply based on a degree he or she might be disappointed. and heaven help you if life happens, an accident, health problem an addiction, a bad economy or goodness knows what else.

even, if successful they can still be an abusive and nasty sod. hence divorce at every class. and also just because people aren't technically married it doesn't mean they are not happily coupled with someone.
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As far as that Florida State study - difficult to comment as the link only presents an "abstract" of what was done. I would need more facts to comment one way or the other

1. It's a controlled study in that students approached strangers within the college campus

2. you have to somehow quantify the type of student (looks- appearance) and the strangers that they approached



1. As far as texting - welcome to technology and this is what folks are doing regardless of gender

2. As far as flowing endorphins... Well a darkened room and plenty of liquid refreshments can do wonders for some




well both men and women who are successful can sometimes have the means to indulge in their passions
Drinks and a darkened room: only good for anonymous, meaningless sex and stupidity



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I realize this is an old thread but a couple recent experiences prompted me to browse this one again. I wasn't really involved in the early parts of this discussion and probably didn't read the whole thing when it was an active thread. There's so much to comment on but that would be exhausting. Still, a couple things did hit close to home and I think it's worth sharing some personal experiences in response to a couple posts.

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It is all about the fear of the big black penis. Men have asked if I prefer larger penises. They know that asking me a racist question would be very stupid. Shit, they need to worry about the non-Black men with huge penises.
I briefly dated a plus size AA woman before I was married. She was physically dominant over me: I'm 5'7 and at the time weighed 150-155. She was about 6'1-2, and had an extremely robust body: thick torso, big soft belly, huge butt and thighs, and boobs so big I almost didn't know how to handle them.

What an experience my brief time with her was. She acknowledged that I was the first time she'd dated outside of her race, so I was the first non-black man she'd ever had. The subject of black penises DID come up: but it was her that brought it up, not me. She was the one making the comparisons, not me. She wanted me to know mine was the smallest that had ever had the privilege of being in her. I didn't care where I ranked and despite her attempts at shaming, she didn't seem to either because she always seemed to come back for more.

Now I've seen studies say the "big black penis" thing is a myth and that seems reasonable to me. I've had a couple partners aside form the one described here bring it up as well, but that's all anecdotal. Furthermore I've not made a habit out of standing around touching tips to see whose is bigger. It's not like I can do anything about it anyway: you work with what you have.

With that said, if indeed the "big black penis" thing is a myth it is one perpetuated in large part by blacks themselves. It's in hip hop music and other black entertainment, specifically black humor. There's nothing wrong with that, some of it's hilarious in fact. It also exists in every day people though, like the one I met. And she's not my sole example; I've been around enough people (friends, fringe friends, casual acquaintances) to hear this narrative forwarded multiple times.

It is not threatening to me. That's easy to say now that I'm married but even as my pseudo-GF was looking at me and asking "is that it?" I didn't feel threatened or intimidated. Like I said, she always seemed to come back for more. With that said, some guys really are insecure. And yes, asking a woman such a question IS stupid and immature regardless of what that man has experienced. But there may be a reason he asked it and it might just be that a black woman in his past said or did something to make him feel inadequate.

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I do not know why any black man would allow himself to be treated as a black mark on a white woman's past. I would NEVER tolerate a white, Hispanic or Asian American woman treating me like I am a black mark on her past. It is difficult for me to understand the low self esteem of black men who allow non-black women to treat them in such a degrading way. If a woman enjoys my company in private but is ashamed for her friends, family, co-workers and church family to see that she and I are dating, then she has a serious problem. I will not tolerate it; no self-respecting black man should. For this forum, let me add that no BBW should tolerate a man keeping her in the closet.
I can completely agree with this and believe it applies to any man or woman of any race. The same woman I described above had this going on. Remember, she was 6-7 inches taller than me as it was. On top of that she wore heels when we were out together so she was physically significantly taller and larger than I was. She LOVED it when white girls noticed us. One girl once did a double take and she went so far as to tell her, "That's right, bitch, I got one of yours!" I asked WTF and she said that girl doesn't seem to be able to accept that we're an interracial couple. I suggested maybe the physical disparity between us was just as likely the cause for her reaction since you don't often see woman so tall with men as short as I am and she wouldn't have it. It was all race in her mind. What was more, she went out of her way to avoid being seen with me around other blacks, even going so far as to altering evening plans we had one night because of a large group of black couples who were hanging out where we were going to go. She also refused to go together to a BBQ pit (that we both liked) because a lot of the customers were black and she didn't want to be seen with me by other blacks.

Again, I agree with your post, and understand you are relating it to you personally and the place from which your perspective originates. I just think it's important to underscore how universal racism really is. It's not a white thing or a black thing. It's a human thing.
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The big black dick trope goes way back. It's even referenced in the Bible. A combination of dick/conquest centered locker room bragging more liberally enjoyed among some cultures than others. The slave trade also did much to fuel the furor. It might be ever so slightly more prevalent among black men with the added element of being placed on display both voluntarily and involuntarily. But truthfully the differences racially are only significant by minor measures. Imagine being a black man pursued by someone because they believe the legend to be true. It's a belief similar to the belief that a busty blonde in cutoff shorts will have sex with you and a buddy right after she washes her entire car while mewling seductively. That's probably in the Bible in some fashion too.

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I realize this is an old thread but a couple recent experiences prompted me to browse this one again. I wasn't really involved in the early parts of this discussion and probably didn't read the whole thing when it was an active thread. There's so much to comment on but that would be exhausting. Still, a couple things did hit close to home and I think it's worth sharing some personal experiences in response to a couple posts.



I briefly dated a plus size AA woman before I was married. She was physically dominant over me: I'm 5'7 and at the time weighed 150-155. She was about 6'1-2, and had an extremely robust body: thick torso, big soft belly, huge butt and thighs, and boobs so big I almost didn't know how to handle them.

What an experience my brief time with her was. She acknowledged that I was the first time she'd dated outside of her race, so I was the first non-black man she'd ever had. The subject of black penises DID come up: but it was her that brought it up, not me. She was the one making the comparisons, not me. She wanted me to know mine was the smallest that had ever had the privilege of being in her. I didn't care where I ranked and despite her attempts at shaming, she didn't seem to either because she always seemed to come back for more.

Now I've seen studies say the "big black penis" thing is a myth and that seems reasonable to me. I've had a couple partners aside form the one described here bring it up as well, but that's all anecdotal. Furthermore I've not made a habit out of standing around touching tips to see whose is bigger. It's not like I can do anything about it anyway: you work with what you have.

With that said, if indeed the "big black penis" thing is a myth it is one perpetuated in large part by blacks themselves. It's in hip hop music and other black entertainment, specifically black humor. There's nothing wrong with that, some of it's hilarious in fact. It also exists in every day people though, like the one I met. And she's not my sole example; I've been around enough people (friends, fringe friends, casual acquaintances) to hear this narrative forwarded multiple times.

It is not threatening to me. That's easy to say now that I'm married but even as my pseudo-GF was looking at me and asking "is that it?" I didn't feel threatened or intimidated. Like I said, she always seemed to come back for more. With that said, some guys really are insecure. And yes, asking a woman such a question IS stupid and immature regardless of what that man has experienced. But there may be a reason he asked it and it might just be that a black woman in his past said or did something to make him feel inadequate.



I can completely agree with this and believe it applies to any man or woman of any race. The same woman I described above had this going on. Remember, she was 6-7 inches taller than me as it was. On top of that she wore heels when we were out together so she was physically significantly taller and larger than I was. She LOVED it when white girls noticed us. One girl once did a double take and she went so far as to tell her, "That's right, bitch, I got one of yours!" I asked WTF and she said that girl doesn't seem to be able to accept that we're an interracial couple. I suggested maybe the physical disparity between us was just as likely the cause for her reaction since you don't often see woman so tall with men as short as I am and she wouldn't have it. It was all race in her mind. What was more, she went out of her way to avoid being seen with me around other blacks, even going so far as to altering evening plans we had one night because of a large group of black couples who were hanging out where we were going to go. She also refused to go together to a BBQ pit (that we both liked) because a lot of the customers were black and she didn't want to be seen with me by other blacks.

Again, I agree with your post, and understand you are relating it to you personally and the place from which your perspective originates. I just think it's important to underscore how universal racism really is. It's not a white thing or a black thing. It's a human thing.
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The big black dick trope goes way back. It's even referenced in the Bible. A combination of dick/conquest centered locker room bragging more liberally enjoyed among some cultures than others. The slave trade also did much to fuel the furor. It might be ever so slightly more prevalent among black men with the added element of being placed on display both voluntarily and involuntarily. But truthfully the differences racially are only significant by minor measures. Imagine being a black man pursued by someone because they believe the legend to be true. It's a belief similar to the belief that a busty blonde in cutoff shorts will have sex with you and a buddy right after she washes her entire car while mewling seductively. That's probably in the Bible in some fashion too.
Interesting! I don't recall them going over that one back in Sunday School! Do you know the reference?

To the rest of you point, no dispute from me.
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HM if you find that passage please let us know LOL.
I have dated a few black men and they were in the average range as far as their penis size.
Both tried to boast a little but then most guys do.
From my own experience I don't think race has much to do with the size.
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Interesting! I don't recall them going over that one back in Sunday School! Do you know the reference?

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Ezekiel 23:20 "There she lusted after her lovers, whose genitals were like those of donkeys and whose emission was like that of horses."

You have to read the whole chapter to get the feel of it. It talks about foreign men being depicted on a wall causing woman to lust after them and send for them, only to turn from them in disgust once sated. Many historians believe the men in this story were black.
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HM if you find that passage please let us know LOL.
I have dated a few black men and they were in the average range as far as their penis size.
Both tried to boast a little but then most guys do.
From my own experience I don't think race has much to do with the size.
Lilly already hooked us up with that passage, read 'em and weep!

I've never boasted about my size, but I have my reasons for that. I've maybe boasted about my beauty but I have my reasons for that too.

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Ezekiel 23:20 "There she lusted after her lovers, whose genitals were like those of donkeys and whose emission was like that of horses."

You have to read the whole chapter to get the feel of it. It talks about foreign men being depicted on a wall causing woman to lust after them and send for them, only to turn from them in disgust once sated. Many historians believe the men in this story were black.
Amazing! I'll read it. Thank you for sharing this.
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