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Old 06-26-2014, 12:31 AM   #26
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That's fairly common for people past a certain age. The minds's internal filter, of what types of thoughts are appropriate to express and to whom rapidly begins to deteriorate. It will happen to any of us if we're lucky enough to live that long.

So, if you feel like you're actually going to lose your temper and are about blow-up on an old person; it's definitely better to just walk away. But, just from a moral stand-point, don't feel like you can't just dismiss what they're saying as something they don't really mean or don't quite realize the full implications of it. More often than not, that will actually take you closer to the real truth of it. As with young children, you can give grandma & old people in general a pass on stuff like this.
I agree with this. my grandma is starting to not give a f*** about what she says about any one.
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Old 06-26-2014, 01:28 AM   #27
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I agree with this. my grandma is starting to not give a f*** about what she says about any one.
My dad never did lol
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Old 06-26-2014, 10:42 AM   #28
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I think the only truly "bad" experiences were explaining my preferences to my now ex-wife. But there is a reason she is the ex-wife after all.
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Old 06-26-2014, 12:07 PM   #29
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I don't think I ever was in the closet but I was not relaxed an accepting of what I was interested in.

I think FA's at least of my age had trouble sorting out why they don't find conventional women interesting. For a while I thought maybe I was Gay, but I didn't find men attractive either.

Being fairly large myself might have made my relationships seem more natural to others eyes?
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Old 08-13-2014, 08:06 AM   #30
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This didn't happen to me but I know a guy who is a black fa dating a white ssbbw and other people sometimes gossip about him saying he's so desperate for a white woman he'll go with whatever comes along. Pretty degrading both to him and her as it implies he's settling for her despite her size cause he's racially self-loathing and she's settling for him despite his race because he's the only guy who'd be attracted to her. When in actuality they just are both attracted to each other. It's not that complicated.
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Old 08-13-2014, 06:31 PM   #31
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This didn't happen to me but I know a guy who is a black fa dating a white ssbbw and other people sometimes gossip about him saying he's so desperate for a white woman he'll go with whatever comes along. Pretty degrading both to him and her as it implies he's settling for her despite her size cause he's racially self-loathing and she's settling for him despite his race because he's the only guy who'd be attracted to her. When in actuality they just are both attracted to each other. It's not that complicated.
I've had to deal with several times in the past. It's annoying, and aggravates me even more as a mixed person.
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Old 08-13-2014, 11:57 PM   #32
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When I was with my first girlfriend I got outed, she called me sick and a pervert. We had a horrible relationship (I was so desperate for attention and so self hating that I couldn't believe anyone else would love me) it lasted another 6 months or so after this. The scars from that relationship still show and it was over 7 years ago.
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Old 08-16-2014, 03:03 PM   #33
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When I was with my first girlfriend I got outed, she called me sick and a pervert. We had a horrible relationship (I was so desperate for attention and so self hating that I couldn't believe anyone else would love me) it lasted another 6 months or so after this. The scars from that relationship still show and it was over 7 years ago.
yeah that seems to be somewhat of a double standard based on what I've heard regarding how male FA's are seen versus how female FA's are seen.
Like as a FFA (and I've only told like three people explicitly) the usual reaction has been disbelief, laughter, saying I'm weird, and stuff like that.

The most negative thing I've heard along those lines was this one article on this five hundred pound woman's blog telling other women to stay away from guy fat admirers because they're perverted basically. It was interesting to see her perspective though. Here's the link if you're interested. http://fivehundredpoundpeeps.blogspo...e-willies.html
Not that I'm saying her experience isn't valid just that a lot of times other factors define what we consider creepy and what we don't. Like even the use of the term fetish bothers me because the only preferences that are ever considered fetishes are preferences for people (or aspects of people) who aren't valued in society.
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Old 08-18-2014, 10:00 AM   #34
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yeah that seems to be somewhat of a double standard based on what I've heard regarding how male FA's are seen versus how female FA's are seen.
Like as a FFA (and I've only told like three people explicitly) the usual reaction has been disbelief, laughter, saying I'm weird, and stuff like that.

The most negative thing I've heard along those lines was this one article on this five hundred pound woman's blog telling other women to stay away from guy fat admirers because they're perverted basically. It was interesting to see her perspective though. Here's the link if you're interested. http://fivehundredpoundpeeps.blogspo...e-willies.html
Not that I'm saying her experience isn't valid just that a lot of times other factors define what we consider creepy and what we don't. Like even the use of the term fetish bothers me because the only preferences that are ever considered fetishes are preferences for people (or aspects of people) who aren't valued in society.
Having scanned that, I think she's a bit confused. On the one hand, she seems offended that some men strongly prefer overweight women, telling herself that "good" guys who are with BBWs just sort of fell into it and are accepting of women of all sizes. Uh-huh. While this is no doubt true in some cases, the sad fact is that most men have definite preferences regarding the type of women they find most sexually attractive. Sure, you can fall in love with someone who doesn't fit the profile at all, and you can have a good sex life despite that, but I don't think that's the optimal recipe. I'd bet that most guys with BBW girlfriends - especially if this is a pattern - are either honest-to-gosh FAs, or are focused on BBWs for some other, less healthy reason (e.g., they suffer from low self-esteem and therefore target women they believe to be less attractive).

In other words, she errs in thinking that "good" men with BBWs do not find fat women any more attractive than thin women. Does she actually think her husband was with her because he couldn't care less if she is 400 lbs or 120?

The other issue she's pointing to is neurotic behavior, that is, men acting like stalkers and jerks. Her suggestion is that FAs are likely to act this way. She is ridiculously wrong to suggest that ALL FAs act this way. Most of us are just like other guys, except that we prefer full-figured women.

She may, however, be correct that there is a higher percentage of sexually and/or emotionally immature FAs than in the general male population. My guess is that these kinds of problems are disproportionately found among any segment of the population whose sexuality is marked as "weird" or "deviant." Social disapproval leads to all kind of weird behaviors. Some FAs repress their preference, dating thin women in order to avoid embarassment. Others allow the belief that BBWs are "desperate" as an excuse to avoid manning up and risking emotional intimacy, treating real-life BBWs as if they are objects of computer porn. Some live lives of quiet sexual desperation (just them and their computers). Others go to the opposite extreme and yell their preference from the hill-tops, which is certainly the best of these options, but shouldn't be necessary either.
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Old 08-18-2014, 05:04 PM   #35
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Having scanned that, I think she's a bit confused. On the one hand, she seems offended that some men strongly prefer overweight women, telling herself that "good" guys who are with BBWs just sort of fell into it and are accepting of women of all sizes. Uh-huh. While this is no doubt true in some cases, the sad fact is that most men have definite preferences regarding the type of women they find most sexually attractive. Sure, you can fall in love with someone who doesn't fit the profile at all, and you can have a good sex life despite that, but I don't think that's the optimal recipe. I'd bet that most guys with BBW girlfriends - especially if this is a pattern - are either honest-to-gosh FAs, or are focused on BBWs for some other, less healthy reason (e.g., they suffer from low self-esteem and therefore target women they believe to be less attractive).

In other words, she errs in thinking that "good" men with BBWs do not find fat women any more attractive than thin women. Does she actually think her husband was with her because he couldn't care less if she is 400 lbs or 120?

The other issue she's pointing to is neurotic behavior, that is, men acting like stalkers and jerks. Her suggestion is that FAs are likely to act this way. She is ridiculously wrong to suggest that ALL FAs act this way. Most of us are just like other guys, except that we prefer full-figured women.
I agree, but I'd say that woman is way beyond "a bit confused". She's looking at "confused" in the rear-view mirror. She also states, right near the beginning of the blog post, that the only men who can legitimately pursue fat women are men who "are overweight themselves". I feel sorry for this woman. Her entire blog post is the biggest collection of ignorance and self-hatred that I've read in a long time.

The most charitable thing I can say is this: Like too many people, she believes the entire world is exactly like the tiny fraction of it that she has personally experienced. If people could somehow get beyond that ignorant belief, we'd have a lot less bigotry, prejudice, and hatred in the world.
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Old 08-24-2014, 04:39 AM   #36
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My first “coming out” was about 50 years ago and i was *brought* out. My dad had a photography business and i would frequently help him shoot weddings when i was 11 or 12. Once there was a bridesmaid who was super sized, drop dead gorgeous and wearing one of those hot bridesmaid dresses. I had no idea my attraction was so obvious until my dad out of the blue says, “Boy, you like ‘em big, don’tcha?” End of subject forever.

Much later a friend was house sitting for me while i was working out of town. I called to see how things were going and he says, “Hey, man, i was looking for something to read and you got this Magazine in the mail…’Dimensions’. I had never put all that together with you….Very, VERY cool!!!”
If anything i believe i’ve been given credit for an “openmindedness” that i don’t actually possess.
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Old 11-19-2014, 07:54 AM   #37
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I've seen many people post about being in the FA closet. Some people here may very well still be in the closet about their attraction to fat people. I've never had any real problems about this, but I'm curious about others who do. What has been the worse experience you have encountered that resulted from coming out of the FA closet?
I didn't come out, I was found out, first with my husband n then with my 2 daughters. they think im sick, crazy..... I was hospitalized twice for a mental breakdown related to this fetish and having a cyber affair with a man on FF. I am forbidded to go on FF by family, I cant shake the affair or the website. I am a feedee.
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Old 12-05-2014, 03:30 AM   #38
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This is sort of coming from a different angle of me being a BHM and her a FFA but i have started talking and getting to know this beautiful and sweet girl we have traded pictures and she has said how much she likes my body and loves a big soft belly to cuddle which is all great although i am a bit skeptical myself because past experiences i get the absolute complete opposite however i believe she really does like this and what i have to offer we met on a similar site to this and she contacted me she didn't even have pictures on her profile but the way she talked about things intrigued me when i finally recieved pictures i was amazed at how beauttiful she is this slim petite little blonde about 5 foot 3 (i am 6 foot) and big beautiful blue eyes now we live a great distance apart so we have not met in person but that is defiantely a short term plan just gotta save the money for one of us to make the trip but i can feel myself seriously starting to fall for this girl we have talked every single day since we met and i get so excited when i hear my phone because i know that means she has sent me a message

anyways i have several photos of her now about a dozen i think and i have shown friends, family etc.. even semi-strangers lol and they all get the same reaction they look at me they look at the pictures and straight away they think i am being scammed or that's not really her or she is after money or something not one has just said well i am happy for you i hope it works out

this is not going to deter me in the slightest because she is an amazing girl and if i back away now i would regret it for the rest of my life but i wish those around me that supposedly care about me wouldn't just think its a lie because no way a girl that looks like that could be interested in a guy like me it's hurtful when if i start to even talk about her or more like gush over here lol i get eye rolls or dismissed because they don't consider it anything.

It seems a bit of a different response for her though i asked her one day firstly is she sure she liked big guys which of course she said she did and then i asked her how her family and friends feel about it and she said they all know i like bigger boys her previous boyfriends were big also and she said that as long as she is happy and he treats her well then they are happy for her

i thought this was nice that they were that accepting of it they didn't try to change her mind or anything although her parents are apparently nervous about us but not because of my weight but because her Ex was physically abusive to her which makes my blood just boil for any woman but for this sweet caring girl it just seems worse to me she was tough and strong as soon as he did that she left she didn't stay which i am proud of her for doing but because of this they understandable are worried she would end up with someone like that again which would never be the case with me i absolutely respect women i was raised by a single mother and i am the only male grandchild and i have 15 female cousins who would gladly kick the crap out of me if i did something like that lol not that i ever would they are also worried because of the distance and if she moved here it would be so far away but it is still early days for that stuff
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