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Old 09-23-2017, 05:30 PM   #1
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I hate social media social media hates me since 1996 the BBWs hate me since 1997. All they want to do is go after an African American man no matter who it is and what it is. It is the truth. The last time I went to a BBW event was in 2006. I know they said we why don't you go home we don't need you we don't want you we don't give a care. Oh that jacket is ugly as you. So today is drab as as today. I came to realize and self-aware. That after 33 years of being an fa. I'm walking away. Let's face it. I will never get the women i want. It's just a fantasy and that's reality. And if I have to be brutally honest with you. Here is another fact. I put a post up on Facebook. About my bucket list. And I have plans to go to Road Atlanta next year for the petite LeMans.
Which is the Ten Hours or A Thousand Miles whatever comes first. Sports car race. And it's something I always wanted to do. and maybe a 10 to 12 hours of Sebring. Which it happens in March. And go to the Vegas BBW bash. Well I got laughed at by a African American male. And he said bbws and ssbbws. Are black guys property. Well this tanited my plans. And now. Because of this one person. My plans to go to Vegas have been ruined. This is the only post I'm going to be doing. I am not looking for sympathy or comments. It's just a fact of life that I've been dealing with for the last 4 years. I had surgery 3 years ago. I am ashamed of my body because I have so many scars on it and nobody would want to be with me anyways. that's a fact of life for me now. So I'm just going to live on life's terms all alone
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Old 09-24-2017, 04:44 PM   #2
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Oh, Sven... really? All fat women like black men and one black man laughs at you and says fat women are his property (are you living in a bad 1970's sexploitation flick?) and you're giving up the dream of dating someone fat? You don't really believe any of what you typed here, do you? You come across as if you feel somewhat entitled to the affections of a fat woman because you claim to like them. In 2006 you had an ugly interaction with someone for whom you weren't her type at a bbw party and you've never been back since? If you really want to go to the Vegas bash next time, GO. Be yourself. Be open. Be a nice person. Don't give a shit what anyone says. If someone criticizes your fashion choice, move on. You don't want to be with someone so superficial anyway. And as far scars, Jesus man, we all have them. We have scars, we have stretch marks, we have veins sticking out where we wish they wouldn't or fat that has decided to settle in a less desirable place on us than another. We're too short, too tall, too this or too that.. You just need to be comfortable in your own skin. No one is perfect. Take some time. Work on you.. when you're ready to try again to put yourself out there, keep an open mind and don't lump all fatties into one category. We all like what we like. If you like you, carry yourself like you do.. be friendly, not creepy, someone's going to like you too.
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Old 09-28-2017, 05:36 PM   #3
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I hate social media social media hates me since 1996 the BBWs hate me since 1997. All they want to do is go after an African American man no matter who it is and what it is. It is the truth. The last time I went to a BBW event was in 2006. I know they said we why don't you go home we don't need you we don't want you we don't give a care. Oh that jacket is ugly as you. So today is drab as as today. I came to realize and self-aware. That after 33 years of being an fa. I'm walking away. Let's face it. I will never get the women i want. It's just a fantasy and that's reality. And if I have to be brutally honest with you. Here is another fact. I put a post up on Facebook. About my bucket list. And I have plans to go to Road Atlanta next year for the petite LeMans.
Which is the Ten Hours or A Thousand Miles whatever comes first. Sports car race. And it's something I always wanted to do. and maybe a 10 to 12 hours of Sebring. Which it happens in March. And go to the Vegas BBW bash. Well I got laughed at by a African American male. And he said bbws and ssbbws. Are black guys property. Well this tanited my plans. And now. Because of this one person. My plans to go to Vegas have been ruined. This is the only post I'm going to be doing. I am not looking for sympathy or comments. It's just a fact of life that I've been dealing with for the last 4 years. I had surgery 3 years ago. I am ashamed of my body because I have so many scars on it and nobody would want to be with me anyways. that's a fact of life for me now. So I'm just going to live on life's terms all alone
Look for love first. That's what everybody wants end of the day. If you were just looking for a body you can get a blow up doll or get some porn. To look for love try to be your best. Strong relationships happen when we're not too busy looking for what's unimportant, I think.

There're lots of people with scars. Lots of people who've been talked down. It doesn't have to be over.

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Old 10-03-2017, 05:19 PM   #4
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Sven, you seem angry.


Why are you so angry?
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Oh, Sven... really? All fat women like black men and one black man laughs at you and says fat women are his property (are you living in a bad 1970's sexploitation flick?) and you're giving up the dream of dating someone fat? You don't really believe any of what you typed here, do you? You come across as if you feel somewhat entitled to the affections of a fat woman because you claim to like them. In 2006 you had an ugly interaction with someone for whom you weren't her type at a bbw party and you've never been back since? If you really want to go to the Vegas bash next time, GO. Be yourself. Be open. Be a nice person. Don't give a shit what anyone says. If someone criticizes your fashion choice, move on. You don't want to be with someone so superficial anyway. And as far scars, Jesus man, we all have them. We have scars, we have stretch marks, we have veins sticking out where we wish they wouldn't or fat that has decided to settle in a less desirable place on us than another. We're too short, too tall, too this or too that.. You just need to be comfortable in your own skin. No one is perfect. Take some time. Work on you.. when you're ready to try again to put yourself out there, keep an open mind and don't lump all fatties into one category. We all like what we like. If you like you, carry yourself like you do.. be friendly, not creepy, someone's going to like you too.
I just happened to open this thread and was highly impressed by the wisdom and compassion you displayed in your post. Well said, and all the best to you!
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Sven, you seem angry.


Why are you so angry?
I don't think he's angry at all, just sad, and I can see why. He lacks confidence, and he's lonely. A long time ago, when I was quite heavy, I went to a singles dance in a house of worship. I thought I looked good, and was very optimistic about socializing.
About 15 minutes in, some guy quickly walks by me and says, "You're too fat", and was gone before I could blink. My face turned red as I fought back tears, and I went home.

I just want this poster to know that if someone tries to intimidate you, just say "thanks for the tip", and move on. There are mean people out there, and they need to be ignored.
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Sven, my advice to you would be to just go to BBW events and talk with women to make friends and not expect benefits or a LTR. I enjoyed lots of NAAFA conventions and other BBW events that way and eventually wound up with a SSBBW wife as a result.

As for the black guy that said all the BBWs and SSBBWs "belonged" to black guys, I suspect that would be a big surprise to a lot of the women. (And might thin out his available options if his view became known.) While I've found some women that exclusively dated black guys, they weren't the majority. Actually I found more that only dated other women. Most all the rest were fairly open.

Enjoy working your bucket list. And probably when you least expect it, you'll encounter Her, The One You'll Love (and not just lust). Just realize she may only fulfill a few of your expectations. Don't overthink it and just go with the flow.
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