I want to rope a fat man(for bhms)

babygidget · 12-26-2005, 07:17 PM

I'm not sure what to do, I met a very cute and sweet large bellied BHM online, met him in person and I have not heard from him yet???? Should I make the first move???? Email him first or wait for him to make the first move, I would rather he make the first move but I don't know if he liked me or not, wouldn't he have asked me out when we saw each other if he did like me?? I'm a tall average weight girl, maybe he only liked bigger girls??? I'm perplexed.

Gidge

LarryTheShiveringChipmunk · 12-26-2005, 08:15 PM

go for it! can't hurt eh?

Fat Gary NYC · 12-26-2005, 09:09 PM

You didn't say anything about how the meeting went. Maybe he thought 'now that she's seen me in person, she's no longer interested'?

If you're really interested in this guy, I say you should make the first move. If someone were interested in me I'd be flattered if she told me so.

BigFusionNYC · 12-27-2005, 04:32 PM

My advice to you is to just casually e-mail him, like a FWD joke and then later on be like Oh my email's been acting funny, just wanted to say hi cutie, drop me a line

Remember, I'm always right sometimes.....go for it!

Big-Phil · 12-28-2005, 04:13 AM

Just go for it, sometimes us BHMs need to be told clearly that women are interested in us!

Zackariah · 12-28-2005, 10:43 AM

Life is too short to wait for others to make the first move. It's entirely possible he's doing the exact same thing. The worst thing that could happen would be for him to say no... but isn't it worth the risk?

I've always thought that honesty is the best foundation for a relationship, if you intend it to last. I don't see the point in playing games... after all, if in fact they don't want a relationship, I'd rather be alone than waste my time on that kind of emotional rollercoaster.

LillyBBBW · 12-28-2005, 11:13 AM

Yeah, go ahead and hit him up. The worst that could happen is that he's not interested and you're no worse off. Drop him a line.

EvilBob · 12-28-2005, 02:37 PM

If he doesnt reply, you drop me a note!

babygidget · 12-28-2005, 05:31 PM

I couldn't help myself, I had to hug him after our lunch date to feel his belly up against me !!! Maybe he was scared of me after that!!!! If a girl make a first move to touch a big man does it frighten him??? Why is it so hard to let a big man know that he is attractive???? Its almost like he has to be hit over the head.

bigcheese211 · 12-28-2005, 05:34 PM

i cant speak for all big men but it doesnt frighten me, especially if i find you attractive as well.. but thats just me.. hug me anytime babe..

EvilBob · 12-28-2005, 07:00 PM

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Originally Posted by babygidget

I couldn't help myself, I had to hug him after our lunch date to feel his belly up against me !!! Maybe he was scared of me after that!!!! If a girl make a first move to touch a big man does it frighten him??? Why is it so hard to let a big man know that he is attractive???? Its almost like he has to be hit over the head.

Wow... I would love random hugs to feel my belly! lol...

LarryTheShiveringChipmunk · 12-28-2005, 07:05 PM

heck id love to have a lady randomly hug me (:

babygidget · 12-29-2005, 06:24 PM

I didn't hear from the fat man that I was trying to rope, so cute 6 foot 350 plus, Oh well, I guess I have to get a skinny one and feed him home made peanut butter cookies until he gains some weight!!!

Any of you chubby guys want to chat, I'm here,

EvilBob · 12-29-2005, 06:55 PM

You can always come scoop me up, Kat! 45 minutes away... 6'4", 350lbs of sexy big guy!

Jeannie · 12-29-2005, 07:11 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by EvilBob

6'4", 350lbs of sexy big guy!

Good Grief!! It just gets better and better.

Run, don't walk babygidget! 45 minutes? I'd crawl on my hands and knees if I had to!

Fat Gary NYC · 12-31-2005, 01:05 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by babygidget

If a girl make a first move to touch a big man does it frighten him???

In my case, it does.

It wouldn't repel me, but I'd probably freeze up and get all stiff...

well, I meant nervous but I guess that other kind of stiff as well...

Quote:

Originally Posted by babygidget

Why is it so hard to let a big man know that he is attractive????

When Ed Koch had his radio show on WABC, he'd often say "I can explain it to you, but I can't comprehend it for you" to a caller who wasn't getting his point.

Similarly, you can tell me you find me attractive... you can say the words, but it would be difficult for me to believe it. Not because I'd think you were being insincere, but because I'm not the kind of guy women find attractive. Guys like me almost never hear "you had me at hello," so if someone were to come along who genuinely, authentically, really did feel that way about me I wouldn't believe it.

Quote:

Originally Posted by babygidget

Its almost like he has to be hit over the head.

When it comes to me... you do.

And even then...

Jane · 12-31-2005, 05:22 AM

Guys, please, please, don't do the freeze up thing to us. It is so hard to be an assertive woman when it comes to sex. Then to see an adverse reaction sure sets you back. It gets really difficult to make the move again with either this person or the next one.

Understand that if she didn't find you attractive, most women would not have built up the courage to make the move.

EvilBob · 12-31-2005, 01:33 PM

It is hard to be assertive as a man too sometimes, and personally, I am tired of being in control in the sex department! It is nerve-wracking -- with a new relationship especially.

I would love a woman who just knew what she wanted and wasnt shy about it!

Demure has its place, but not in my bed!

XOXO
EB

Jane · 12-31-2005, 01:39 PM

We know (or at least hope) it's hard to be a man. ROFL

Sorry, smut mind.

It's the beginning of relationship moves that are hard for me. After that I "throw" 'em "around like a rag doll" at least that was the request I had this week.

missaf · 12-31-2005, 01:48 PM

Most of them men, fat men, I've been with prefer to keep at a distance, the "just pals" out in public, but when behind closed doors, and I insist on throwing them around like rag dolls and I let them know their size is incredibly attractive. I'm not afraid to use *my* size to accentuate the fun, they start to see what I'm talking about.

The only thing I absolutely insist on, is belly to belly cuddling or spooning, where I can show just how much fun his belly is to me

Jane · 12-31-2005, 01:56 PM

Well, in public, I don't want them riding my leg like a crazed little dog....other than that, though......

missaf · 12-31-2005, 01:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jane

Well, in public, I don't want them riding my leg like a crazed little dog....other than that, though......

By "pals" I mean, rarely even holding hands, elbowing each other, etc... After about a month or so though, watch out!

Jane · 12-31-2005, 02:01 PM

I'm just in a mood today (everyday), so just ignore me.

Depends on the relationship. Depends on the man.

LarryTheShiveringChipmunk · 12-31-2005, 02:03 PM

..or the rodent

Jane · 12-31-2005, 02:04 PM

or the rodent....is correct.

12-26-2005, 07:17 PM	#1
babygidget Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 11	I want to rope a fat man(for bhms) I'm not sure what to do, I met a very cute and sweet large bellied BHM online, met him in person and I have not heard from him yet???? Should I make the first move???? Email him first or wait for him to make the first move, I would rather he make the first move but I don't know if he liked me or not, wouldn't he have asked me out when we saw each other if he did like me?? I'm a tall average weight girl, maybe he only liked bigger girls??? I'm perplexed. Gidge

12-27-2005, 04:32 PM	#4
BigFusionNYC Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: New York City - Lower Manhattan Posts: 215	My advice to you is to just casually e-mail him, like a FWD joke and then later on be like Oh my email's been acting funny, just wanted to say hi cutie, drop me a line Remember, I'm always right sometimes.....go for it! __________________ The General http://www.myspace.com/fusionjorge

12-28-2005, 11:13 AM	#7
LillyBBBW Executive Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Massachusetts Posts: 12,305	Yeah, go ahead and hit him up. The worst that could happen is that he's not interested and you're no worse off. Drop him a line. __________________ Expecting the world to treat you kindly because you are a good person is like expecting the bull not to charge because you are a vegetarian. He who asks a dumb question is a fool for five minutes. He who never asks questions remains a fool forever. You are not superior just because you see the world in an odious light. Have you hugged a fat girl today? @~;~~

12-28-2005, 02:37 PM	#8
EvilBob Embattled Illusion Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Born in Pittsburgh, PA, currently in Hollywood, CA Posts: 142	Go for it... If he doesnt reply, you drop me a note! __________________ ========================== (Not very) Evil Bob ==========================

12-28-2005, 05:31 PM	#9
babygidget Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 11	I'm trying to rope a fat man I couldn't help myself, I had to hug him after our lunch date to feel his belly up against me !!! Maybe he was scared of me after that!!!! If a girl make a first move to touch a big man does it frighten him??? Why is it so hard to let a big man know that he is attractive???? Its almost like he has to be hit over the head.

12-26-2005, 08:15 PM	#2
LarryTheShiveringChipmunk has left dims Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 2,139	go for it! can't hurt eh?

12-26-2005, 09:09 PM	#3
Fat Gary NYC Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Flushing, NY Posts: 72	You didn't say anything about how the meeting went. Maybe he thought 'now that she's seen me in person, she's no longer interested'? If you're really interested in this guy, I say you should make the first move. If someone were interested in me I'd be flattered if she told me so.

12-28-2005, 04:13 AM	#5
Big-Phil Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: London, UK Posts: 85	Just go for it, sometimes us BHMs need to be told clearly that women are interested in us!

12-28-2005, 10:43 AM	#6
Zackariah Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 34	Life is too short to wait for others to make the first move. It's entirely possible he's doing the exact same thing. The worst thing that could happen would be for him to say no... but isn't it worth the risk? I've always thought that honesty is the best foundation for a relationship, if you intend it to last. I don't see the point in playing games... after all, if in fact they don't want a relationship, I'd rather be alone than waste my time on that kind of emotional rollercoaster.

12-28-2005, 05:34 PM	#10
bigcheese211 Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Gainesville, Florida Posts: 27	i cant speak for all big men but it doesnt frighten me, especially if i find you attractive as well.. but thats just me.. hug me anytime babe..

12-28-2005, 07:05 PM	#12
LarryTheShiveringChipmunk has left dims Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 2,139	heck id love to have a lady randomly hug me (:

12-29-2005, 06:24 PM	#13
babygidget Junior Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 11	I'm Sad I didn't hear from the fat man that I was trying to rope, so cute 6 foot 350 plus, Oh well, I guess I have to get a skinny one and feed him home made peanut butter cookies until he gains some weight!!! Any of you chubby guys want to chat, I'm here,

12-29-2005, 06:55 PM	#14
EvilBob Embattled Illusion Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Born in Pittsburgh, PA, currently in Hollywood, CA Posts: 142	I'm a comin'! You can always come scoop me up, Kat! 45 minutes away... 6'4", 350lbs of sexy big guy! __________________ ========================== (Not very) Evil Bob ==========================

12-31-2005, 05:22 AM	#17
Jane Photo (c) Fatlane Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Tangled up in Blue Posts: 9,186	Guys, please, please, don't do the freeze up thing to us. It is so hard to be an assertive woman when it comes to sex. Then to see an adverse reaction sure sets you back. It gets really difficult to make the move again with either this person or the next one. Understand that if she didn't find you attractive, most women would not have built up the courage to make the move. __________________ "A nation of sheep will beget a government of wolves." ~ Edward R. Murrow

12-31-2005, 01:33 PM	#18
EvilBob Embattled Illusion Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Born in Pittsburgh, PA, currently in Hollywood, CA Posts: 142	Take whatcha need! It is hard to be assertive as a man too sometimes, and personally, I am tired of being in control in the sex department! It is nerve-wracking -- with a new relationship especially. I would love a woman who just knew what she wanted and wasnt shy about it! Demure has its place, but not in my bed! XOXO EB __________________ ========================== (Not very) Evil Bob ==========================

12-31-2005, 01:39 PM	#19
Jane Photo (c) Fatlane Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Tangled up in Blue Posts: 9,186	We know (or at least hope) it's hard to be a man. ROFL Sorry, smut mind. It's the beginning of relationship moves that are hard for me. After that I "throw" 'em "around like a rag doll" at least that was the request I had this week. __________________ "A nation of sheep will beget a government of wolves." ~ Edward R. Murrow

12-31-2005, 01:48 PM	#20
missaf Master Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 4,734	Most of them men, fat men, I've been with prefer to keep at a distance, the "just pals" out in public, but when behind closed doors, and I insist on throwing them around like rag dolls and I let them know their size is incredibly attractive. I'm not afraid to use my size to accentuate the fun, they start to see what I'm talking about. The only thing I absolutely insist on, is belly to belly cuddling or spooning, where I can show just how much fun his belly is to me

12-31-2005, 01:56 PM	#21
Jane Photo (c) Fatlane Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Tangled up in Blue Posts: 9,186	Well, in public, I don't want them riding my leg like a crazed little dog....other than that, though...... __________________ "A nation of sheep will beget a government of wolves." ~ Edward R. Murrow

12-31-2005, 02:01 PM	#23
Jane Photo (c) Fatlane Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Tangled up in Blue Posts: 9,186	I'm just in a mood today (everyday), so just ignore me. Depends on the relationship. Depends on the man. __________________ "A nation of sheep will beget a government of wolves." ~ Edward R. Murrow

12-31-2005, 02:03 PM	#24
LarryTheShiveringChipmunk has left dims Join Date: Dec 2005 Posts: 2,139	..or the rodent

12-31-2005, 02:04 PM	#25
Jane Photo (c) Fatlane Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Tangled up in Blue Posts: 9,186	or the rodent....is correct. __________________ "A nation of sheep will beget a government of wolves." ~ Edward R. Murrow

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