casual sex

[Canonista]

Originally Posted by LoveBHMS

I am not sure what your age has to do with your inability to find a woman who wants to allow you access to her body without a commitment.

Just off the top of my head:

1. young women who are focused on school or building a career.

2. young/middle aged women who married young and divorced young who are not currently interested in finding another husband.

3. Older women who are divorced/widowed/spinsters who are willing to engage in this behaviour because their chances of finding a romantic relationship are very small whether or not they want one. IOW, women willing to compromise.

4. While I'm not going to make a moral judgement on this, there are women of all ages who are in committed partnerships who are unfulfilled sexually and willing to seek fulfillment outside of their current relationship.

5. Single mothers of all ages whose primary committment is to their child or children who merely want the physical satisfaction of sexual contact but do not want to date.

6. I was not being facetious when I suggested an escort. If engaging in sexual contact without the fuss of a committment is something you need, why not simply pay for it?

Married/taken women = off limits.

I don't want a "solicitation of prostitution" arrest to have to explain to my son. Also, I want intimacy, which to me is more than thrusting into a warm body. Hookers aren't exactly known for quality snuggle time.

[Smite]

Automatically assuming you're going to be arrested for a GFE or Escort is silly. I don't think they even arrest for GFE.

[BLUEeyedBanshee]

Originally Posted by Smite

Automatically assuming you're going to be arrested for a GFE or Escort is silly. I don't think they even arrest for GFE.

GFE? Ok, I'll bite, what's a GFE?

[Smite]

Girlfriend Experience. As in you pay an enormous amount for the girl to go on a date with you, then end with a little somethin' somethin'.

[Canonista]

Originally Posted by Smite

Girlfriend Experience. As in you pay an enormous amount for the girl to go on a date with you, then end with a little somethin' somethin'.

Right, except about half the escort services around here are undercover setups by law enforcement. It is presumed that the hiring of an escort is for sexual services and you will be led away in handcuffs. You may beat the charges with a lawyer and a boatload of cash, but I'd rather not have to do that in the first place.

[BLUEeyedBanshee]

Ahhh ok. Glad I know now.

[Scott]

Originally Posted by BLUEeyedBanshee

Ahhh ok. Glad I know now.

Elizabeth, if it makes you feel any better, I'd never heard the term "GFE" either.

[BLUEeyedBanshee]

Originally Posted by Scott

Elizabeth, if it makes you feel any better, I'd never heard the term "GFE" either.

Good, I was not alone.

As for casual sex...I dunno. I think at one time in my life I thought it was possible. Now I'm not so sure. I think I always end up wanting more.

[Baigley]

I've always been kind of out of funk with most of the people my age (I'm 19), seeing things differently, different ideas, etc. Most couldn't wait to "do it, giggle giggle, hehe ." I've never really had a strong need for sexual contact, and was always more attracted thoughts to romance and a relationship rather than just physical pleasure. Maybe that's due to my "inexperience", but perhaps not. I'm not much of a casual person in any aspect of my life.

Most my age don't really understand what I explain to them, and they think it means I don't want anything until marriage, which is not true. Especially so when, a week from our first anniversary my high school sweetheart pretty much gave me an ultimatum; sex or breakup. That pretty much immediately killed any thoughts I'd had of having further intimacy with him. (Little TMI, I'm not cruel, I didn't deny him completely) My beliefs, it that's what you want to call them, were further inforced when he came crawling back about a month later, saying he would do anything I asked. Of course, he'd already found someone else to "do the deed" with, and was in fact seeing her during and after he came to me.

I am all for romance, commitment, and if I ever did happen to meet a guy who felt the same as I did, or wanted to wait all the way until marriage, well, I'd be just fine with that.

[Laina]

Originally Posted by BLUEeyedBanshee

I think I always end up wanting more.

Isn't that the nature of all sex?

[BLUEeyedBanshee]

Originally Posted by Laina

Isn't that the nature of all sex?

This is true.

*sigh*

It's good to have easy access all the time too ya know?

[Scott]

Originally Posted by BLUEeyedBanshee

It's good to have easy access all the time too ya know?

Whenever I've been in a relationship, I've felt that way - that it's nice to not worry about it, that you know whose bed you're sharing. It's very comforting, and enjoyable.

But then when I'm single, I feel like it's an adventure, there are possibilities that you just couldn't have otherwise. So it's really a win-win.

That being said, I think maybe there should be a happy medium between casual sex and being in a relationship. I'm not advocating sleeping around. But I'm okay with sleeping with someone who I'm not in a relationship with.

[Qit el-Remel]

Quite frankly, it would weird me out a bit. I can see the "self-imposed temporary vow of chastity" thing...but, as others have stated, it's hardly "casual sex" if you're committed to someone. (Marriage, in my opinion, is irrelevant. And possibly anachronistic.)

-Qit.

[Brooklyn Red Leg]

I guess a Friends with Benefits falls outside the definition of 'casual sex'. There is an emotional bond there (even if it would never lead to a more permanant relationship). I also assume a regular GFE with the same escort also falls outside the definition of 'casual sex' (since you're with the same partner multiple times).

I can definitely sing the praises of cougars. Nice to not have to jump through 10,000 fiery hoops and have to put up with all the emotional baggage many younger women bring to a relationship (or at least did when I was younger....God, if I only knew then what I know now).