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Old 03-22-2011, 08:54 AM   #1301
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Old 03-28-2011, 05:54 AM   #1302
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I don't care if others have already said it, I gotta say it too:

We -- fat women -- aren't fantasy. I know what's being sold in the paysite world can confuse matters for people who don't see past it, but fat women aren't an erotic construct. (Are all thin women a fantasy because there is porn with some of them in it?) Fat women are everywhere, all around you, going to concerts, swimming, whatever. Do you see them?

Nor is fat a "lifestyle," nor do people choose it--for the vast majority of folks. It's just who you are.

Dare to link up the images you see with the real people around you.
My wife doesn't understand my fascination with and attraction to her obesity, although she's quick to add she's very happy I find her very fat figure incredibly alluring. She has mixed emotions about her weight. She didn't choose to be supersize, and she regards her fat as something that's simply there and gets in her way sometimes. Her weight also tires her out. On the other hand, she accepts her size because it's part of who she is, and she likes who she is, so for that reason she has positive feelings about being fat.

We've known each other since grade school, I've seen her grow from a fat little girl to a very fat woman. I've loved her every step of the way, not because she's very fat and very sexy but because she's a wonderful woman who happens to have huge jiggly curves in all the right places. I do whatever I can to make her life easier, happier and more fat friendly. Although her fat may be something that's simply there, I embrace it with open arms, as often as possible.
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Old 03-28-2011, 12:26 PM   #1303
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Well for all the SSBBW with a job and without handicaps... this was not ment for you. But the rest was just a reality check and i think you all know it very well. Itīs obvious that a jobless person, nearly unable to work (not everybody can do computer jobs or whatever) have really big problems and somebody should think twice before dating such a person if he can dedicate enough to her. I hope you understand that, well maybe itīs egoistic, because i donīt spend every Cent i have left on my partner but sorry i prefer to have a life too. It has to go together, and it didnīt, i tried it and got only abused the worst way. Donīt want to go into details, but i helped somebody out of a very big misery for one year. Was the most stupid thing i ever did. Therefore no jobless people dating. Any BBW or SSBBW which causes just normal problems in a relationship is very welcome. I am not a social worker and donīt wanna be.
Dude. I'm pretty sure english is your second? or third language? So you may be unaware of how many ways you insulted people with your first post in this thread. But, yeah, you might want to run your stuff through google translate.

Oh. Wait. He later said he KNEW he was being insulting! And now he's been banned, anyway. So - too late.


The ONLY point of yours I'm going to touch on is this, if you'd just said:

"I don't want to support someone else - so (now) I only date women who have a job."

Without all the other shiz.
Then you'd probably have been OK.
Given that the reverse is something I've seen posted on DIMs many times.
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Old 03-28-2011, 12:36 PM   #1304
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Oh man, you need to stop. You didn't learn a shit assed thing. Why can't you just come clean with yourself and just admit that you got conned by a couple of proffessionals and you fell for it for a year? It happens all the time to all kinds of people and anybody is capable of doing this to you. SSBBWs dont own the patent on taking advantage of men for money. You think if you date a smaller woman she will be less or more likely to take you for a ride? You are profiling women under the wrong criteria. Anyone is capable of this. You got conned. Stop fooling yourself with, "Oh it was those pesky SSBBWs again!!" If you don't look at what went wrong in a realistic manner instead of objectifying body types and circumstantial rhetoric you are in danger of being taken again by some other person using the same tired techniques that you failed to recognized because you were so busy measuring asses. If after reading all these articulated testimonies you're still cleaving to your assurances that it was the fat that ripped you off then you've learned nothing at all.
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Old 03-28-2011, 12:43 PM   #1305
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Old 03-29-2011, 10:32 AM   #1307
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Old 04-26-2011, 11:13 PM   #1308
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we went to a music festival and had to walk for miles upon miles. I was about 375 at the time..and wasn't in bad shape for that size, but miles of walking is HARD. I would have to sit down periodically because of cramps in my legs and sore feet
If I were the guy in the above scenario, I'd be worried. Humans are walking and running machines... we're built for it. If your body is preventing you from getting simple things done like walking several miles without pain, it's your body asking for help before you encounter much worse health issues. Some of the best women I've dated are just big, but they'll still manage to outrun most people and make a mockery of you in a swim race.

I want to stress that weight isn't problematic - it's just the physical limitation of not being able to walk several miles. It's a sign your body needs more practice doing just that. If you exercise regularly and you're still 375lbs, that's great and this forum is proof there's a long list of men waiting to date you. But given the trade, I hope your preference would be to stay capable rather than to stay heavy.

Personally, if I'm going to fall in love with someone, I want someone who will be with me for as long as possible. Someone whose daily activities are impeded like this is someone who's giving into limitations. What limitations will they accept in 5 years? In 20? Many places on these forums tell heart-wrenching personal stories of health problems that occur when you just let new limitations set in and become a part of your life.

So again - being heavy isn't being unhealthy. But dammit, be healthy! For me, selfishly, the more healthy heavy women in the world, the more great dates guys like me have to choose from
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I want to stress that weight isn't problematic - it's just the physical limitation of not being able to walk several miles. It's a sign your body needs more practice doing just that. If you exercise regularly and you're still 375lbs, that's great and this forum is proof there's a long list of men waiting to date you. But given the trade, I hope your preference would be to stay capable rather than to stay heavy.
*smacks myself on the forehead*

What a novel concept! Exercise and be healthy...why didn't I think of that? Thanks ever so much for the advice.
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If I were the guy in the above scenario, I'd be worried. Humans are walking and running machines... we're built for it. If your body is preventing you from getting simple things done like walking several miles without pain, it's your body asking for help before you encounter much worse health issues. Some of the best women I've dated are just big, but they'll still manage to outrun most people and make a mockery of you in a swim race.

I want to stress that weight isn't problematic - it's just the physical limitation of not being able to walk several miles. It's a sign your body needs more practice doing just that. If you exercise regularly and you're still 375lbs, that's great and this forum is proof there's a long list of men waiting to date you. But given the trade, I hope your preference would be to stay capable rather than to stay heavy.

Personally, if I'm going to fall in love with someone, I want someone who will be with me for as long as possible. Someone whose daily activities are impeded like this is someone who's giving into limitations. What limitations will they accept in 5 years? In 20? Many places on these forums tell heart-wrenching personal stories of health problems that occur when you just let new limitations set in and become a part of your life.

So again - being heavy isn't being unhealthy. But dammit, be healthy! For me, selfishly, the more healthy heavy women in the world, the more great dates guys like me have to choose from
Unlike these other snarky, beat around the bush comments....I'll just come out and say the truth. This line of thinking sucks and its not welcome on a board like this. People have struggled with their weights for years and years and they don't need to hear that kind of crap.

"I want a woman who will exercise and be healthy." Yeah well some can't do that because of degenerative health conditions, other health issues or just simply don't want to.

I'm not saying its not possible for fat women to be healthy and excercise, but to say its wrong not to is no different than Richard Simmons or Tony Little parading around here telling everyone that they're too fat and need to lose weight.

Who's to say you won't develop a condition that will need round the clock care in 20 years? Let's say you find this healthy, fat women you passed over women for and she leaves you for it when you could have had someone who's had health issues similar plus can sympathize and identify?

Have you never had a friend or lover with bad knees before? A bad back? Diabetes? Spina bifida? Have you ever had a friend with MS before? Do you expect them to be able to run a marathon too?

The reality is, if you're not prepared to deal with the harsh drawbacks to overweight lifestyles than you don't deserve to date someone around here. Love is about good times AND bad and if you can't deal with the bad then you'll never find love.
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If I were the guy in the above scenario, I'd be worried. Humans are walking and running machines... we're built for it. If your body is preventing you from getting simple things done like walking several miles without pain, it's your body asking for help before you encounter much worse health issues. Some of the best women I've dated are just big, but they'll still manage to outrun most people and make a mockery of you in a swim race.

I want to stress that weight isn't problematic - it's just the physical limitation of not being able to walk several miles. It's a sign your body needs more practice doing just that. If you exercise regularly and you're still 375lbs, that's great and this forum is proof there's a long list of men waiting to date you. But given the trade, I hope your preference would be to stay capable rather than to stay heavy.

Personally, if I'm going to fall in love with someone, I want someone who will be with me for as long as possible. Someone whose daily activities are impeded like this is someone who's giving into limitations. What limitations will they accept in 5 years? In 20? Many places on these forums tell heart-wrenching personal stories of health problems that occur when you just let new limitations set in and become a part of your life.

So again - being heavy isn't being unhealthy. But dammit, be healthy! For me, selfishly, the more healthy heavy women in the world, the more great dates guys like me have to choose from
As a person who participates in outdoor music festivals multiple times each summer what you are saying is simply untrue. I've gigged at these things for over 25 years and can hardly get anyone of normal size to go with me to these things because of the walking involved. This isn't like cruising 'round the mall or shopping at Whole Foods. These festivals often occur in high altitudes, rough uneven terrain, strange bugs and pollen counts, hot sun, etc. Staffers ride around in golf carts looking for people who can't make it up. I've brought kids with me to these things and even they rub their feet by day's end and eat like hogs the whole time. These trips take a lot out of people. There is nothing wrong with people who get worn out doing this stuff.

That being said, don't kid yourself. These things take their toll. If you find an SSBBW who is willing to do this stuff with you then so be it but start saving for that all terrain mobility scooter. She's going to need it by the time you get through with her and that's the only way you're going to be able to drag her along on these adventures forever. I don't care who she is or how healthy she is, this will abuse her body more so than anyone else's. A SS body is NOT built for this kind of thing. SSBBWs are not for you.
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As a person who participates in outdoor music festivals multiple times each summer what you are saying is simply untrue. I've gigged at these things for over 25 years and can hardly get anyone of normal size to go with me to these things because of the walking involved. This isn't like cruising 'round the mall or shopping at Whole Foods. These festivals often occur in high altitudes, rough uneven terrain, strange bugs and pollen counts, hot sun, etc. Staffers ride around in golf carts looking for people who can't make it up. I've brought kids with me to these things and even they rub their feet by day's end and eat like hogs the whole time. These trips take a lot out of people. There is nothing wrong with people who get worn out doing this stuff.

That being said, don't kid yourself. These things take their toll. If you find an SSBBW who is willing to do this stuff with you then so be it but start saving for that all terrain mobility scooter. She's going to need it by the time you get through with her and that's the only way you're going to be able to drag her along on these adventures forever. I don't care who she is or how healthy she is, this will abuse her body more so than anyone else's. A SS body is NOT built for this kind of thing. SSBBWs are not for you.
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This is my 6,000th post on Dimensions and with it I will ask if you'll be my wedding singer when the time comes? lol
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This is my 6,000th post on Dimensions and with it I will ask if you'll be my wedding singer when the time comes? lol
Congrats on 6,000! And yes. Just let me know when it is and I'll warm up the harmonica.
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Some of us like (or need) to be dropped off at the front of the store..and i personally have to ride in the cart and would not want to be with a man who would be embarrassed by that.
I agree that if something happens to you, and you can't get around as well, then that's that. It's just important not to conflate that with choosing to accept limitation. They're very different things, and it can be used as a way to deflect too easily.
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Well, it comes off as novel when things like this are said:

I agree that if something happens to you, and you can't get around as well, then that's that. It's just important not to conflate that with choosing to accept limitation. They're very different things, and it can be used as a way to deflect too easily.
Bluntly...you completely missed the point of this thread. I sincerely pity any fat woman unfortunate enough to date someone with that attitude.

Moving on!

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If I were the guy in the above scenario, I'd be worried. Humans are walking and running machines... we're built for it. If your body is preventing you from getting simple things done like walking several miles without pain, it's your body asking for help before you encounter much worse health issues. Some of the best women I've dated are just big, but they'll still manage to outrun most people and make a mockery of you in a swim race.

I want to stress that weight isn't problematic - it's just the physical limitation of not being able to walk several miles. It's a sign your body needs more practice doing just that. If you exercise regularly and you're still 375lbs, that's great and this forum is proof there's a long list of men waiting to date you. But given the trade, I hope your preference would be to stay capable rather than to stay heavy.

Personally, if I'm going to fall in love with someone, I want someone who will be with me for as long as possible. Someone whose daily activities are impeded like this is someone who's giving into limitations. What limitations will they accept in 5 years? In 20? Many places on these forums tell heart-wrenching personal stories of health problems that occur when you just let new limitations set in and become a part of your life.

So again - being heavy isn't being unhealthy. But dammit, be healthy! For me, selfishly, the more healthy heavy women in the world, the more great dates guys like me have to choose from
Fortunately for a lot of us, you aren't in charge of daily habits, exercise practices and habits, genetics, fate/destiny, our relationships, and much more. I completely empathize with wanting to be with someone for as long as possible, but sometimes people aren't always in control of their body and what becomes of it. And dare I say it, others are and continue to be fat and moderately unhealthy (or healthy).

Sometimes it's a choice. Sometimes it's just the way it is. Sometimes it's something else. All the time, though, people deserve not be told how to live their lives, physically limited or not.
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I agree that if something happens to you, and you can't get around as well, then that's that. It's just important not to conflate that with choosing to accept limitation. They're very different things, and it can be used as a way to deflect too easily.
You demonstrate her point so well here. Her statement wasn't conflated at all. Most people would assume as much just as you have but the truth is Largeandlovely was in a car accident and needs to ride around in the cart and be dropped off at the door. For now anyway, until they can replace her fused hip joint. She therefore needs to be with someone not turned off by the stigma of people assuming she limps because she's lazy and irresponsible with her health. Even after her hip is replaced and her mobility is returned to her I don't think she would be interested in someone who scorns the disabled.
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You demonstrate her point so well here. Her statement wasn't conflated at all. Most people would assume as much just as you have but the truth is Largeandlovely was in a car accident and needs to ride around in the cart and be dropped off at the door. For now anyway, until they can replace her fused hip joint. She therefore needs to be with someone not turned off by the stigma of people assuming she limps because she's lazy and irresponsible with her health. Even after her hip is replaced and her mobility is returned to her I don't think she would be interested in someone who scorns the disabled.
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You demonstrate her point so well here. Her statement wasn't conflated at all. Most people would assume as much just as you have but the truth is Largeandlovely was in a car accident and needs to ride around in the cart and be dropped off at the door. For now anyway, until they can replace her fused hip joint. She therefore needs to be with someone not turned off by the stigma of people assuming she limps because she's lazy and irresponsible with her health. Even after her hip is replaced and her mobility is returned to her I don't think she would be interested in someone who scorns the disabled.
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Why does ANY SSBBW need to justify their existence, including the inconvenient truths of it? I want to be treated compassionately like a human being because I am a human being not because I have a legitimate disability or that SSBBW over there just can't walk very far without assistance or getting winded.

Kudos to the more ample women here who can hike and bike and do all the other strenuous cardiac pumping activities but I don't owe anyone any explanation as to why I can or can't do what I can or can't do. If you (general you) can find that elusive 500 lb. unicorn who can do cartwheels and marathons, then more power to both of you but lots of luck finding her and make sure you stay out of my way because there are plenty of men who are more than willing to fall all over themselves to drive me to the front door in style because it pleases me and it pleases him to please me and he knows that for every kindness he gives, it will be reciprocated in abundance.
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Why does ANY SSBBW need to justify their existence, including the inconvenient truths of it? I want to be treated compassionately like a human being because I am a human being not because I have a legitimate disability or that SSBBW over there just can't walk very far without assistance or getting winded.

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