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Old 12-01-2015, 12:46 AM   #1
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I don't find the popular culture view of what is sexy.... sexy. I like bigger girls.... I love wide hips... especially with narrow shoulders. I love big thighs. I geuss you would say pear shaped women. Something about them drives me nuts. Am I weird or does that secretly turn on most guys.
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It is not a mainstream preference.

However, it's also a preference that has always been part of the human sexual experience, is much more accepted in some cultures, and has millions of people who share it even in our own culture. So you're not alone.

I agree that it's a drag to find oneself outside the norm on these things. But as problems go, it's a minor one. Indeed, the real burden is borne by BBWs and SSBBWs, who all too often internalize self-loathing as a result of society's somewhat arbitrary 'standards' of beauty. Just pursue your preference and enjoy it.
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It is not a mainstream preference.

However, it's also a preference that has always been part of the human sexual experience, is much more accepted in some cultures, and has millions of people who share it even in our own culture. So you're not alone.

I agree that it's a drag to find oneself outside the norm on these things. But as problems go, it's a minor one. Indeed, the real burden is borne by BBWs and SSBBWs, who all too often internalize self-loathing as a result of society's somewhat arbitrary 'standards' of beauty. Just pursue your preference and enjoy it.
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Yes you're weird. But so is the rest of the world. Don't always believe what the television, media, social networks, and so on want you to think. We're all imperfect after all. And that's a good thing.
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I agree that it's a drag to find oneself outside the norm on these things.
It has its compensations, though: it's easier to meet the women you're most interested in when the other guys are all drooling over someone else.
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I watch the rest of the world drool over Megan Fox, Scarlett Johansson, etc. I just think, "Meh." They don't do a thing for me. Give me a beautiful woman with thick curves - or hell, a fatass woman with lots of thickness on her. Star Jones at nearly any weight - now that's what I'm talking about.

I saw Pitch Perfect (and its much better sequel) with my wife. It's full of skinny, perky women - obvious eye candy. Needless to say, the only one I watched at all was Rebel Wilson. (Bonus points because she's smart, too.)
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I watch the rest of the world drool over Megan Fox, Scarlett Johansson, etc. I just think, "Meh." They don't do a thing for me. Give me a beautiful woman with thick curves - or hell, a fatass woman with lots of thickness on her. Star Jones at nearly any weight - now that's what I'm talking about.

I saw Pitch Perfect (and its much better sequel) with my wife. It's full of skinny, perky women - obvious eye candy. Needless to say, the only one I watched at all was Rebel Wilson. (Bonus points because she's smart, too.)
It's always bugged me that normal guys swim in a media sea of women they rate as hot and sexy; FAs hardly ever see anyone in film or TV or magazines that they would rate that way. I remember when January Jones's character on Mad Men started 'gaining weight' via a fat suit - it was the first time that I actually noticed what a total knockout she is! Before that I'd basically been oblivious.
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It's always bugged me that normal guys swim in a media sea of women they rate as hot and sexy; FAs hardly ever see anyone in film or TV or magazines that they would rate that way. I remember when January Jones's character on Mad Men started 'gaining weight' via a fat suit - it was the first time that I actually noticed what a total knockout she is! Before that I'd basically been oblivious.
It bugs me that you refer to non-FAs as "normal guys"
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I don't find the popular culture view of what is sexy.... sexy. I like bigger girls.... I love wide hips... especially with narrow shoulders. I love big thighs. I geuss you would say pear shaped women. Something about them drives me nuts. Am I weird or does that secretly turn on most guys.
Liking bigger girls is an addiction. There are currently no approved therapies available. One effective way to reduce withdrawal symptoms is dating a fat girl.
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OK, amend that to "guys with mainstream preferences." Even better would be "normalized preferences."
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It's always bugged me that normal guys swim in a media sea of women they rate as hot and sexy; FAs hardly ever see anyone in film or TV or magazines that they would rate that way. I remember when January Jones's character on Mad Men started 'gaining weight' via a fat suit - it was the first time that I actually noticed what a total knockout she is! Before that I'd basically been oblivious.
I'll let the "normal guys" thing slide since I willingly admit I'm anything but normal, but for me, it's the fact that those skinny women are crammed down our throats as what is factually sexy while any women we like are dismissed as ugly and those who like them are looked down upon.

I once commented to a fellow law student that I found Star Jones attractive, and she pretty much stopped short of calling me a weirdo through her nose.
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I'll let the "normal guys" thing slide since I willingly admit I'm anything but normal, but for me, it's the fact that those skinny women are crammed down our throats as what is factually sexy while any women we like are dismissed as ugly and those who like them are looked down upon.

I once commented to a fellow law student that I found Star Jones attractive, and she pretty much stopped short of calling me a weirdo through her nose.
Right. There's an imposed homogeneity out there; better put, a hegemonic conception of what's 'sexy.' But it must be nice to be non-FA and see stunning sexiness splashed all over TV and movies, non-stop. In the pre-internet world, which I'm sad to say I'm old enough to remember, even FA erotica was hard to find.

My first gf called me weird - not in a joking way, either - when I told her I was attracted to her body as it was because I liked her type of build. I found that response humiliating, and it made me pretty gun-shy to be vocal about my preferences thereafter, unfortunately (not that I ever let it discourage me from dating BBWs, not at all).
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This seems pretty true as near as I can figure. There are exceptions and I dated a couple. A confident woman is a beautiful thing, and really noteworthy if she's a confident BBW. It seemed a lot of the BBWs I dated had their defenses up. They'd been the victims of someone just trying to "bang a fat chick" then move on or the object of someone's fetish. It took some serious patience and communication skills to break through those defenses and in some cases I never did. Which is fine because it all led me to the woman I'm married to today. But it hasn't been without its frustrations.

Regarding my wife, I've realized there will never be the level of self-appreciation that I wish she'd have until she brings herself down to a weight level she feels more comfortable in. There are two take-aways with this realization: 1) It's my cross to bear as an FA with a BBW wife. Being married to this woman is an absolute privilege but it doesn't come without emotional issues stemming from weight and this is something I have to accept and 2) It's vital to support her when she embarks on her weight loss efforts again. She did well and dropped over 120 pounds at one point. Then one thing after another derailed her and she gained a lot of that back. As of now she's in a "why bother" state of mind until after the New Year, but I know she wants to hit it hard again in January. And when she does it'll be time to put my own preferences aside and embrace what's important to her. It does her no good to lose weight and for me to say stuff like, "I'm happy for you but I liked you better fat." Nope. I have to sincerely get on board with her and I will.
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I don't find the popular culture view of what is sexy.... sexy. I like bigger girls.... I love wide hips... especially with narrow shoulders. I love big thighs. I geuss you would say pear shaped women. Something about them drives me nuts. Am I weird or does that secretly turn on most guys.
Depends what you mean by "weird." If by "weird," you mean "not like 50+% of people, the answer is "yes." If, on the other hand, you mean it in a negative context, the answer is "no." There's nothing wrong with feeling that way.

As an aside, I've closed my eyes during TV shows from time to time myself, and actually found myself more able to sympathize with the characters, so there you go.
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