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Old 05-08-2009, 12:11 PM   #26
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I'm thin, but not skinny - 5'4" and 127 lbs. I've never weighed much more and likely never will, but I have fantasized about being heavier - fat is just so damn sexy.

What the heck is ED? eating disorder, erectile disfunction, Ed (of Ed TV)???
lol..... Erectile dysfunction hahahaha....yeah I meant eating disorder. but for the sake of shits and giggles and the creativity...i think we'll say its erectile dysfunction...

Cammy, thank you so much, that put a smile on my face
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Admirer/encourager, and also to myself. Just wish it would stay on, very hard for me to gain.
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Old 05-09-2009, 03:43 PM   #28
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This, exactly.
I have gained quite a bit of weight recently unintentionally, i think about 3 st in about a year. My gf doesnt want me to gain any more. She is not an Fa, so that is fair enough.
When i was younger my fantasies were 50/50 thinking about others and myself being fat. I think now that i can have (well have) a partner who is fat, i would say that percentage has shifted slightly to fantasies about myself being fat. I am happy with my body now and was also happy with it when i was thinner. Gaining weight in real life wouldn't be a turn on for me i dont think, as it would be fraught with more insecurity than pleasure.. i guess this ties into my Fa guilt too. I'm sure i have more to add but i can't think right now.
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Old 05-14-2009, 02:12 PM   #29
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So now I have a question for the ladies I've always wondered what body type bbw/ssbbw tend to be more attracted in us guys. I guess it's all just a matter of preference, but when I see a bbw/ssbbw in public like 8/10 they are with guys who are average weight or have some meat on them. Very few do I notice with skinny guys. Anyone else notice this? Or am I just totally off
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Old 05-14-2009, 03:54 PM   #30
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I was never overweight at all. In fact I used to be underweight. I'm 5'11" and about 170 - 175 lbs. I used to be 135 lbs. I eat what I want when I want. But I don't eat large quantities of food. I don't eat much at all. But if I'm more physically active like after a bike ride then I'm more hungry. As to why I'm an FA I just know I'm more attracted to women that are soft bodied with luxurious padding. Not that I don't find thin wome attractive but certainly not scrawny thin women. Just give me a BBW any day, even an SSBBW.
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Old 05-14-2009, 08:21 PM   #31
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LOL I like it! so here's my weight : 155 pounds approximately I didn't weight myself for two years I think.
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Old 05-14-2009, 09:44 PM   #32
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I'm an overweight FFA (5'4, 14/16 top, 18/20 bottom), and I want to lose weight-- not a lot, maybe two pant sizes. I don't know how much I weigh, since I did have problems with an ED in high school, and I find numbers to be triggering. I've dealt with body image issues my whole life.

And, of course, I'm into BHM, and I've fantasized about encouraging (although I don't know that I'd actually do it IRL). I feel like such an awful hypocrite, and I hate the fact that I hold myself to a completely different standard than I do every other person of size.
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Old 05-20-2009, 07:36 PM   #33
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I've always been overweight, but not to a serious degree. I'm naturally pretty broad and have always had very thick leg/calf muscles, so me ever being "small" is out of the question.

I'd say I'm a shade under 6'0 and weigh about 225. I've never really been thrilled about being bigger myself, though I remember late in high school when I got to a point in my life when I said "You know what? You're not THAT big, and if you carry yourself with confidence, then why bother feeling all that bad about it?"

So yeah, I work out when I can and I've tried to clean up my eating habits a bit over time (my eating habits were definitely always the source of my being overweight), and I want to get down to around 200-210 or so, but it's not something I let hurt me anymore, since I don't let fears about my weight control my social life.

I do suppose one could say there's something hypocritical about a FA who doesn't want to be fat themselves, but that's just me; I don't feel good about myself if I get too big, so I don't intend on getting so.
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Old 05-20-2009, 09:40 PM   #34
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I am 5'11" and 185lbs. I've always been an athlete, and I don't plan on changing that. In the past I have felt guilt about being an athlete who was also an FA, but in recent weeks have come to better terms with the notion. I am still not entirely at peace with the idea, and suspect that I never will.
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I am 5"2 and I weigh 180 pounds. I have been an FA since I was a kid. I have had the desire to be fat since I was a kid too as well as the desire to be a bodybuilder. Crazy I know. I have tried to get fat on purpose to playing sports and working out and losing weight and back to gaining weight on purpose to joining the military and losing it again and back to gaining weight. It has been a viscious cycle in which I wish it would break. I just wish I was happy with whatever size I am. I just wish I was happy with the way I am now. I just want to know what would really make me happy.
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Old 05-20-2009, 10:01 PM   #36
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This is a very interesting topic. It is good to see the other side of things. When I was younger I dated a guy who was a personal trainer. I always wondered why a fit hard body guy wanted an ssbbw back then. I do prefer when the man is smaller than me, it just seems to be a better fit.
I'm planning on being a personal trainer next year and I'm into big girls.
I'm about 5'7 and weigh 65kg (145lbs). I want to gain weight, but mainly just muscle because of my future career.
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hehe.. its funny.. ive noticed a lot of Fa's are personal trainers!! Wonder why!?
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Old 05-25-2009, 09:28 PM   #39
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This, exactly.
I have gained quite a bit of weight recently unintentionally, i think about 3 st in about a year. My gf doesnt want me to gain any more. She is not an Fa, so that is fair enough.
When i was younger my fantasies were 50/50 thinking about others and myself being fat. I think now that i can have (well have) a partner who is fat, i would say that percentage has shifted slightly to fantasies about myself being fat. I am happy with my body now and was also happy with it when i was thinner. Gaining weight in real life wouldn't be a turn on for me i dont think, as it would be fraught with more insecurity than pleasure.. i guess this ties into my Fa guilt too. I'm sure i have more to add but i can't think right now.
Hmm..Good question Haunted!!. x
I'm in a similar spot, mergirl. I probably gained around 20 lbs since last fall, and it's clear that the boyfriend doesn't like it. He doesn't frown upon it or treat me differently, though. In general, I've always been tall and athletic, if not occasionally chubby. I use that word relatively, because I've never been bigger than a size 14 or smaller than an 8. I never thought about weight gain, either my own or another's, until I explored being an FA. It is something of a fantasy, but I'm satisfied with my body and whatever the boyfriend wants for himself. So, I suppose in answer to the original question, I'd say that an FA's relationship with their own weight and their orientation is dependent upon their unique relationship: it's completely based on each individual and their own sexuality.
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Although I am attracted to big men, I've been heavy before and I personally do not feel comfortable that way. I was born with club feet as a child which, though they were corrected, gave me knee problems which gave me hip problems which will, I'm sure, eventually give me back problems... (you know how it goes). Added weight complicated these issues. I do not carry weight well AT ALL and I actually have to work rather hard to keep it off. It kind of sucks.
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Old 05-26-2009, 11:34 AM   #41
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I think the solution to the disparity between one's size and one's partner's is to find a partner who likes their size. I'm happy at 170-190. That's all I got.
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I do suppose one could say there's something hypocritical about a FA who doesn't want to be fat themselves, but that's just me; I don't feel good about myself if I get too big, so I don't intend on getting so.
Lol, yeah kinda hypocritical, but I think like you do and am self conscious about my weight. I'm 185 and 5'11, but was probably around 210-215 a few months ago and felt like a fat ass. I'm usually between 175-185, so anything close to 200 and yeah my wardrobe becomes nothing but stripes LOL. I carry my weight well cause I've always played sports and worked out, but I just don't like being anywhere near 200lbs.
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I do suppose one could say there's something hypocritical about a FA who doesn't want to be fat themselves, but that's just me; I don't feel good about myself if I get too big, so I don't intend on getting so.
I don't know about that. A lot of the people we admire may not necessarily like their partners to be fat as well. That's a factor you have to also consider. Your desires vs. their desires.

It's always about compromises though. Maybe if you were to encourage a gain when it wasn't warranted, and you yourself (FA/FFA) had no special situation with you partner. That might be hypocritical.
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Lol, yeah kinda hypocritical, but I think like you do and am self conscious about my weight. I'm 185 and 5'11, but was probably around 210-215 a few months ago and felt like a fat ass. I'm usually between 175-185, so anything close to 200 and yeah my wardrobe becomes nothing but stripes LOL. I carry my weight well cause I've always played sports and worked out, but I just don't like being anywhere near 200lbs.
i like being athletic. i like women who are much softer. i like being in relationships with women who are perfectly content with this arrangement as well. no hypocrisy involved.
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I don't see any conflict with own body and desired body of your mate. The ground has been covered pretty well here. I have no interest in being fat personally. I feel like I think many others that muscular=masculine, soft & fat = feminine. Of course that is my taste and others, especially FFA's, see it quite differently.

My wife isn't interested in me being fat either which is a good thing. Not that she likes her weight either, but she knows how I feel (which is that it is a preference only, by no means a requirement). I don't dwell on it much perhaps because I know that I wouldn't want her to dwell on specific features of mine (to too great an extent). I love HER, she loves ME which is what most people want anyway. If there is mutual turn-on with being fat that is great but it certainly isn't necessary in my case.
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I dont think there is a problem, nor should there be any conflict is you are attracted to fat people but dont want to be fat yourself. Its like a woman loving guys and being in conflict because she doesnt particularly want a sex change. Well, its not really anything like that.. but i thought i would put that out there!
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I've been always thin and think that I'm a natural thin boy . Don't know if a big girl could make me a gain effect...
...however the opposite as attracted ,that's right??
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I was chubby when I was younger, but thinned out tremendou sly once I hit my teenaged years. I don't mind gaining a little weight, but I never want to keep it on and I don't really like how I like with more weight. I'm more interested in trying to gain muscle mass instead of fat.

Overall I'd like to remain between 160 and 180 (at 163 currently).
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I'm 5'2 and have never really been thin. For a while my weight leveled out at 170, then I hurt my knee and was less mobile which buoyed my weight to about 200. Then I comfort-ate my way to 220, then the freshman 15 (or so) got me to 240-245. I've bounced around there for a little and I really would like to slim down, at least to 200. Only reason is I don't like my lovehandles being bigger than my hips; shirts don't fit right.

But I like big guys and I'm into weight gain, but not so much if he's trying to gain it on purpose. I like him the idea of his obliviously indulging in his favourite foods until he strains his clothes. If I encourage him to eat another slice of pizza or so, no harm no foul! I think it's the sadist in me that wants his denial...

I'd like to be thin, but I'm pretty laid-back (nice way to say lazy, really) so chances are I won't be losing anytime soon. My health would benefit, though, so I might get on that. I dunno. I like food.

As long as any skinny guy makes it obvious he's an FA, then I don't mind staying so much bigger. Especially if he's got the natural thin body that's soft because he doesn't work out to keep that way
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like a lot of the people here, i love contrast. the last guy i dated was fourteen inches taller than me and weighed almost three times as much as i do, and i loved feeling tiny and helpless with him. i'm small but not thin... try to maintain but i'm not obsessive about it, although sometimes i go through a phase where i'm trying to lose a whole bunch of weight and it never works. so usually i just say fuck it, my body wants to be the size it is and no other.
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