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Old 07-28-2009, 06:55 AM   #26
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i'm pro-objectification! it's somewhat rightfully seen as sexist though because the consequences of objectifying women far outnumber the stigmas for objectifying men. i.e. men seen as a players, women as sluts
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Old 07-28-2009, 05:00 PM   #27
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i think she might have been in some ways when she was a BBW and wasn't doing porn anymore. but even then she wass not really the type of woman i'm talking about. she had the rep for being kinda easy crazy and drug abusing. she had a checkered past that hadn't been cleaned up at all. could she be looked at as the relationship and sensual type. sensual ,yes, but relationship might be iffy? i'm talking about the one you'd be proud for your mamma and your guyfriends to meet.
See i took a fantasy girl as someone that might be out of reach or someone you may not want to bring home to mom.

someone you would objectify and fantasize about. i think for fa's the woman that we open up to about our preference and the woman that accept us as we are, are the fantasy woman. What im trying to say is there is something much deeper to a bbw/fa relationship when the Fa is open about it and the BBW is accepting of herself.

i keep retyping this. i keep wanting to explain more but just keeps coming out wrong
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Old 07-28-2009, 08:06 PM   #28
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See i took a fantasy girl as someone that might be out of reach or someone you may not want to bring home to mom.

someone you would objectify and fantasize about. i think for fa's the woman that we open up to about our preference and the woman that accept us as we are, are the fantasy woman. What im trying to say is there is something much deeper to a bbw/fa relationship when the Fa is open about it and the BBW is accepting of herself.

i keep retyping this. i keep wanting to explain more but just keeps coming out wrong
i have that same problem myself. this is kind of a hard thing to define. but i think in a way you have illustrated what i mean perfectly. i'm not sure you even have a concept of the kind of woman i'm talking about because they just aren't available to you in the media. to me fantasy does not really mean unattainable per say. it just means food for the imagination.

have you found women within your preference presented in such a way in the media that thier personality and energy might even threaten to overtake your physical preference? is she so fantastic that her body might not always be the first thing you think about even though you found it devastating? those are the kind of women i'm talking about. does that make any sense?
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i have that same problem myself. this is kind of a hard thing to define. but i think in a way you have illustrated what i mean perfectly. i'm not sure you even have a concept of the kind of woman i'm talking about because they just aren't available to you in the media. to me fantasy does not really mean unattainable per say. it just means food for the imagination.

have you found women within your preference presented in such a way in the media that thier personality and energy might even threaten to overtake your physical preference? is she so fantastic that her body might not always be the first thing you think about even though you found it devastating? those are the kind of women i'm talking about. does that make any sense?
I think i get it now and like exile said "I have Her" Iv been given some flack for always talking about my personal relationship here. but seriously i can barely function with out her and when i see her i go all googly and stupid, my heart races, my legs get shaky. and im not just saying this to sound all romantic. i cannot stand being away from her and i yet i spend most days 3000 miles away. i have found my dream girl and she's a great big fat jiggly SSBBW and i love every little thing about her truly and deeply. and i still feel like i dont have the right words to properly convey just how much i love her. and how i desire her!
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Well for me I have to quote Ludachris "Lady in the streets, but a freak in the sheets". By Lady I am talking about a woman who is just a woman. She doesn't have to act like she is gods gift or anything, just act like a woman living life no matter her size. Something needs to be done she does it. Now where the fact that she is a BBW comes into play is at home in the bedroom. There she can be as big as she wants. That is my "dream" girl
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These are some really interesting questions. I wonder whether the "images of the mainstream media" are as crucial to the younguns around here as they were those of us who are now in our thirties or older. I would say that with so many FA-related sites around it must be easier than it was for me to understand and accept your preferences.

I think the question of "fantasy" is really only problematic in a "first" relationship of its kind. If a man has always wanted to be with a BBW but hasn't, or has only been with BBWs who have negative attitudes about their weight, he might obsess about the physical aspect first just because of his newness and might overlook problems of chemistry. The same might be true for feeders who have had an FA/BBW relationship but not a feeder/feedee relationship. But I think in fairly short order the traditional questions of compatibility would come up. And certainly, if an FA goes on to have another relationship, I think once the newness of being able to express yourself physically in the way that you want fades away, FAs become just like any other people in romantic relationships.

I also wonder whether some BBWs may be more sensitive to the objectification issue than other women. I imagine that there are two logical reactions to the experience of having your body be subject to negative attention, as I imagine many BBWs experience. One is to rebel against the negative by uncritically embracing any positive attention, which would certainly lead to unfulfilling relationships that were just about the sex. Another would be to reject the importance of physical appearance altogether in favor of reminding yourself of your other salutary traits. And I wonder if this second choice doesn't lead some BBWs to impute that FAs have a greater sense of a "fantasy" physical relationship than other men do when in fact that is not the case.

Some level of objectification is impossible; in fact, it's difficult to delineate a bright line of difference between objectification and mere sexual desire. So long as there is a personality connection, I think a little obsession with one's partners physical traits is just fine.
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These are some really interesting questions. I wonder whether the "images of the mainstream media" are as crucial to the younguns around here as they were those of us who are now in our thirties or older. I would say that with so many FA-related sites around it must be easier than it was for me to understand and accept your preferences.

I think the question of "fantasy" is really only problematic in a "first" relationship of its kind. If a man has always wanted to be with a BBW but hasn't, or has only been with BBWs who have negative attitudes about their weight, he might obsess about the physical aspect first just because of his newness and might overlook problems of chemistry. The same might be true for feeders who have had an FA/BBW relationship but not a feeder/feedee relationship. But I think in fairly short order the traditional questions of compatibility would come up. And certainly, if an FA goes on to have another relationship, I think once the newness of being able to express yourself physically in the way that you want fades away, FAs become just like any other people in romantic relationships.

I also wonder whether some BBWs may be more sensitive to the objectification issue than other women. I imagine that there are two logical reactions to the experience of having your body be subject to negative attention, as I imagine many BBWs experience. One is to rebel against the negative by uncritically embracing any positive attention, which would certainly lead to unfulfilling relationships that were just about the sex. Another would be to reject the importance of physical appearance altogether in favor of reminding yourself of your other salutary traits. And I wonder if this second choice doesn't lead some BBWs to impute that FAs have a greater sense of a "fantasy" physical relationship than other men do when in fact that is not the case.

Some level of objectification is impossible; in fact, it's difficult to delineate a bright line of difference between objectification and mere sexual desire. So long as there is a personality connection, I think a little obsession with one's partners physical traits is just fine.
especially great points about objectification. i think in general its a good idea if as a BBW you try to go for balance there. i mean you shouldn't live your life to be just a physical image but you definitely shouldn't deny yourelf the priviledge of being appreciated in the physical sense either. doing either can probably end up making you feel that FAs in particular are bad guys. that because in either way you make the mistake in thinking. that is you'll stamp and expect all FAs as being focused on the physical. i think its probably important not to approach a guy on his physical preference anyway because there is an underlying assumption there that all you might be interested in is the body. and, if you treat a guy as if thats all he'll be interested in in you that can be a self fulfilling prophecy.
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