BBW Confessions thread

[mossystate]

Originally Posted by MizzSnakeBite

I don't know how well I flirt.

I've been told by a couple guys I'm "sensual." What ever the f- that means.

Yeah, I think the whole notion of ' flirting ' might be silly more than anything? Eh, I don't know. Maybe like the whole ' sexy ' thing, people should just be themselves and not worry...cuz the defintions are always changing.

[MizzSnakeBite]

Originally Posted by mossystate

Yeah, I think the whole notion of ' flirting ' might be silly more than anything? Eh, I don't know. Maybe like the whole ' sexy ' thing, people should just be themselves and not worry...cuz the defintions are always changing.

Yup.

When they tell me that, I just shake my head, 'cause I have no idea what they exactly mean. lol I'm just being me.

ETA: Plus, I'm not entirely sure I'd want to be all flirty and such. I'd be afraid to put out some signals that aren't exactly my intentions. IF that makes any sense. lol

[OneWickedAngel]

Originally Posted by thirtiesgirl

I'm curious. Did you see older women, like role model women to you, engage in naturally flirtatious behavior around men when you were younger? ..snip..

No, no role models at all. Almost all of the older women around me growing up were evil, man-haters (yes including my mother) or obvious prostitutes; I'm serious. It's all a product of learning by (opposite) example and me just being me.

Originally Posted by CastingPearls

Flirting is as natural to me as breathing. When I was younger I had no idea that it wasn't the same for everyone else. I have a friend who's painfully shy and so beautiful inside and out and I try to encourage her. But what might be second nature to me is agonizing and frustrating to her.

^^^THIS ^^^ This entire paragraph is me exactly on flirting.

Originally Posted by mossystate

Yeah, I think the whole notion of ' flirting ' might be silly more than anything? Eh, I don't know. Maybe like the whole ' sexy ' thing, people should just be themselves and not worry...cuz the defintions are always changing.

The Moss has spoken: quoted for truth!

Originally Posted by MizzSnakeBite

Yup.

When they tell me that, I just shake my head, 'cause I have no idea what they exactly mean. lol I'm just being me.

ETA: Plus, I'm not entirely sure I'd want to be all flirty and such. I'd be afraid to put out some signals that aren't exactly my intentions. IF that makes any sense. lol

It makes perfect sense.

Originally Posted by fatgirlflyin

IC that I ended a relationship today and I called my mom immediately so that I can't go back on my decision during a moment of weakness.

Not sure how I feel yet, kinda numb...

MAJOR HUGS. It gets a little worse before it gets better, but we do it does get better after a while.

[thirtiesgirl]

Originally Posted by OneWickedAngel

No, no role models at all. Almost all of the older women around me growing up were evil, man-haters (yes including my mother) or obvious prostitutes; I'm serious. It's all a product of learning by (opposite) example and me just being me.

Damn. Well, I guess my theory is shot to hell. I guess it's just me. I suck at interpersonal flirting and always will. It's not how I am around guys irl. Again, online, relatively anonymously, I can be good at verbal flirting. But in person, it's just not how I am.

[AnnMarie]

Originally Posted by fatgirlflyin

IC that I ended a relationship today and I called my mom immediately so that I can't go back on my decision during a moment of weakness.

Not sure how I feel yet, kinda numb...

Oh... E... THE relationship? or "a" relationship? I hope you're ok, honey.... Good thoughts your way.

[MisticalMisty]

Originally Posted by AnnMarie

Oh... E... THE relationship? or "a" relationship? I hope you're ok, honey.... Good thoughts your way.

Ditto what AM said E. Good luck.

[luscious_lulu]

Originally Posted by fatgirlflyin

IC that I ended a relationship today and I called my mom immediately so that I can't go back on my decision during a moment of weakness.

Not sure how I feel yet, kinda numb...

(((hugs)))

[fatgirlflyin]

Originally Posted by AnnMarie

Oh... E... THE relationship? or "a" relationship? I hope you're ok, honey.... Good thoughts your way.

THE and I will take all the good thoughts you can send my way.

[mossystate]

Sorry, ella.

[calauria]

Originally Posted by fatgirlflyin

IC that I ended a relationship today and I called my mom immediately so that I can't go back on my decision during a moment of weakness.

Not sure how I feel yet, kinda numb...

I'm so sorry. *hugs*

[calauria]

My type of flirting is kinda goofy and silly. I don't think guys even take me seriously because it's so ridiculous!! LOL!! I have a streak of immaturity, but I really enjoy pulling harmless pranks on cute guys. The expressions on their faces are priceless!!

[littlefairywren]

Originally Posted by mossystate

I just don't think there is one definition of ' flirting '. I mean, I see people who flirt and it seems so over the top - like they read somewhere how to do it. There are so many subtle actions and vibes that every person gives out...well, unless they are robots or beyond shy...and even then, you just never know what your audience will pick up on. I know that in one-on-one conversations with some men online, they have told me that there is something about me that defies all defintions of flirting...but they have felt they have been hit by a bus with Flirting shown as its destination. lol I am no Blanche Devereaux...my 'flirting ' is more subtle. I am sure you do fine.

That makes a lot of sense. I love flirting and being flirty, but the audience makes all the difference in whether it goes over well or not.

I have been told that I am good at it, but I personally am not aware of when I do it sometimes, and that has gotten me into some odd situations. But then if I focus on flirting with someone I am really into, I feel kind of daft lol.

Originally Posted by fatgirlflyin

IC that I ended a relationship today and I called my mom immediately so that I can't go back on my decision during a moment of weakness.

Not sure how I feel yet, kinda numb...

(((Hugs)))

[Tau]

@Ella - sending love and smishes

[Tau]

I suck at flirting - like totally suck. I'm either completely oblivious, stricken dumb with terror or exchanging nudie pics with said individual. I need some kind of middle ground .

[Ruffie]

I confess I am feeling a little sorry for myself for a decision I made earlier this year. Its going to be my birthday soon and our 25th anniversary after that. We discussed it and rather than have a party or go on a trip for the anniversary we decided to put the money into the much needed repairs on our house. We have had to replace eaves troughs, redo bedrooms, get new interior doors custom made for the house(old house have to have things custom milled) and so on. Now I am wishing that we could have done something cause its kind of anti climatic to not celebrate 25 years together and we don't even have the money to do anything other than a dinner out as hubby doesn't work for the summer(Educational Associate in a school) and we were using the savings for the rennos and extra living expenses. It hit me last night when my friend invited me to her brothers 25th anniversary party today, and I declined cause I hadn't originally been invited so would feel like a crasher but then realized it was also cause I would not feel too great knowing I wouldn't be able to do the same in three weeks time. I know I am being a big baby and this will pass but for now...*Puts on her pity party hat*

[luscious_lulu]

Originally Posted by Ruffie

I confess I am feeling a little sorry for myself for a decision I made earlier this year. Its going to be my birthday soon and our 25th anniversary after that. We discussed it and rather than have a party or go on a trip for the anniversary we decided to put the money into the much needed repairs on our house. We have had to replace eaves troughs, redo bedrooms, get new interior doors custom made for the house(old house have to have things custom milled) and so on. Now I am wishing that we could have done something cause its kind of anti climatic to not celebrate 25 years together and we don't even have the money to do anything other than a dinner out as hubby doesn't work for the summer(Educational Associate in a school) and we were using the savings for the rennos and extra living expenses. It hit me last night when my friend invited me to her brothers 25th anniversary party today, and I declined cause I hadn't originally been invited so would feel like a crasher but then realized it was also cause I would not feel too great knowing I wouldn't be able to do the same in three weeks time. I know I am being a big baby and this will pass but for now...*Puts on her pity party hat*

(((hugs)))

[LovelyLiz]

Originally Posted by Ruffie

I confess I am feeling a little sorry for myself for a decision I made earlier this year. Its going to be my birthday soon and our 25th anniversary after that. We discussed it and rather than have a party or go on a trip for the anniversary we decided to put the money into the much needed repairs on our house. We have had to replace eaves troughs, redo bedrooms, get new interior doors custom made for the house(old house have to have things custom milled) and so on. Now I am wishing that we could have done something cause its kind of anti climatic to not celebrate 25 years together and we don't even have the money to do anything other than a dinner out as hubby doesn't work for the summer(Educational Associate in a school) and we were using the savings for the rennos and extra living expenses. It hit me last night when my friend invited me to her brothers 25th anniversary party today, and I declined cause I hadn't originally been invited so would feel like a crasher but then realized it was also cause I would not feel too great knowing I wouldn't be able to do the same in three weeks time. I know I am being a big baby and this will pass but for now...*Puts on her pity party hat*

Consider me a guest at your pity party. Sorry, Ruffie! Life totally sucks sometimes.

[spiritangel]

Originally Posted by Ruffie

I confess I am feeling a little sorry for myself for a decision I made earlier this year. Its going to be my birthday soon and our 25th anniversary after that. We discussed it and rather than have a party or go on a trip for the anniversary we decided to put the money into the much needed repairs on our house. We have had to replace eaves troughs, redo bedrooms, get new interior doors custom made for the house(old house have to have things custom milled) and so on. Now I am wishing that we could have done something cause its kind of anti climatic to not celebrate 25 years together and we don't even have the money to do anything other than a dinner out as hubby doesn't work for the summer(Educational Associate in a school) and we were using the savings for the rennos and extra living expenses. It hit me last night when my friend invited me to her brothers 25th anniversary party today, and I declined cause I hadn't originally been invited so would feel like a crasher but then realized it was also cause I would not feel too great knowing I wouldn't be able to do the same in three weeks time. I know I am being a big baby and this will pass but for now...*Puts on her pity party hat*

Hugs could you mayby do something like a bring a plate and whatever alcahol you want to drink thing?? say youd preffer that to pressies or some such??

just a thought

big squishy hugs

[littlefairywren]

Originally Posted by Ruffie

I confess I am feeling a little sorry for myself for a decision I made earlier this year. Its going to be my birthday soon and our 25th anniversary after that. We discussed it and rather than have a party or go on a trip for the anniversary we decided to put the money into the much needed repairs on our house. We have had to replace eaves troughs, redo bedrooms, get new interior doors custom made for the house(old house have to have things custom milled) and so on. Now I am wishing that we could have done something cause its kind of anti climatic to not celebrate 25 years together and we don't even have the money to do anything other than a dinner out as hubby doesn't work for the summer(Educational Associate in a school) and we were using the savings for the rennos and extra living expenses. It hit me last night when my friend invited me to her brothers 25th anniversary party today, and I declined cause I hadn't originally been invited so would feel like a crasher but then realized it was also cause I would not feel too great knowing I wouldn't be able to do the same in three weeks time. I know I am being a big baby and this will pass but for now...*Puts on her pity party hat*

(((Hugs))) Ruffie

[ashmamma84]

IC someone I really respected and admired is not who I thought she was. Very disappointing. And as much as I hate to say it, a lot of her credibility went down the drain. She was so put together in most areas of her life, or so I thought and now as more things come to light I really have a hard time believing much about her. If I could tell her and be honest I'd say to her - be careful what you say and do - you never really know who's watching. Oh and what's done in the dark, will surely come to light (and the shine might not be so flattering).

[Ruffie]

Originally Posted by spiritangel

Hugs could you mayby do something like a bring a plate and whatever alcahol you want to drink thing?? say youd preffer that to pressies or some such??

just a thought

big squishy hugs

Thanks to everyone for the hugs and support!
Spiritangel thank you for the suggestion, but with the house in the middle of renovations and the resulting stuff piled up because of it not sure that could be an option(done in three weeks is tight) as the place is rather a mess right now.

[Ruffie]

Originally Posted by ashmamma84

IC someone I really respected and admired is not who I thought she was. Very disappointing. And as much as I hate to say it, a lot of her credibility went down the drain. She was so put together in most areas of her life, or so I thought and now as more things come to light I really have a hard time believing much about her. If I could tell her and be honest I'd say to her - be careful what you say and do - you never really know who's watching. Oh and what's done in the dark, will surely come to light (and the shine might not be so flattering).

Ashmamma I am sorry to hear about what came to light for you. It is disappointing to have someone misrepresent themselves to you but remember this they are letting themselves down far more than they let you down. You probably saw the good in this person and chose to see the best and put away the other hints along the way. Shows how big your heart is girl!

[BBW4Chattery]

Tried to rep all with hugs, ran out of rep, stay strong sweet ladies.

[Punkin1024]

Originally Posted by Ruffie

I confess I am feeling a little sorry for myself for a decision I made earlier this year. Its going to be my birthday soon and our 25th anniversary after that. We discussed it and rather than have a party or go on a trip for the anniversary we decided to put the money into the much needed repairs on our house. I know I am being a big baby and this will pass but for now...*Puts on her pity party hat*

Ruffie - you don't know how much I totally understand how you feel. Next time, really think about what you really, really want (have fun)! Trust me, I've been there, done that and I'm still in pity party mode! Sometimes, life has a way of really, really putting a damper on romance and celebrations. ((((HUGS)))))

[CarlaSixx]

I went out to a friend's place for a lil party earlier tonight. It was just the kind of fun I needed. I also had my first ibt of alcohol in awhile and my first hit of weed in Gawd knows how many years. And strangely... none of it affected me. I wanted it to, and it didn't. Bummer. But it was good adult fun (clean besides alcohol and weed, too). I really did need some time to laugh, and I'm glad it happened with the people that were there. But I just wish substances would actually affect me like it does others. Well... sometimes I wish it. They seem to have a lot more fun. Or maybe they're just acting like it? I dunno.