Have you ever been ID'd as a FA (m/f)?

stan_der_man · 07-09-2009, 12:20 AM

I'm curious if any of you, male or female have had this happen to you...

Just the other day my wife and I were out with our daughter at a local park upon which this relatively large sized woman with her child also arrived at the park. Her daughter and our daughter began playing together and at some point this woman and I sparked up a conversation. My wife who is obviously also large sized was sitting next to me a few feet away. Somehow I could tell by this woman's comfort in talking to me that she recognized I found fat women to be attractive. I've occasionally noticed while being with my wife, or when the fat girl tattoo on my arm was visible, fat women who seemed to recognize that I was a FA appeared noticeably more comfortable engaging me in conversation than women who more than likely didn't know I was a FA.

I'm curious to hear other people's take on this...

Dr. Feelgood · 07-09-2009, 07:23 AM

You could be right, Stan, but there are too many variables involved to be sure. For example, the setting: what could be less threatening than talking to a couple whose child is playing with your child? The lady might have reacted differently had you been alone. Then, too, your own demeanor must contribute a lot: you consistently come across as a gentleman and a genuinely friendly person, someone who means no harm. I suspect more people notice that than notice your tattoo.

Finally, I have noticed that, in my own case, the women I meet seem a lot more relaxed around me now that my hair has turned gray!

FatAndProud · 07-09-2009, 08:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Dr. Feelgood

Finally, I have noticed that, in my own case, the women I meet seem a lot more relaxed around me now that my hair has turned gray!

because grey hair is hot. everyone knows that.

MatthewB · 07-09-2009, 08:50 AM

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Originally Posted by FatAndProud

because grey hair is hot. everyone knows that.

Sure; even my dad knows that!

...erm, I'm sorry, that didn't come out quite right.

FatAndProud · 07-09-2009, 08:58 AM

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Originally Posted by MatthewB

Sure; even my dad knows that!

...erm, I'm sorry, that didn't come out quite right.

does your dad like fat chicks? if so...give him my phone number

shadowmaker87 · 07-09-2009, 10:49 AM

personally, i think big girls have more of a personality than a thin chick! they are more fun to b round with! tattos on them look way much cooler , they have way much more resecpt for othr ppl n they know how to strike up a convo and they r so much funnier ! my wife is big n i love her 4 her ! if i had to meet 1 of u guys (bbws) i would really love to take ur picture! im being serious bout ttht too!........ mark

StarWitness · 07-09-2009, 11:34 AM

My best friend is definitely on to me. We were watching Mad Men, and I remarked on how much I like Harry Crane, and he just kinda smirked at me and commented, "I knew you'd say that."

I'm usually way too shy IRL to flirt with BHM. I'm always concerned that because I'm a BBW that they will assume that I'm assuming they're the only guy I think I can get, or that we're "supposed to" be hitting on each other because we're both fat.

Tau · 07-09-2009, 12:07 PM

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Originally Posted by StarWitness

My best friend is definitely on to me. We were watching Mad Men, and I remarked on how much I like Harry Crane, and he just kinda smirked at me and commented, "I knew you'd say that."

I'm usually way too shy IRL to flirt with BHM. I'm always concerned that because I'm a BBW that they will assume that I'm assuming they're the only guy I think I can get, or that we're "supposed to" be hitting on each other because we're both fat.

OMG! You've just said exactly why I don't hit on fat guys! I thought I was the only one who felt that way

Melian · 07-09-2009, 01:07 PM

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Originally Posted by shadowmaker87

personally, i think big girls have more of a personality than a thin chick! they are more fun to b round with! tattos on them look way much cooler , they have way much more resecpt for othr ppl n they know how to strike up a convo and they r so much funnier ! my wife is big n i love her 4 her ! if i had to meet 1 of u guys (bbws) i would really love to take ur picture! im being serious bout ttht too!........ mark

Wow....since BBWs are "way much cooler" than us thin chicks, one must wonder why we're even allowed to live!

Anyway, snark aside, I'm ID'd as an FA by friends all the time. It's not even exclusively old friends - new friends (who have not seen my husband) still seem to clue in. For example, I was playing the drinking game "never have I ever" (if you've never played, one person says "never have I ever ___" and then everyone who has done that thing has to take a drink) with some fairly new friends, and one of them looks right at me and says "never have I ever fucked a guy over 300lbs." They all bust out laughing (ribbing, mind you...no hate) as I down my entire gin sour

zosimos · 07-09-2009, 04:10 PM

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Originally Posted by fa_man_stan

I've occasionally noticed while being with my wife, or when the fat girl tattoo on my arm was visible, fat women who seemed to recognize that I was a FA appeared noticeably more comfortable engaging me in conversation than women who more than likely didn't know I was a FA.

Can we please see a pic of your fat girl tattoo?

And yeah, I think I get ID'd as a FA pretty regularly, often from involontary salivatory double-takes.

Wild Zero · 07-09-2009, 04:29 PM

Boners are a dead giveaway.

tonynyc · 07-09-2009, 05:45 PM

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Originally Posted by fa_man_stan

I'm curious if any of you, male or female have had this happen to you...

Just the other day my wife and I were out with our daughter at a local park upon which this relatively large sized woman with her child also arrived at the park. Her daughter and our daughter began playing together and at some point this woman and I sparked up a conversation. My wife who is obviously also large sized was sitting next to me a few feet away. Somehow I could tell by this woman's comfort in talking to me that she recognized I found fat women to be attractive. I've occasionally noticed while being with my wife, or when the fat girl tattoo on my arm was visible, fat women who seemed to recognize that I was a FA appeared noticeably more comfortable engaging me in conversation than women who more than likely didn't know I was a FA.

I'm curious to hear other people's take on this...

That Tattoo you have is awesome- and that fact that you resemble two movie stars doesn't hurt. Make sure the TMZ folks keep their distance

rabbitislove · 07-09-2009, 06:03 PM

Im pretty forward with BHMs in real life, since a majority are wicked self concious and wouldnt know Im in to them. Plus most of my friends know, and joke about it. Its all good. I got no reason to hide in the closet.

BigChaz · 07-09-2009, 06:21 PM

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Originally Posted by rabbitislove

Im pretty forward with BHMs in real life, since a majority are wicked self concious and wouldnt know Im in to them. Plus most of my friends know, and joke about it. Its all good. I got no reason to hide in the closet.

I'm trying to work on this

Many a time I havn't realized until much, much later that she might have been into me, while at the time I was telling myself she is just being nice to me. I'm getting better though! I think.

CurvyEm · 07-10-2009, 12:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Dr. Feelgood

You could be right, Stan, but there are too many variables involved to be sure. For example, the setting: what could be less threatening than talking to a couple whose child is playing with your child? The lady might have reacted differently had you been alone. Then, too, your own demeanor must contribute a lot: you consistently come across as a gentleman and a genuinely friendly person, someone who means no harm. I suspect more people notice that than notice your tattoo.

Finally, I have noticed that, in my own case, the women I meet seem a lot more relaxed around me now that my hair has turned gray!

Old people always seem to smile and talk to me when I've got a fringe.

BothGunsBlazing · 07-10-2009, 10:33 AM

I have been.

My friends and I were watching Jackass 2 and the scene with Goddess Patty jumping on Wee Man came on and they all turned to me and said "I BET YOU KNOW THAT CHICK" all sarcastic like and I'm like, yep, that's Goddess Patty, we've spoken a few times online, she is very cool.

Cors · 07-10-2009, 10:42 AM

Shadowmaker87, I bet you haven't seen Melian's tattoos.

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Originally Posted by rabbitislove

Im pretty forward with BHMs in real life, since a majority are wicked self concious and wouldnt know Im in to them. Plus most of my friends know, and joke about it. Its all good. I got no reason to hide in the closet.

I agree, I had to throw myself at BBWs and they still won't get it, but they all get scared off when I tell them how much I looove their size. It is funny how strangers actually take me more seriously.

samuraiscott · 07-10-2009, 12:33 PM

If there are any FFAs in my neighborhood that like BHMs, feel free to holla anytime.

Oh, and I like BBWs

bmann0413 · 07-10-2009, 10:48 PM

Not really. In fact, most people around where I live don't even know what the hell a FA is. lol

But most larger girls around here tend to be kinda bitchy when I talk to them. Even if I were to just say hi.

stan_der_man · 07-11-2009, 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by tonynyc

That Tattoo you have is awesome- and that fact that you resemble two movie stars doesn't hurt. Make sure the TMZ folks keep their distance

Oh yes, I still get the Alda / Viggo double take now and then... the hazards of being a dual movie star look-alike...

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Originally Posted by Dr. Feelgood

You could be right, Stan, but there are too many variables involved to be sure. For example, the setting: what could be less threatening than talking to a couple whose child is playing with your child? The lady might have reacted differently had you been alone. Then, too, your own demeanor must contribute a lot: you consistently come across as a gentleman and a genuinely friendly person, someone who means no harm. I suspect more people notice that than notice your tattoo.
...

No doubt my friendly demeanor and charming personality are a draw for the ladies in the park... when I'm not ranting and kvetching about something course...

As for the gray hair... ehem... yes I'm getting there also...

You may be right, there are many variables no doubt... The simple fact that I was with my wife could easily have been a factor in having another woman feel more comfortable engaging in conversation with a male (myself). But there were many other instances where I sat in that park (or other parks) and larger sized women didn't seem so outwardly willing to engage in conversation. It could have been the friendliness of that specific person. But I do think on a few occasions, large sized women specifically approached me and engaged in conversations because of my fat girl tattoo. (Identifying me as a FA, or simply as a matter of curiosity...? Again, hard to say...)

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Originally Posted by zosimos

Can we please see a pic of your fat girl tattoo?

...

I'm on a computer that I can't easily upload a pic at the moment, but here is the Miami Ink vid where Deidra and I got our fat girl tattoos. There is a closeup of my tattoo towards the end of the video. I had a serious bad hair day btw...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FYWGy2ueBxE

zosimos · 07-12-2009, 06:29 PM

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Originally Posted by fa_man_stan

I'm on a computer that I can't easily upload a pic at the moment, but here is the Miami Ink vid where Deidra and I got our fat girl tattoos. There is a closeup of my tattoo towards the end of the video. I had a serious bad hair day btw...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FYWGy2ueBxE

Niiice!! That looks awesome. Am jealous. Thanks for posting that link.

rollhandler · 07-18-2009, 10:57 AM

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Originally Posted by bmann0413

Not really. In fact, most people around where I live don't even know what the hell a FA is. lol

Since I've moved I am discovering the same thing. But I still get pegged as "that guy that only likes fat girls" as soon as they see and ask about my tattoos as well.
Rollhandler

MickeyFFA · 07-21-2009, 12:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Tau

OMG! You've just said exactly why I don't hit on fat guys! I thought I was the only one who felt that way

Nope definetly not alone. I feel the same way too. I'm suprisingly more comfortable approaching thin, muscular men than the ones I really want to talk to. Take last night for example. I met these two cute guys and immediatly stated chatting up the thin one because I was afraid his chubby friend would think I only wanted him because I was fat too. I wonder if BHM actually think like that...

Tad · 07-21-2009, 12:50 PM

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Originally Posted by MickeyFFA

Take last night for example. I met these two cute guys and immediatly stated chatting up the thin one because I was afraid his chubby friend would think I only wanted him because I was fat too. I wonder if BHM actually think like that...

Yes, I'm quite positive that many do.

wrench13 · 07-23-2009, 07:24 PM

Yeah, I was identified as a FA by friends, family and co-workers after I showed up at home, party, dance or after work unwinding with a fat woman on my arm. Let's face it folks, unlike someone who has a thing for SMDB or furries, some other predeliction that doensn't manifiest iteslf so obviously, if you're an out FA, someone is bound to notice the fat cuties you're with!

07-09-2009, 12:20 AM	#1
stan_der_man The Teflon Frog Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Born in The Mission, raised on Rt. 66, living in the Squirrel Ghetto, SoCal Posts: 6,385	Have you ever been ID'd as a FA (m/f)? I'm curious if any of you, male or female have had this happen to you... Just the other day my wife and I were out with our daughter at a local park upon which this relatively large sized woman with her child also arrived at the park. Her daughter and our daughter began playing together and at some point this woman and I sparked up a conversation. My wife who is obviously also large sized was sitting next to me a few feet away. Somehow I could tell by this woman's comfort in talking to me that she recognized I found fat women to be attractive. I've occasionally noticed while being with my wife, or when the fat girl tattoo on my arm was visible, fat women who seemed to recognize that I was a FA appeared noticeably more comfortable engaging me in conversation than women who more than likely didn't know I was a FA. I'm curious to hear other people's take on this... __________________ . "Regardless of who runs the websites and organizations, the cause belongs to all of us.

07-09-2009, 07:23 AM	#2
Dr. Feelgood intellectual nerd Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: the Twilight Zone Posts: 4,000	You could be right, Stan, but there are too many variables involved to be sure. For example, the setting: what could be less threatening than talking to a couple whose child is playing with your child? The lady might have reacted differently had you been alone. Then, too, your own demeanor must contribute a lot: you consistently come across as a gentleman and a genuinely friendly person, someone who means no harm. I suspect more people notice that than notice your tattoo. Finally, I have noticed that, in my own case, the women I meet seem a lot more relaxed around me now that my hair has turned gray! __________________ Now all you women, Don't you come around Unless you weigh 'Bout fo' hundred pound... -- Dr. Feelgood & the Interns

07-09-2009, 10:49 AM	#6
shadowmaker87 Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 156	F/A's personally, i think big girls have more of a personality than a thin chick! they are more fun to b round with! tattos on them look way much cooler , they have way much more resecpt for othr ppl n they know how to strike up a convo and they r so much funnier ! my wife is big n i love her 4 her ! if i had to meet 1 of u guys (bbws) i would really love to take ur picture! im being serious bout ttht too!........ mark

07-09-2009, 11:34 AM	#7
StarWitness part square, part drape Join Date: May 2009 Location: Sexcriminalboat Posts: 694	My best friend is definitely on to me. We were watching Mad Men, and I remarked on how much I like Harry Crane, and he just kinda smirked at me and commented, "I knew you'd say that." I'm usually way too shy IRL to flirt with BHM. I'm always concerned that because I'm a BBW that they will assume that I'm assuming they're the only guy I think I can get, or that we're "supposed to" be hitting on each other because we're both fat. __________________ Oh yeah, like the people of New Jersey have never seen a fat guy and a chick make out. It's on the freaking state flag. --Homer Simpson I've always been a guy with a sweet tooth, and that girl's just like a king-size candy bar... --Sleater-Kinney

07-09-2009, 04:29 PM	#11
Wild Zero ǝןʇıʇ ɹǝsn Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Boston Posts: 2,893	Boners are a dead giveaway. __________________ We'll sing the songs to fan the flames of discontent.

07-09-2009, 06:03 PM	#13
rabbitislove Facon Bacon Bikini Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Rocky Mountain High, Colorado Posts: 1,098	Im pretty forward with BHMs in real life, since a majority are wicked self concious and wouldnt know Im in to them. Plus most of my friends know, and joke about it. Its all good. I got no reason to hide in the closet. __________________ Does the Pope Shit In The Woods?

07-10-2009, 10:33 AM	#16
BothGunsBlazing an ill wind blows Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 2,455	I have been. My friends and I were watching Jackass 2 and the scene with Goddess Patty jumping on Wee Man came on and they all turned to me and said "I BET YOU KNOW THAT CHICK" all sarcastic like and I'm like, yep, that's Goddess Patty, we've spoken a few times online, she is very cool.

07-10-2009, 12:33 PM	#18
samuraiscott True Story Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Georgia Posts: 642	If there are any FFAs in my neighborhood that like BHMs, feel free to holla anytime. Oh, and I like BBWs

07-10-2009, 10:48 PM	#19
bmann0413 PLAYER ONE READY! START! Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Louisiana Posts: 5,018	Not really. In fact, most people around where I live don't even know what the hell a FA is. lol But most larger girls around here tend to be kinda bitchy when I talk to them. Even if I were to just say hi. __________________

07-23-2009, 07:24 PM	#25
wrench13 Pirate music for sail Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: In New York City, formerly the big Apple, now the Big Target Posts: 434	Yeah, I was identified as a FA by friends, family and co-workers after I showed up at home, party, dance or after work unwinding with a fat woman on my arm. Let's face it folks, unlike someone who has a thing for SMDB or furries, some other predeliction that doensn't manifiest iteslf so obviously, if you're an out FA, someone is bound to notice the fat cuties you're with!

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