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Old 08-02-2009, 09:51 AM   #26
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I fantasize about a man with a job that genuinely wants to be my friend- and bangs me when I ask him to.

I no longer have men fantasies as I have put them behind along with other childish things. Maybe I am the one I have been waiting for.
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Hmmm...I'm never a BBW in my fantasies and my dream guy usually changes with whatever happens to be my obsession at the moment. Anyone from the fictional Harry Potter to real but slightly unattainable Prince Harry...Or someone (or two) very real who's name I will not give up under any circumstance (and BigSexy920 better not either!)

At this particular moment I'm book 8 (? I've lost track) into the Anita Blake Vampire Hunter series AFTER reading all of the Sookie Stackhouse series. So, my current fantasy dude(s) at the moment are likely to have fangs and/or grow fur once a month....oh, and have names like Jean-Claude or Alcide.
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I fantasize about a man with a job that genuinely wants to be my friend- and bangs me when I ask him to.
Oh yes, one of those, please! My libido has an inverse relationship with the level of commitment. I swear, I am a stereotypical gay man who just happens to have a vagina.
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I'm curious; why do you believe that having a male fantasy type is a childish thing? Sexual fantasies enhance the sexual experience and some experts have theorized the lack of fantasy can be a part of sexual dysfunction. Do you disagree?
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And really, I think we are all the ones we have been waiting for, but in a different context. Having fantasies is normal and healthy. Damn, a girl can dream/fantasize without having her maturity called into question.
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I don't think it's a childish thing. It's a normal thing to have a fantasy about an ideal mate. I think most humans crave companionship, you know? Being able to take care of yourself in all manner is crucial, but this is a fantasy. Something you'd like to come along, but maybe not something you need.

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I agree with you. Fantasy is a healthy piece of one's sexuality.

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And really, I think we are all the ones we have been waiting for, but in a different context. Having fantasies is normal and healthy. Damn, I girl can dream/fantasize without having her maturity called into question.
Yes, exactly.
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I don't think it's a childish thing. It's a normal thing to have a fantasy about an ideal mate. I think most humans crave companionship, you know? Being able to take care of yourself in all manner is crucial, but this is a fantasy. Something you'd like to come along, but maybe not something you need.



I agree with you. Fantasy is a healthy piece of one's sexuality.



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I disagree. After a certain age it is stupid to have fantasies, as it becomes a kind of mental torment. Why would I fantasize about a man I cannot have. I do not want to think about what I cannot have. Very few single 60 year old women get to meet Mr. Dreamboat and have hot sexuality ever after. Sorry, girls some things must be gracefully given up after a certain age or one looks foolish and desparate.
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I disagree. After a certain age it is stupid to have fantasies, as it becomes a kind of mental torment. Why would I fantasize about a man I cannot have. I do not want to think about what I cannot have. Very few single 60 year old women get to meet Mr. Dreamboat and have hot sexuality ever after. Sorry, girls some things must be gracefully given up after a certain age or one looks foolish and desparate.
Perhaps they don't meet Mr. Dreamboat because they've convinced themselves that he doesn't exist, after they stopped allowing themselves to fantas-um, visualize what they want.

There are a lot of things that I would give up gracefully, but that isn't one of them... foolish or not.

Eta: Sounds pretty flippin boring to me.
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I guess the way I choose to look at what Katherine said is that if I am doing ' too ' much time fantasizing, to the extent that I am not really living in the here and now, and spending too much energy on the Mr. Dreamboat in my head, I could become so very disillusioned.

I think dreams are not only great...they can feed realities. The balancing of it all is key...I think. I have just seen many women who are way too into the Knight On The White Pony, scenario. It's like, ok, back awaaaaay from the romance novels/movies, every now and then.


The ' hot sexuality ', as beaten into our heads in this culture, is a recipe that should be tweaked...lots...to fit who we truly are.

I have a fantastic imagination, so I know I will never get bored that way, but I also know that it's ok to wrangle some of the more flighty things...wrangle...not drown.
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I guess the way I choose to look at what Katherine said is that if I am doing ' too ' much time fantasizing, to the extent that I am not really living in the here and now, and spending too much energy on the Mr. Dreamboat in my head, I could become so very disillusioned.

I think dreams are not only great...they can feed realities. The balancing of it all is key...I think. I have just seen many women who are way too into the Knight On The White Pony, scenario. It's like, ok, back awaaaaay from the romance novels/movies, every now and then.


The ' hot sexuality ', as beaten into our heads in this culture, is a recipe that should be tweaked...lots...to fit who we truly are.

I have a fantastic imagination, so I know I will never get bored that way, but I also know that it's ok to wrangle some of the more flighty things...wrangle...not drown.
All right... but there is a difference in spending TOO much time fantasizing and saying that they're "stupid" after a certain age, all together.
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I disagree. After a certain age it is stupid to have fantasies, as it becomes a kind of mental torment. Why would I fantasize about a man I cannot have. I do not want to think about what I cannot have. Very few single 60 year old women get to meet Mr. Dreamboat and have hot sexuality ever after. Sorry, girls some things must be gracefully given up after a certain age or one looks foolish and desparate.
Just because you reach a certain age doesn't mean your life is over. Not wanting to think about what you can't have isn't a state of mind reserved for "women of a certain age" either. I've known a few people who have that attitude about a lot of stuff. No matter how you look at it, it just sounds defeatist to me. I can understand no longer being disillusioned by the promise of dreams you didn't have, but being resentful about it can't be good for the soul either.

People tell me I'm too old to watch cartoons, read comic books or collect action figures. Fuck that. They make me happy. If it makes some people happy to fantasize about a guy they know will never ever be real, then so what?

I just hope I still have enough of my faculties to be able to distinguish fantasy from reality when I'm of a certain age. I actually really worry about that. My brain is full of enough holes as it is. If it gets any worse I'm screwed.
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All right... but there is a difference in spending TOO much time fantasizing and saying that they're "stupid" after a certain age, all together.

I still ' got ' what she was saying...being a lil closer to 60, than, 30...and even knowing that growing old is not a time to just stop all hopes and dreams. I got more from part of what she threw on the table. Stupid, is not the word I would choose.


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I disagree. After a certain age it is stupid to have fantasies, as it becomes a kind of mental torment. Why would I fantasize about a man I cannot have. I do not want to think about what I cannot have. Very few single 60 year old women get to meet Mr. Dreamboat and have hot sexuality ever after. Sorry, girls some things must be gracefully given up after a certain age or one looks foolish and desparate.
Forgive the disrespect, but that is depressing and very droll.
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I think there's a big difference between expectation (the rigid, delusional potentially counterproductive kind) and fantasy.

Fantasy, for what appears the purpose of this thread at least, can be considered anything from a short, sensible list of desired mate qualities to hyperbolic sexual dream sequences that no one intends to pursue in real life. To that end, some fantasies can and should be reasonably expected to come true. The trick is knowing how to categorize and prioritize each type to avoid clouded judgement.

I agree with mzwebs - sometimes you need "a fantasy" to remind you of what you deserve in a relationship. The moment I killed my fantasies (using the term loosely, because they were pretty pragmatic to begin with) was the moment I lost sight of my standards and my self-respect. I ended up marrying a complete loser and came perilously close to completely destroying my life.

(Apologies if this seems redundant by the time I press "submit"; I got majorly delayed by a phone call...)
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Tania, that's a really good point. It goes without saying that it helps to really know yourself so that your ideas of an "ideal mate" and a "fantasy mate" don't get confused.

I think tho, and I hope this doesn't sound reductive, sometimes with fat women, if you have spent a better part of your life not dating, then you don't get to know yourself well. Since me and so many of my friends didn't start dating in earnest until our 30s it's taken that long to figure out the difference between fantasy and reality. Our standards were either too low or too high. It's only been in the past three years that I have been able to figure out that the way I expect men to behave is not only possible but preferable. We were all fat as kids tho so I really do wonder if we had all figured out this stuff sooner if we had started dating in high school....
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Tania, that's a really good point. It goes without saying that it helps to really know yourself so that your ideas of an "ideal mate" and a "fantasy mate" don't get confused.

I think tho, and I hope this doesn't sound reductive, sometimes with fat women, if you have spent a better part of your life not dating, then you don't get to know yourself well. Since me and so many of my friends didn't start dating in earnest until our 30s it's taken that long to figure out the difference between fantasy and reality. Our standards were either too low or too high. It's only been in the past three years that I have been able to figure out that the way I expect men to behave is not only possible but preferable. We were all fat as kids tho so I really do wonder if we had all figured out this stuff sooner if we had started dating in high school....
The women who considered my lack of a fantasy life at the age of 60 as boring may not be 60 years old yet. When you are 60 years old unless you have had a lot of surgery to look younger, you become invisible. No one thinks that you are sexual or attractive at the age of 60. Where are the movies and the television shows showing 60 year old women in love and men in love with them? Older women are not respected in this culture even when they run for president. I am trying to face my situation with courage and grace. I am not a boring human being. I am a vitally alive woman at the height of her powers who lives in a culture that is youth obsessed. Given this situation it makes perfect sense that I would put the breaks on a fantasy life.
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As one of your friendly neighborhood mods, could I respectfully ask that any further commentary on the usefulness (or not) of fantasies and/or the ways in which women's sexuality are shaped and possibly erased by age, size, and other conditions be moved to a new thread? I think this particular thread title can have a very long and helpful life in the BBW Forum if it stays closely on topic about what our particular fantasies are.

The commentary is informative, but it sort of puts a damper on the imaginations of those who come to this thread to be heartened by the desires and dreams of other fat women. Thanks so much for your understanding.
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This original thread is really for women to state their fantasies. I think Butch was right on in saying that it will have a longer life if it's not diverted with commentary on specific fantasies, even though the commentary is interesting and valuable. So maybe those conversations can be had here? We don't want to silence anyone on the subject, but just kind of move the conversation to not divert the original topic. Hope you all understand and see the value of both the fantasies and the conversations that branch off of them being separate.

The commentaries have been moved to that thread so the discussion can be continued.
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Takes place at night. I enter a room full of wonderful men. Some are tall, some short, some fat, some slender but all appreciate the beauty of a SSBBW. One of them comes up to me and asks if he can have this dance. A band is playing a hot tango, and I think...why not? So, we dance and I am electrified by his touch. I am lost in his steady gaze. I am fascinated by his command of me and I move with him in perfect time with the music. When the music stops, he takes me to his table and asks me to join him. I smile because I see plates of my favorite foods and desserts. He begins to feed me and the food tastes absolutely divine. The champagne flows. The lights dim. Music of the most heavenly kind surrounds us. Walls go up (this is a fantasy, after all.) A bed appears. He begins to undress me. He kisses every part of me that is bared. He is gentle at first. As I respond, he becomes more determined, less gentle. I am aroused by his need for me. Very, very aroused.
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This is actually a pretty hard question to answer, the more i think about it the more i realize that i don't have a fantasy man that i've created in my head....

in my case, in my wildest fantasies the man involved is usually a guy who in real life i'm sexually attracted to at that point in time...and the fantasy will involve various steamy hot passionate encounters with him...

of course when i'm back on planet earth and end up bumping into the said man i feel all awkward because he has no idea of the things i've been doing with him in my head
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Having just come back from a nice evening with a guy I know (not a date) I would like to say that my fantasy involves amazing...CONVERSATION.

My fantasy would be a guy who is engaged in the world, in developing himself, and in getting to know others and caring about what makes people tick and become better people. So in a conversation, he can bring a lot to the table. He'll be able to talk about ideas he has and his passions at length, and be interested in mine also. As the conversation goes on he will say things that are insightful and meaningful, and I'll be surprised and delighted. He'll listen to me, and be responsive to what I say - both by expressing his agreement and resonance with things he is down with, and being willing to challenge me and disagree when I say something he thinks is wrong.

Damn. Good conversation is such a turn-on.
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I no longer have men fantasies as I have put them behind along with other childish things.
Childish? :I I've actually started having fantasies when I got older(but is less than 20 years still childish?).
But I am realistic; it's nice to have fantasies, but I don't specifically search for a man to fit them. For me it is enough, if he likes me as I am.

And I wouldn't call them fantasies, they are more like features I like the most in a man but are hard to find(the same?).
I am really old fashioned and would like a man who is a gentleman and romantic. I also like intelligence, since I like to debate a lot and talk about philosophy. Nice, friendly and gentle personality too. I don't expect to find all these features in one person, but all of these in one package... hurrrr -w-.

Looks aren't that important, but I would like him to be about my "level" in looks. I'd feel uncomfortable dating a person that is out of my league because of my low self-esteem. Chubby(less or more) and gentle face would be suupaakawaii~ ^w^.

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Damn. Good conversation is such a turn-on.
This is exactly what I feel. Quality goes over amount; if a man is able to say something immortal in just few words, then picture a 2 hour conversation with him(hurrrr again).
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my bbw fantasy would be complete with an all girl orgy with my favorite 6 top bbw models. I would also have 4 subs, one on his knees in each corner of the room, naked with a bow tie awaiting instructions!
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I just want someone who will love me for who I am, without trying to change me or make me more like them. You'd think that wouldn't be too much to ask for, but in this world it apparently is.
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