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Old 09-07-2009, 10:46 PM   #51
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I like to try and make eye contact first, maybe exchange a smile...
(Y'know to assess whether or not she might be interested in an approach, cos most women I know assume a guy who's hitting on them in public = creepy...)
An awful lot of BBWs are just looking at the floor / their phones / will not make eye contact, so I'm left guessing and I tend to guess she'd rather be left alone...
You know, it's the same for me! You find a way to remedy that, joswitch?
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Why do some FAs never walk up and talk to a woman they are attracted to? Why do they either follow her around a store or make those mmmm sounds when she goes by?
I am female and don't look gay, which usually makes it a little easier for me to approach women and compliment them so I don't have this problem. Also consider that some of us have also been shot down by BBWs before, or made them believe that we were making fun of them or get called names because of our preference, so we might have less courage to talk to a girl we find attractive. Not that following her around drooling is better of course but it is possible that an FA might be so enthralled that he doesn't even realise that he is scaring the poor girl.

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I have a question. Do all of you have a thing for huge boobs? Mine are tiny, but it seems like most bbws have huge boobs. Does anyone not really care about breast size?

On a side note, Cors, you are adorable.
Aw thank you.

Many people do assume that BBWs have huge boobs, and I guess they are partly right. It is all about proportion, and the same boobs that may look massive on me will look small when stretched across a much wider frame. I imagine that even A cups on a BBW will still be soft and squishy. They only sound small because of the way bras are sized (difference between underbust and overbust measurement) and how most people perceive cup sizes (eg. As are nonexistent and DDs are gigantic and fake). And oh, I don't think FAs will complain about the back fat and side rolls that give you a bigger band size but a smaller cup size.

There was a thread (sorry, can't seem find it) quite a while ago about how there doesn't seem to be many FAs who are into big breasts compared to guys who like thin women. It was discussed that this is probably because there is so much other stuff to play with that breasts might not get as much attention. There are some FAs who are into huge pendulous breasts or those who have a breast inflation fetish, but there are also many who prefer huge bellies or extreme pears. Personally I can appreciate all shapes. One thing I like about BBWs is that no part is really small, it is just that the other parts are bigger. Even A cups on a BBW are a good handful, while those with a proportionally small waist will still have a cute belly and the apples that complain about not having hips or ass probably have quite a bit more than a thin bottom-heavy girl.

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Old 09-08-2009, 07:41 AM   #53
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I have a question. Do all of you have a thing for huge boobs? Mine are tiny, but it seems like most bbws have huge boobs. Does anyone not really care about breast size?
Judging from previous discussions over the years, quite a lot of FA really look at breasts as secondary to other fat parts. Not that they don't like them, but maybe it is sort of "All women have breasts, and some quite thin ones have large breasts. What excites me is the stuff that a BBW does have that thin women don't, like belly, big thighs, etc" Certainly some FA seem to also love huge breasts, but my impression is that in most cases there is not a major fixation on breasts size.

And speaking for myself, well, when I met my wife she was pretty small chested (that has changed a fair bit over the years with age, birth control, baby, and so on, and I don't mind that change at all, but it was never a big deal with me)
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Old 09-08-2009, 09:49 AM   #54
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I have a question. Do all of you have a thing for huge boobs? Mine are tiny, but it seems like most bbws have huge boobs. Does anyone not really care about breast size?

On a side note, Cors, you are adorable.
Well I like what I consider nice and/or big, but I don't require it. To add to the point, I know a lot of bigger women have shapes that might exaggerate other parts more than others (I.e. pears that don't have big boobs; Apples that do, but don't have a large hip/thigh/butt area), but I've gotten to the point where if there's some part that greatly appeases me for some reason, and there's another that isn't particularly prominent (Or I find lacking), then it's almost as if I don't need that part even if I considered it lacking. But I consider shape a very subjective thing, so it doesn't always hold true. It depends on a lot of things.

Size (Or lack thereof) in itself also is not a direct determinant of whether or not I think something is nice as well. Quality != Quantity (Or shape/ratio for that matter), but at times I might correlate the two with a specific person.

As with anything, it's going to vary. Some argue most FAs like x shape more, x shape less and so on, but I'd wager it varies.
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FAs, what do you find exciting about touching your own bodies? I relly wanna know.

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Not sure if you only wanted male FAs to answer (or if you were asking seriously ), but in my case, I tend not to touch myself. Yes, it sounds funny, but I don't like my own body and don't get any kind of pleasure from touching it. If my husband wanted me to do it, I am willing to give him a show, but never do any of that for my own enjoyment.

What a depressing answer...
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Not sure if you only wanted male FAs to answer (or if you were asking seriously ), but in my case, I tend not to touch myself. Yes, it sounds funny, but I don't like my own body and don't get any kind of pleasure from touching it. If my husband wanted me to do it, I am willing to give him a show, but never do any of that for my own enjoyment.

What a depressing answer...
I feel the same way.
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I have a question. Do all of you have a thing for huge boobs? Mine are tiny, but it seems like most bbws have huge boobs. Does anyone not really care about breast size?

On a side note, Cors, you are adorable.
My many "things" tend not to be boob size focussed.... other than I do have a preference for dating girls with at least "C" cups (= a handful for me) ... more than that just = bonus....
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dcoyote: something else to keep in mind is that cup size is relative to band size, not an absolute. So for example, the total cup volume in a 40B is the same as in a 36D. So while you may have smaller breasts for your size than some ladies do, at the same time there is probably plenty there all the same
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When I was a very young FA I could die for huge pendulous breasts. But later I dicovered that (SS)BBW do not need large boobs. I huge soft belly is better for me. Indeed I think a BBW with tiny boobs is sexy.
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FAs often ask what they can do to help their beloveds become more confident and happy as they are. I'm wondering what FAs think we BBWs can do to encourage them--how can we help you to feel more confident in, say, asking us out, or more comfortable telling others how smokin' hot we are?

(I'm not trying to suggest that it is anyone's responsibility to create the kind of confidence that we're looking for in other people--we can't do that anyway--but I do think we have a shared, common goal in finding ways to connect with and uplift one another in facing a less-than-friendly world outside our community.)
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FAs often ask what they can do to help their beloveds become more confident and happy as they are. I'm wondering what FAs think we BBWs can do to encourage them--how can we help you to feel more confident in, say, asking us out, or more comfortable telling others how smokin' hot we are?

(I'm not trying to suggest that it is anyone's responsibility to create the kind of confidence that we're looking for in other people--we can't do that anyway--but I do think we have a shared, common goal in finding ways to connect with and uplift one another in facing a less-than-friendly world outside our community.)
Shy and secret FAs are their own Waterloo, you can't do anything about that. Actually, there's nothing you can do about the whole thing, because the caution used in approach is a good thing. Fatness is not fun for everyone, a lot of fat people are really self-concious and feel like you're messing with them if you come in Casanova-style.

The only thing you can do is be fun and outgoing. If you're having a good time and it shows, people will come to you.
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FAs often ask what they can do to help their beloveds become more confident and happy as they are. I'm wondering what FAs think we BBWs can do to encourage them--how can we help you to feel more confident in, say, asking us out, or more comfortable telling others how smokin' hot we are?

(I'm not trying to suggest that it is anyone's responsibility to create the kind of confidence that we're looking for in other people--we can't do that anyway--but I do think we have a shared, common goal in finding ways to connect with and uplift one another in facing a less-than-friendly world outside our community.)
With specific respect to BBW and male FA.....one of the classic male/female things is that women are more apt to want to talk about things that bug them, while men are apt to interpret that as a request to do something about it (when all that their female partner probably wanted was some sympathy).

So when you are complaining about fat related issues, if you make it clear "I'm just venting" versus "I really want to change this" you'll help your partner (FA or not, but especially FA) understand where you stand a lot better. Otherwise when you are ranting that you can't find cute clothes in your size and it was so much easier when you were a size 16 and besides back then you could dance all night, he may be thinking this is a request to help you get back to a size 16......and should he be a good guy and try to help you, it is apt to start giving you a lot of mixed signals about what he thinks of your size (when he starts suggesting diet plans and regular gym visits, or whatever), which can just start a real spiral of confusion.

Or to try and be more concise: Let your FA know clearly what you want to change, and what you just need to complain about occasionally.
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FAs often ask what they can do to help their beloveds become more confident and happy as they are. I'm wondering what FAs think we BBWs can do to encourage them--how can we help you to feel more confident in, say, asking us out, or more comfortable telling others how smokin' hot we are?

(I'm not trying to suggest that it is anyone's responsibility to create the kind of confidence that we're looking for in other people--we can't do that anyway--but I do think we have a shared, common goal in finding ways to connect with and uplift one another in facing a less-than-friendly world outside our community.)
I would just say be outgoing, and even more if you have interest in a guy. Call me new school, but I'm not saying that the woman has to ask the guy out, but I think when starting conversation that both parties involved need to add to the whole interaction.
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No, not at all. It's usually evident by just the way they represent themselves in everyday posts (especially if they explicitly mention if they are or aren't confident).

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FAs often ask what they can do to help their beloveds become more confident and happy as they are. I'm wondering what FAs think we BBWs can do to encourage them--how can we help you to feel more confident in, say, asking us out, or more comfortable telling others how smokin' hot we are?

(I'm not trying to suggest that it is anyone's responsibility to create the kind of confidence that we're looking for in other people--we can't do that anyway--but I do think we have a shared, common goal in finding ways to connect with and uplift one another in facing a less-than-friendly world outside our community.)
This works not only with FAs but all guys, but starting a conversation with someone you like or a shy guy you think may like you instead of waiting for them to start it is always encouraging. Of course, this works both way; Guys should initiate conservations as much as possible; Gals might be too shy to start one just like the other guy. But if both are trying to meet others, it will work out in the end me thinks :-)

Also, be confident about yourself (your body, your personality, the whole package). It shows when you are; it's an attractive feature no matter if someone is fat, thin, tall, short, male, female.

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I've been wondering about this for quite awhile..... what would you do if your significant other (BBW or SSBBW) decided she needed to lose weight for health reasons, not to fit into smaller sized clothing? Her knees and back were painful and had damage that would get worse in time, troubling breathing, couldn't be as active as she once was, etc.

How would you handle that? You love her, love her body, but her body will be going through a significant change that you might not like. Would you end up leaving her in time because you were no longer attracted to her, or would you stay (and be unhappy because she was smaller)?

I've noticed a lot of posts from men saying their wife/girlfriend was losing weight, and they weren't happy about it (not passing judgment here ). From reading recent and past posts, I know you wouldn't happy, but I'm wondering what you would do; if you would take that next step.
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I've been wondering about this for quite awhile..... what would you do if your significant other (BBW or SSBBW) decided she needed to lose weight for health reasons, not to fit into smaller sized clothing? Her knees and back were painful and had damage that would get worse in time, troubling breathing, couldn't be as active as she once was, etc.

How would you handle that? You love her, love her body, but her body will be going through a significant change that you might not like. Would you end up leaving her in time because you were no longer attracted to her, or would you stay (and be unhappy because she was smaller)?
Like a lot of things in life, I guess it is priorities, and your ability to suppress desire for immediate gratification. Hopefully in a good relationship the FA will be supportive, because it is the right thing to do. (even take out all the health caveats, it is the fatter partner's body, if she/he feels that it is the right thing to do for themself, then the FA partner should be supportive). That is the priorities part, being a supportive partner over the easy lust fix.

As an FA you may or may not be able to find other things to focus on to keep your lust levels up. You do what you can, and work around the rest, and figure out ways to cope with your feelings about it. That is the 'ability to supress immediate gratification' part. The long term gratification of a long, happy, and healthy relationship should more than replay any lust frustration, one would hope so at least! But you have have to be able to deal with that possible lust frustration in the moment without acting out about it. I think that for some people that is much easier than others, we seem to have different levels of impulse control and so forth, due to a mix of nature and nurture. We can learn to improve what we have, but starting levels do vary a lot.
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I have a question. Do all of you have a thing for huge boobs? Mine are tiny, but it seems like most bbws have huge boobs. Does anyone not really care about breast size?

On a side note, Cors, you are adorable.
I find myself in a bit of a minority here. As far as it goes in relation to a womans bust size and how attractive I see her, I view breast size on a BBW along the lines of less is more, and bigger isn't better to me. A smaller than average chest doesn't make you less attractive nor less feminine. For a guy with my taste a smaller chest is MORE likely to attract me than a larger one. Which basically means that I find fat girls with a C cup or less ...... more attractive than your sisters with larger busts. Small chested BBWs are almost rarer than those who admire them, but we do exist and we like what you got BECAUSE you got ........ not a lot.

Just one more example of nature providing for every type of body shape. Love who you are, as you are.
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I've been wondering about this for quite awhile..... what would you do if your significant other (BBW or SSBBW) decided she needed to lose weight for health reasons, not to fit into smaller sized clothing? Her knees and back were painful and had damage that would get worse in time, troubling breathing, couldn't be as active as she once was, etc.

How would you handle that? You love her, love her body, but her body will be going through a significant change that you might not like. Would you end up leaving her in time because you were no longer attracted to her, or would you stay (and be unhappy because she was smaller)?

I've noticed a lot of posts from men saying their wife/girlfriend was losing weight, and they weren't happy about it (not passing judgment here ). From reading recent and past posts, I know you wouldn't happy, but I'm wondering what you would do; if you would take that next step.
During a talk show featuring large women and their partners I had cause to address this issue directly with my partner at the time.
This is a paraphrased from an extensive conversation, but the spirit and context should be there.
My response to her was that I loved HER. That being said, I followed it up later in the conversation by noting that although how she looked was my initial attractant, it wasn't why I was still with her now. If she was to lose the weight and her body changed of course I might not be as visually attracted to her body since it was the look of the fat body that turned me on so much however, although she may not be getting as much or as active of a sex life after weight loss as she was experiencing now she would still be the same person I came to know and love. She would still be a beautiful woman just in a differently shaped body. Therefore I saw no reason to leave based solely on if she lost weight, and the level of attraction lost may not even be noticed if she didn't lose enough to change her body drastically, I would not be leaving her if all she did was go on a diet or lost weight. I also pointed out that she wasn't this large when we met and I still found her to be attractive at a smaller size.
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I've been wondering about this for quite awhile..... what would you do if your significant other (BBW or SSBBW) decided she needed to lose weight for health reasons, not to fit into smaller sized clothing? Her knees and back were painful and had damage that would get worse in time, troubling breathing, couldn't be as active as she once was, etc.

How would you handle that? You love her, love her body, but her body will be going through a significant change that you might not like. Would you end up leaving her in time because you were no longer attracted to her, or would you stay (and be unhappy because she was smaller)?

I've noticed a lot of posts from men saying their wife/girlfriend was losing weight, and they weren't happy about it (not passing judgment here ). From reading recent and past posts, I know you wouldn't happy, but I'm wondering what you would do; if you would take that next step.
The health of the one I love always comes first. I would also take it day by day, because a persons outlook on life changes as their body changes.
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I think that you just made a really interesting point there.....
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@Fascinitia - Lolz! Clearly I live in the wrong part of the world! While there might be some more big folks around here, not enough to really notice.. Certainly there's very little visible in terms of fat acceptance.. Oh, look! another gov't anti-fat campaign and endless anti-fat, pro-dangerous-fad-diet newspapers, magazines, tv, film and radio! And a documentary / movie about how feeders are heartless weirdos / murderous psychos respectively! Woo! *skips* Competition-wise? It's almost always been the club doormen! (Answer: make my move before they do!) I guess things are different?? @other side of pond / BBW events (tho I do ok at those - just by being sociable.. and let's face the harsh truth - tall..)
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The only way a person can handle a situation like this: with a smile and a "go get 'em, tiger".

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