Props to the people that love you fat

[superodalisque]

okay here is your chance to show your love to people who love you just they way you are. name em all. friends, family, loved ones, teachers, even a stranger. what did they do to add to your self love? how did they show you respect? what did they do that made you feel good?

[TraciJo67]

Originally Posted by superodalisque

okay here is your chance to show your love to people who love you just they way you are. name em all. friends, family, loved ones, teachers, even a stranger. what did they do to add to your self love? how did they show you respect? what did they do that made you feel good?

I understand the intent behind this post, supero. But I don't think that anyone who loves me as I am deserves props for including (or overlooking) my body size or physical appearance.

My husband deserves mad props for seeing my many, many shortcomings and for loving me despite them, though.

[Jes]

I have 2 close friends (and various important-but-not-SO-close ones) that I met through Dims, so I suspect they know I'm fat and love me anyway. And those 2 friends have extended me kindness, patience and understanding when I have deserved them, and when I have not. In that sense, I owe Dims a big wet kiss.

[superodalisque]

i want to say thank you to my brothers Steve, J.D., Ron and Larry for being the best big brothers in the world and giving me the early opinion that i was cute and deserved to be spoiled. i want to thank my dad for never treating me as if i were any different than my sister. he protected me just as much from the little boys. he never said one word about my size ever. i never realized how extraordinarily normal i felt even though i was always the biggest girl around. i want to thank my uncle Jack who used to pinch my arm and tell me that i was a cute little fat girl with love. when i hear someone whistle like you i think its you up in heaven reminding me through them. i want to thank all of my cousins who acknowledged my size but never ridiculed me while we played and played and played. you shaped who i am today. if you were mad at me it was because i had done something wrong. if you were happy with me it was only because i'd done something good. my size never came between us in any way. thank you to my fab teach Ms. Frost who wanted to dress me up like Mae West and encouraged me with my art. thanks to all of the people who always only treated me like Felecia. because of you i don't feel damaged. because of you i know not everybody is out to get me and i walk in this world feeling free. yeah, i now thats how anyone should be treated or how they should feel. but i just want to say thanks for actually making it happen in my life. i appreciate you.

[superodalisque]

Originally Posted by TraciJo67

I understand the intent behind this post, supero. But I don't think that anyone who loves me as I am deserves props for including (or overlooking) my body size or physical appearance.

thanks for responding anyway. yeah, we talk a lot about the things that people have done that damage us. i just wanted to give people the same chance to share and think about the things that built them up. every time you think about an event you have emotions as though its happening all over again. we relive a lot of sadness here. just thought it would be nice to relive some joyous and loving things for a change.

[ashmamma84]

My parents - especially my Dad. He always told me never to chase after boys and that I was so pretty and special, boys would want to chase after me. Thank you for always making me feel wanted and loved. Never feeling desperate for the attention of someone. He told me I didn't need makeup, I didn't need to do anything but be myself because I was beautiful. I give thanks to my

Mother as well - she taught me that fat wasn't a bad thing and that I could be a curvy lil diva. Life didn't stop and achieving didn't stop because of weight. She has poise, grace, decorum...she taught me to carry myself with class and that being fat wasn't a pass to scrimp on those things. And also, that the world wasn't always going to give me the acceptance I was looking for, but to be proud of myself regardless. To develop a thick skin and not take everything personal - it's helped me tremendously. Big up, Mama!

My older brothers - for always sticking up for me. Even when the lil boys at school would playfully tease me, those 3 would always go to bat for me. Thank you for making me feel protected.

My grandmothers - they would pinch my thighs and marvel at how chunky they were. And as I got older they would say how pretty and fat I'd gotten. Props to Hilma and Charlie Mae! Also, mad props for those wonderful Sunday dinners - fried chicken, greens, mac and cheese, 3 bean salad, etc. They really put hips on me.

My partner - for always being there for me, supporting me. She doesn't care whether I lose or gain. As long as I'm healthy and living my life as I see fit, she's happy. I am thankful that she sees me as a person first.

[Tracyarts]

The dance team instructor/manager at the first high school I went to. Every girl who made the effort to learn the tryout routine made the team. We had girls of all shapes and sizes, not just within a narrow height and weight range like some schools who were more concerned with the overall look of the line-up. She didn't pick girls whose bodies and dance abilities worked with the routines, she picked routines to work with the girls' various body types and dance abilities.

Tracy

[Jes]

Originally Posted by ashmamma84

She has poise, grace, decorum...she taught me to carry myself with class and that being fat wasn't a pass to scrimp on those things. .

i really liked this line.

[superodalisque]

wow, thank you this is getting to be some beautiful thread

[superodalisque]

Originally Posted by Tracyarts

The dance team instructor/manager at the first high school I went to. Every girl who made the effort to learn the tryout routine made the team. We had girls of all shapes and sizes, not just within a narrow height and weight range like some schools who were more concerned with the overall look of the line-up. She didn't pick girls whose bodies and dance abilities worked with the routines, she picked routines to work with the girls' various body types and dance abilities.

Tracy

that instructor was amazing. i wish we had more of her!

[TallFatSue]

It's a family affair. Even though my mother constantly nagged about my weight, she was the first one to stand up for me if someone else criticized how fat I was. Mixed messages, but that's Mom's style. On the other hand, my father always made me feel special and said some day one lucky guy would make me very happy. He also said with a gleam in his eye that as long as I was happy and healthy and stayed out of jail, I'd always be Daddy's Little Girl. Thanx, Dad.

Major kudos to my grandmothers for always telling me how special I was and spoiling me royally rotten with their old world family recipes when I was a girl. Even though they probably laid the foundation for how fat I became, they always gave me big hugs and made me feel loved. And it was most entertaining to watch them try to outdo each other spoiling me the most, and when my mother got into the act I played the 3-way goodie wagon for all it was worth. Warm childhood memories.

I can also thank my brother just for being there when I needed him. And believe it or not, props now to his formerly fat-phobic wife. I don't know what got into her, but I like it, and we had a great time on a Caribbean cruise last month -- which was her idea! It's entirely possible my sister-in-law has been replaced by her good twin from an alternative universe, but I've decided not to overthink this. She used to just give me air kisses, so naturally I gave her great big enveloping hugs just to annoy her. Now she's the hug instigator.

The most kudos of all go to my husband Art. He swears he did not like fat girls, and when we first met he must have told me every fat joke he knew. Then despite himself he proceeded to fall heels over head in love with the fattest girl he ever met, so he cast aside his pre-concieved notions and decided to embrace my fat as often as possible. Now what do I have to show for it? Almost 28 years of happy marriage, that's what. All I ask is that he treat me as he would any other goddess.

Assorted kudos also to my coworkers who rarely annoy me with diet talk or criticize my weight, even if some think I'm lucky my husband "lets me" be fat. Also to my boss who didn't hesitate to approve my request when I needed a bigger stronger comfier desk chair and generally helps me maintain a fat-friendly office.

And finally kudos to one particular couple that Art & I met last year after their daughter became good friends with my niece.

[Cece Larue]

Props to my Wingman, Brother From Another Mother and an all around AWESOME person... my Jeffrey.

Now, he's engaged to one of my best friends so it's never been "like that"... but I know we love each other like no other! I'm always greeted with a huge smile, warm hug and a HEY BEAUTIFUL... and I know it would be that way if I were 100 lbs or 700 lbs. I'm a better person for having him in my life and I know he loves and accepts me just the way I am.

[Adrian]

superodalisque, thanx for this topic, for those of us who openly stand up and state our preference for people of size -do catch a lot of flak!

[Bearsy]

Props to the lovely ladies of the FFA/BHM board. I don't think anyone else likes my size. I know many people love me despite my size, but it's not the same.

[Ruffie]

Props to my husband who has always loved me fat whether that was as a large or mid sized woman.

Props to my friends who love the woman that I am and remind me all the time of the beauty they see in me. I think my friend Steve summed it up best for me last night when we were talking about beauty in women. He separated from his wife last year and is now back in the dating scene so we were talking about attraction. I mentioned that I have never had much luck in that department until I learned about inner confidence. And he said " it is unfortunate that people cannot look beyond their initial attraction to the beautiful woman that you are to see the full beauty you possess inside and out because they have been sold a bill of goods about what they are SUPPOSED to like."

[LoveBHMS]

Originally Posted by Bearsy

Props to the lovely ladies of the FFA/BHM board. I don't think anyone else likes my size. I know many people love me despite my size, but it's not the same.

For what it's worth, chubby chasers and FFA/FA are everywhere, not just on this board.

And secondly, to be honest as an always open FFA i really feel uncomfortable with getting any sort of 'props' for it. It's just how i am. i don't want or need any sort of platitudes for being attracted to whatever i'm attracted to. it's not a big deal at all and to think there are 'props' for being turned on by a certain body type or not being embarassed by it just seems wrong.

[exile in thighville]

i think the props are attached to being open and vocal about it, so that others know you exist.

[superodalisque]

Originally Posted by LoveBHMS

For what it's worth, chubby chasers and FFA/FA are everywhere, not just on this board.

And secondly, to be honest as an always open FFA i really feel uncomfortable with getting any sort of 'props' for it. It's just how i am. i don't want or need any sort of platitudes for being attracted to whatever i'm attracted to. it's not a big deal at all and to think there are 'props' for being turned on by a certain body type or not being embarassed by it just seems wrong.

i just want to clarify. this is not about FAs or sexuality. its about love and support one human being to another. its about the recognition and respect for a fat person's humanity abilities and worth overall. so being an FA has little or nothing to do with it even though the person could possibly be an FA. no one is trying to attract FAs or is worrying about anyone's sexuality on this thread. its just about being happy that there are people in your life who help people who are fat feel happy and worthwile because of they way that they treat them. sometimes i think things here on this board are a bit 2 dimensional. there are all kinds of dimensions in life. sexual admiration is only one of many. maybe it would be a good idea to go back and read the posts and see whats actually going on here. i personally like to be respected as a person whether someone is sexually attracted to me or not. i think that reality can make a fat person's life much easier and much more of a pleasure.